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I am a person who loves meeting people and giving them advice at their most vulnerable moments. I don't don't give advice for anything rather than my want and need to help people. I just feel happy when someone feels clear or has weight lifted off their shoulders when i give them advice. I am not saying I am perfect or mother Teresa but I can say that with life you get knowledge and the power to give someone advice on something using both your heart and mind. I have a wide range of advice I give because I believe that anyone with a soul can find someone else that needs help an answer. Technology,love,and limitless troubles are something that I love helping with. Whether someone is 14 or 45...I don't care. People are who they are. They are not perfect because they are indeed human. With that I know I have a lot of advice to give.advice
I'm 13 and I really like this guy ( I think I'm in love with him) and I know i like him for who he is and everything because we used to be really close friends but ever since he got a gf not so much. I want to know how to get his attention and become more attractive to him to get him to like me (hopefully more than hs gf). Help?
This love is called puppy love so if you like his guy.........go for it.
dont do it when he has a gf because thats just mean. Try to reconnect your friendship and then go somewhere.
Becareful because i dont want you to get hurt. This guy is also young so be careful with messages you send out to him. If you want to change your look....go ahead. You need to remember though...you managed to create a beautiful friendship with him when you were.....ooooohh look...YOU!!!!
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nothing sweeter than puppy love
I am a 36 year old woman with a boyfriend about 10 years younger, he is very "long" and I bleed almost everytime we have sex...sometimes alot, sometimes a little. It does hurt sometimes in different positions but it's kind of a pleasure pain. Should I be concerned about this? Is it possible that he is just too big? We have been together for several months and I figured by now I would be "stretched out" to the point the bleeding would stop. I have seen my Gyno about this and she says nothing to worry about but she is also in and out in 5 minutes.
Ask a second opinion. Two heads are better than one so it wont hurt like it does now.
I suggest you take it easy so you can find your comfort zone. I know the guy does not like hurting you so he wont mind. Doing this will make less pain for the time being but still the same pleasure.
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Why bleed when you can get a bandage????
How do you make people laugh in school without those arkward moments when you try to do it and fail...??
oh i am that person in those situation who just makes things funny instead of awkward and i quite enjoy it.
First of all not all jokes are funny so just ask if those that listened thought it was funny or not. if they no just cover it up with another joke by making fun of yourself. The friends or who ever listened will listen to the joke and join in and guess what....no awkwardness.
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A joke a day keeps a frown away.
I’m a 19 year old boy from INDIA, and I have a younger brother of 13 year old.
I was a slow learner in school and a I Stammer while speaking,
My mom never cooks food which I like the most, and instead she cooks food according to my younger brother’s choice.
I really don’t get any respect in my house.
I’m really very shy to go out in public because I don’t have good dresses to wear, but my brother gets all the good dress to wear.
And my mom keeps comparing me with other boys of my age..
Please help me..
I know how it feels except my situation is backwards. I had an older sister who gets the better aspects of life. Your mother loves you but favoritism is something plausible in families. Your 19 so live your life. Your mother is never going to appreciate what an amazing son she had and you know what forget her!!! Trying to get her appreciation will never make you a better person. Don;t become desperate that you end up hating your little brother just because of her.
You need to realize that you are human. Stuttering is human and so are you. Someone is going to love that in the end and your mother is going to be the same person. Your brother is young so please take it easy on him because after all he is just a kid.
I know your mother is important to you but you know what you will find that special someone and become the best parent in the future. You wont let this happen t your son or daughters and that is called breaking the cycle my friend.
When i say say cycle, i might suspect that your mom does this for family reason. She might have faced this when she was little so forget her and her problems. She already did her job in the way. Take this as a positive outcome or the silver lining. You my dear friend will never be like someone in this world so just be you.... the one that stammers and learns differently. Work hard and achieve your dreams because in the end you will find your path to what your gates leads to.
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Dont let anything get in your way
P.S. dont compare yourself to anyone because you will end up feeling bad and that is not what you need. As for clothes.....find a way to get good ones.
