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i just got my period any advice on pads, tampons
ill apreciate any advice!! ill rate!
oh yay,lol. well as far as pads it all depends on your flow. If you are extremely heavy I'd suggest you get maxi with wings (doesnt really matter what brand) I prefer wings just so I dont *spill* out the sides. if you have a medium flow then you can just buy normal pads. For tampons I personally love tampax pearl, they glide easily and are easy to insert. I prefer tampons (you dont even feel like you're on your period) but since you're just starting your period I'd suggest starting out with pads. Talk to your mom or sister about inserting a tampon or read the directions on the paper inside the box. When you're wearing a tampon wear a small pad under it just incase of leaks. You might also want to buy midol for cramps :) have fun!
the other day i was beat by my dad so bad im 16 and a guy but i can't stand up to him. he punched me in the nose once an threatened to kill me so i took a shotgun an put it to his head an told him to back the f*** off. i thought i made the point clear to him but the next day he had iron knuckles with him an nailed me in the forehead. im lucky i barely felt it i guess over the years ive become almost immune to pain. but i dont know what to do to have him stop without cops or foster care getttin involved i luv him to much even tho he busted my lip and my forehead open. luckily im ok i dont feel dazed or nothin from the hit. im lucky i moved backwards with the punch so it didnt get me bad just a lil blood. but if i hadnt moved i could probly be dead rite now........... any advice would be helpful............ but toher than my dad i have a goood good life an grl im a QB for my highskool and i make straight A's.... i need sum help plz
I can understand that you love your dad. I mean he is the guy that made you. Look at ur life now, you have a wonderful girlfriend, good grades, and you're QB, now wouldn't that suck if your dad broke your arm. there goes QB. What if your girlfriend goes away? Will you have anything to keep you going in life? It's not fair the way your dad treats you and no matter how much love you want from him he's not going to give it to you. The only way to fix this is to tell someone. Tell a neighbor maybe an aunt or an uncle. You could move in with an aunt or uncle without turning in your dad. You don't have to go into foster care and you don't have to give your dad to the cops you just need some help. Tell a teacher, counciler whatever just dont let him ruin your life. You can try talking to him but by the way he beats you I assume he's not going to listen. There are child abuse hotlines and people that CAN help. really, you need someone there for you and you can't keep letting your dad do this to you. Be brave and tell someone for all you know you might live with amazing people, at least my friend did. Good luck, find someone to talk to even if it's a friend, drop one in my inbox if you need anything else.
I've been having a lot of problems at home and everything in the last forever long. Last night something got to me really bad and I ended up taking off. I was swimming and after that my mom literally almost dragged me to my school, told me to clean out my locker and that I wouldn't be going back to school there anymore. after swim practice, mom walked into the aquarena and started to scream at me right in front of my friends. he litterally dragged me over to pwc, where she made me clean my locker out, telling me i was never coming back to school here again. once we got outside i just dropped my books and started walking back towards the pool. mom followed me and we actually started to fight. now mom's smaller then me, and i didn't want to hurt her so i just shoved her off and ran for it. lachlan lives like a 5 min walk from the pool.. but it ended up taking me like 20 mins to get there because i had to hide. mom was driving around looking for me. went to lachlans, snuck around back and walked into their kitchen. neil (his dad) just smiled at me and said 'your mom dropped by here about 10 mins ago looking for you. i thought you'd turn up eventually.' and he offered me food. i just decided to sit out on their back deck for like 30 mins thinkning... mom came by while i was there, neil covered for me and said they hadn't heard from me. they promised not to give me away. anyways, fio (his mom) came home and we talked outside for awhile, then lachlan came home and we talked.. i called kids help phone and then went inside his house. my hair was wet from the pool and i was outside for over 2 hours so i was freezing! didn't eat like a thing. figured out that i'd be spending the night at their place. then we went and picked up jamie, went to the village mall where i left a msg at home saying i was okay and i was staying at a friends house...when i came home today she flipped out at me so bad. I'm at the point where I can't stay at my house anymore but I feel really bad for not staying there. Has anyone ever done this, or anything similar? And how can I get help or be able to stay there? =\
Alright, I understand how it feels. I almost ran away too, but I'm once again too much of a pussy. I dont think I actually could runaway though I'd actually be worried about my family (sort of an oxymoron isnt it :) anyways I have planned it out before. If you have ever looked around at the stores near you you might notice the "safe place". Village pantry is a "safe place" as well as most grocery stores and fire stations. They have yellow signs on the outside of the place with hands and it says "safe place".If you know anything about them they are places in which u can "run away" to. They allow u to come and you go up to the counter and tell the person I need a safe place perfessional and they will call someone. They have a person that will talk to you and I'm pretty sure that they let you stay there. They will help you with ur family issues and they will help u work it out with your mom. You might want to look into that. that is my suggestion, sry if that isn't any help! good luck, hope ur mom understands
in 8th grade, ive been feeling so depressed. i just feel like everyone is against me. i feel so disgusted w/myself. everyone says that im so skinny and athletic and my family says im beautiful, even though i dont think so. i started cutting a little while ago. its nothing to be proud of, thats 4 sure. i just feel like everything is wrong with me. wut am i supposed 2 do?
