I currently work for Nemours Children's Clinic and I work part time for Baptist Medical Center. I have an amazing boyfriend, we have been together for about a year and a half and have a nice place together. I love animals. I am majoring in psychology and love giving advice to people!
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Age: 23
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my boyfriend is in basic training for the army and i wont get to see him for a few months. i am dieing. i miss him so much. i try to fill my time with my friends. But it still doesnt work. i cry everynight. how do i make this feeling go away. (link)
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I'm sorry that he's going to be gone, and I'm sorry to say it, but you can't make the feeling go away because you miss him. I've been through something similar before and it hurts so bad, but there's nothing you can do except spend time with your friends and write him letters. Make sure you let him know how you feel and hopefully he'll be able to write you back (I don't know if they can have letters in basic training). Try occupying your time with a hobby or with work/school (I'm not sure how old you are or if you're in school etc.). And be faithful to him if you really want to be with him. That's very important. My boyfriend was away for 6 months and we made it through it. We've been together for over two years and we live together now, so it can be done. Just don't lose hope and remember that one day it will be better. If you want to talk or have anymore questions just message me. Good luck!
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I will be 14 in 4days! Right now i am in 8th grade. I've had a boyfriend once, in 7th grade. He was in 8th grade (not the cutest guy, but he made me laugh) He asked me out on AIM during thanksgiving break. I said yes. I told my sister and shes like "you scored an 8th grader", and im like yes. My sister is now a freshman in college. So i dont talk to her that much. About this age is when i think is good to have a boyfriend, but i can't figure out the best way to tell my mom if i get one. I never told my mom about the other guy last year, because he was an 8th grader and it didnt last long. He moved wayy to fast so i broke up with him after a week. I am not officially allowed to go on a 1 on 1 date till im 16. but i can still have a boyfriend, and he can come to my house and i can go to his. The big question im trying to ask, is how i should tell my mom when i have a boyfriend. Im nervous for when that time comes. Please help me! (link)
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Happy Birthday! lol Just be honest with your mom. She knows that you're at the age where you're interested in guys. If you're honest with her now and you talk to her about things then when it comes time to go on one-on-one dates, she will trust you because you've been honest with her. If there's a guy at school you like, just let her know that you think he's cute, or funny, etc. Talk to her about your friends and let her know you're staying out of trouble. If you're serious enough about a guy to want him to come over etc., then just be like "theres this guy at school that I like, would it be ok if he came over for dinner, or to just hang out one day?". I'm sure your mom would be thrilled that you're talking to her about it and letting her meet him. Just be prepared to get the birds and the bees talk if you start to get too close to him. lol I hope this helped, and feel free to ask if you have more questions.
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hey i know it sounds stupid but wats moshing a frind of mines all like if ya cant dance lets just mosh(wer gunna go see a band) so can someone please pull me out the dark
as i have no ideawhat it is i put it in the closest catagory
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Moshing is where there are crowds of people (like a circle) around people in the middle who are dancing (like hardcore dancing) and they push and fight (not serious fighting, but people do get hurt). What band is it? I hope this helped.
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this year is my first homecoming! But i have a few questions that i'm not to sure about. Number one, "Is homecoming really formal? Not like prom formal, but like a step under prom? Or is it reall laid back? Can you please give me examples?" and Number two "Can you go to homecoming with just your friends? Like for example I only want to go with my girl friends, is that ok? Or are people going to look at me weird because I don't have a guy with me?". Thanks! I really appreciate it! (link)
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Homecoming is semi-formal, which means that you can wear a short dress instead of a long Cinderella dress. It's a step under prom, that's a good way to put it. I wore a short dress with spaghetti straps and heals. I also got my hair done and did my own makeup. You an definitely go to homecoming with your friends. Lots of people just go with their friends, they think it's more fun that way. I hope this helped, and feel free to ask if you have anymore questions.
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i need help with an assignment. can someone give me some opinions or answers to these questions that may help me understand the assignment better and give me some ideas? thank you so much.
*think about images or words you see each day that truly stand out. how do these images help to shape who you are as a person and your family as well?
*How have these images shaped American society and what we value?
*What does it mean to be an American in this day and age?
