hello! ive lived a lot of life in the small amount of years ive been around. I mean it when I say ive been through it all, so feel free to shoot me a question or even just to spill your guts. my ears are wide open :)
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My girlfriend and I have just had some major issues and we've both come to the conclusion that this is best solved by just starting over 100%. We both agree on the idea, but neither of us really know how to do it...any ideas? (link)
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If youre gonna 'start over', you both need to figure out what you want to be different in the relationship. Whether she nags you when youre out with friends, or you dont listen to her problems enough, or trust issues, you need to decide how to fix your issues.
Another part of starting over is the physical side. Im not sure if you all are sexually active, but take things slow again. First kiss, all the way til when you finally had sex, like how you would go slow in a new relationship. This way sex wont be a worry for a while & the emotiinal aspect will be the main priority.
Get to know eachother again, have long talks, just hang out as friends almost.
this may be hard & might not work but good luck!
x sweeethoney
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Hi :) wondering if you could help me..
im a 20 year old girl last month(march) my period was brown and dark! i was changing quite a lot thinking i maybe left it too long and it dried up but that wasnt the case, my period was actually coming out brown! it scared me a lot, im too scared to go see my doctor about this, could you help? j x (link)
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well when I looked it up, most websites said it could be left over blood that didnt come out in your last period, & that its nothin to worry about. It happens to me occasionally as well.
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I'm 14 and a girl and I think I really want sex or the touch of someone else. I think about it a lot and I sometimes dream about it. I know I am really young so sex isn't really the best thing...I know about masterbating but I am afraid to touch down there. As in like skin to skin. Like using my finger. And I don't think I am comfortable on putting some house hold object up there either...and I definatly can't get a dildo. I need help...any adivce? (link)
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I would not suggest acting on your feelungs with another person. Youre really young & at your age I did, & I regret it.
If youre scared to put something up you, there is another way to masturbate: clitoral stimulation. If you
dont know where to find it, its between your 'lips' before the opening, kind of wear the bone is. It looks kind of like a little pearl, & it gets bigger when your aroused. Play around with this area, see what you like! Make sure you use a little spit or lube to keep it a little wet.
hope I helped! My inbox is always open
x sweeethoney
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Ok so about 3 weeks to a month ago, I was REALLY sick! My throat was in excruciating pain!!! My ears felt like they were gonna pop. So, I went to the doctor and he gave me antibiotics. I started to feel better. But, I was a little weak. Around Friday, I started to get a really bad pain in my ear. I thought maybe I had an ear infection. At night, the pain gets worst! I'm talking bad!!! Likw when I swollow, it hurts my ear. When I talk, it hurts my ear. Its not a small pain. Its excruciating and keeping me up at night. Its my right ear and on my right tonsil there's white dots. I'm going to the doctor today, but I just wanted to see if any of you can give me your opinion on this...
Thanks! (link)
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well the white dots sound like tonsilitis. I got white & blue-ish dots on mine when I was 8 & I had to get them taken out. It sounds like maybe the tonsils are
causing the ear pain, since theyre on the same side.
But i'm no doctor, so definitely go to a professional.
good luck :)
x sweeethoney
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Well, I'm M/15. Recently I've been having trouble trying to clear up my face. A few months ago it was pretty clear. My forehead is the place being hit by ugliness, my cheeks are fine. I have about three dark spots from old pimples that are gone, and a few tiny pimples as well. It looks clear from a distance but if you're talking with me, you'll see a few bumps. Is there any way I can clear up my face pretty well? I've tried different products and I think that those cleansers never work because if they did, they'd be bought less often and have a higher price, it only makes sense. I also don't want to put chemicals all over my face anymore. Are there any types of procedures that actually work? Weather it includes household items, liquid mixtures, and/or types of foods to eat or not eat. I'm sure there's a way. If you can tell me, that'd be good. (link)
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like the columnist before me said, clean & clear works great! I use the 3-in-1 advantage kind, & it cleared up my face sooo well. They also have a kit with 3 different products to use (i think a cleanser, a moisturizer or toner, & spot treatment). Also, neutrogena has a kit like it as well that works. I do not recommend mixing products unless you know how your skin would react. You could get very irritated by 2 chemicals mixing.
My tips:
-right after the shower or in it, wash your face with warm water. then when youre done, rinse cold water over your face. This will close up the pours so no bacteria or other acne causers will get in.
-try not to pop a zit. This can make it worse (more inflammation, it can linger longer, cause scarring). but if you must, make sure you get everything there is out of it like the blood & puss, then wash your face. Clean & clear has a popped pimple spot treatment. Do NOT pop a zit unless it has a whitehead.
-sometimes a little lemon juice or white toothpaste on a zit will dry it out so it can go away more quickly. I do not suggest 'burning' your face.
