I have spent my entire life analyzing the human mind and social situations. When I give advice, it's like I am helping them and myself. I will never judge you , I will never tell you anything that I am unsure of. I have taken many sociology, and psychology classes in pursuit of becomming a profiler. Please feel free to ask me anything. And if you are interested on my site I have many blogs that show how I see life and the human mind.
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wats an emo thanks (link)
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Emo stands for "emotional" Its the name given to people, (especially teens) who wear dark clothes, keep their hair over their face, and are usually cutters. The big stereotype is that they are very "woe is me" They cry over nothing, and claim to be very depressed, and that their life is terrible. The guys usually wear girls jeans sagged halfway down their butts. Its a stereotype, but that is what "emo" means.
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so ive been with my boyfriend for over a year. i love him to death but would honestly love nothing more than to "break up" with his family. in a very small nutshell, they are just... not nice people. i come from a very close polite friendly family... and he, well, does not. any ways on how to deal? i see them alot [cant avoid that] =/ (link)
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Its a crappy situation hun, but I have been there too. Hold your tongue, i know its hard, but when you take in someone, you take in their family too. Try nicely talking to your boyfriend about it. Maybe he can give you tips on how to cope with them, I mean he has lasted his whole life right? When it came to my situation I kept polite no matter what. One day it came down to me standing up for him and myself to them. If and when that does happen...there will be a whole new respect. But until then, avoid seeing them as much as possible, and when you do, ignore them....family problems suck.
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okay ive known my best friend since i was born. We will be friends forever i know it. But the problem here is...she has lost her virginity to a boy she has been dating for 11 months [shes 16] She says that she knows hes the "one" she thinks there going to get married and live a happily ever after life with him...well she told me that they had unprotected sex but it wasnt long enough to get her pregnant. i told her never to take a chance like that again! im scared her whole life is gonna go down the drain with a child. I really think it could happen...What should i tell my bestfriend without getting her affended? (link)
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Lol , it wasnt long enough? First of all she needs to understand all it takes is a little precum to impregnant someone. The best you can do is talk to her about it. But it is HER decision. 11 months is a long time to be with someone, especially at 16. I know plenty of people who started dating at 14 and are still together married with kids. She could go on birth control, but that has side effects on someone who is that young. All you can do is be there and talk to her, but like I said, she has been with him 11 months, it may be her step in the relationship...flat out ask her what she would do if she got pregnant, let her know she can no matter "how long" the sex is for. The pull out method doesnt always work
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im a guy, so any girls that read this will probably think is is a simple question, but i need help. My girlfriend wants me to finger her but shes never masturbated or used tampons, and she says its uncomfortable every time we try. I'm not able to even get half of a finger in her. Any advice? (link)
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Use a waterbased lubricant. It will make it easier to put your finger in her. However she has to understand that if she "thinks" its going to be uncomfortable, then it will be. Try working her up a little bit. kiss her neck, use foreplay then use the lubricant when you finger her, all you have to do is put a little on your finger and take it slow.
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ok. so im planning on giving my boyfriend a hj. and this may sound weird but im kinna grossed out by the idea of testes. like im fine with the other thing. but are they gross to feel? and am i expected to touch them too? thankss (link)
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Yeah, it seems gross at first, once you have been with a guy long enough, it just becomes natural to be comfortable with every part of him. You dont have to touch them to have him enjoy it. Although, they do enjoy it a lot. But take it a step at a time. If he gets really into it, you might find yourself doing it naturally because you will want to work him up more. Its all about time and comfort my dear...
Have fun =)
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I've been with my boyfriend for about a year now, and its getting really hard for me in the sex department. I don't feel sexy anymore, and I don't get excited like I used to. Its really upsetting me. Help? (link)
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You are getting comfortable in your relationship. Sometimes that happens , the excitement seems to go away.
Go out and buy a new sexy outfit, get your hair done. I know it sounds gross , but sometimes watching a little porn when he isnt around can help. Get YOURSELF in the mood. Sometimes a change is all you need. Take him by surprise and seduce him one night, nothing is a bigger turn on than watching the guy you love become putty in your hands ;) I also found that sometimes taking things a step further than your usual can heat things up too. Cross some boundries.....spice it up.....have him tell you what he wants....or make him do what you want....it will make you feel better and its a lot of fun.