*How have images or words in current media caused what we value to evolve or change?
please help thank you soooo much :] (link)
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I'm going to try to help you out, but this assignment really depends on you as a person and what your family values. Words or images you see everyday that stand out: On the dollar bill it says "In God We Trust", which symbolizes what the majority of Americans value, religion. Also, the American flag, the Lincoln Memorial, and the eagle also represent freedom. If you see the court house, this could symbolize justice and peace. If you pass a music store, this could symbolize freedom of speech. These images show what we value, ie: freedom, freedom of speech, justice, peace, freedom of religion, etc. As for what it means to be an American, that's up to you. Images or words in media shape the American society. Media tells us whats in style, what music to listen to, what is right and what is wrong. I hope this helped. Feel free to message me if you have anymore questions.
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i went to my orthodontist a week ago, and they just found out that i only have three front teeth. you know how we're supposed to have two big teeth in the very front, then one more teeth on each side, then the "fangs"? well, i only have three. i didn't notice it either, and my ortho said it doesn't matter so much. but i just wanted to know, is that ok? like, is it not so unique? (link)
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I haven't ever heard of that, but they usually pull two teeth when you get braces to prevent over-crowding, so just think of it as being lucky! As long as it doesn't bother you, it's fine. I hope this helped.
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I met a girl about year ago who I really liked, but she had a boyfriend and a 6 month old baby. The boyfriend is no more but she still lives with him (for at least the next month). We became friends and have always flirted a lot. We've spent some time together but I couldn't ever get further than that. We've talked about my feelings for her and have a pretty open dialog about it. She says she doesn't want a relationship.
Two weeks ago, she got drunk and sent me an email telling me all the dirty things she wanted me to do to her. The next day she said she was embarrassed and wanted to pretend it didn't happen. Last week, she sent me a txt and wanted to meet up for a drink. We had a few drinks and as I was walking her to her car, she pulled me into a back room and we had sex. Afterward, we talked for a bit and she said it couldn't happen again until she moved out. Fair enough. She sent me a message later telling me she's wanted that since she met me. I asked her if things had changed about wanting a relationship and she said no. We talked about our friendship and eventually she started talking about being jealous of me talking with other girls (she's a bartender at a place I frequent) and
We hung out again the next night and as I was kissing her goodnight, she wanted to have sex again, but I told her I realized that was the kind of relationship she wanted and I was ok with that, but I really wanted more than that from her, so I asked her to slow things down a little so I could make sure I didn't ask her for more than she could give me. She kept on pushing me but I kept on resisting because I really think we'd be good for and with each other. She started getting upset because "I didn't want her" and I was "rejecting" her. We chatted later in the night and she was really upset. I told her that I wasn't rejecting her, but I had to make sure that my feelings for her were in control otherwise both of us were going to get hurt.
I want to pursue a relationship with her. We're already great as friends (at least we were, if that hasn't been destroyed by this) but I don't know what to do next. Is a fling the best I can do? (link)
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I think you should get to know her and find out about her past relationships. She may be scared to get into a relationship because of her child or because of something that happened in a past relationship. Some girls don't know how to express them self and use sex as a method of trying to get the guy, which doesn't always work out. When you told her that you wanted to take things slower and that you wanted more from her, she may have freaked out because you may be the first guy to actually take a step back and discuss the relationship before you end up just having sex all the time. She may feel embarrassed and unwanted because of this. It sounds like she has had a few bad relationships in the past and doesn't know how to be treated by a guy. Call her and ask her if she'll go out to dinner with you. Buy her some flowers. Show her how she's supposed to be treated. Another approach that may work (if she's the kind of girl who stays in bad relationships) would be to just ignore her for a while. If you back off, she may realize that she actually likes you. Either way, it's your call. I hope I helped. Let me know how it goes, or if you have any other questions.
