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i need help!
I am a 15 year old girl in the 10th grade. i have been under alot of stress. I am pregnant, My parents are getting a divorce, My mom and i are moving out into an apartment, My boyfriend and i have started to argue you alot. Althoug it got better for a couple weeks until this weekend. Also i lost alot of friends because i was pregnant. i had to put up with alot of people saying rude things. or that i better not walk the streets or ill get shot etc. i started cutting to decrease the stress and let my problems just be released i find that it helps but i need to stop. please help me! tell me how to stop.
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I'm fifteen, and i'm recovering from self-injury. It is NOT something you want to get involved with. It's just as bad as drugs, smoking, or any other addiction you can think of.
I understand the stress you are under. You are 15 and you are pregnant, that has to be hard. And then on top of that, you and the father of your baby are fighting, you parents are getting divorced, and people are telling you stupid shit about walking the streets. Cutting is a release from all of these things. But find other things to do to release this stress. Cutting is not smart, it's stupid! I know, because i've been there. I cutted for 3 years! And it was the worst three years of my life now that I look back on it. I was addicted, and if you don't stop now, you will be too. If you won't stop for me, or for yourself, do it for YOUR BABY! Please. That baby is not going to want to grow up with you harming yourself like that. You're it's mother, whether you like it or not you have a responsibility to care for this baby. And in order to do that, you have to take care of yourself also.
And these friends of yours that you've lost, obviously weren't your friends if they left you when you needed them most. And as for this getting shot in the streets, that's bullshit! I live in a small town and attend a school of a little over 100 students. At least 25 of these girls are pregant. Some of which are already in there second pregnancy. This isn't good, but it's the truth. None of them have been shot, and you won't be either [knock on wood] Don't stress over this stuff.
Maybe you should consider seeing a councelor. I'm not telling this to you because you are a steriotypical, 15 year old with divorced parents, pregnant cutter. I'm telling you this because you have a lot of stress built up inside of you, and having someone neutral to talk to may help you release some of this stress. I started seeing a concelor about a year ago twice a week. I'm now down to once a month. I love having our talks because it helps me release some of the built up stress within me. The best thing is no therapist will judge you, or critizize you. The just listen, and it's the best feeling in the world. Try it out.
You sound like a wonderful person, if you need to talk to me anymore, leave me one in my inbox. If you don't want to talk about it on advicenators, email me. My email is on my column. Please don't hesitate to do this, ok?
Good Luck.
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I went through the exact same thing when I was 16.
You really can't be cutting. See a doctor about that.
Remember your boyfriend is probably under stress too. Try not to take it out on him to much. Its a different stress but he has some none the less.
There isn't much you can do about your parents situation. There isn't much you can do about the friends who weren't as true as you thought. Been there. It sucks but if you have any left at all cherish them. They are the real deal.
No one has a right to threaten you and I don't understand why the would. If they continue file a complaint with the police, get a restraining order to keep them away from you...whatever it takes.
You have to think about the baby right now. It is depending on you. It has nobody else in the world but you. You will make it together regardless of what your parents, boyfriend or other people do.
You have to get a handle on the stress and cutting though. If you can't do it on your own then seek medical advice. Others out here have made it and you can too.
My email address is on my column. I'll risk banishment for account whoring to tell you to contact me if there is any other questions you think I might be able to help you with. :)
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I would stronglysuggest seeing a counselor. stress is bad especially when you are pregnant.
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I would suggest going to go see a guidance counselor. To help you with this baby matter and the cutting issue. You know that's not healthy, especially whenever you have a baby on the way, so you got to force yourself not to. Just resist. You and your boyfriend are probably arguing alot because he's worried/scared/angry about the baby and he doesn't know what to do. Most teenager fathers and mothers wouldn't know what to do. As for the divorce, I'm sorry it happend, but at least they're splitting to improve the living enviroment and they're not going to argue anymore.
But as for this baby. Just remember, you have three options here: abortion, adoption, keeping. I would highly suggest not to keep the baby because you'd have more stress to worry about: school, financial, the baby being feed, washed, diapered, woken up in the middle of the night, naps, etc. All sorts of stuff. Abortion, I personally think is sort of wrong. I mean, I understand the mother can't deal with the baby since she's so young, but that's what adoption is for. For another family to care for them, and at least let them enjoy the life they were given. And don't even consider not going to school. You NEED to get an education to get somewhere in life. My mother never went to college, and now she's working two jobs. One in the morning to the afternoon. And then later in the afternoon until whenever she's done cleaning offices. Glamorous, huh? So stay in school and get an education.
So just consider the options you were given, and hopefully, depending on wherever your mother moves, you can attend a new school and make some new friends, because the friends who left you don't seem like very good friends at all. They should stick by you no matter what happens to you, and should be there to support you. People are always going to talk, you just have to learn to deal with and ignore it.
I wish the best of luck to you. I really really hope I helped. <3
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I'm sorry you have to go through with this at such a young age.
Know your options about the pregnancy.
Either keep it, abortion, or adoption.
If you really want to keep the baby, you will have to juggle alot of things like school, money, your health, and the babies health. Babies are expensive, and I don't think teenagers know the real cost of it. There are diapers, clothes, bedding, medicine, food and much more.
Its hard to stay in school, but you need an education to get somewhere in life, especially if you are going to keep the baby, you will need a job to pay for this child, and you cant get many good jobs without an education anymore.
I'm not telling you to keep it or not, thats totally up to you, but if you think your life is stressful now..with a divorce and such, think of it with a baby in it too.
As for the divorce. I'm sorry to hear that. Divorce sucks. My parents are divorced too, but cutting yourself isnt going to help. Things will get better..in time. Try talking to someone..a trusted adult, or a counciler.
People will talk. People always talk. Theres always going to be rumors, or bad things said about you. I'm sorry that you lost some friends, but the friends who are there for you are the true friends you can really talk to.
I hope this helps.
Don't lose contact with your family, even though it seems like they are breaking apart.
Family will help you through this.
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well your mom needs to know how you feel and you need to find a friend that has been there for you all this time and if you think that you haven't got a friend like this then your wrong look at your friends using your senses not just your eyes and i know it may be hard to trust a friend but maybe you need to let a litle bit of trust out to recive a little bit of love it's always hard to belive that were alone and feel alone but we will always have someone watching over us you just need to find that person i'm sure everything will be okay and i hope your baby is healthy and you enjoy having a child.. all the best Sky xx
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Wow, it sounds like you are going through a lot. Talk to your mom or a close friend about everything. If there is anyway you can, ask to go to counseling. That will really help you with all of your problems and they can guide you in the right directions. Keep a journal, writing helps relieve stress. Every time you feel like cutting, write about it, or go to someone and talk to them about it. If you don't have anyone you feel comfortable talking to about it, you can ALWAYS write me an e-mail and talk to me (XBrooklynHeights@aol.com) or you can write me on here. I don't really know what else to say except it sounds like you just need someone to talk to about things. I know what you're going through and I know it's really tough. Please don't cut anymore, though. It not only has physical affects (scars and you can get skin poisoning), but it has severe emotional ones as well. I hope this helped. Keep your head up. <3 Dana
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first off if you really trust your mom u have to tell her that WILL relive lots of stress but i wouldn't tell ur dad because they arent really good with that kind of stuff.. umm if your friends are making fun of you all you can really do is find your best friend to talk to.
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