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*deeply troubled*
I can absolutely relate to you on this. I was depressed for who knows how long. woa and it was my 8th grade year... anyways depression is a hard thing to deal with and everyone deals with it differently. I always like to be very social yet I always love to be alone. I go insane if I can't just have 30 minutes to myself and only myself during the day. I get all upset and stuff. I found a spot that i enjoyed ie: a tree near my backyard. A peaceful place where no one can bug you. You just write down all ur feelings or u listen to your music. Hang out with encouraging people. How can you ever change your depression without changing your thoughts? if you don't stop thinking everything is horrible you're going to be depressed. You have to think good thoughts. You have to realize that next year nothing this year would have matter. when you have a job what does it matter how skinny you were in highschool? you are skinny you are just constantly paranoid about these stupid models that are about hmm an inch wide? I'm thick not fat not skinny, and i'm proud. I actually found out taht guys like girls with some meat on there bones :) secondly, try to find something that you're good at. I'm personally really artistic I enjoy writing music, writing poems, painting, and drawing. Use these things to take out ur anger or pain. Don't resolve to cutting. As much you'd like to stop cutting I know it's hard. A bit of advice for the cutting you can always wear a rubber band around your wrist, snap it everytime u feel the urge to cut. also hey duct tape works...rip it off on the hairy part of ur arm. cut up stuffed animals. do anything but cutting. Personally I suggest the rubber band. good luck, starting thinking you're good cuz u r. Ur perfect and everything will become better just give it some time.
ok so lately all ive felt like doing is crying whenever someone says something to me i wanna cry even if its nice and im always yelling at my mom n my sister just so they leave me alone and i get annoyed by the easiest things.and my sister is MR(mentally retarded) n she gets on my nerves sooo bad cuz she doesnt know when to shutup! i hate being mean to her! n like yesterday we were out and these 3 guys were making fun of her and i just went off on them i dunno what happened it just came outta the middle of nowhere. i get pissed off so easily..but i never used to be like that.ive been sleeping alot n being really tired.Whats wrong wit me? i rate high! thanx!
ur probably just depressed. there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. you are probably handling a lot of stress right now. It must be tough having a MR sister, but I always think of them as little blessings from God. Hang in there, it'll get better soon, it always does. Whenever your sister gets annoying just calmly talk to her ask her to stop when you really need her to stop. If you can't talk to people rationally about things (cuz I surely cant when I get depressed) it always helps me to find a spot. A quiet spot, that no one knows. I go outside by a tree or something and just spend time there listening to music or writing my feelings. Sometimes you just need ur alone time or time to get with friends. Take advantage of that. Try doing things taht make you happy, and run. Running always relieve stress and anger. good luck, and be happy!
I was just wondering is it true that drinking diet sodas can cause cancer?