I have a boyfriend whom had done many things, with disregard of respect, against me. Such as lying from the early days we had gotten to know each other to 3-4 months into the relationship. Lies regarding past relationships, calls to the ex, smoking fake weed, what he does when I'm not around, and so on. He does not tell me right away when he wrongs me. Most of the time I find out on my own search for the truth or the few times I work to make him feel guilty. There are few times he disregards my values even when I tell him he's doing it. A lot of his misbehavior has toned down since the second chance I had given him. However, so much of the actions he had done are obscene to me. We're still together but I'm not sure if I still want to be with him. There's another thing: I sort of live with him. I do have somewhere to go if we end our relationship but it would be to horrific circumstances. What do I do?
Look don't stay in a relationship because of stability. Your boyfriend does not know how special he is to have you. i mean why deal with all of this when you don't need it????? You are not being glued to the place you and him share. All I am saying is that, You need to move on and get past this. I mean you know you are not going to marry this man. If you play with fire all day, there will be one day in life where you get burned. Don't get burned. Just blow out the fire before anything happens. You are going to an unhappy and sad path. One man in your right path will show what you deserve and by the sound of this man who is deceitful and too busy getting high..its not him.
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"Theres a fire................starting in my heart...." Have you heard of it??????? you should listen!!!
P.S. He doesn't listen and he is hiding so many things....just looking through your writing, i see that you already know the answer. My advice may tell you this but you already have you answer and whatever I say might never change it. Good luck and i bid you a good path and good life with what you deserve
I have known this guy for a little over two years at work but I have been seeing him intimately and secretly for six months now. We see each other 1 day a week (thursday) because he has another full time job elsewhere. He has never missed a thursday with me and when I am not there, he panics and will text me to see where I am. He waits around my office until I show up or he will hide behind walls and jump out when he hears me coming etc. He even waits for me at the entrance of the building or will check the parking lot to see if my car is there. He doesnt want me talking to other male associates and he doesnt want me to accept gifts or treats from other guys. He said I am very special to him and that I am constantly on his mind and in his heart even though we only see each other once a week at work. Sometimes when time permits he comes over my house a few other days a week. I love him, we have never told each other we loved one another but in my heart I feel he does love me. Am I reading too much into this?
Look this man might be what you think he is. I don't want to bear bad news but a secret relationship involves secrets. He has another full time job but the question is....does he have another full time life. He hides. These actions show that he feels guilty. I mean once a week is more of a walk out to the park or a daydream rather than a relationship.What concerns me is that he is precise. To fully answer this question, i need feedback. I don't want you to get hurt but you need to test him indiscreetly. Can he see you other than thursday??????? I think you should read in to this carefully. You might be playing with fire.
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this isnt quite a long story but my ex boyfriend broke up with me about a year ago and i may sound quite pathetic but i need to get over him. i know ill always have a special place for him in my heart but me seeing pictures of him now and him with girls that he isnt even dating isnt healthy for me. i will be seeing him in august and also i dont even know how to handle that situation because i havent seen him since the last time we were together before we broke up.
i dated him for eight months and that may be nothing for some but it was enough for me and to be honest i am mature about this whole love thing. but i fell in love and i just need to know how to get over it. anything will be great advice. much appreciated.
First of all, your first love will always be in your heart because like all firsts, it sticks. I know it hurts to loose someone you cared about but when its over, you need to move on.
Eight months is a long time. Some people give others rules on how another should get over a break up. They are all ridiculous so don't listen. I have heard someone say you have half the length of your relationship to get over it but you know what forget them.
First of all , you're a girl. I know you know it but you need to realize unlike your ex your are complicated with your emotional depth. A guy is emotional but not like a girl. Just because he moved on after a month doesn't mean you should of moved on the same time as him.
Starting now i will give you some nice tips so you can just get on with your life. If you don't get over it now, you will never be able to be in a relationship again and i as girl know that is not what you want.
First of all, love is not something that you are not capable of doing. You are human therefore love. Love is endless and i will quote that. Losing a loved one under any circumstance hurts and you have been hurt. You are not pathetic. You are just human. Crying, remembering, and living is what you do. I fully trust that you will get over your break up but that does not necessarily mean that you will loose your memories.
