about

Hey whattsupp, my names Erin, but i sign E whenever I answer a question. I'm a sophmore in high school. I used to run, but strained my back and now i'm done. I love track so if you need any help in that I'm your girl! I'm love giving advice and helping people with their problems. I've been through so much in 15 years, that I can pretty much help anyone. Feel free to ask me anything I'd rather tell you that i don't know than give you a bad or wrong answer.
I love clothes so i'm best at answering questions about style or fashion. When I grow up I want to be either an actress or a fashion desighner. So these are my best subjects! Butt, I can help in pretty much all of them :). Please feel free to ask me anything, I'll ALWAYS answer to the best of my ability, and come on here as often as possible!

-E!

advice

im only 13 but all the girls at my school have huge boobs. i dont. so the guy i like wont notice me. should i stuff? or i am thinking of saving for implants. tell me what you think i should do please.

You are 13!!!! I think that you should be happy with your body. I didn't get my boobs until last year. I know people who didn't get there's until they were 18. Guys your age are stupid. Do you really want a guy who only likes you because you have big boobs? Rock your flatness!! Some guys might like how your different. I know a 17 year old who's a AA.
Don't stuff and spend your money on clothes not implants!!!


Hope I helped
-E

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i have wanted to move out to the country ever since i got my 1st horse 5 yrs ago since then i have got another i live with my young grandad and nanna and my mum. my grandad and i are certain we want to live out there andmy mum dosnt mind but my nanna manages to find 1 problem with every house that we look out even when there isnt one i even go to a school where i only have to go twice a week if the house is far out in the country we are looking a getting another horse and we have 6 other animals i would appreciate your help thanks is there any way of convincing her or should we leave it?

Sit down and find out the real reason she doesn't want to leave. It's not the new houses problems, it's that she doesn't want to leave her house now. Try telling her that life is great here and you have a Lot of memories, but it's time to make new ones in a new house.
Tell her why it's better for you all. More rooms? Easier for animals? Etc.

Hope I helped!

-E

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i am insanely scared of the world ending. i am soo scared that 12/21/12 is true. is it true? if it's not true, what is proof that it's not true and what are some sources to lead to the idea that it's not true.

NASA says it's not true. The ancient myans- I believe that's who- made a calender that ended on that day. That is the only evidennce even suggesting it.
The world will eventually end, but not for billions of years.
People make 2012 a bigger deal than it is, that is why people started becomeing afraid of it. The more people talk the more people believe it is true.
When it comes down to it it is wether you believe NASA or th myans. It's up to you what you believe and all the answers are going to be biest. I personally don't think it will end. Just google it and you will get both sides of the story.
Either way if the world does end, don't be afraid it is nothing you can control. All you can do is what you've been doing so far-- live your life. Have fun! Don't worry!!!


Hope I helped!
-E

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Hello i asked a question about a month ago about my husband leaving for Afghanistan and how i was super emotional. He leaves in a few weeks and I've been noticing we've been not really fighting but arguing a lot more than we usually do, even about little things. I feel like I'm the one disagreeing more and in a sense causing the start of the "fight" Can anybody explain to me why this is happening? I know you don't know our relationship but we've always had a very strong and open one. Its just these past couple weeks everything is building up on me, stress, emotions etc. why am i taking it out on him? I dont want to fight with him as he leaves :( Somebody help!

It sounds like your angry. Not at him but at the situation. That you don't want him to go, but you know that he has too. If I were you I would sit him down and explain that your getting into fights with him because you're basicly mad that hes leaving you. Just let him know that you don't want to fight anymore, and you want your last few days together to be fight free.

-E

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i need to know what website i could go to that will let me edit videos before i post them on a site, and that is also free. please help

I don't think you can find a website that will let you do that. My suggestion would be movie maker.
let me know if you need anyhelp!!

-E

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I decided that I am going to make a free webpage like you could create on Yahoo! Geocities awhile back. I thought it would be interesting to write a little bit about myself and have my own "space" to personalize without the hassle of "friending" people like on Myspace, Friendster, MyYearBook, and Facebook. Maybe I'm just strange. Maybe I'm just really artsy. I want to do this though.

