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my bff's ex-boyfriend likes me and I like him back
I have this school dance coming up next month. My best friends ex-boyfriend likes me and I like him. I told my best friend that I couldn't do that to her by dating him. She told me I don't care about him anymore. I started to say okay when I had just remembered that a little while ago in fifth period everyone was talking about how weird it was that she had asked him if they could get back together.I thought how long ago that was and then said okay. My first question is should I believe her when she says she doesn't like him anymore? Then at lunch he asked who I was going to the dance with I said no one and asked why he asked he said just was wondering.Second question if he is afraid to ask me to the dance,what should I say in order to dawn to the question want to go to the dance with me so he might just ask me.
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just ask your friend to tell you the truth
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She is probably lying when she says she doesn't have feelings for him anymore. Of course, she wouldn't want to tell you because she either doesn't want to hold you back from dating her ex or she doesn't want people to know that she still feels that way for him. Whether you still want to date him when she still has feelings for him is up to you. I suggest you sit down with her somewhere private (or just have an IM/text/email conversation) about how she would feel about you dating him. Friends are more important that guys; it would be really sad and silly if you lost a friend over a guy.
If you decide to go to the dance with him after you talk to your friend, try dropping some hints when you talk to him. Just give little hints, nothing too obvious. So say things like, " I really want to go to the dance, but no one's asked me,' or 'Hey, who are you going to the dance with?' If all else fails, just ask him if he wants to go with you to the dance. It's a little unorthodox, but the worst he can do is say no, and him turning you down is better than him never figuring out that he should ask you to the dance.
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well.. first i'd talk to your friend more about it, and if you can tell she doesn't care or bother her, then I wouldn't worry about it, but that is if your friend "really" doesn't care. if she doesn't, then i would just be like "so, who do you plan on going to the dance with" that way your kinda hinting him to ask you, but in a way your kinda not, it just depends on how he takes it.. if he says no one yet, then I'm sure he wants to ask you.. or you could be like, yeah, i'd like to go but I don't have anyone to go with..he'll probably get around to asking you, or he should anyways.. hope everything works out the way you want it to!!
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well, your friend probably still has feelings for him regardless of whether or not she wants to admit it. going out with your friend's ex will probably make your friendship a bit awkward and you might become distant, but if you think he's worth it then go for it.
But if you truly want to go to the dance with him, bring it up, casually ask who he's going with or who he is planning on taking.
or jokingingly talk about how cool it would be if you and him went together, maybe who would get the hint.
good luck.
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