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okay so im 14 and i want to peirce my own belly button. i dont want it to be done professional so can anyone give me some tips on peircing my own bely button. (link)
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Is there a reason you want to pierce your own belly button? I tried that when I was a lot younger and it hurt really bad so I didn't finish the hole, and it bled really bad and scabbed up and now I have a scar, so I recommend you get it done professionally. When I tried to do it I sterilized the needle by burning it, but I suggest you get some rubbing alcohol (or boil it) and sterilize it that way because if you burn it, it could rust which can give you a blood infection. Make sure the needle is one of the bigger ones so it doesn't bend or break off inside you. Sterilize the skin around your belly button with rubbing alcohol and put ice on it to numb it. It's still going to hurt really bad, though. After you stick it through you need to leave it in for a couple of weeks to make sure the hole is healed before you put in the belly button ring (and I'm not sure which size gauge you would need (probably a 14 gauge) because they gauge it when it's done professionally, so you may not be able to find a gauge that fits, so I suggest looking around to find a small enough one to fit. I've heard really bad stories about using safety pins to do your piercing because they aren't the right kind of metal and they can cause it to get infected really badly and they can even deteriorate inside of you. I'm not sure exactly which kind of metal is the best, but a large sewing needle would work better to do the actual piercing, but it would be harder to leave in. You may be able to get a piercing kit online or something to make it easier for you, so just check around. After you stick the belly button ring in you need to get some solution to clean it and you need to clean it often. I've known people who didn't clean theirs like they were supposed to and it got infected and they had green puss around it and it turned black, which is not too attractive and is very unsafe. I hope this helped. Let me know how it goes.
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I am 13/f about to be 14 in October, and I am a 32A. My mom is only a 34B, is it possible I could get a C cup?
What age do breasts stop growing, approximately? (link)
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Yes, it is definitely possible. Your body grows at its own pace. I was a 34 B until I was 18, and now I'm almost 21 and I'm a 34 DD (and still growing lol), AND mine are bigger than my moms. :o) So don't worry, just because your mom is a 34 B doesn't mean you will be. I hope this helped.
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I had a urinary tract infection a little while ago. I have never had sex, but my boyfriend fingers me a lot. So I'm wondering how I got this UTI. Can you get a UTI from being fingered? What other ways can you get UTI? (link)
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You can get an UTI from bacteria entering the vagina, which could be caused by your boyfriend fingering you. Ask your boyfriend to wash his hands thouroughly (and clean under his nails) because this could be the cause of the UTI's. You can also get UTI's from not wiping from front to back, not cleansing properly, or from bacteria your body produces. There are antibacterial wipes you can purchase from walmart or your nearest drug store which can help cut down on bacteria. Also, you shouldn't take baths, because that can cause UTI's. It also may not be something that you are doing. Many women and young girls get UTI's. The best thing to do is to talk to your doctor or visit your gynocologist if you get symptoms of a UTI in the future. Here are some websites which may help you as well. I hope this helps.
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so yeah, this os probably going to end up being really long so you can just leave now if you want...so yeah, some little background.
...so up untill like the beginning of this year (senior year of highschool) i have always been reeeaalllly shy. i only had a few best friends (granted, they were mostly girls) but no one that ever LIKED me. then, as soon as i hit senior year, i changed, a LOT. its like my whole outlook on life changed completely, i figured that this is my last year in highschool so i might as well go all out. ive gotten really involved in school clubs and all that, im a LOT more confident, ican actually talk to my peers without being too shy...and i think people are starting to notice it...so far this year ive had three girlfriends, and ive flirted (which i NEVER did before) with tons of other girls...so now i have my girlfriend of three months nd i KNOW im not gonna leave her, i love her to death....but at my work (i work for a city park so i only have 7 coworkers, including my boss) but yeah, at my work theres these two girls that i talk to more than any others, and i flirt with them like crazy....their both kinda cute, but i couldnt really see myself going out with one of them...but the other one...thats where the confusion starts. so yeah, me and this girl flirt more than anyone else, including my girlfriend...it gets really bad. i know im not going to leave my girlfriend for this girl, but id still like to get to know this girl better and see what happens with that...is that normal? i mean me and this girl really kinda just "clicked" nd it seems to me that she really likes me. she knows that i have a gf, but shes always sayin that that doesnt matter. so the question i pose to anyone willing to answer...is it incredibly wrong to flirt with this girl? i KNOW that theyll never meet eachother because the ONLY way theyd meet eachother is through me, and im not about to let that happen...so is it okay that i keep flirting with the other girl? what should i do? keep in mind id like to hear arguments for both sides, to keep flirting with and to stop....so yeah, thank you sooo much in advance... (link)
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I think it's normal for you to want to flirt with this other girl. However, if you really love your girlfriend I think you should either stop flirting with the other girl or break up with her. It's not fair to her. If you wouldn't act the same was with your girlfriend their, then don't do it. If you feel that strongly about wanting to flirt with the other girl, then tell your girlfriend that you think you should see other people and pursue this thing with the other girl. If you just want to be friends with the other girl, then keep being friends with her, as long as she knows that you love your girlfriend and that your girlfriend does matter to you. How would you feel if your girlfriend did find out about everything? You wouldn't want to hurt her would you? Also, how would you feel if your girlfriend did the same thing to you? If you don't feel that seriously about your girlfriend, then just have fun being young. It really depends on how you feel about your girlfriend and how serious you are about your relationship with her. I hope this helped and didn't seem too confusing.