So, I was curious about how to change the fonts though. I know it says you must type it in basic HTML but I don't know ANY HTML, really. How can I learn basic HTML on the web? How can I learn HMTL codes for free? I'm particularly interested in:

Bolding
Italicizing
Making font size bigger & smaller
Changing font colors
Creating links

...but, again, I have no idea how to go about any of this. If anybody knows, please feel free to tell me below. If anybody has particularly helpful websites then please feel free to list them for me.

THANKSSS

P.S. I don't want to sound stupid but what does HTML actaully stand for? THNX

Just google it. I'm in a Web Page Design class right now, so i know all this stuff, so feel free to ask me any of your questions!

Start of your coding like this:

then at the end of all your coding you need to do:
----/=ending what you said in the other code.

Bolding is: WORDS
Italicizing is: WORDS
Sizing of fonts for headers:
and then you close it with etc.
only use one of those -- h1 being the biggest and h6 being the smallest

For regular font like typyin i belive in a paragraph tag () you say ==so it will look like this&&to change colors::

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Hi there,

As a moderator I would really like your input on the current changes around here:

http://www.advicenators.com/disc_topic.php?t=1698

... please and thank you!

(Reject this, please, after you have read it.)

The conversation was dead, but, I will say that I don't want e-mails when i get feadback. I come on here almost everyday, and I can see for myself.

Thanks for asking my opinion!

-E

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heyy, i really love justin beiber and i really want to be in a video with him..but am i too young to be in a music video with him? i am only 12.

Your not to young. You are among thousands who want the same thing. The chances of you getting it are very low-sorry! Do you have an agent? Do you have acting experience? Have you taken classes to perfect your craft? That's how you get it if you need anymore help let me know!


-E

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i like two boys who should i choose or what should i do?????

The first one.

JUST KIDDING.
How are we supposed to know? You didn't say your type, what you like about each one, pros and cons?
We can't make this choice for you even if you do want us too. It is up to you.
Make a pro con list. Put there names in a hat-ONLY because if you pick one and you feel disipointed then you know its the other one you should go with. Or if you pick one and you are happy then go with him.
We can't make this dicition for you, sorry hunn!

-E

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okay so someone told me if i get my hair cut every 2 months my hair will grow more.. i took off an inch yesterday and its back to where it was 2 months agoo.. so how much hair am i suppose to take off?

This isn't true. It just makes you think your hair is growing. Hair is dead. It doesn't just think "Oh, she's cutting it every 2 months, time to grow faster."
It just feels/looks like it is becvause you are getting a haircut more often.

-E

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i love my husband very much and we have no problem other than he watches porn and looks at other women i tell him that it called cheating.but he always denies it but i see it in the history of my computer on on the tv how can i stop him .what should i do.if he keeps lieing

He obviously donesn't consider porn cheating. He thinks that you need to be physicly with another women. IF this is not what you think then sit him down and tell him.
Give him and ultimatim. Say its you or the porn.
Suggest ways to help him kick this habbit tell him that you know it is going to be hard, but you are willing to help him through it and be there for him.

Hope I helped

-E

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I have rewritten this over and over again, re-read and re-read trying to add in every bit of detail to make the story clear and try to answer any questions about whats going on. I know it's long, but please bear with me as I feel its important in knowing exactly how everything plays in.

Pretense:
I guess you can say my story begins as a typical relationship, but things really turn strange. It started two years ago, the summer before my senior year of high school. I met the most beautiful girl I had ever seen. She had a boyfriend that shes been dating for two years so I figured I didn't have a chance in hell. She even thought I was annoying, but I persisted in trying to get close to her. One day she broke up with her boyfriend, and there I was. Really out of nowhere we started to date, and I was in love. Things moved pretty fast, constant texting, hanging around each other all the time and calling each other every night. After about a month or so though, she ended it with me and she got back together with her ex. I felt sick to my stomach.

