Hi..my name is Skyla. I'm 18 and I luv 2 give and recieve advice and just luv 2 talk. So, if you ever have a question or need advice, i'd luv 2 hear from u. I'm not the brightest person in the world, but I'll try to fill u in on what I know... or if you ever wanna just talk, you know where to find me!! =)
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17/f. I asked a question awhile back: so much wrong.....no one cares. Well, I went to the doctor(this past Saturday) and now he's sending me to a psychologist. But it hasn't happened yet. And things are still spinning out of control. I cut myself yesterday. I just freaked and I wasn't really thinking. I know I have to talk to someone. Like really talk. And like that question said I talked to my teacher a little but it was just about the panic attacks. I trust him and I think I could talk about more. The thing is though, if I do, I'm afraid he'll like tell a counselor and then my parents will find out I cut myself. I can't let them find that out. If I talk to a counselor, I'm afraid they'll tell my parents. So my main thing is, to what extent is everything kept confindental? I need to talk to someone; I'm going to snap. Last week I was having suicidal thoughts(not too severe, I just didn't care anymore). And it wasn't like I attempted it. I feel like I'm losing everything and no one cares. (link)
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well.. honestly, the best way to do this is talk about it.. i mean, there is a way other than telling your counselor.. i mean, it sounds like you just need a lot of help, and need to talk about things and need someone there who cares for you.. you want to feel like you can care, and that the more you talk about it, the more you think people don't care for you anymore.. it's like you want to try to just give your life away, but you can't, there's just something holding you back.. here, this is my email address: Soldia4Christ_1@yahoo.com now i want you to email me a.s.a.p. and write down exactly how you feel and get everything off you chest because i luv listening to people and I luv lifting up their spirits and gaining more and new friends each and every day.. if i'm able to help others, it blesses me so much that I can't even explain!! so, like I said email asap, and write everything you want to.. I want to be the one who tries to help you and encourages you through the whole thing.. i would do anything to help you!! i may not even know you, but it would be worth every second that I tried to help and encourage you through this whole situation.. plzz write me.. i would greatly appreciate it and it'd my day and life a whole lot better!!!!!!! Skyla
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My husband always complaings that I don't initiate sex. I am a stay-at-home mom with two highly energetic, small children. I DO exercise and pay attention to my grooming/appearance but honestly, I NEVER FEEL LIKE INITIATING sex. What should I do? (link)
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there's nothing wrong with not wanting to initiate sex.. just talk to him about it and he should understand.. talking to him about it will help things out that way he'll always know what you want and wat you don't want and what you need and what you dont' need.. i know it's not much, but hope i helped some-what lol... Skyla
the key to a sucessful relationship is to be open with each other!!
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i think my friend is gay because she allways be rubbing on gurls do you have some good advice that i can tell her (link)
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You can kinda just bring up the subject and just openly ask her if she's gay.. i mean, i know it may seem kina awkward, but if there was any way that you could kinda just start talking about it out of the blue and see if she says something or states that she's gay, then there would be your answer... if not, then kinda point it out to her, and ask her if she's always that touchy with other girls, and does that mean anything.. Yeah, that would be hard to ask her, but honestly gay is just wrong... wait, if you think gay is fine, then sorry if I offend you in any way... but yeah, it'd be really nice to know if she's gay or not (on your part)...just kinda out of the blue bring up the subject.. i know this isn't much, but i know wat i'm trying to say just writing it is the problem...lol... tell me how it goes, Skyla
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People keep judging me because I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months. And since it is high school, everyone always questions or assumes that we had sex. So, how was it for you when you first told people or it got out? Did your friends or people treat you differently?
We did have sex. And we still do, some people found out because the boyfriend thought it was okay to imply it.. and give them ideas. So now I've got an old friend [that i dont talk to or see anymore] who is always "Don't have sex with her, or I'll cut your dick off" or "Wear a condom!" towards my boyfriend at his school and it's really annoying. I didn't tell her anything, it's just she always acts superior because when she was 14.. she did it.. all, you know? I'm almost 17 and I haven't done drugs.. she keeps treating me like a child when she's a year younger than me and she implies that i'm not responsible. What do I say to her without coming off as rude? She makes it seem it's okay for herself to sleep around but when it comes to me, only having sex with one guy.. it's HORRIBLE!