-never pick at a pimple. this will just irritate it & cause scabbing & scarring.
-wash your pillow cases & sheets at least once every two weeks.
-try not to touch your face unless you are washing. The oils & bacteria can cause acne.
-try to replace all soda & other junk with water.
good luck! The inbox is always open :)
x sweeethoney
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Ok so a few hours ago me and my friend were in her haunted room and I decided to do the old wigi (ouiji) board thing to contact with the ghost. So I asked it all the normal questions like where it was from (it ended up saying "here") and then we got to the weird answers like for the question "are you good or evil" we got the answer "euhrd good" and my friend asked it how long it was living there and it said "huniq 3" ... what does these things mean... and by the way.. I don't ant to hear the whole lecture about not doing the wigi board cuz I heard it already. When me and my friend went downstairs we put a notebook on a table and left the room.. when we went back to get the notebook it ias on the floor with all the pages rippes out.. so we went up to her room and there. In plain sight. Was "help me" scratched into the wall right above her bed. It looked like it was scratched in by a dog. (Cuz you could just barely read it) so can anyone tell me the answers to my questions please?? (link)
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I have a lot of experience with a ouija board. the reason I believe you got the first few letters before 'good' & '3' is because the spirit probably was havin trouble conjurin up energy to hit the right letters at first. there is a theory that spirits have a hard time obtainin energy, & that they use electronics to get it. ouija boards make it easy for them to contact the livin world. once you use these types of devices to contact the paranormal world, it can open doors to whatever type if spirit, good or bad, because you invited them in. just because you talked to a 'good' spirit (which isnt neccesarily true), doesnt mean that other spirits cannot come through this openin youve created. based on the things that happened afterwards, I suggest not playin the board again. some people think its bullshit, but its very real in my beliefs. serious things have happened to my friends & I because of this.
I dont know how to undo this, but if serious things happen, you may need to contact a professional.
feel free to ask me any questions.
x sweeethoney
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If a guy sticks it in you but doesnt cum.. can u still get pregnant? (link)
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do NOT listen to the one who said you cant. I got pregnant this way, so yes its very possible. use protection!
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ok well you guy are gonna think im like the craziiest person in the world :s but i NEED advce kaay well about a year ago my friend introduced me to justin bieber (not in person like she showed me his songs) and i really liked his music but lately ive been obssesing over his songs i listen to him ALL day and ALL night im always daydreaming of how it would be if i were to ever meet him and if he liked me and we started going out ive never really liked a famouse person this much and its kinda silly cause its gotten to the point were after my day dreams i start cring cause i know that ill NEVER be able to get even close to him or meet him in person and even if i did have my dream of comeing face to face with him and telling him how i feel i know that im just waaaaaaay to ugly for him to even be the least bit intrested :(( ( heres a pic of me -----> http://i784.photobucket.com/albums/yy121/EmilyAn007/188705_108547272561521_100002187478226_80259_1924690_n.jpg)
soo plzzz just give me any coment of what i should do to just get it over wiith! (link)
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many girls feel this way, why? im not sure. but you cant waste your time cryin & stressin over a celebrity that you will never be with. its unhealthy.
try to not listen to his music or look at his pictures for a day. just a day. if you have his posters on your wall take them down. now, distract yourself from thinkin about him. play a sport outside, go to the mall, do some readin, watch movies, etc.
then, focus on reality. appreciate what you actually do have in your life: friends, family, school, your hobbies..
thats all I got & I hope that ive helped.
(youre not ugly by the way girl)
my inbox is always open!
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Hi, I was wondering if anyone had any ideas for baby shower games? I've tried looking on google but there really isn't any that appeals to me. Thanks.. (link)
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you can fill up baby bottles with soda & whoever finishes first wins
have unmarked jars of baby food & everyone has to guess whats inside
races to see who can undress, diaper, & redress a baby doll first
have everyone cut a ribbon & the person whos ribbon almost perfectly fits around your tummy
have everyone bring one of their baby pictures & everyone tries to guess who is who
hope I helped!
x sweeethoney
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hey guyssss.. Okay, I've always been really pale, not like freaky pale.. but not tan, at all. How can I make being white pretty? What color hair looks better with pale skin? I can't tan in the tanning bed bc of new medicine I'm on for my acne. What color eye shadow ect?.. Thanks! (link)
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never do anything like eyeshadow or hair too dark when youre pale, unless you really want to accentuate it. a light/medium brown hair color would look good maybe with lowlights or highlights.
if you want to wear eyeshadow, make sure its some what sheer so it doesnt go on super thick. purple looks good on everyone, but im personally a fan of more natural earthy tones, like greens, browns, golds, tan with some shimmer.