Lucky for me her bf is crazy possessive, and eventually pushed her away again. I love her so much I took her back. For about a year we grew together and became best friends. However as our love grew, so did my jealousy and insecurity, and my fear of losing her. We were dating, everyone knew it, we did everything too had the most amazing sex, but we never had a title. And that was one thing I always fought about, her argument was we were already together so what was the point, just a name? I loved her too much to continue to argue, so I was okay with it. During our relationship she was still talking to her ex, never hooked up with him or anything, but always remained in contact. One day she left her phone unattended, and I saw his number and saved it to my phone. I didn't know exactly what I was thinking or what I would do with this number, but it would later prove to be my waterloo in the fight for her heart.

College: Early September, everything goes wrong. We both got accepted to ucf. Over the summer before we moved up she said she wants more space, and wanted to be alone during college. I was worried at first because I wouldn't be living on campus, but she would. And so would her ex, right near her. She was still close to me though and was always around, so my fears slowly slipped away. But then we moved in. I got a run down apartment off campus, it smelled like mold and had roaches galore. I was broke, home sick, and miserable. I grew desperate, and wanted to cling more to the only person I knew up in college with me. She however, was hanging out with her good friend/roomate at the time, and some big black kid that lived on her floor. He had helped her moved in and they were hanging out a lot. I wanted to hang out with her but she insisted she needed her space. Days went by and I didn't see her. My classes were all online, and I was in my room by myself all day. My thoughts and dreams haunted me. I had to call her. I kept calling her, and each time she never answered. She was out hanging out with her new friends, while I was home alone missing her, driving myself crazy. I dunno why I did, but I took her exes number and called him. I asked him for advice? I dunno why, it was the stupidest thing I've ever done. It only made me seem more crazy, and shocked her how I got his number. I told her, and she just couldnt trust me anymore. So here's where the strange part comes in. Long story short, her mom eventually called me and asked that I stop bothering her. At that point I realized how alone I really was when the girl I cared for most asked her mom to tell me to leave her alone. I told my buddy who went to a different school about what was going on, and like a "great" friend decided to play a joke on me. He had our other friend text me and say to leave her alone, shes texting me saying your harrassing her. I freaked. Of course this was untrue, but I panicked nonetheless. So I called her mom back and promised her I would leave her daughter alone if she could please tell her daughter to stop telling my friends Im a stalker. I realized I had been acting really irrational, and wanted to put an end to the madness before things got out of hand. But unsuspectadley...things did go out of hand, in the worst way possible.

The police involvement: That same day after speaking with her mother, I went to a restaurant on campus with an old high school friend. I didn't hang out with them much, but I figure since Im on my own now its best I start making new relationships. Well, remember that big black kid that was helping my "ex" move in? He appears at the restaurant with his buddy, and they approach my table. I have to add that I was online earlier on instant messenger and put where I was as my away message, which ill explain why its important later. So this kid storms up to my table ready to fight and says "why the F*** are you talking shit about me to *******'s mom??" I said to him "woah, are you crazy?? I don't even know who you are I didn't say anything about you I was talking about someone else" He said "bullshit i'll kick your ass" And I said "f*** you psycho" and as i turned away to ignore him and pick up my hamburger out of nowhere he decks me in the face. I was stunned. Everyone in the restaurant was watching at this point. I got up, but my friend that I was with insisted I call the cops. The black kid teased me and said "yea call the cops bitch!" and walked out. So I did, I called the cops. They come, ask what happened, and asked why this person I did not know hit me. I told him he was friends with my ex, and that they might have known I was at the restaurant because of my away message on the instant messenger. I give the report, and I go about my way. About 30 minutes later I get a phone call from the police asking me to go to the station, the story apparently is more complicated. So I arrive and from there on I quickly turn from the victim to the criminal. The police told me they had the kid who hit me in custody, but now I was in trouble. They had with them cell phone records and all the emails I had been sending my ex, and they were now ready to press harrassment charges against me. I was so shocked. They said they went to question her about why that kid came, and apparently she turned it around on me and wanted to file a harrassment complaint. By the end of the day, I was told that if I ever make contact with her or any of her friends or family I'd be arrested. My world fell apart and my heart sank to a low I couldn't describe.

