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I have a crush on this boy. But every time I sit beside him, he doesn't talk to me. He talks to the person beside him, the one behind him, the one in front of him, anyone except me. The only thing that makes me feel like I exist is when I saw him look at me.

Maybe he doesn't talk to you because you never start a conversation?

Say hi, ask him how he is? You don't need to have a massive conversation, the more small talk you have with eachother over the next couple of weeks, will allow you to have bigger conversations as you will get to know little bits about eachother.

How can he think anything is wrong with you, if he doesn't know anything about you? You cannot hate someone if they have done nothing wrong. Stop worrying and just say hello. I can assure you he does not hate you.

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Hello.
I'm considering removing my pubic hair to surprise my boyfriend. I was wondering if shaving or waxing was better. Also are there any tips i should know. I'm kind of nervous about waxing so if there are any tips on shaving they would be much appreciated. Thanks
xx :)

Shaving sucks!Waxing was the best thing I have ever done. It can hurt at first, but I don't even feel it any more because I do it often. It looks great and lasts ages. Take a painkiller before you get waxed, just incase.

Shaving can be bumpy, it grows back quick, and you can have shaving "dots".

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im so confused!! so me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 9 months. we have been wanting to step our relationship up a few notches. we have been wanting to have sex, but i have worries and questions. suuch as:
- what does it feel like?
- how much does it hurt?
-do you really bleed after??
if you know the answer, tell me! and if theres anything else i should know please feel free to tell me!! thanks.

- It didn't really hurt at all. It depends ( ie if you are already loose from masturbation or tampons etc)

- I never bled, but then again I've been dancing and active all my life.

- It just felt warm my first time. But the more you do it, the better it is. Sex gets better. Don't be dissapointed. & use a condom :)

To make it more enjoyable, just a lot of foreplay is essential. It's helpful if he goes down on you. I wouldn't play with him too much, because as soon as he is inside you, he will want to orgasm straight away, so don't tease him too much.

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There is a lump in the middle of my right shin bone. I've had it for a year, but I only manage to notice it when I've gotten a bruise on my leg. You can't see the lump as far as I know, but you can feel it. It's hard. It doesn't hurt - though it certainly felt a little irritated after I spent a few minutes pressing on it to see if it was squishy or if it separated from the bone at all.

What could this be?

All I can think of is shin splints? You get them if your active and you may have landed on your ankle, knees etc in a funny way.Sometimes they hurt, sometimes they don't.

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So this is about a past crush, who I will admit..I was obsessed with. I liked him 2 years ago..but I'm just confused on the way he acted. I have no means on being with this guy, he's cocky and stuck up..I shouldn't have even liked him.

He always did these things:
1.Stared at me, sometimes before I looked at him.
2. At dances he'd be watching my friends and I.
3.My friends told me he looks at me, and he looked
at my chest, bottom etc.

4. This year, the first time we seen each other he looked right at me, with his mouth hanging open -.-

What does this mean? Or I'm I thinking way to much into it. That's probably it. xD
Thanks anyway!

He is physically attracted to you. Doesn't matter what it means really if you have no means being with him.

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So im new to the MUSICAL theatre(but not in theatre in general... ive done only stickly acting till recently) and im planning on auditioning for the local theatres production of aladdin jr. I need a good braodway song for girls alto/1st saprano.... any ideas???

You want to go for something unpopular. I have just come out of college studying a national diploma in musical theatre so I know a thing or too.

You don't want to go for popular songs, it will just turn into an impersonation of the song or will just be boring because the theatre director has heard it a thousand times. Also if you really want to go into detail, always pick a song that is similar to the Aladdin score/sound track as it helps with casting

Here are some nice musical theatre songs that have always worked for my auditions
Missing you (my bill) - American Civil War
You're daddy's son - Ragtime ( my favourite)
On my own - Les Mis
What I did for love - A chorus line
Not for the life of me - Throughly modern millie

Listen to them on youtube,
let me know if you need more help :)

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why my boyfriend is to much possesive for me?

None of us on here know about your relationship or your boyfriend, so we can't give you an exact answer, you know him - so ask him.

The general answers are usually because he loves you, he thinks other guys will like you, he doesn't trust you, he may have been screwed over in the past by other girls.

Ask him, maybe he doesn't even realise.

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what does eating out a girl taste like? Ive always heard that it smells weird and tastes bad. Is this true?

If it smells weird and tastes bad then then the girl clearly doesn't take care of herself ; either that or the guy is just an idiot.

I've asked my boyfriend before and he said it's just wet and a little salty - pretty much the same if you give a guy head. No smells.

Not a lot of guys do it because they're afraid of what they've heard like you. But if she takes care of herself, you'll have no problem.