also, another bit about sex.. i kind of want to stop having sex for a while.. but i'm not sure how to tell my boyfriend that. I'm sure he will get a bit hurt about it.. and I'll like some ideas of what else we could do.. nonsexual ..? we are going to bake something, but not any time soon. i'm not sure what else we could do for now.. watching movies is getting old and we are broke. (link)
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well, it really isn't nice of her to say stuff like that to you and treat you like a little child when it sounds like she's worse off than you.. well, I mean when you said when she was 14 and she did it..all... it sounds like she needs to take her own advice.. I know that sometimes you can only take so much from a person, so I'd just kinda tell her how you feel, and that you think it's annoying that she keeps telling you stuff like that. Just kinda talk to him, and bring up the subject on sex, and just kinda lightly let him know that you don't wanna do it for awhile.. if he really likes you, then he'll respect what you tell him.. I mean, at this age I seriously think it's way to young, and that you should save yourself for marriage, so there shouldn't be any reason he'd be mad.. but considering the fact that you have already done it, i'm just trying to give you advice from there lol.. ya could just hang out a lot more, not necessarily spending money such as buying movies....i know it's not much, but I hope it helped some-what =) Skyla
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i always feel like i am approaching death. like im 15 years old i dont have any real friends anymore. everything i try at, i can't succeed. ive never gotten along with my family at all. it might sound liek im complaining but honestly nohting can go right in my life no matter how hard i try. it just doesnt seem liek there is a place for me in the world at all, or like i dont know i dont feel like the purpose of me being alive is doing good for anyone or myself. i get very very depressed most of the time and i honestly just want to kill myself, liek there really isnt a point ofme staying alive. ive gone to a therapist for over a year but nothing really seems to help.
i guess i dont know what im asking but please help meee, and dont just reply with something like "hang in there it will get better" i want actual advice (link)
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A lot of teens go through this.. trust me your not the only one.. well, you did put this under the spiritual section, so I'm gonna give you spiritual advice.. There's a lot of people who go through this kind of depression, I was going through some, but I knew Satan was trying to bring me down.. Same goes for you, Satan is trying to destroy you.. If you thought about suicide, then Satan tried to let you know that you aren't worth anything, and trust me, he'd luv it if you actually commited suicide.. The Bible says that Jesus came to give eternal life, but Satan came to kill, steal, and destroy and that's what he's trying to do with you. I'm not going to lie, it's hard getting out of depression. you should try to find you some Christian friends, and you might tell me that you've already tried that, but I'll pray that you find some true Christian friends, and you should pray that you find some as well. When I read this, it honestly made me cry.. It hurts me to hear when people say they feel like they're nothing in the world and they feel like sometimes suicide is the only way.. but honestly, the truth is if you kill yourself, then you'll just go to hell.. i'm not trying to be mean, but it's true. and even though i don't even know you, I would want to see you in Heaven though one day, so please never feel like you need to commit suicide, Jesus is the only way to life!!! maybe you should try to read the Bible alittle, if you have you, just start reading anywhere you want in the New Testament, it'll give you strength to deal with what your dealing with. I would really luv to just talk to you one on one, I'm also trying to get over depression, and sometimes you just need that extra shoulder to lean on... W/B if you wanna plzz.... Skyla
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okay so im 15/f and my boyfriend is 18. we started dating about a week ago. well hes older than me hes just a lot more experianced than me. we make out all the time and hes really like "fast" with it but its been fine with me. but i let him finger me last night and it was the first time someone has. well he was really fast and when it started to hurt i told him to slow down and he would just whisper to me that "ill be fine and he knows what hes doing" and he kept going just as fast. so i finally told him to just stop and he didnt and so i closed my legs and he just pushed them back and held me there until he was done.. im kind of scared now cause we've talked about having sex but im scared he'll hurt me a lot more and i dont really know what to do cause i dont want to break up with him but it really scared me when he was basically holding my legs apart when i was telling him to stop. what should i do? (link)
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woah...well, if it was me I woulda already broke up with him.. i'm not saying that you have to break up with him, that's just what I'd do. If you consider not breaking up with him, then the least you can do is talk to him about it! He so should NOT have done that!!! That just goes to show that he has no respect for you or your body.. I agree with one of the other people who wrote you, he could just be using you, and you wouldn't wanna get too serious with him, especially if he done that.. If you put yourself in another situation like that, then he's gonna think he's in control and probably try something.. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying this is your fault, especially when he's the one who pushed your legs back until he was done fingering you..even knowing that you told him to stop... This could easily lead into something else, so i'd either break up with him, or tell him that he is NOT in control of you.. I really hope this helped I and really hope and pray that everything works out for you and I hope you make the right decision for you!!!! w/b and tell me how everything goes..if you talk to him about it or not.. i'd love to hear from you!!! Skyla