I'm not sure if diet sodas can cause cancer but I do know that diet coke can increase your risk of cancer. It has some ingredient in it (sry I can't remember what it's called!) that does cause cancer! If you drink it occasionaly don't worry it's not going to give you cancer but if you are addicted and drink 3 cans a day you might want to consider cutting down. it all depends on what moderation you drink the drink to say if it causes cancer! hope I helped ur curiosity!
my parents get mad at me whenever i say something about religion that doesnt agree with their views. they tell me im to young to have an opinion about that kind of stuff. and i do. and im not that good at communicating. so should i just tell them that i believe in god? even though i have doubts?
thanks.
Sometimes parents tend to find a thought and stick with it no matter what. It seems your parents are this way. Tell them that you do belive in a God, if they get upset then just don't bother telling them. Just because your parents are unwilling to let you decide don't let that stop you from having a faith. If you have doubts and you want to know more you can always talk to me. Try being rational (sp?) and if that doesn't work just keep your religion on the downlow...sry if that wasn't the best advice I'm always here. good luck, I hope ur parents understand :)
I'm 14 / f .. I currently reside in PA. Well, the past 5 weeks have been the best weeks of my life because I haven't had to go to piano lessons. I know its a stupid theory but here goes. I hate PIANO! SO MUCH, i wasn't forced to start, but when i was 11 my best friend did it, and i wanted to be exactly like her, so i joined it. my grades have been suffering, and i think its because of piano, on sundays-wednesdays i worry about my piano lesson because my teacher is so mean. i wanna quit so bad, but how should i tell my mom, i think she knows i want to, but. i don't want her getting disapointed because i already quit band this yr because i didn't like it, she spent 1,000 dollars on a piano and shes been payin 12 dollars a week to let me go for like 3 years, what should i tell her? any help will get 5!
wow did I write this question? lol I'm the SAME exact way! I'm 14/f too and I JUST litterally quit piano I was scared that my mom would be mad cuz she always told me I was to play until i was 18 (!!) I just said that I didn't want to do them. I told her that i would still play the piano (and I still do) I just don't take lessons. I play the songs I WANT to play on my OWN time. Tell her you can't keep up with school and lessons tell her you want to stop but u dont want to stop playing piano, u'll still use the piano u'd just rather do it on ur own time. I'm now taking guitar lessons cuz I'd rather have those but I still play piano. I can read all music so I just pick up a sheet of music I enjoy and I play it. hopefully she'll understand if not give it time and she will eventually. good luck, sry if that didn't help but my mom was actually pretty understanding about it.
I absolutely love Christmas! I absolutely think its the bets time of year, and i begin celebrating it around the begining of november. Christmas goes by soo fast, why wait to decorate and listen to Christmas music and begin the christmas cheer? I feel like i'm the only one who feels like this..is there anybody else??
omg I LOVE christmas. What's so wrong starting to decorate now? I'm sure there r freaks that r obssesed with halloween and they start decorating early, I still find nothing wrong with it. Start buying ur stuff now so it's not all gone..hahah I love christmas. If you need places with good decoration haha try a dollar store man i love those places and they r full of christmas decorations and it's only a dollar! lol good luck, who cares if u love christmas cuz man I do too!
ok, well, i was babysitting the other night for these people and they were each going off to do their own thing. well, the mom left first, and the dad was supposedly leaving pretty quickly after, but instead he hung around for awhile. i was like, ok, um..why am i here if youre gonna sit around? well, i soon found out. he wasnt going anywhere. he put his kids in thier bedroom while i was cleaning something up, and he came up behind me and started grabbing me. he told me that if i yelled, hed kill me. well, i punched him where the sun dont shine and he let me go, but im sure that if i hadnt got away, he would have attacked me. but now i dont know what to do. he didnt rape me or anything, so should i really tell someone about it? all he did was grab me. they cant put you in jail for that, can they? im just wondering what i need to do about him....im supposed to go babysit again next week, and i cant exactly tell her why i dont wanna do it..so...HELP PLEASE
oh gosh that's really freaky. okay naturally I think everyone gave really good advicen and I wouldn't give out an answer to it cuz I thought everyone already covered it. and no offense to this person but I read someone who said mayb u should babysit for them again! no no no no!!! don't! that's the worst thing u could do. Just tell ur parents they'll do what they think will be necessary and don't babysit for them again if she asks why always make up excuses such as u have plans or homework and she'll eventually just find another person. Good luck, sry hun that that happened!