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does anyone know the song title and who sings this song...
a few words may be wrong lol.
"ive been shakin,makin, movin trying to get to you and that booty...then tryin to get to u and that monkey.. (ha im pretty sure thats it well not really..so dont laugh please just help)
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It's called "U and Dat" and it's by E-40 featuring T-Pain. Here's a site that has the lyrics. I hope this helps!
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Apart from physical, biological and chemical weathering, is there another form of weathering? (link)
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According to this website there are only three kinds of weathering. I hope this helps.
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hey iam a 17 female and i'll be like 18 in a few days and I know iam pregnant becouse I took 2 pregnancy tests I took 2 to make sure the first one was right and both of them came out positive so I told my mom right away and she took me to the doctor so I could get an ultra sound down and it came out positive so I know iam pregnant right now my mom and my boyfriend are both being really supportive about my decision to keep the baby,but how do I make sure the baby comes healthy like what should I be doing? (link)
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When you went to get your ultra sound done they should have given you vitamins to take, and if they didn't, I suggest to get them A.S.A.P. Also, to ensure that you're doing all you can to make sure the baby is healthy, don't drink alcohol, don't consume too much caffeine (your doctor will tell you the amount you can have), don't smoke or be around anyone else who is smoking, and eat healthy. Those are the most basic and simple steps to ensure you're doing your part to help your baby come out healthy. Also, I suggest checking out books from the library or researching online the different stages you're in. Right now (I'm guessing that your probably two months along?), your baby is very tiny and the baby's heartbeat is just now beginning. Your baby's lungs and other organs are beginning to develop and his limbs are forming. It's really neat to see what's happening during the different weeks. You also may be able to take some sort of parenting classes or just read up about different stuff you're curious about so you'll be ready when the baby gets here. Other than that, I'd say to focus on yourself and being happy. The mothers mood and stress levels have an impact on the unborn child. I hope this helped and feel free to ask me anymore questions (I studied a lot of child development in college and have books on it and such). Good luck and congratulations!
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hey guys. k so im in this special program for smarter people, also known as IB and we are already into it for 2 weeks now. im in grade 10 and this is my second year doing it. last year i didnt do this bad but the 2 assignments we got in history and english i got 59% and 50%. my dad especially thinks that im just not trying hard enough when i really am. watever i say he makes up an excuse for why im doing so bad. he wont beleive that IM JUST NOT SMART ENOUGH FOR IT! how can i let him know this or say something or something.. please help!! (link)
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I was in the I.B. program for 9th and 10th grade, and I felt exactly the same way you do now. I was overwhelmed and never had time for anything else. Eventually I decided to go to a different school because it was the best decision for me. I took AP classes at the school I went to for 11th and 12th grade and I ended up getting a scholarship which pays for all of my college. The I.B. program prepares you for college, however, if you take Advanced Placement classes, it helps you just as much as taking I.B. classes. If you don't think you can handle being in I.B. anymore, just explain to your parents that you're trying your best and see if there's an alternate method of taking advanced classes without feeling overwhelmed while still achieving your goals. If you feel you want to stay in I.B., I suggest getting tutoring before you get too far behind and becoming part of a study group. Either way, just level with your parents and let them know your feelings towards the situation. Honestly, it won't affect you negatively if you decide not to be in I.B. anymore. It looks better for colleges if you have A's in standard classes than if you have C's in I.B. classes. I hope this helped and if you have anymore quesions please feel free to ask!