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There is a girl named chelsea that i really like and its not that i just like her i mean i can;t stop thinking about her.. its like every second im thinking about her but the thing is i didn't even talk to her. i dont know what to say and if she would like me or not. she said she really likes tattoes and im going to get one. please help me figure out a way to talk to her.. thanks (link)
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yeah.. i agree with the first person.. get the confidence to start talking to her.. it don't have to be a long conversation, it can just be a question or two here and there.. do you have any classes with her or are you around her any?? ask her wat kinda tattoes she likes? there's you a start, since your gettin' one and all..maybe you can get one she likes haha..jk..no but seriously lol =) neways, just talk to her alittle bit, i'm sure that'll get you somewhere haha.. i know this is not much but I hope i helped out some-what
* Skyla * w/b and tell me how it goes haha =)
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I have this school dance coming up next month. My best friends ex-boyfriend likes me and I like him. I told my best friend that I couldn't do that to her by dating him. She told me I don't care about him anymore. I started to say okay when I had just remembered that a little while ago in fifth period everyone was talking about how weird it was that she had asked him if they could get back together.I thought how long ago that was and then said okay. My first question is should I believe her when she says she doesn't like him anymore? Then at lunch he asked who I was going to the dance with I said no one and asked why he asked he said just was wondering.Second question if he is afraid to ask me to the dance,what should I say in order to dawn to the question want to go to the dance with me so he might just ask me. (link)
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well.. first i'd talk to your friend more about it, and if you can tell she doesn't care or bother her, then I wouldn't worry about it, but that is if your friend "really" doesn't care. if she doesn't, then i would just be like "so, who do you plan on going to the dance with" that way your kinda hinting him to ask you, but in a way your kinda not, it just depends on how he takes it.. if he says no one yet, then I'm sure he wants to ask you.. or you could be like, yeah, i'd like to go but I don't have anyone to go with..he'll probably get around to asking you, or he should anyways.. hope everything works out the way you want it to!!
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Okay well ive been having pains in my right breast but i dont feel any bumps that i think could be abnormal or anything.
never had sex and im not pregnant.
Have any ideas of what could be wrong or what i should do? (link)
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yeah, I agree with tiffany on this one, it's probably that they're just growing, but like she said...if they continue to hurt, then i'd probably tell your mom and if she doesn't know, then maybe you should set you up a doctor's appointment..
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I just moved to Moore, OK a couple of months ago. Everything seemd to be okay. Except, Ive been deppressed lately. Not just like once and it goes away or my bf broke up with me deppressed, I mean deppressed on and off. I hide my true feelings, like I'm trying to shoot down my tears with other things. But I can't because either way, i feel way to deppressed to think. With personal problems, school drama, self-esteem issues. I mean Ive gotta a lot of problems. My friend, Rachel, thinks that I should go get some help for it. Like it's major. But I think all that's gonna do is make things worse. So should I just coop up all my stuff and stay deppressed and hide it? Or should I just go to my school counseler. Help me.... before I do someting really stupid. (link)
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Being depressed, or just going through some tough stuff is normal becoming a teen. You go through lots of depression when you become a teen b/c things just seem to get much harder for you. But, try not to hide your depression as much as possible. You need to go to someone you trust and get all of it out b/c if you don't, then there would be a possibility to where you do [do] something stupid in which you might regret. If you think you'd feel comftorable talking to your counselor, then try that. If you feel comftorable talking to your parents, then there may be a possibility to where they can help you as well.. But being able to tell your friend Rachel how you feel is very important because a lot of times telling your friends how you feel makes you feel better sometimes b/c you just feel like that person you really care about cares about you because they listen to what you have to say. Try to go out and do some fun stuff with your
friend(s) and that will help you cheer up some-what. The more you become happy, the easier it will be for you to become happy more often. well i hope i helped some-what * Skyla *
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im 15 years old and i have never kissed a boy and i dont have any friends. i used to but i dont know what happened. my family hates me and im so lonely and i want to die and i really need help/advice. (link)
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woah..i'm really sorry you feel this way.. i'm sure your family dont' hate you.. i mean, they may act like they don't but deep down i'm sure they don't. and well, i'm about to be 17 and I just got my first kiss, so I think your ok, just wait for that special boy, then it'll be more worth it ;) trust me.. please don't say you ever want to die, b/c I don't and I don't even know you.. nobody should ever feel like they don't deserve to live... I would love to be your friend.. maybe we can talk more!!!! i hope i helped.... * Skyla *
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ok well i used to have this boyfriend.. we broke up last december.. and we were friends since we broke up and we were fine in the summer.. now since schools started, hes been really mean to me and i have no clue why.. i didnt do anything that would make him feel so angrey at me.. the only thing that i can think of is the way i dress now?? i mean i dress kind of punk//rock now,, but i dont know.. not being some ones friend just because of the way they dress?? thats pathetic..