if your eyes are blue, id go with black eyeliner, if your eyes are brown or green, use dark brown eyeliner. use it only on the top lid.
hope I helped!
x sweeethoney
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Theres this guy Ive been friends with for many months and been dating for over a month. Hes a frickin weirdo and my friends hate him. I come from a conservative New England town and he stands out in wifebeaters and skinny jeans. His friends are the same way-- weird. He goes to com college and never tried in high school, whereas I'm an overachieving senior heading to a competitive school next year. And hes not attractive. My friends are trying to convince me that he's not right for me at all-- and from what I've just said, its obvious to see why. But he's seriously one of the nicest people I've ever met, and the biggest thing is that we share the same morals. He doesnt drink or do drugs, and he believes in treating women with respect. He treats me better than my old boyfriend did. Should I pay attention to the superficial, surface things or just take him how he is? I mean, how many 18 year old guy will I be able to find who actually want to treat me and my body with respect? (link)
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you are being superficial, like the columnists said before me. so many girls would kill for a guy who treats them like gold, & a lot of us havent been that lucky. so to clearly state my obvious opinion, STAY WITH HIM as long as you have real feelings for him. dont just stay because hes a good guy.
you also need to ask your friends to respect your love life & your boyfriend & to stop talking badly about him. they arent being good friends, because true friends would see how well you are being treated & be happy for you, no matter what he looks like!
good luck
x sweeethoney
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okay i jus got a cute puppy but idk what to name her , i dont have a picture but ima try and descibe her the best way i know how .. she is light brown with white paws i and i pink lil nose im not sure what kind of dog she is but she doesnt get big at all she gets bout the same size as a shitzu. (link)
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pinky, boots, baby, tiny.
thats all I got, good luck :)
x sweeethoney
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My girlfriend has been lying to me about smoking since we starting going out. I caught her about 6 months into it and a couple of times after that and she has tried but its not working out.
This question is for smokers
Would you be able to quit smoking for your boyfriend or girlfriend?
she says she loves me and wants to marry me but she cant do this even with my help it seems (link)
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quitting smoking is one of the hardest things ive ever tried to do, & yet ive still not accomplished it. some people can smoke a pack one day & then not a single cigarette the next, but for people like me, its very hard. when I dont smoke, I shake, cry, get angry, get chest, back, & joint pains, head aches, I feel lonely & depressed. its horrible. that being said, your girlfriend is probably someone like me. instead of hounding her about it, tell her she doesnt have to hide it & youre there to support her when SHES ready.
trying to force someone to quit is pointless & kind of cruel. you smoke when youre stressed, & youre puttin stress on her. she will be more succesful with a loving hand, not a pointed finger.
be supportive, not controlling.
x sweeethoney
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Hello to all and thank you for your interest; this question is open to all! :)
I would like to know your brutally honest opinion about girls with dread locks.
Hot? Gross? Don't care? Let me know!
Thanks for your time!
Blessings :) (link)
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I may be the odd one here, but I think they CAN be attractive on both genders. it all depends on how well kept & neat they look, how attractive the person is in the first place, & who theyre tryin to attract. usually a person with dreads wouldnt care what people think. I know a lot of guys who think its sexy as hellll believe it or not.
x sweeethoney
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I have been in a 6 month long relationship with my girlfriend. Over the time I have realized she doesn't respect who I really am and seems to degrade me for it.
She's pulling me away from my music (which I enjoy and want to make a career out of), insults my friends (who mean allot to me and helped me through so much hard times) and wants me to cut my hair and shave my beard (I'm a huge hippie).
It seems to her, everything is wrong with me, and she is absoloutely perfect. I am just a disgrace.
I feel she wants to make me the kind of guy which I REALLY HATE which will make her happy yet me lifeless and miserable, not feeling HAPPY.
What is your opinion on this? (link)
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give her an ultimatum- tell her to let you be who you truly are or its over, plain & simple. i dont see why shes datin you if she doesnt like who you are! I know plenty of girls who would dig how you describe yourself. you need to find a girl who wont try to change you, but support you.
