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Hey. I love giving advice. I enjoying giving advice about the sexual things, I've been thinking about getting a degree to be a sexual education teach or, or a sex therapist. I my second best would be friendship[s] and relationship[s]. I am 21yrs old. I have a pit bull named Zip. I work at a middle school as a nutriton assistant. I have 4 god children, 1 boy, 3 girls.

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ok so what exactly should you do if youre going to shave "down there"
because ive tried it many times.. but it never works out.
i use conditioner and shaving cream.
wen i shave the same direction as the hair there is still stubble. then if i shave in the opposite direction it cuts me and i get red bumps. i put on aloe vera or deoderant (i heard it helps with the bumps) after. but it doesnt help. is there a way to shave it all off without getting the red bumps or cuts?
please help because im seeing my boyfriend tomoro and i think i might go to 3rd with him

some similar happened to me when i 1st started shaving. you can try what i try. i do evertthing i need to do in the shower. but wheni but the conditonar in is when i shave it. cuz it had time to let the water hit and soften up ther hair. i shave down ward and sometimes diagnol to get the bkini line. also make sure you use a new razor. but becarefull with a fresh razor.

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How can I make sex for me and my bf last longer? Granted he's kinda new at this and he lost his virginity to me last month, and weve only done it like 5 times but it just sucks because when i'm all ready to go, he sticks it in and it's like done in 5 seconds. that sucks for a girl!

okay i kind of had this problem with my last boyfriend. but he didn't lose it to be he jsut couldn't last long. i told him before he is about to come to pull out when he thinks he is about to nut. he did and would start kissing on my and shit you keep the sexy feel going, and then put it back in. but it that don't work, let him cum quick, wait a few sec then get him turned on again and go back at it. most of the time after a guy has his 1st cum he can go way longer after that

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Does anyone use NuvaRing? I'm wondering how you insert it. Is it like inserting a tampon? and then how do you get it out? Would my boyfriend be able to feel it when we are having sex?

Thanks

i'm a nuva ring user, my doctor showed me that you could insert it with a tampon aplacator, just take the tampon out place the nuvaring in and put it in like a tampon, and to take it out put your finger up untill you feel the ring and pull it out...when you get fingered the guys will most likely feel it, but during sex they shouldn't, i've had a guy be able to feel it during sex. but my boyfriend now says he doesn't feel it when we have sex.

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can you have sex when youre pregnent?

yes you can have sex during pregance, two of my friends did the whole time and nothing was wrong with there child, the doctors will tell you it is fine, plus you are more likely to have an orgasm during pregnace cuz your hormones are so high, but your best bet would be ask your doctor, he will tell you. =)

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can you have sex durring your period?

yes you can have sex on your period, the whole "messy thing" dettermines on if you bleed heavy or not, when i have sex on my period i tend to bleed really light or not even bleed at all, but some girls that are heavy bleeders will be messy, i actually lost my v-card on my period, but some guys don't like to have sex with girls why they are on the period bC they think it's gross or messy, mainly it all dettermines on how much you bleed during your period if it is going to be messy or not, but if you would like put a towel under your bottom jsut in case, and make sure the guy is wearing a condom NO MATTER WHAT! hope i helped!

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16/f. my religion tells us not to have sex until we are married, and i plan on sticking to that. im possibly going to a get a boyfriend soon though, and i dont know how to tell him that im waiting. what are some excuses of why i cant have sex with him besides my religion and i dont want to?

you need no other excuse except your not ready..the more you make lies up about why the more he will pressure you. so before you even start datening him let him know you plan on waiting till your married. if he doesn't like that then he wasn't even worth your time.

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Has anyone else besides me noticed that the age of kids starting to have sex is dropping more and more. I mean the other day my friend told me she knew an 11 year old that had sex. I was like whoah thats messed up i'm 15 and i'm still a virgin and proud of it.lol. I mean serisouly what kind of a message is this sending to other countries?

So two questions...

Do you think Americas youth is way too sex oriented? yes or no?

If so what do you think is the cause for this? ex.tv music etc....