i appreciate any answers thankss =] (link)
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i don't know..that is mean though. maybe you should just bluntly go up and ask him why he treats you the way he does now.. if it is because of the way you dress, that is kinda pathetic. b/c if you didn't do anything for him to treat you that way, then he shouldn't do that to you. but if he continues to do that, then I wouldn't worry about him b/c he's just being a jerk. but, i really do hope ya can patch things up between each other..so just talk to him about it .. hope I helped * Skyla *
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that teenagers are having sex earlier and earlier...
I sure dont want to have sex any time in high school...but I know lots of my friends are ready. to be honest it just all freaks me out...
yes, i'm afraid of having sex...and i just don't see how it would be pleasurable.
any comments or advice would help!
thx.... (link)
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me neither.. i'm scared about having sex, too. it kinda freaks me out as well.. sometimes i also wander how you can get pleasure out, too. well, my friends aren't ready either. but this is all ok, it's good to be a virgin in High School, where I'm from, that'd be something to be proud of lol.. but I agree with the first person, your not gonna be the one carrying a baby around while your still in high school. don't worry about other teenagers, and sometimes they just like to say they're having sex when they're really not they just sometimes say that b/c they think everybody else is doing it, but try not to be one of those people... well I know it's not much but I hope I helped some-what..lol =) * Skyla *
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15 (almost 16)/female
This is embarrassing but I am almost 16 and still a virgin. I have made out like twice(but i find myself not to be the best kisser becuase i think about it way to much b.c im afraid ill mess up) . No fore play, sex or anything. Not because I dont want to but Im afraid to do it wrong or mess up. Also when it comes down to it Im nervous about my body, but thats not a big concern to me tho. And compared to 80% of my friends Im like the most unexperienced. Its not like i couldnt do all the stuff, but my fears are keeping me from them. Well my questions are..
How would I give a hand job or blow job that will pleasure him?
If i happen to discharge on a guys fingers when he fingers me..is that normal?
Any suggestions or good advice? I need it. :[ Im pretty pathetic to think about it. (link)
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there should be nothing embarassing admitting your still a virgin and your almost 16. it's actually not embarassing to admit your still a virgin when your 20. You should really wait 'till your married 'till you have sex.. wait till you find that perfect guy and ya get married, then you'll know you lost your virginity to someone special in which you truely love. As for only making out, I'll be 17 Nov. 1 and haven't even got my first kiss.. Honestly, i'm too nervous about that. and my friends are more experienced than me too, but only for the kissing part.. don't try to goes as far as giving a hand or blow job, trust me, your way to young, wait for that special guy ;) there's absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin, like me lol.. my advice to you is WAIT!!! hope i helped =) * Skyla *
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ok, so i'm 13/f, and i have to 13/f friends who have been best friends since forever. one feels like she's been living in the other's shadow (lets call her Alma), and doesn't know what to do about it, so finally she gets mad at the other girl (Ana) for no reason. actually her "reason" is that the girl didn't tell her that there were beta club elections for president, and so now she's all pissed. it's so retarded. now she won't even talk to her. and we've all been in a group together since who knows when, and i'm still friends with them both, but they won't talk to each other. Also, "Ana's" birthday is this Friday, and we don't know what to do! if they don't make up before then, i don't know what we're all gonna do. help! (link)
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yeah, i agree with the first person's reply, you can't really do much other than just sit down and talk with them.. it may just be a little fight that they'll resolve, and hopefully before Ana's b-day... best friends always go through little fusses and fights, but they usually get over it, i know me and my best friend does.. but,if talking to 'em doesn't help, just hope things will patch up soon between them.. hope I helped =)
* Skyla *
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f/14
okay so me and my friends (let's call us Linda (me) sammy, becky, tyler and julie)K? well anyway "Julie" and i are like the leaders of our group mainly because we the first of the friends and b/c we are a lot more confident than the rest of our group (some people mistake it as being cruel and bitches). Either way me and Julie are also the closets. Don't think to badly about us, but we also like each other most, but sammy gets so angry and crazy everytime we are together b/c she knows we like each other more. I really love sammy, and i don't want to hurt her but she has changed thanks to being corrupted by the devil reincarnate ( let's call her Danniell.) Sammy is also a constant liar i am not sure if i can trust her. The only reason we formed this group in school is becasue eveyone hates us because they think we are spoiled bitches, ut we are so not bitches! anyway i would hate to leave sammy. i love her so much and we are her only other friends other than Danniell who is ruining her.