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do you know any home remedies that are cheap that can help me get rid of acne ? (link)
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These are some at home remedies that I've come across online: Dab a small amount of toothpaste (paste, not gel) on pimples before bed; this helps dry out the pimples.
Mix equal amounts of lemon juice and rose water, apply to face with a cotton ball, and allow to sit for 30 minutes before rinsing. 15-20 days of this application helps cure pimples and also helps to remove blemishes and scars.
Apply fresh lemon juice on the affected area overnight. Wash off with warm water next morning.
For acne that hasn't seemed to respond to anything, steep 2-3 tsp. dried basil leaves in 1 cup boiling water for 10-20 minutes, cool, and apply to affected area with a cotton ball.
If you're willing to try something other than home remedies (which I'm sure you have), I suggest Acne Free (sold at Walmart). They have a three step solution system for people with mild acne, and with severe acne. It runs under $20 for the mild acne solution, and under $30 for the severe solution. They also make a great scar remover which really worked for me. It's called Acne Free Scar Remover. I've tried everything, including Proactiv, which worked, but was too expensive. Acne Free really helped my acne. Another product you can try is called Nature's Cure (which is a pill you take every morning and night). It runs under $10, and is good if you have acne anywhere else other than your face. I use the Nature's Cure pills, Acne Free for Severe Acne, and Acne Free Scar Remover all together (because one works from the inside and the others work from the outside). The other at home remedies I haven't tried, but I got off of a web-site which I use very often and has never given me bad recipes, etc. I hope This helps and good luck!http://kitchen.robbiehaf.com/HomeRemedies.html#1
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I'm in college and for my degree I need to take Biology, and that's a problem. In high school I passed biology with a 70 [the lowest passing grade] and that was with tutoring and extra credit! I've asked my friends what to do and they tell me to use "ratemyprofessors.com" to find out which teachers teach better and are easier. They say they do it for the classes that they're bad at, too. Should I use the website to save my grades? (link)
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Well, it never hurts to go to ratemyprofessor.com to check out what teachers are good. I use that site everytime I have to sign up for a class because I don't want to be stuck with someone who isn't a good professor. It really helps because students can rate them on easiness, quality etc., and they also leave comments about the professor as to why they like them or why they don't. Different people have different learning methods and some classes have a lot of writing and others do not, so really it's your personal preference as to whether you take the easier teacher or the harder one (I'd do whatever I could to ensure I got the highest grade possible, though).There should also be another science class you can take other than Biology. It varies from different degrees, but I had a choice of sciences to take (Biology, Earth Space Science, Human Biology, etc.). You could also try talking to your guidance counselor to see if they have any recommendations. Also, your college should have a free tutoring program where you can get homework help, etc. You could also take the class with someone you know or find someone you don't in class and start a study group, that way you'll have someone to help you when you get stuck. I hope I helped! Good luck!
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What does it mean when someone "takes you for granted"?
I've had a friend say that to me.
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To taks something for granted means that you underestimate the value of something or anything you assume will be their no matter what happens. If you take friendship for granted it means that you used it and treated it as if the other person would be their no matter what you did or said to them.
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I am a 15 year old girl in the 10th grade. i have been under alot of stress. I am pregnant, My parents are getting a divorce, My mom and i are moving out into an apartment, My boyfriend and i have started to argue you alot. Althoug it got better for a couple weeks until this weekend. Also i lost alot of friends because i was pregnant. i had to put up with alot of people saying rude things. or that i better not walk the streets or ill get shot etc. i started cutting to decrease the stress and let my problems just be released i find that it helps but i need to stop. please help me! tell me how to stop. (link)
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Wow, it sounds like you are going through a lot. Talk to your mom or a close friend about everything. If there is anyway you can, ask to go to counseling. That will really help you with all of your problems and they can guide you in the right directions. Keep a journal, writing helps relieve stress. Every time you feel like cutting, write about it, or go to someone and talk to them about it. If you don't have anyone you feel comfortable talking to about it, you can ALWAYS write me an e-mail and talk to me (XBrooklynHeights@aol.com) or you can write me on here. I don't really know what else to say except it sounds like you just need someone to talk to about things. I know what you're going through and I know it's really tough. Please don't cut anymore, though. It not only has physical affects (scars and you can get skin poisoning), but it has severe emotional ones as well. I hope this helped. Keep your head up.