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My parents are fighting every second day my mum has wanted a divorce ever since but she dosnt divorce him because they come bac to tlaking again but he hits her sometimes and i dont want her to divorce him even though he hits me and her but i love them both i couldnt stand them being apart and tell me its wrong to hit a women seriously please i just want to get the idea of divorce out of my mums head all i ever do is cry =[? (link)
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honey your mom needs to get a divorce. I know its hard to understand but physical abuse can go too far. A man, has NO RIGHT to hit a woman. Your mother deserves a divorce. I know its a hard thing to imagine being apart, but hitting can lead to so much more. I had a bf that hit me, he almost killed me. I know you love him, but you have to think about your mother too. If you love her, do you really want to see her get beat up? All you ever do is cry? I am sure she cries a lot more behind closed doors than you can imagine. And if he hits you, thats even worse. Love speaks through actions NOT words. You need to talk to a teacher or neighbor. I didnt want to leave my ex either, but you know what, it was him or me. You need to see it like that too. He could end up flying off the handle and taking your mother away permanently , you dont believe that I am sure. But when it happens, there isnt turning back. When someone is gone they are gone.
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OKay i had a conversation on AIM the other day and like i was talking to a boy in my class that i am okay friends with and i have had a crush on him for the LONGEST time.. but only my bestie knows about it and she wouldnt tell. Anyway we havent talked in like a month...so i dont understand what he means by this:
HIm: Hey
Me: Hey wut r you doing?
HIm: NOt much just thinking of you [ (link)
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sounds like you arent the only one wih a crush...but be careful men are crazy sometimes.
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I don't personally wear abercrombie or hollister, because i know longer like it. mostly because, loser people pushed me away from it. they told me that i was being a follower, and that i should get my own taste in fashion. well, that was my taste in fashion. i actually liked it. i wasn't just following the crowd. and now, that i dont shop there. im like lost, i never know where to go. and thats not fair, that they always bugged me about it. and i even see like, on here, where people say that if you buy that stuff, then you dont know what fashion is, and your not grown up because you cant get your own opinion on things. well isnt that kinda being judgemental? i mean, not everyone is just following the crowd. i dont understand why some people make such a big deal out of it. i mean, why cant people just wear whatver they want? its just clothing? why dont those people just care about themselves? and worry whats going on with them?
i honestly, dont get that. so if your one of those people who told people that people are followers who wear abercrombie, or whatver. just someone please explain this to me. (link)
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I'll be honest. Its stereotyping. Its not fair but its true. When the whole abercrombie thing hit, it was usually cheerleaders, rich people, and jocks that wore it. Its like how "freaks" shop at hot topic. I mean think about it, those people might wear those clothes for the same reason as you. It makes you feel comfortable. However they still get labeled Gothic. Its a crappy situation but thats just how it is. Just because you shop somewhere doesnt mean you dont know what fashion is. But unfortunately just like how people judge by race, and music, they judge by clothing too. If you wear all black you are stuck up, if you wear abercrombie your a prep. trendy is trendy tell them to shove it dress how you want to dress
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Hi, I am 15/f. This will be long--sorry.
I have never had a boyfriend, first kiss, etc. The thing is, I always thought I would, by now.
Many people have told me I can get any guy I want, that I'm pretty, I should be a model, etc. But when I look in the mirror, I don't see a pretty person. I see a person who has to wear makeup to look pretty.
I'm tall (5'7") and I think I'm smart too (2nd in my class of 400).
A few guys have liked me and I have almost went out with one, but then he went out with someone else.
Some of the guys I push away (not intentionally, but I'm not sure) by being mean to them if I don't like them. And unless a guy I like is outgoing and talks to me first, I usually ignore him and pretend that I don't like him.
I don't know why I do this. Is it because I subconsciously don't want a boyfriend?
And here's an extra factor: I'm Chinese but I live in a small town where there's very few other Chinese kids (3 in my entire school pop. of 1700). I have grown up with mostly white kids, so I like mostly white guys.
My question is:
Why don't I have a boyfriend? Am I too smart? Too tall? Not pretty enough? Is it because I push them away? Or because I am Chinese? Does race matter?
Thanks. (link)
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I agree with this person, but also, to make you feel better, 90% of guys LOVE chinese girls....I dont know what it is about you, but they just drool over chinese girls. I wish i was chinese ;)
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Im going to be a senior in high school this september. I've had my permit for almost a year & i get extremely nervous when i'm driving. I freak out & get myself worked up, therefore i don't think im ready to take my driving test. My parents said I should take drivers ed in the fall & wait to take my test with the instructor who teaches it. I would be more relaxed because i'll know who he is & plus i'll learn a lot my rules & stuff. Does this sound like a good idea or should i just take my test on my own? I know you have to try things, but i'm almost 80% sure i'd fail it. I don't really mind not driving, I just need my license by next summer. Any ideas or opinions? Thanks! (link)
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lol, awwww, been there done that. I hate driving. I was terrified. Its very normal to feel anxiety when you dont have your license yet. My friend Ben put it to me best and he was very right he said. I didnt want to take my test either. I still get nervous. Sometimes I still dont think i should drive.If you think you need more time take it. But you could try to take the test , we suprise ourselves sometimes.