remeber we really are good people! lol i know me and Julie sound evil lol :-)
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well, if you don't wanna leave Sammy, you should talk to her about how you feel about her, well the part when you said your not sure if you can trust her or not. the least she can do is listen since you said ya are her only other friends, other than Danielle.. just tell her that you think Danielle is ruining her and that she isn't a good example for Sammy. Remember, you need to be able to trust your friends, so just talk to her about it, maybe she'll listen and understand.. i know it's not much but I hope I helped... =) * Skyla *
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hey everybody
i need to aks you all a question id appreciate it if you answered pretty quick
i have three friends at skool well those are my only friends ONLY in my class they are both sisters thyre twins.. anyhow we all 3 are always hangiing out ritee... theres this other girl shes also our friend and she hangs out with us to but u see she barely comes to skool so you kno they accualy hang around me most of the time and i honestly dont mind i love hanging with themm.. but theres just one problem..
i have other people in other classes i wanna hang out with in the break aswell like sometimes
i mean i cant take them with me cause u kno
im sure thyre not gonna like eachtoher
and im not gona leave them cause thyre both sisters and they get enough of eachtother at home
and all my other friends want me to hang out with them and stuff
please help ASAP!
thanks
Peace (link)
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well, since you like hanging out with both "groups" then just try to introduce the "sisters" to your other friends and you never know they may get along.. just kinda leave class with them and then just randomly run into the others and you never know, they may all get along when they see that you wanna hang out with both. well i know it's not much, but it's worth a try lol hope i helped =) * Skyla *
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Hi my name is kiki, I'm a female and I'm 18 years old. I just broke up with my boyfriend of about two months. I love him and I know he loves me. I thought that if I broke up with him I could make my life better and I would feel better, but when I broke up with him it made everything a lot worse. I just can't stop crying or thinking about him. What should I do? (link)
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Well, if you really love him then you shouldn't have broke up with him.. If you love him and he loves you, then i'm sure things will work out for ya. You should call him and explain everything, and tell him how you wanted to make your life "better" but instead you think you just made things worse. Let him know how you feel about him, and things might patch up from there.. I know this wasn't much, but I hope I helped!! =)
16/F * Skyla *
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okay, so i had this friend, let's call her Em. and she was seriously my bestest friend. but then all this drama happened during sophomore year of high school and our friendship fell apart. now we're juniors and we're cool now. like we say hi and we're friendly to each other and stuff, but it's still pretty awkward between us. like we don't talk like we used to and we obviously dont do all those things best friends used to do anymore. i really miss her. but i don't think she misses me because she has another best friend at school. i want to gradually become close with her again, but i don't want to seem SUPER CLINGY to her because that was one of the reasons why our friendship fell apart. what can i do to get my best friend back? any advice is welcome. thanks so much in advance! (link)
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well, that would be kinda awkward.. but you can probably just go and talk to Em and let her know that you miss her.. the least she can do is listen to wat you have to say. you never know, deep down she may feel the same.. sometimes, we have to make the first step, it may get you far. if she doesn't act like she listening to wat you have to say, well from my perspective i'd just pray about it, and if you don't pray, then just talk to her and hope for the best....at least you'll know you tried first, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that... lol.. i know i wasn't much help . i tried lol =) * Skyla *
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ok just to start i am a man..ish lol (16 years old) but the thing the proceeds to allways piss me off is the way i see other guys looking at girls as if they are mindless sex objects, damn i hate it. one of my freinds freind today was lookin at a girl across the street going oh wow looka her ass i'd bone that bitch and crap like that. am i missing something? because its demoralising as hell and i hate it... how do i just tell him that he is doing something that pisses me off to no end without being so... oh how to put it harsh... well maybe a little to show him a bit, but i dont know ime confused about it i just need a good one liner that will tell anyone i meet like it in the future. (link)
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Well..you gotta let him know that wat he says about girls, well you don't like it and you want him to stop talking like that around you. That is disrespectful though, and he shouldn't even say that whether around you or not.. but yeah, just kinda let him know that you don't appreciate him talking like that and if he really respects you and the way you are, he'd stop it... well, i know it's not much but i hope i helped... =)
16/f * Skyla *
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