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bestfriend and unprotected sex =/
okay ive known my best friend since i was born. We will be friends forever i know it. But the problem here is...she has lost her virginity to a boy she has been dating for 11 months [shes 16] She says that she knows hes the "one" she thinks there going to get married and live a happily ever after life with him...well she told me that they had unprotected sex but it wasnt long enough to get her pregnant. i told her never to take a chance like that again! im scared her whole life is gonna go down the drain with a child. I really think it could happen...What should i tell my bestfriend without getting her affended?
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Yes, you must tell her that ANY time he pentrates her she runs the REAL risk of getting pregnant. Then recommend that they use condoms. Why can't he buy some condoms. And she should look into getting on birth control pills is she is going to be sexually active. Side effects or not. I would rather deal with side effects than bring an unwanted child into this world or have an abortion. After all, she is the one who is being irresponsible. She should suffer a little, before a LOT of other innocent people have to suffer a lot. Maybe you should come right out an tell her she is being selfish and only thinking of herself. IN the end if she does get pregnant, you'll wish you did. And also if she does get pregnant, she is going to turn to you. And what can you do? All the help she needs you can give her now. Don't worry about being nice. There is nothing nice about an unwanted pregnancy, or having to tell your (her) parents (and his) and /or having an abortion. IF she/he or they are too embarassed to go to the store to buy comdoms, then they aren't mature enough to be taking off their clothes.
Michele
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Tell her the truth... there is no specific time that they can have sex and not get pregnant... the second they start they run the risk
if she is a good enough friend that she will be your friend forever tell her straight up. Personally I think they have been dating long enough and she is old enough to make her own decisions about protected sex but seriously tell her the risks she runs
if you mean that much to her.. she will listen
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Lol , it wasnt long enough? First of all she needs to understand all it takes is a little precum to impregnant someone. The best you can do is talk to her about it. But it is HER decision. 11 months is a long time to be with someone, especially at 16. I know plenty of people who started dating at 14 and are still together married with kids. She could go on birth control, but that has side effects on someone who is that young. All you can do is be there and talk to her, but like I said, she has been with him 11 months, it may be her step in the relationship...flat out ask her what she would do if she got pregnant, let her know she can no matter "how long" the sex is for. The pull out method doesnt always work
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Well, she may get offended-- but a true friend would say it anyway. Tell her straight up you're worried about her and that she should really be watching for her period, if she hasn't gotten it already-- and if she doesn't, she needs to take a pregnancy test.
And be there for her-- she'll probably end up freaking out.
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