After I had a child of my own a year ago, somehow I found myself thinking about abortion often enough and how wrong it really is, no matter what the situation. I've become so pro life. Now, I don't know where this comes from, but I've felt this way for a year now and the way I feel is so strong about it I am always wondering what I can do to influence people not to get them. I would be happy if I knew I had saved some babie's lives. Does anyone know what kinds of things you can do to make some kind of difference, besides voting (i'm gonna), and besides making donations (I have no money). Is there some sort of site where ponderers go to get advice from someone specifically debating abortion? Remember I have a baby to take care of, so I am hoping there is something I can do that doesn't require going from office to office talking to political people. I'm looking for something more low key, but that can definately make a difference. Thanks.
hey I don't agree with abortion either. I think it's great that you want to get your message out. sry I don't know any great website but I can say is always check here! I know I've answered questions about abortion on this website (advicenators) sadly there are a lot of troubled teens on here who are debating abortions. try googling it mayb that will help. or go on askjeeves.com. hope I helped. :)
Hey, i'm a 15 year old girl turning 16 n a few months. I'v never had confidence in myself and to be conpletely honest i kinda hate myself. I think im fat and ugly and i try to lose weight but nothings good enough.I'v never had a boyfriend in my life let alone had a guy tell me im pretty. My friends are pretty and they always have guys asking them out but i juss feel stupid hangin with them sometimes, like i dont belong. For the past few years i have resorted to cuttig myself. I'v only done it 3 times but i dont wanna go to counscling or anything cuz my parents and every1 will think im crazy i dunno what to do can you help me?
Hey sweetie, I had the same problem. But I resorted to something different..I thought I was fat and I guess you can just draw conclusions from there. I've never had a real boyfriend either and I know how much it hurts to have prettier friends. but in reality they aren't, you're gorgeous in your own way. I bet you are pretty just like everyone has said. Even if you think you're not what does outside looks matter for anyways? You are beautiful in the heart, that is all the matters. You ARE beautiful on the outside. The happier and more friendlier you are the more prettier you become. You just have to stop thinking that look at all the good things of you. As for cutting, I have suggestions for ways to stop if that's what your asking for. As i've mentioned b4 on questions in my column, put a rubberband around your wrist snap it whenever you feel the urge to cut. This hurts but isn't bad like cutting is. You can also use duck tape, put it on the hairy part of your arm and rip it off when ur angry. Just rip off all the emotions. Also find old stuffed animals, cut them up whenever your mad. Write or journal about your feelings and write songs (if ur musical) Listen to music that helps you vent. Anything to get your emotions out. Don't be afraid to go to your school counciler no one has to know but you and your counciler :) I hope this helped sry it's so long, good luck babe if u ever need anything my s/n in on my column or drop one in the inbox, ur beautiful remember that! You dont need a boyfriend right now cuz when u find that guy he'll be PERFECT! and you'll be able to tell him that u saved urself for him.. a married woman once told me I was so upset that I had kissed other guys when I married my husband, I just wanted to take them back and only have them for him. good luck :)
i guess you could say im emo. i listen to the music blah blah blah w/e. i just painted my room red and i have flyers and pictures and what not but i want one wall of a big collage only i dont knwo how to start out. helllp please.
ohh...I did the same thing! I had actually collected all these pictures I had taken of my friends...trips ect. and what i did was painted poster boards to the color of my wall and I just glued the pictures on the poster board with photosafe glue. then I used tacks to put them up (my mom has the filler stuff so when I took down the posters we covered the holes) if u dont want holes ask ur mom what she suggest what wouldnt take of the paint on ur walls but u can try sticky tack or something. you can barley tell the posters r there and it looks like have a huge collage wall (which is what I was trying to do!) good luck, it turned out awesome! hope urs does too!