In August when you see him, you will have a memory of your happiest moment with him come up and it is unbearable but you know what????? You can handle it. Getting over love is hard but a path well taken. You need to find your right path. A path in which looking at him with a girl will make you indifferent or at the most....less painful.
What you should do is think of your life before your relationship.At the beginning of a relationship, a honeymoon stage, you lost or gave up something that gave you happiness because you achieved something that made you happier. I believe now is the time to bring back that happiness. You need it. It could be a friend whom you lost communication with or even a sport. Something that gives you peacefulness and makes you forget.
I hate to say this but you cannot move on without ridding of everything that had to do with who shall not be named. A teddy bear, pictures, and etc. You are starting anew and with that comes new memories. Therefore lose your past and your torture.
Moving on does not mean finding a rebound. If you find a rebound to get back at him...then you will not be doing anything but hurting a innocent man who was just a bystander.
You are in high school. Not many high schoolers find their TRUE love during those four years and you have to accept that you might not be one of them. You may never know though because mysterious things happen in life.
With that i congratulate you on your new life which will be filled with happiness, indifference, less pain and a journey to finding yourself because ignoring all that haa happened to you.....you my dear are still a teenager and with that i bid you a goodbye and good life.
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love those near you because some day you might find someone to love from a distance or with indifference.
Where can you get pretty & name brand phone covers for the evo 4g ?
First of all, congrats on the phone. I hear it is a great catch. I believe a great place to get it is to order online. If you get it online, you have more choices on designs as well as other things. Elite extreme is one good online place to shop for phone covers that has the nicest evo cases. I believe that when looking for a good cover, you need to keep eyes open until you are sure. Due to the fact that I do not know your gender, i also suggest you checking out daydeal and cellphoneaccents for a wide range of possibilities. These sites are great in my opinion.
I'm a 20 year old female, 5'4.5" tall and weigh around 123-127lbs, but have until about the beginning of June always weighed around 120lbs. I don't look or feel like I have gained the weight that I have, and other than the walking around that I do at work on an almost daily basis, as well as the occassional run have a whole lot of time for exercise, so I know that I'm not gaining muscle. I have no idea why I am gaining all of this weight, but know that I am on the verge of taking drastic measures to lose it because I feel like I hate myself so much for having all this extra weight. It is making me feel ugly and wish that I could slim down overnight to 105lbs, I would rather be severely underweight than weigh this much! please help me! Oh, I also have a fairly narrow bone build
looking at your BMI, you are in the perfect weight range. The problem is that if you do not feel good about yourself, no weight will meet your expectations. Drastic measures might make you loose that weight but trust me, they are not worth it. The salt water flush or even the lemonade cleanse wont help you. Now if you want to loose that weight which you hate, change your habits a little bit and get those pounds off quickly. Here are some healthy tips to help you loose weight. First of all drink lots of water. Secondly, do some nice toning exercises without pushing yourself. lastly it is a fact that people that count their calorie intake are twice as likely to be healthier and lose weight quicker. If you go on crash diets, you will gain weight and that will not take you anywhere to what you desire . I recommend you visit sites. I know how you feel. All you need is determination and you can shed those pounds without killing yourself from exhaustion or malnutrition or dehydration.
what are actually the effects of dehydration? and if i was to take sleeping pills as well as refuse food and water how long will it take before i die and how would it feel cause im willing to take that pain?
Stop and think before you ignore my message due to its long content. If you desire to attempt suicide is great then you should keep reading. It may bring memories that lead to your specific desire but its worth it.
There are two major questions that should be asked before you believe truly that you should keep attempting to take away something importatnt such as your life.
1. Did i work hard to loose something important such as my life and the people who care deeply about me whether or not it is a single person or maybe several?
2. Is it that hard to believe that loosing my life is the only answer to stop all the pain i need and will need to end this torture?
To answer your specific question, there are many ways of killing yourself. But all of them resort to feeling unbearable pain before, during, and after the attempt of suicide.