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hey, im not on my computer right now so i dont wanna mess with the whole emailing thing so i will just write you on here. i can write him letters and stuff and i tell him all the time how much i care about him so he knows i do and that i love him soo much. he says when he gets out of there that there will be no more trouble. (he is in there for probation violation) but i heard from 2 of his friends that some kid is saying that the 3 of them jumped the kid and that now he is gonna be in more trouble and im soo scared that he is gonna be gone again and that while hes out there some chick in canton is gonna get him to cheat on me and it hurts so bad to think about but i cant stop. i dont know what to do about anything. i wanna trust him soo bad but im scared that if i trust him and he does hurt me then its gonna hurt 50 kabillion times worse. and im also scared that if i dont trust him hes gonna get mad that i dont and possibly leave me. i mean hes never shown any anger torwards me and the 18th will be our 16 months but hes been gone for 3 of them.. and it really hurts. his mom likes me too and i just talked to her earlier and she said shes gonna find out for me this tuesday. im excited but im trying not to get my hopes up. and i dont know what im gonna do if i cant see him. i think ill go crazy! i write him all the time but i keep losing the letters i write. i sent him 4 letters at once this time. and in one of them i went off on him.. i felt really bad for sending it but he really needed to know how bad it hurt me that he broke his probation thinger knowing full well what would happen and that he would be away and then when i heard he cheated all he did was deny it... he didnt comfort me at all and be like "babygirl i would never do that to you. i love you too much." or anything like that. he was just like "nah its not true" grrr guys annoy me. im kinda scared to hang out with my friends because apparently most my guy friends like me because they keep trying to get me to leave him or to cheat and they dont realize im not gonna do that to him. it really annoys me at times. but if i hang out with alora and brittany im fine and if i hang out with kara im fine.. but anyone else its like eh.. go away. im sorry that this is really long and a lot to read but i have a lot to get out of my system and i dont really talk to many people about this because im scared they will tell people. ive only got 2 people i trust with this and thats alora and kara.. well, now you as well. thank you sooooo much for helping me. you give really good advice and id love to keep talking to you about it if your up for it. well, write me back k? buh bye.
*~Carrie~* (link)
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Is he in an all boys facility? If he is, then he will not be able to have any contact with girls. I didn't have to worry about that with my boyfriend because there weren't any girls around him where he was. How do his friends know that he jumped someone? If they can find stuff like this out, why can't you? It's good that his mom likes you. If you can, just keep talking to her and let her know how much you care about him. As for you losing his letters, get a spiral notebook with preferated edges so you can keep track of his letters, and when you want to send them, just rip them out. Does his mom get to see him or talk to him yet? My boyfriend didn't get visitation rights until he had been there for over two weeks. They had to earn them. Just so you know, they more than likely read all of the letters you send him before he gets them, so try not to say too many things in them you wouldn't want others to read. Also, if you do get to visit him, they search you with metal detectors and pat you down before you go in the room. Do you know what level facility he is in? I think a level 4 is the lowest, and it goes up to 10 or 12, i think. That will also let you know if you'll be able to talk to him. What was he on probation for? And how did he violate it? When you hang out with your friends, only hang out with your girl friends, because I had the same problem. I hung out with my boyfriend's best friend and he ended up making a move on me (I thought that I could trust him since he was best friends with my boyfriend all of his life). Needless to say, they aren't friends anymore. Why don't you trust him? Has he given you any reasons not to? Also, how old are the two of you? His age will give me a little insight as to what will/ can happen if he messes up in their again. I hope I can help you out. Feel free to write me anytime to ask questions or just to talk etc. Keep you head up!
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