Thamx in advance

it's been like this since our parents where young. it has only increased over the years, i'm 17 and i have atlest 10 best friends that just turned 18 or just turning 17 that have had a child. so i would say yes it is to sex oriented. it's all in music it's all over tv. plus girls think they are in love these days when they have sex. i lost it when i was 15 and now when i hear SEX by lyfe jennings i wish i had never lost it and waited. MOST girls that have lost it will tell you not to wait it's not worth the pain and the mess up of your emotions, then the girls that are virgins get soo corious that the go for it.

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Ok...so im not a virgin but everytime ive had sex i told the guy to keep my bra on. My reasoning for that is my boobs look bigger in my bra and i dont want it to be a disappointment when it comes off. I really hate it because my boobs look like they are like an A when my bras off. What should i do about that? And my other problem is you know how people have hair on there stomach? Well since im full italian mine is like dark so it kind of grosses me out what can i do about that cuz that also bothers me?

ok it's normal my boobes look big when my bra is on and then when i take it off they look small. and they really look small when your laying down cuz gravity sucks pretty much. but you shouldn't worry about it. i'm pretty sure if your haveing sex with a good guy he wouldn't care.
as for the hair. i have a "happy trail" and i shave mine, they say it will grow back faster and thicker but mine really doesn't i pretty much shave it once a week or when i notice it coming back.

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what exactly is a yeast infection and how long could it last if it hasnt been treated?? i think i may have one but i've had this
certain problem "down there" for a long time. so please someone
tell me what it looks like and just what it is, and how long it lasts
if not treated, and how to treat it. THANK YOU!

14/f btw.

if you don't treat it as soon as possiable and you think you have had it for a while go to a doctor. if not use monistat 3 it's an over the counter product to get rid of yeast infections. the way you tell if you have had one is it will smell and you will have a white discharge. you might have itching. you can get yest infections from wearing tight jeans and sometimes after the meds you take, also you can get them after your periode. i've had a couple yeast infections and i have gotten them after my period and i use monstate but if it's an out of control yeast infection then go to your doctor. hope i helped in some way

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Does anyone masturebate with a showerhead? Like on one of those three settings? If so whats the feeling called when you like can't take it anymore. Is that an orgasm? Is there anyway to prevent it? Cause it feels so good when I masturebate I dont want to stop but that feeling makes me and then I feel so wrong after. Like I did something bad

i don't use a showerhead, but i do know some that do. so don't feel werid about that. but when you get to the point that you can't take it anymore, yeah that's pretty much and orgasm. keep it going after, you might get "happy" again and it will happen again. when i'm having sex and i'm aboutt orgasm and i don't want to i ask my boyfriend to stop to let me clam down for a few secounds and then go back at it and it stays there longer, just try diff. things that come to mind. ihope i helped in some way

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i don't want to have to change my tampon during school, but i'm afraid of getting TSS. if i left it in all day i would have it in from 6:30-3. that is like 8 1/2 hours. i know that your not suppose to wear it for more than 8 hours, but what are my chances of actually getting TSS if i do this? thanks :]

this is what i do. i put a new one in right when i get to school then a new one in right when i get home. if tou feel the need to change then change it everytime you go to lunch.

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Hey- I really love my girlfriend and she loves me too and we haven't seen each other lately- but that's not the problem- I want to kiss her (just a kiss on the lips) but I'm not sure how to come across it... Is there something I can say to hint that I want to kiss her? please help

P.S. we are meeting tomorrow! I need advice soon!

just kind of do that cute movie thing with your hand on her face thing an pull her towards you and give her a kiss. if you love her it shouldn't be that big of a deal. plus that way you can make it a lil romantic. or if you don't wanna do the hang thing. just hold her close to you and give her a kiss.
hope i helped good luck hun!

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I shaved "down there" about a month ago. I got terrible bumps, which I guess I should have expected. But these bumps haven't gone away and now they are like pimples, getting white heads and they bleed when I pop them. Is this normal?

And no, I do not have an STD...I am married, happily for 7 years and there is no possibility of either of us cheating.