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So I was making out with my boyfriend on my bed, we were all clos and everything. A felt his bonerthrough his pants on my stomach. He started to kinda slowly pelvic thrust but was trying to make it not so noticeable .. I think. As he started doing this, we were still making out, and he was breathing heavily and kinda let out a moanish like little squeal (it was quiet and went with his breathing) why was he doing this?

Oh. And he was also grabbing my boob at the time.

He was feeling good, and wanted to dry hump. I remember a long time ago my boyfriend doing that to me. He was making noises because it felt good and turned him on. He was doing all these things because he felt good and is attracted to you. Nice work!

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So i got bored of answering questions so i wanna know: what is an original name that you call your boyfriend for girls and for you guys what do you call your girlfriend...i want absolutely hilarious and original ones soooo if it's in a justin beiber song-sorry:/ lol also what would you like to be called? come one people make my day:)

I call my boyfriend chicken roast
and log wee.

and he calls me pepperface.

:)

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Basically, I started being sexually active recently and I'm an 18 year old girl in the UK and I notice my boyfriend doesn't really like wearing condoms because he can't feel a thing, so I have been thinking about going on the pill, but I have several concerns:

Firstly, all my friends that are on it are only on it because they have very bad periods and it apparently helps, however, I'm one of those lucky girls where my periods are not heavy and barely cause me any pain so I'm not moody or whatever, I don't want to go on the pill and suddenly get bad periods and become emotional and moody! is this a likely side effect?

Also I don't want my mother to know, so is it possible to get it done in private? or would my mother have to come with me?

And finally, a list of possible side effects would be helpful, for example, I heard gaining weight is one and I would rather not do that haha.

Summery: Will the pill cause any major changes to my body/personality and how can I get on it in private? thank you :)

Hi, I'm seventeen and from the UK.

I went on for both reasons (contraception and bad periods). My period are brilliant now, and on top of that I have NO side effects. I haven't put on weight, and I never have any emotional side effects. So no, they are not likely side effects.

If you are worried, the doctors do like three-six months check ups with you. I am on a repeat prescription and when I go to hand it in they check to see if I am a due for a check up - and if so the doctor asks how you are and just checks blood pressure etc etc.

My mum has no IDEA. I just rang my doctors, booked an appointment, got a prescription, the end. You're mum would not find out.

Summary : It is HIGHLY unlikely any of those side effects will happen. I have not put on weight, my moods are fine and my period is great. On top of that it comes the same week and same day every month as well (last friday of every month) so I can plan things around it. You period will usually arrive exactly the day it is supposed too. It also shortens your period, I am only on my period for three days MAX.

Those side effects are unlikely to happen, and you do get checks up to make sure you ok :)
I'm on microgynon if this helps.

PS - if you do go on the pill, and then you finish the packet and you go on your break, it takes like 4 days after you have finished the packet to come on your period incase you panic and think your pregnant.

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so I'm 13 girl and i have had boyfriends and guys that I liked that liked me back. but I'm nervous to have my first kiss. I'm only nervous cause I don't want to be bad at it. does that make me prude? and there's a guy I like, were friends I heard he likes me but idk. i wanna kiss him but I'm too nervous. I'm even nervous talking to him. is there a way I can make myself not so nervous about having my first kiss? please help me:)

You're not being prude, just being pretty normal. You won't be bad at it - and besides this guy you like, I'm assuming he is your age - what the hell does he know about making out? Guys can act like they know a lot, but in reality they can be just as clueless. If your thirteen and not very experienced, what gives you the impression he is? If you a quite nervous talking to him, then I wouldn't think about having your first kiss just yet. Keep talking to him, before you know it you'll be relaxed around him once you both know more abou eachother and you both have confessed you like eachother. First kisses are wonderful and really nothing to worry about. Remind yourself he is pretty much in the same boat, so noone can be there to judge you. Good luck :)

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Hey :B I'm in eighth grade and 14.

Last week, I was at my friend Emily's house and her little brother had his friends over. Amongst them was a 12-year-old boy called Cody in 5th grade. He was really cute, the kind of kid you KNOW will be hot when he gets older ;)

So later that day, he added me on Facebook and has not stopped talking to me since. He goes to my school, and I see him around sometimes but there's no time to stop and talk.
I'm not trying to sound full of myself or anything, but I think that he has a crush on me? Because

- he always starts the conversation first
- at school if he sees me, he smiles and waves
- on Facebook, if I ask him a question, he's always like, "oh, I'll tell you tomorrow if I see you"
- if I don't see him at school one day, he messages me, "i didn't see you today :( "
- he told me that he had been held back a year in kindergarten and how he's supposed to be in sixth grade, and how sixth grade and eighth grade arent really that much of a difference :>
- He asked me to go over to Emily's house again one day so that he could meet me there
- he asked me if I was busy this weekend and if I could go to our school baseball game to watch him play
- if there's an awkward pause in the conversation, he's the one who goes , "soo, whats up?" come on talk!"