I have a big problem.Over the summer I was smokin,drinking and doing alot of bad shit but know im here know and I want to change everythin in my life. I dont want to be so despreased or sad. I want to be happy.I'm trying to say that I want to change alot of things that has happened in my life.I also want to stop cuttin myself I try to but I just cant.So can you just please just help me a little that its all that I'm askin I dont want to be this way anymore.It's horrible!
So please help me!
-Amanda Marie
oh that's awesome u wanna change. I know how hard it is when you fall into bad habits...I know how hard it is to get out. First of all, if you drink and smoke with ur friends, try avoiding that. I'm not saying avoid ur friends(that would be very hard!) I'm just saying if they say, "Hey wanna come to a party" or something just tell them that u dont want to or talk to them if they r understanding. tell them u dont want to drink or smoke and mayb they will help. Secondly with cutting, there r many ways to stop. Put a rubberband around your wrist, every time u feel the urge to cut just snap it really hard...(it hurts but it's a way that won't hurt u like cutting) or maybe find an old stuffed animals and cut it up when ur mad. Also duck tape works, put it on ur arm where its hairy and just rip it off..once again painful I know but it's not cutting! hopefully by these u get the same effect of cutting but it's not harmful. good luck and whenever ur mad just listen to music, punch a pillow, snap a rubber band, or even write. good luck, don't worry be happy!
Ok, I'm doing this Brocture about Virginia, back in the colonial times, I reaaaally need some slogans, I almost had one, but the first thanksgiving was im Massachutsus...
ok, I know they were big with growing Tabacco, Fishing, ummmmm...just growing raw materials and stuff, I reaaaaaaally need this, here's the one I came up with thinking The first thanksgiving was in Virginia:
'Taters, Turkey, First thanksgiving,
come to Virginia, for some dandy good Eatting!
yah, dumb, but it kinda worked...for a little while.....
pleaaaaase if you guys could come up with somthing creative pllllz don't delete this mods!!!!
signed.
cluless
I'm kinda confused on what you want...Um do want a slogan that just talks about good stuff for virginia that makes u wanna come...or do u want some catchy phrase that rhymes? well um here's a thought on one :
Come to virginia, the green leaf state
It was one of the 13 in 1788
(this is refering to it was the 10th colony out of 13 and it was claimed a state in 1788.)
is that bad? lol um... I think that's all my brain can produce lol if I think of anything else I'll let u. drop one in my inbox if u need anything else..good luck :)
I am 14 and my boyfriend is 18 but we are madly in love ...so we had sex about a month ago and i havnt had my period....we were also protected with a comdom but you know they are only 85 % protective...so i have been looking online about signs of pregnacny and i seem to have none of the signs except of a late period...i told my boyfriend about it and he said to wait till the end of october and see if you get your period..so im gonna wait and then take a pregancy test....but theres a 50 50 chance i might be and if i am...im not shure wut to ..is there any way i can get by this with out my parents knowing ?? is there any way i can kill the baby before its nooticeable...?? ...can i i have an abortion with havniing my parents know and can i have it before it get noticeable? or is there any pill i can take that can kill ??...i know its wrong but i dont know wut to do so plz tell me...thanks!!
~*shadysladys001*~
Since when did murder become Okay in this world? that just makes me so mad. Don't kill you're baby, it's not right. I know it's hard but if ur screwing around with ur b/f whether you want to hear this or not a baby is a consequence. Are you gonna to kill every baby you make when u have sex? I'm not trying to be mean or harsh here but killing your baby will haunt u the rest of your life. I know b/c my mom had an abortion. She cries sometimes over it and is still greiving after 29 years...yea. Maybe you're not pregnant if you're not be careful! Don't get urself in this situation again. If you are brave it out live up to what u did. If you want to kill the baby go ahead but I suggest not. Good luck, I really hope u think this out carefully. If you have anymore questions drop one in my inbox.