I will never shave "down there" again, I was wondering how Nair would work? Any suggestions?

in grown hairs. thats what it is. it's normal. that happens when i shave my bikini line sometimes. as for nair i've never used it down there. but i sounds like a good idea. also if you still wanna try shaving get the vibe razer ((the vibrating razor)) it's a closer cut and you don't get bad bumbs

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My boyfriend has had sex with many other girls before, and he wants me to lose it to him. I love him but, i want to know the symptoms that might occur after we have sex. I also would like to know how, it would feel and how long will I bleed. I get horny easily but, i will never try to masterbait and, i just want to know if i should endure in sexual intercourse with my boyfriend or not!!By the way i am a female! I also would like to know if i should suck him off!!

how old is your boyfriend? cuz i highly think he is haveing sex if he is the same age or close to your age. also if he is older do not have sex with him. cuz that might be all he wants.

i don't think your ready for sex at your age. and i'm more then suprised that someone as young as you is even thinking about sex. have you evem started havin periods yet?

sex is a BIG BIG BIG step in your life and your not ready for that or the heart break that may happen down the road.

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I have had unprotected sex a lot and my boyfreind had accidentaly ejaculated inside me before quite a few times and while im on my period he always does because i've never gotten pregnant.. does this mean that i'll never get pregnant? is something wrong with me?

please help

no that just means your lucky. also you could have something wrong. i can't think of the word but 2 of my friends have it and that have a low chance of getting pregnant

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Ok just recently I had sex. Well it was to dark and I assumed he put on a condom.Well at the end of it he jumps of me real quick so he wouldnt cum in me. I know you can still get pregnant off precum but i was wondering should I worry at all?
Please help me.

i wouldn't worry to to to much. but take a test for safty. next time you have sex make sure he has a condom. the more you will have sex with him (if your anything like i am) you will be able to fill the condom. i can tell the diff. when my boyfriend wheres one or not.
also don't be scared to ask in the middle of sex. i do it all the time. it's your life that he might be messing up and also his.

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My friends are always talking. And recently, they have been talking about the different types of sex. I thought there was only one. Are there more and what are they? Does making out count as sex?

you have anal sex. (don't try if do, use LOTS of lub)
you have oral sex.(with your mouth. licking, sucking)
you have "regular" sex (penis in the vigina)

making out...can lead up to any of these 3 types of sex. but it is not sex.

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I havent had a boyfriend for like 3 months but it seems likes it been forever. I want a boyfriend bad. Is that a bad thing?

no it isn't. but don't stress over wanting one. just let life takes it's course. i get upset and cranky if i don't have a boyfriend with in a week. being single is a good thing sometimes it gives you time to realize who you are and what want from the next guy your with. so just chill out and have fun being single right now. cuz most likely when you get with someone your going to wish you where single.

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Oso there was this guy I used to like. He does'nt like me now. I was getting emails on how to win guys over and it never worked with him. It's ALMOST final he will never like me like that. Next year is another year with new guys. Should I delete all the emails and pursue someone else without help, read all the emails and pursue an new guy, delete all the emails and pursue the old guy, or read all the emails and go after him still? Please help me this is soo stressful for me

screw the emails. be your self. don't try and be what the emails say. be your self around all the guys. don't try. they will come to you. the harder you try the harder it will be to get him. or any other guy. just got with the flow of things. don't stress your self out over guys. its not worth it.

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hey im 14/f and my bf is 19/f i dont have a problem with it but i just wondered what do other people think? Well that isnt really my problem. The thing is i havent actually met him. When we meet we are gonna sleep together, he is gonna come such a long way to come see me and im not sure if im gonna do it because i want to or because i feel like i have to because hes gonna come all this way, i dunno the next time ill have a chance, but i do want to, I love him, What do i do? I really like this guy. What do you think about my situation, and what should i do?

HOLD UP LIL ONE!!! you are 14 years old. he is 19 (so he says) 9 tims outta 10 you meet him on my space.
don't even do this. one you don't love him you never really meet him. there is no way sweetie. i'm worried about this one.
how long have you "talked" to his guy? not that long.
what are you going to do when he comes down you guys have sex and then you get pregnant is he going to be around...NO HE IS NOT!
think before you do this. wait let me change that..DON'T DO THIS.
how about this. ask your mother what she thinks about this. if you can't ask her or talk to her about it. then it's wrong!! trust me

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