It's really cute and sweet and all. I think I may be starting to like him as well:/ I'm always thinking about him, the song that he told me was his favorite soon became my favorite, and I'm online more often in hopes that he'll come online :P

But it's just wierd dating a kid like, three grades down and I just, I dont know. I'm confused:/ What should I do from here?

Be aware that if you don't have time to stop and talk to him, how much do you really know about him then?, what do you actually like about him? Age is just a number but be aware that there may be differences when it comes to maturity but then again there may not. I'd get to know him more and speak to him more often in real life before you confess any feelings you may have. Get to know eachother. My boyfriend is younger than me and we have been going solid for nearly two years now. Just be prepared for any bitchiness from girls around you, because there will be.
Good luck.

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If you have sex slot do you get tired of it?

If you have sex a lot you can get tired FROM it. The only time you would get tired of it is if you don't like sex, you find it hard to orgasm or your partner is just bad in bed.

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I am a female. Me and my boyfriend have been discussing taking the next step in our relationship, and we are both ready. But I was just wondering...what do you ladies do while your man fingers you? I don't really know what I'm supposed to do as the recipient. Laying there doing nothing just seems like it would be awkward. Any pointers?

a good position is to sit in between his legs so your back is on his chest, that's good for first timers. Let him touch you and as he does, just look back at him and kiss him. If you like it, let him know (via noise). Hold onto his arm as he touches you, or even put your hand on top of his hand.

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She thinks I'm gonna be mean to her and leave her like her ex did. What can I do to make her feel better ? What should I say to her ?

I had doubts once. My boyfriend sat me down one day by suprise and presented a list. a 50 reasons why I love and will never leave you list. It's sweet and meaningful and shows its well thought out and you took the time.

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My friend said he wanted to go out with me but it would be to weird to date each other. We want to date but it's too akward.What should we do?

Kiss and see if the spark is there. Don't knock it until you tried it.

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i am 14 and my boyfriend has asked if he can finger me he keeps asking and i dont no what to say because he has told me we will stay together if i let him but wont if i wont let him , i was worring that i am two young so what should i say ??

This is a moment in a girls life where it really tests you as a person.

If he is saying if he can't finger you, he is going to dump you - that is an emotional blackmail. If he really cared he wouldn't pressure you.

If you say you don't know - you obviously aren't ready. Don't waste your time with a boy who isn't considerate and he cleary does not care about you enough if he is prepared to dump you. Stand up for yourself and all the other girls who have been pressurised into doing something they never wanted to do. Be smart, do the right thing.

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Hey :)
okay. I have been with my wonderful boyfriend for 2 months now. We are very close but i am still a virgin as i don't want to rush things. He has admitted to me that he wants to go further but is very caring and patient :) recently we got into a conversation about what would happen if i ever got pregnant,and when i asked him if he would stand by me, i was shocked at how hesitant he was to reply. He came out with things like, 'i'd probably jump off a cliff' and 'i don't know'.
I think it's an honourable thing for a man to stick by his baby's mama and even though i'm not planning on losing my virginity or getting pregnant any time soon, it still bums me out to hear him say that :( should i let it pass as a joke or doubt his character?

It doesn't make him a bad guy, he was honest with you. If you had been together for two years, where you know your deeply in love with eachother - then maybe yes. But two months? You can't expect him to say he's there, and ready for that commitment if that happened. He wasn't thinking about you, but more about the position he'd be in, and why shouldn't he? I'm sure he agrees himself a man should stick to his woman if she is pregnant, but also will feel like all the plans he made would be put on hold, alongside the predicted lack of support from parents etc. Don't worry about his reaction, give it time and if you are together for a longer while, I'm sure he will change is mind. I know from experience.

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17/f I'm very inexperienced but now me and my boyfriend decided to have a more sexual relationship. How do you jerk a guy off? Is jerking him off or giving him a blow job better? I'm new at all of this so extra tips/comments will be greatly appreciated. Thankss in advance =)

Blow is better, most guys will tell you that.
But start with hands.
Don't rush into things otherwise there won't be anything left to look forward too.
But blow jobs are usually best for most guys, your saliva and tounge is like a lube. Hands can be a bit dull - but if the guy is new to it too, then he'll like hands - that is until he knows what a blow job feels like

:)

x

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