It took so much to bring you here in this world, so why end it is an important question to ask yourself. Everyone has thought that death is a last resort to pain in a horrible life that cannot be fixed by doctors or those who have been in all equivalent situations.
Listen to me, you can have many reasons for ending your life, but don't do it. There are loop holes in life, it just takes a risk that death won't be a result of. Believe me you are not the only one who have been in these horrible situations that makes you ask whether this is not the right thing to do. Some who have same thoughts as you believe that they are helping the world by dying. Some believe that they can see people feeling sorry for them after they have died.Guess what?
You don't need to show anybody anything. Death can be something that you cannot take back. You cannot just say i was kidding. It is not something to joke about no is something to risk.
I know you may not be a person thinking about suicide but everyone needs to know. Every day a life is lost due to these thoughts given or created. There are no limits to suicide and its victims. It could be a teen, mother, father, daughter, and etc. You need to realize that it is not important to result in death for a cure of pain brought by many things in life.
The reasons to think about suicide is endless but the way to cure it is a simple yet hard road ahead.
The only thing that matters now is whether or not you have ways to commit suicide but whether or not to take the hard yet long road ahead. You don't need to run just take easy, slow, and determined steps to the road you think is right to take.
sincerely,
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living a life can bring difficulty to us, some harder than others causing them to lose the right track. What matters the most is whether they decide to get back on other then falling off and never having a chance to try again.
My boyfriend and i broke up.
we broke up on sunday and it was really weird how he explained it. We broke up because his mom thought we were geting to close. He said that we could still be friends, hang out., adn go on dates. He said that we could still do everything we were doing whenever we were dating but we aren't going to be dating. He still tells me he loves me and calls me babe. BUT! he hasn't called me in 2 days nothing at all. idk what to do. he broke my heart but i still want to be his friend but not with benifits im not a slut..
This guy hurt you right? Look don't be a girl that gets walked on. Technically now you guys are friends so you can date other guys. What if he calls you babe? I bet he says that to a lot of other girls. So move on to the next door and try to find another guy because this one doesn't respect you. In a relationship you need respect for each other which you don't even have. I advice you to get over this guy but be friends with him and his "moves"or whatever you call it. It will be hard if you like him a lot though. I also think you should be careful.
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when another door closes. another door opens.
I watched Wall-E last night and I totally loved it! Wall-E is really such a great movie! :D
Anyway, there's a song that is playing right that the beginning of the credits. The song actually plays before the scrolling actually starts (know what I mean?).
It says something about coming down to the ground. It talks about the future chosen, escaping routine, and says something about the mountains, rivers, birds singing, seeing the trees or something. It's a man's voice.
Anyone know the name of it and who sings it?
"Down to earth" sung by Peter Gabriel. Great movie!!
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I am so scared! My mom just was diagnosed with anemia which is loss of red blood cells or something like that and she is going to get more blood tests done. I was reading some causes of anemia and one of them listed on a website was cancer. Do you think my mom has cancer if she has anemia? I mean, is it a rare thing that anemia comes from cancer or is it very, very common to be anemic because you have cancer? Confused.
It is a hard question to answer because you ant have all types of anemia and there are certain symptoms they share or are different to each types. There is a bend your moms red blood cells which doesn't give your organs enough oxygen. The doctors like you said are testing her blood cells to see what type it is and how it has affected her body. She could not had enough iron or vitamin so you have to wait and see what type of anemia it is which can be or not related to cancer. Just relax because your mother needs support now.
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I have three children; Two boys and a girl. My oldest is 5 1/2 while my youngest just turned 1. I have a great marriage. We have been married almost 12 years. We have a little home in a nice suburb. My kids get along really well. I have a pretty happy life.
Before my husband and I got married we both discussed having 3 children. He is the eldest of 4. I am an only child. We both wanted a big family. At this point we should be just enjoing what we have made of our lives. Now that my daughter has just turned 1 my husband has made numerous comments about wanting another baby. Just a few weeks ago my 5 year old crawled into my lap and asked when we were going to bring home another baby. He loves his baby sister so much he wants another one. I asked what if he had another baby brother. He responded that would be okay too. So now that the bug has been put in my ear about it, I can't decide what to do.