good luck, my inbox is always open
x sweeethoney
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14/f
Sometimes I can feel a pulse in my abdomen, not hard but just there, (not pregnant) and I thought it was normal until I looked online and saw that it's a symptom of an AAA which I forget how to spell. Anyway it scared the living crap out of me as I fear surgery. Are there other symptoms I should look out for? I know it's more of an elderly thing but I'm paranoid sometimes. Is it normal? Thank you! (link)
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I can feel my pulse & SEE my pulse on my stomach (before & after pregnancy). obviously when I pregnant they did ultrasounds & test & they never saw anything. I think youre being paranoid personally. you can always go to the doctor
x sweeethoney
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17/f My boyfriend(18) earlier in the week asked me what are we going to do this weekend I told him I don't know, and I still haven't known , my friend who usually knows of parties has been sick all week and hasn't been at school so I don't really know of anything going on with the people at my school , the school he graduated from and the people he likes to party with . My friend asked me today if I was going to go to a TEEN club event just to have some fun because nothing really goes on but this , I told her I wanted to but I had to ask my boyfriend first . It's on a Sunday. So I text him and ask him as he's on his way to my house and he pulls up and honks his horn so many times though he usually calls, and I got in the car and at the same time recieved his message saying idgaf do whatever you want have fun" And I asked him what was wrong, he started to yell at me, I took as much as I could, I don't know whats wrong, I buy him food then we are about to eat but I can't even , He tells me that he doesn't want to be with me, we are so close we see eachother everyday , but he hurts me so much all the time ALL the time . Should I just deal with it and let him have what he wants because he does this all the time and I have to beg and plead with him to stay with me when I do so much for him ! Or should I cry and beg him to be nice to me and tell him I wont go . I really want to go and the last time I didn't, my friend is going to be moving soon and I already bearly spend any time with her, it's a 4 hour event . do I cut my loses ? and let him see what he'll miss . idk if i'm right if I do that . (link)
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honestly, he sounds like a controlling, manipulative jerk. youre not his daughter, youre his girlfriend, yet hes trying to tell you what you can & cannot do which is ridiculous. ive dated the same kind of guy, & i suggest you give him an ultimatum: either not be so controlling, or yall are done! you deserve someone who trusts you.
good luck, my inbox is always open!
x sweeethoney
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Okay i am 15 years old and am a female. And i was hanging out with my friends and i met my friends friend Donny. He turns 19 next week. He has a son who turns 2 in october. i've hung out with him starting back a few months ago. But i do like him. Which i know is really bad...but no one can help feelings. And my bestfriend is trying to figure out if he likes me back...everyone thinks him and i would be cute together but there is many faults.. age for one. 2. the son. 3. some of the friends we share i am not aloud to hangout with. 4. he has some issues at home. but i cant help but be attracted to him. I just want to hear peoples opinions on how you guys think this would work out. Should i go for it, or should i drop it? (link)
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I have to admit, when I was 15 I dated a 19 year old. hes now the father of my child. he is emotionally preoccupied now with things that maybe another 19 year old could handle. you coild be the 'most mature 15 year old' but I dont see this workin at allll. DROP IT
x sweeethoney
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There's a ccute boy that I've never talked to, I just frequently see him in the hall. I want to get to know him. I want to show him that I think he's cute, so I want to give him a note and tell him that, maybe give him my number and tell him we should hang out. Then if he texts me or asks to hang out, id know he was interested back. So, my question is for guys. Would you be flattered if a girl gave you a note in the hallway telling you that you're cute?
I'm 16, a junior. He's 17, a senior. (link)
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personally, I think its a bit childish of you to write a note. I did that in 8th grade, & the note got passed around the kids friends & it didnt work out. also, I may not be a guy but Im one of the bros, & I think youd get a lot more creds from him if you just introduced yourself. guys like confidence in a girl.
good luck, inbox me if you need anythin
x sweeethoney
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Im 17 years old, about to graduate high school soon, im a dude. And i've been living in SoCal for my whole life, particularly the really safe, rich, spoiled neighborhood, and i can say that I'm sick of it. Not only because of the people, so i'm not specializing or anything, i just think that some places are better.
I went to Toronto in the summer for vacation and i loved it. The difference in the people werent big. The men were pretty unfriendly and reserved from my experience. However, they were very polite and civilized. The girls in Toronto were OK, very pretty, very friendly, at least from my point of view. so in general, in my own personal experience (not generalising) i have had better experiences with foreign people rather than people in LA, where all i see is trash whores falliing out of cars, spitting in public, dressed in ripped clothing, drunk off their asses, and drooling into trash cans. When i was in Toronto, i hardly saw any of that, all i saw were people living and behaving decently.
so i have been thinking about moving to Toronto pretty soon, NOT only because of the people, so its not like im anti social or anything, but actual research and surveys on the internet says that canadian cities have some of the best quality of life, whereas i see no american cities on the list. If you dont believe me, go to wikipedia, and look up "list of cities by quality of living"
so my advice im looking for is, should i move? all my friends tell me i should, and my buddies are moving to Southern Ontario halfway through college. Thanks! (link)
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I feel you about being sick of the people you live around. ive moved a lot, all over the country, & people are definitely different in different places. I say you should! you can always move, & move back if you want. but you dont, youll always regret it.
good luck :)
x sweeethoney
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