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ok..srry this is gonna be long...i got a bf at school..even though i'm not allowed to have a bf (i'm 15/female) and a week and a half later my mom and dad found out...and i've only hugged and held hands w/ my bf,fyi...my dad said i can hold hands w/ him..and hug him only, but as friends. so i asked him " why would i hold hands w/ one of my friends" he said "take the offer or leave it" and i told my bf all this and he said "whatever ur parents dont know wont hurt them" but if i ever went out w/ my bf to the movies or anywhere my parents said we had to go w/ a group...and i want to kiss him and stuff but if i went out w/ him its for sure that my parents would ask "did you two kiss" and i cant lie..i dont want to lie...i have my parents trust and loosing it would be awful...but i'd die if i had to be his gf and not kiss him or anything...and i like him a lot! any advice? (link)
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Parents are over protective. They mean well but sometimes they dont understand how the world turns now a days. You have to remember they were brought up when you didnt date or have sex until you were married. I know their trust is important to you, but your social life at this age is very important. There is nothing wrong with kissing. Just dont take it any further. As for the movie thing, that is up to you. I went with friends all the time to the movies. If you want privacy , sit by yourselves but in the same movie. A kiss is a kiss, dont let fear keep you from what makes you happy. Like i said, just leave it at a kiss. If it makes you feel any better. I still have to convince my fiance that our daughter can date before she is 50....your their little girl, and you are growing up, its scary to them.
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Does anybody know of any good songs that have to do with saying goodbye to somebody who has made a difference in your life. Not necessarily a lover, but more like a role model... I know it's hard, but if anyone can think of anything that might go, please list! Thank you! (link)
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there is a song called "remember me this way" I dont remember who sings it. But it was in the casper movie. And "Heres to the night " by eve 6.
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So since about the beginning of May i've liked this boy and we talk all the time on the phone. Since like May 4th hes called me everynight (except for friday and saturday nights) and we talk for a MINIUMUM of an hour 1/2 each night. And i really don't think a guy would call a girl everynight for what 2 weeks unless he felt something there. and well so far thats really all hes done to make me think he likes me. but i really wanna find out if he likes me but idk how to. next time i'm on the phone with him should i ask him who hes likes or should i just come out and tell him or what? any advice would be greattt. thanks! (link)
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that all depends on how you say it. I mean dont be a bitch a bout it. Women naturally know how to make things sound flirty. When you ask him, put it in a tone that makes him know you are flirting with him. You could also ask him what he is thinking that always works for me. That like an opening a gate for him to open up.
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15/f & boyfriend is 17/m. - sorry this is pretty long.
well i'm extremly confussed. my boyfriend matthew and i have been dating for almost 11 months. the beginning was AMAZING, seriously, great. now things are just falling appart. i [guess] you could say i have a temper, but hey, who doesn't? just sometimes small things annoy me. they do for him too. he's extremly demanding and a VERY jealous person. i am too, but oh well. for those reasons neither of us talk to the opposite sex. whatever. i'm fine with that. it's just that during the summer i'm gonna be so bored. i don't really talk to girls anymore, i don't care about that either because they ALL screwed me over. he recently just started wokring at a landscaping place & works REALLY long hours. it drives me crazy. 7:30-7:30 pm. [usually.] and whatever i guess i'll have to get over it. but those fights we get it [when we do,] are terrible. so much name calling, and so many things we don't mean are said. it's times like those that make me think. i mean i KNOW i love him, but sometimes i just wonder why i put up with it. i really wanna stay with him and everything, just things need to change. for instance he gets mad at me when i cry because of family reasons, doesn't really help me. i'm not trying to sound controlling and self centered i just i guess i expected him to be there for me. oh well. we see eachother EVERYDAY. we used to from 3-8 ; now it's like 7:30-8:30, and weekends constantly. i don't know but he's coming over today and i need advice on what to talk to him about. how do i explain that things aren't the same and things need to change.
sorry if this question didn't make a whole lot of sence. i just am extremly confussed and don't have anyone else to talk about this too.
thanks in advance. :] (link)
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My fiance works from 7:30am to almost 10pm. I know and understand how you feel about dropping your friends. My fiance and I are both VERY jealous,...But you have to look at it this way. He is working hard and is probably stressed out. The fights can really suck because he will take stress from work out on you. You need to sit him down and tell him how you feel.But you cant be self centered about it. I know you are lonely, BUT its not like he wants to be out there everyday doing hard work. He does it because he has to. With men its easy. When you get in an argument give him space, let him cool off. When he comes over if he has been working all day, let him relax have him come to you when he is ready. Its not that he doesnt care. He is just tired. Make sure he knows you are understanding, but politely explain to him that his stress is hurting you too.