can anyone give me information on ocd.i have a little boy age 10,he has just been diognosed with ocd and dyslexia.i feel my little boy is getting worse,he now wont sleep,eat,move away from me and is scared.i dont know what to do from here.his next appointment with psychitrist and doctor is not until next friday.pleeeze anyone.thanks.a very worried mum.moe
http://www.ocfoundation.org/ocf1010a.htm
http://www.aacap.org/publications/factsfam/ocd.htm
http://ocd.stanford.edu/about/understanding.html
Education about OCD is important for the family. Families can learn specific ways to encourage the person with OCD to adhere fully to behavior therapy and/or pharmacotherapy programs. Self-help books are often a good source of information. Some families seek the help of a family therapist who is trained in the field. Also, in the past few years, many families have joined one of the educational support groups that have been organized throughout the country. (this is from a website)
there are a view good websites you can look at. If you're still curious or these websites didnt' answer ur ?'s try googling OCD. I'm sry about you're kid and try getting a therapist for him. Good luck, hope ur kid gets better.
Help, Sorry it's a bit long.
We're doing an anonymous survey in health class, and it's to be done and brought into class by friday. I'm not asking your opinions on anything, I'm just confused on a question it asks me to answer.
It asks me If I'm a virgin. Well I don't want the teacher to know it's me, so I don't want to ask the teacher this, and none of my other classmates really knew what to put. If you've had oral sex, would you be considered a virgin. I've heard yes because your hymen still hasn't broken, but I still don't know. So if you've had oral sex, are you still a virgin. I'm just going with whatever most of you guys answer, unless anybody has a good opinon on it.
Wow...looks like this is quite a split poll. lol. It's almost half and half between opinions so I'm going to try to clear this up for you. the definition of a virgin
1. A person who has not experienced sexual intercourse.
this is the definition pertaining to what you're asking. I guess here is where YOU have to decided for yourself. It depends on what you consider "sexual intercourse" to be. If you consider it to include any sort of activity involving private parts...then sry but ur not a virgin. If you consider sexual intercourse to just be sex as in a penis in a vagina (sry to be so blunt) then you are a virgin...just answer on what you decide. Maybe if you're embarassed to say ur not a virgin just put ur a virgin and then decide for urself later if u r or not. hope I helped!
I'm not sure how to explain this. But my eyes hurt very badly. It feels like, you use the eye muscles to keep your eyes open, right? When I close my eyes, it feels like the muscles aren't relaxed, and it feels like my eyes are still open and it hurts. I can't even sleep at night because of this feeling. A few things, I spend A LOT of time on the computer. I have glasses that I am supposed to use for reading, but I can read perfectly and I don't use them. My eyes aren't red and they don't itch. Should I go to the eye doctor, or the doctor, or what? Anything I should try?
Same thing happens to me, but it comes in a different form. Whenever I am on the internet too long and i strain my eyes I get massive headaches. 1.) wear your glasses when you're reading! it's straining your eyes to try to read when you can't see that well 2.) try breaking up ur internet time. Don't sit infront of the computer hours on end. Get online talk then get off. couple hours get on read ur mail or w/e. When you're sleeping try first relaxing your head. then your eyes...then your arms...then your legs and all the way down. that's a good straegy that puts me to sleep. Good luck and try not to strain your eyes!
ok... i met this guy [we'll call him john] about a month ago, give or take. well we kissed and everything and he liked me and i liked him. but his ex came into the picture and hedecided tobe with her. he was mean to me becuz if he showed how he really felt, it would make him more confused. long story short, they broke up and me n him ended up together and thats how i found out y hewas so mean bc he todl me. ok well we broke up bc she came into the picture again. and now hes bein mean again. idk if he still lvoes me or not. and i dont kno if i should just give up n move on or stay around. ive tried gettin ova him but i see him in school everyday and its hard [him n his gf dont see eachother in school bc they live in different STATES] HELP PLEASE !!!!!
15.f.mi
He's not worth your time. If he's going to keep on leaving you then he doesn't care about you or your feelings. Only a true strong caring guy wouldn't let his ex get in the way. meet some new guys and find someone who's sweet and knows how to treat a girl! lol good luck :)