September passes...the longest month of my life. I never really dreamt before, but everynight was a nightmare. I couldn't sleep.

October comes, I had already deleted her number and everything out of fear of being arrested, but I still had her as a buddy on aol instant messenger. I think we were both afraid to talk to eachother, because she began to communicate to me...through away messages. We begin by saying how sorry we are for everything. Long story short, after weeks of this weird communication, we agree to meet. It started with lunch, and before you know it I was sleeping over her dorm and we were having sex. No one knew we were seeing each other, it had to be secret. This part of my memory is quite fuzzy, because after that we began to fight again. And literally a week later she was dating that ex of hers. I was shocked. Apparently, during that month after the incident she found comfort in being with him. And apparently he was being an ass again and she decided to see me again. Seeing me only lasted a week, and then it was back to her not making any contact with me, and she was back with her ex.

October passes...as does November, December...January..all the way through April. Each day I fill my heart with more hate, my eyes with more tears, and my mouth with more alcohol. I tried to occupy myself, and get over this bitter situation. Just drop it I kept telling myself, its over, she screwed you over so hard. So I drank, and hung out with trashy people. I could tell myself I was having fun...but every night I put my head on that pillow, and my thoughts would haunt me. Everyday I missed her, wondered about what she was doing. I still loved her. I was miserable. I hated everybody and everything. Months went by and I never heard from her. I was nearly failing school. During a lot of this time I had been going to counseling. It helped somewhat, but the answers I was getting didn't seem to help. Everyday I grew more hateful, and more miserable. To say the least, I was not myself anymore and I turned into a completely different person. Anxiety attacks were constant, and I was in a constant state of panick. I really didn't know how I could ever survive. I hadn't had a good day for as long as I could remember. It was the worst I had ever felt, and was losing the will to live.

So sometime earlier this year we make contact again. I don't really remember how, but apparently she had been dating the same kid all year and had eventually broke up with him. She still didn't want to see me, but slowly but surely we started talking. The summer went on and we were like peas and carrots again. She moved back home for the summer while I remained in school. We talked all the time, and things were going great. This fall semester started and we were with each other 24/7, sleeping over each others houses. I was the happiest I had ever been.

My current dilemma: Last week, I made a huge mistake. She wanted me to help her with something on her computer, so while she showered, I worked on her computer. I finished early, and while I was sitting there I couldn't help but notice something. I don't know how I stumbled upon this document, but it was a conversation between her and her ex. I read it, then closed it. I made no mention of it. That night I slept over her place, and then later the next day while at work she texted me asking to be honest with her and asked had I gone through her computer. I panicked. I knew what was coming. I told her no. She said thats funny, under recently viewed documents something here was opened that I know I didnt open. So I told her. And then she cut me off. She said I'd never change, it was just like how I took his number out of her phone. I was really miserable, and my anxiety was driving me crazier than ever. How could I fuck up what I tried so hard to fix?? Our relationship was already so fragile because of our past. A couple days later she starts talking to me again. We take it slow, no more sleeping over of course. We go to the gym, and she even comes over to my house for dinner. I had to go home this past weekend to get my car ( I had none for the past month ) so she drove me to the bus station. I talked to her online that night while I was home, and then said goodnight. The next day we were talking and I made mention of how tired I was. And she said what time did you go to bed last night? I said right after you did. I wasn't really thinking about exactly what happened because I was wrong. She said I was full of shit because she went on later on and saw I was online. I was still online for a bit longer but didnt really remember. To me this was no big deal, but she called me a compulsive liar. She ignores me again. The next day I'm on the phone with her and talk about plans of going to disney world, I had already gotten tickets. She said thats not a good idea. And I kinda freaked and said why not?? We had been planning this for a long time. At this point she didnt even want to speak to me and said ill talk to you later and hung up. A couple hours later I texted her...no response. I texted twice more and still no response. The next day I made no attempt to contact her. Today comes...I drive back up to school, I text her. Still no response. I texted again and said I need my parking decal because it was in her car. She finally responded and said shed leave it at the front office of my apartment building. So she did. No conversation, she doesnt want to talk.