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im not sure this is in the right category but i need to know. Okay so my vagina is not very tight at all..like its not extremely loose but its deff. not tight. I want it to be tighter no guys like loose girls. The only thing that i can think of that would effect me being loose is..i masterbate somewhat,i only go to the bathroom 2-3 times a day (i always have and im used to it),im tall and thin but i dont think that would make a difference. Ive also never had sexual intercourse ever! So can anyone tell me how to get it tighter pleasseee thankyou so much (link)
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You can do exercises. You know how to make it tighten its natural just like making your butt do it. Just tighten and hold. Another thing that helps is to get a vibrator. Use it on the clit. When you orgasm your vagina pulses. I have always found that makes you tighter.
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so when you give a handjob..does your hand need to be wet? will it hurt them if its dry? and if it does need to be wet what should you do to get it that way, because it would be kind of weird to just get up and put on lotion or something, woiuldnt it? (link)
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water based lubricant, once you do it enough it turns into a routine and flows right in with your little "procedure" You can do it dry but be gentle. They do like it more when you use lubricant though.
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15/f. my boyfriend is 17, a senior in high school. this is a long one...
my boyfriend and i have been dating since march 26 (you do the math). we've seen each other approximately 3 times since then. we've hooked up 3 times; twice while we were going out and once before. we've been to second (his hand under my bra).
we were very close friends before we started dating. we acted rather like boyfriend and girlfriend. we only needed to make it official. so we did.
he said "i love you" very early on. it took me a few times to answer. he was amazing, the perfect boyfriend. when we saw each other or even when we spoke, he treated me like gold. when i couldn't sleep, he'd answer his phone at midnight and talk to me until he fell asleep (i'm a bit of an insomniac). we had great conversations.
last time we saw each other was a week ago from yesterday. it was a perfect day, except that he was supposed to drive me home and my mom ended up not letting him and made me take the train home alone. he paid for my train ticket, being as perfect as he is, and i left. and things started to get weird that night.
about a month ago, when talking about another couple, i compared ourselves to them, not thinking it would stick with him. superficially, we were similar. however, the other couple broke up. the statement that i made started to haunt him this week. he was acting weird and he stopped saying "i love you" and every time i tried to hint to him that i was noticing, he'd ignore me. finally, i confronted him yesterday. we talked out the statement, but there was still something wrong.
we ran out of things to talk about. we always joked about that before, but we seriously did. i fell into a depression last night and for the life of him, he couldn't figure out what to do.
i still like him. hell, i think i may even love him. i don't want to break up. but he and i are both confused and a mutual friend is not making it better by telling us to break up with each other. i know he wants to stay together, but it's just so weird now. what do you think i should do? (link)
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Every relationship is different. You can't base things off of other peoples experiences. You need a "special" night. Go out see a movie. Go to dinner. Your friend, just ignore them. Friends like to pretend they know what is best for you. It sounds like you really like this guy. Maybe you need something different to remind you two how you feel about eachother. Sometimes you just need to sit back and think about all the things that you two have done that make you love him. Next time you see him walk up to him, give him a big kiss and tell him how you feel. That you are terrified of losing him and that you dont want to break up. Open up to him. Sometimes thats what a guy needs to give him the strength to make things better.
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oka to make a long story shorth there this guy at my school that i cant stand he gets on my last nerves. One because he always talkin about people eveyday,everytime,every min. Its like getting on my nerves and then he alwayz judge someone on how they dress or he be calling peopl ugly right in front of thier face.And he alwayz hang around girl he dont have any boys as friends just girl and people be saying that he is gay and all that stuff and i think so to casue he walk like a gilr, and talks like one but dont dress like one. So what bugs me is that he is soooooooo mean. So my quetion is what is this i mean its soo stupid! (link)
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so he is insecure. Thats why. Probably bi, though my fiance doesnt have many guy friends at all, tons of girls though. He just needs a good ass beating. Just ignore him. If he says something to you, tell him its ok you understand he is insecure.
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Okay this is abit weird but apparently after washing his sheets my bf has this white stain "like dried toothpaste", it must have either been me or lube (water based) but more importantly - how can we get rid of it?? (link)
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try rubbing salt and cold water on it with a wash cloth it works to get blood out of clothes carpets and sheets too.
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