So this is me now. I find myself in desperation, looking for any sign that things will be alright. My anxiety is keeping me up all night and all I want is for her to know how sorry I am, and how much I regret going through her computer. I don't want her to not trust me. I care so much for her. If only she could know how sorry I am and how much I want to correct the wrongs I've made. I fear I may have lost her again and it will kill me if this happens again. I can't go on another year beating up on myself, being alone, being miserable. At this moment I am the most miserable I have ever been, more so before because I was given a chance at redemption, and I ruined it. I don't know what to do. I want her in my life so badly. I ask you out of desperation for help, I never meant to hurt her. What do I do?

Woah. I never read long posts, but I read this one. Just to let you know-most of this info was unnessesary.:)
ANYWAY,
I think that you should cool it. Cool it for a week. THEN, write her a letter/e-mail/message and say that your sorry for looking at her computer. Just say you are insecure and you feel jelous/threatened by her ex. (Its true, just say it) Explain how important she is to you. I think you should say that she asked for the truth and you gave it to her. Sorry it wasn't what she wanted to hear. Mainly, you need to show her how important she is to you. At the end of the message just say something about inviting her for a dinner at you place. Tell her if she comes it means she forgives you and that you guys can start over. I MEAN COMPLETLY OVER. Like Hi my name is, ****.
You are very posessive of this girl. I feel like she knows you will always be there so why should she commit to you? There are tons of guys out there why not have them AND you.
She may not even be the right person for you. She makes you feel like crap. What you do is not that bad. Like she shouldn't be blowing up at you for no reason. It makes me feel like she is trying to find a way out.
Finally, STOP LYING. Even if it is the sky is green. A small lie, it doesn't matter. In the e-mail explain how you staying up later than her is no big deal. Explain how you forget things late at night so its okay that you didn't remember. Besides, how she freaked when you said after you and she was like no i was on later and you were still on shows that she doesn't trust you. I don't even understand why what time you go to bed is of any importance to her.
Explain to her that you are going to try your best to stop lying-and thats not a lie.
You need to show her she matters to you. Do something cute-like the dinner.
Lastly, if she denies you again. I think you should be done. I don't think you should have even suggessed yuour self to this in the first place. If i were you I would have been done a LONG time ago. She is obciously tearing you apart. This has to be the last time. And then use this as a growing esperience. Go back to the counsler maybe switch schools and totally block her out of your life. delete her from AIM too. DO NOT KEEP HER ON JUST TO SEE WHAT SHE IS UP TOO. You need to draw the line somewhere and start thinking of yourself and what she is doing to you. She is destroying your life. I mean your in college, and you sit at home? Go out, party, meet new people.
You could even think about switching schools if her being there is too much of a distraction to you.
^ i'm not really sure if that is an option for you, but I thought I would suggest it anyway.
If you do cut her out of your life and you see her around just smile, wave, say hi. Don't make it awkward and make it clear that you are better without her and you've moved on.

Hope I helped, and let me know if you need anymore help!

-E

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Hi im 13 years old and im a girl.It's been 4 months that i dont feel any emotions.I only feel anger and sadness.I cry a lot because i have no idea what to do and im seriously thinking about starting to cut myself and im afraid.I dont wanna die at all i wanna live myself.I always play a part when im with my friends.I noticed that a lot of people try drugs becaus the same way that i feel.
I really need advices from people that probably already being through this once.

Talk to your parents. Maybe they can help you. You might want to go to a theropist. It will help you and give you someone to talk too. DON"T CUT. Thats gross. Besides, it will just hurt. I have never understood why people who are feeling sad and pain want to fix it by inflicting themselves with more pain. Drugs will help you untill the high wears off. Its not worth it. Look into getting a shrink. It will help you soo mcuh. Try to find an activity that you are pasionate about so that you can feel happy when you are doing it.
Running, acting, cooking, writing, whatever.
Go to your local community center and sign up for classes!
Get happy about life again!

Hope i helped!
-E

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oka.. theres this boy i am like basically in love with well only problem is is that hes with another girl yet wants ta be wit me but jus donno how to let er go cuz hes been with her for so long how do i sho him im the one he should be wit

I would just tell him flat out. Be like you know I like you. and you like me. But you are hurting me and the girl your with. She thinks he likes her and hes hurting you. Tell him he needs to pick and if its not you then you don't want anything to do with him.
You don't want to be that girl that is always there for him and that he can use. --why should he break up with 1 girl for another when he could just stay with the girl hes with and have you on the side?
Besides, if he isn't going to pick you you probably don't want this guy that you are in love with around you 24/7. Without him around you could get over him faster. if at all.

Hope I helped
-E

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okay so i have been friends with this girl forever. and we know everthing about eachother. we hangout all the time too. soo anyways at a football game me and my friend table topped her and she kinda got mad so i said im sorry and shes just like thats fine. so know when i was talking to her on myspace shes like DONT TALK TO ME, I DONT WANNA BE FRIENDS WITH YOU ANYMORE! i tried everything to get her back but nothing works. i cant belive we just ended a friendship over something stupid. and the part i hate the most is its all my fault. what should i do about this?

Do something that proves to her how important your friendship is to you. Maybe do an inside joke. Not like say it. But do something big involving it. Send her a message on myspace explaining that your sorry and that she can table top you --a joke, but maybe she will laugh:).

Hope I helped
Let me know if you want more suggestions!

-E

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I need quick ways to cool off during a fight
-f/14

Before it gets to the moment where there is steam out of your ears. WALK AWAY! Just excuse yourself or say you need a minute.
It will totally eliminate the fighting part and give you some time to collect your thoughts.

Hope I helped!
-E

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would it be weird if i dated one of my taekwondo instructors? he is 18 im 16, were both interested in eachother he even called me beautiful last class

I guess it is up to you. If you would be embaressed to be seen with him or hes going to make class weird then don't do it.
I would talk to him about maintaining a sence of professionalism in class. He shouldn't be calling you out.
But if you won't make it akward then go for it. Every situation is awkward if you make it. Just talk to him like hes anyone else, but don't act like a couple in class. THAT would be awkward for everyone else.

Hope I helped
!!
-E

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I'm 16, female, weigh 150 lbs., and am 5'7 (67 in.). I am an all year round athlete in lacrosse and swimming. I eat fairly healthy, I run a 7:40 minute mile. I just got my physical to play lacrosse yesterday and my weight and height were 150 and 5'7. I was totally fine with this because I have a lot of muscle and saw it as being normal for an athlete. That night when my dad saw the form, and my weight, he freaked and told me I was really over weight and needed to get down to 130. My dad has been on me about my weight since I was 10, but I felt like at least this was unnecessary. I have a lot of insecurities about my weight and continue to struggle with a little bit of a bulimia problem.

just tell me if you think I'm wrong and need to lose weight or my dad is wrong.

thanks.

WHHHAATTT!?
You are fine! You are normal. Ignore your dad. THis is wrong on his part. You are an athleate. All athletes have more muscle. You're normal.

I think you need to sit your dad down and tell him this. This is rediculous. Not only should a parent never call there kid fat, they should not judge them.
You are perfectly normal, do not change!!!!

-E

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I like nick jonas. But so does my friend and she heert me really bad because I love him soooooooooo much and she does not know how much I really care.

Whatt?
Since he is famous, there are 3546516514684million other girls that like him too. You won't end up with him-he is famous. So just have fun with your find able to have this in common. Don't be mad at her.

-E

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Im Meeting my boyfriends parents and i dont have a clue what to wear.. help please?

we are staying in doors, just going to there house

Anything. Don't dress too slutty. But don't go over the top like you are trying to impress them. I would wear jeans, a nice shirt, maybe even a cardigan depending on the shirt.
Just look presentable, but not over the top.
Be yourself, they will be very open knowing that their son likes you. If you try to impress them they won't like you and deam you as fake.

Hope I helped!
-E

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