My problem is my pregnancies gradually got worse with each one. I had joint problems that in my 3rd pregnancy required me walking intermittently on crutches toward the end. I am not the kind who particularly enjoys being pregnant. They were fairly uncomfortable and I was so happy when my 3rd was born because I "Never have to go through this again". I don't really want to go through child birth again. I don't want to deal with the recovery process again, all the blood work, the epidural, the doctor visits. We are incredibly responsible parents so if we did decide to have another I would "suffer" through all of this because it isn't about ME, it's about the health of the baby. I guess I want another baby... but I don't want to HAVE another baby.
The other issue we have is we have several friends who have children with "issues". Two have autism, one has something "like" cerebral palsy but has not actually been diagnosed with this, etc. We have been quite fortunate that I never had a known miscarriage and our kids are all healthy. Would we be tempting fate? My husband's sister has 5 kids who are all healthy but that doesn't mean we would!
Is there anyone out there who has several children and had this dilema of whether or not to have another? What did you decide to do and whatever that decision was, do you regret it or happy about it? I am a religious person so I have prayed about it. This was recent so I am still waiting for my answer. I thought while I was waiting I would get input from other women (or men too) who have been in this situation.
One last thing to add, I am going to be 31 this summer and while I still feel quite young in almost all aspects of life, I am starting to feel a bit old to be having babies. I realize I haven't hit that "danger zone" of 35. I just don't know if I am wanting another baby because I actually WANT 4 kids, or if I want another baby because I am hormonal about my last baby being 1, almost walking, turning into a real little kid and no longer a "baby".
If your worried get a test to see if you can have a healthy child. Many women have insecurities about this subject which is okay. Just talk to your husband about how you feel as in your fears. He will understand and will support you the whole way which makes it so much easier and better for you. A husband's support is what you need. Don't worry too much and bottle it up all inside because it ill explode and that is not healthy for you or your family.
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I have this boyfriend and we've been going out for about a year and then this guy in my class(this guy I don't like) told all these lies about me to my boyfriend and vice versa, and my boyfriend belived them and we broke up. the guy who broke us up asked me out and I said no and he won't stop harrassing me. he even follows me and shows up at my house and stalks my family and he even threatened to kill them if I didn't go out with him so here I am dating him! what should I do to get out of it.
Look give the guy a chance. Do you know anything about him. First of all find out the reason he wants to be with you. Make him open up and see him for who he really his deep down because he might have insecurities. He maybe the complete opposite guy from what your thinking. Try to see why he is harassing you and trying to make you be together!!
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I'm trying to make some new friends and I was told that I should find some common things between us to form a link, which should spur more conversation and positive attitudes between each other. I'm not entirely sure what to ask to get to know these people though! What are some really good questions to ask to get to know someone?
To get to know someone ask their age, hobbies, likes and dislikes something you both you can agree on in the future. It makes them interested if you have something in common which will lead you to friendship in the near future.
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15/f
my friend for the first time had to makeout with a guy because they were dared. anyway it looked really awkward, she was basically just sucking his lip. it was really really awkward.
what i wanted to know was(i havent kissed a guy yet) but how do you do it right! and not all slobbier.
Don't worry about the kiss because it doesn't matter as long as it is coming from the heart. the first kiss is special so don't fret and when it comes you will be absolutely happy.
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My boyfriend and I got into a fight the other night and he said, sarcastically, that I was a good girlfriend (the situation is difficult to explain-- why we were fighting) so, basically, he called me a bad girlfriend. I've been trying to find ways to be a "better" girlfriend now so we don't have this problem again.
Do you have any ideas on how I can be a better girlfriend? He's apologizing, saying he didn't really mean it and it was in the heat of the moment but I still feel like it might be true. I simply want to be the best girlfriend I can be because he deserves happiness too.
So, any tips on how can I be a better girlfriend to my boyfriend?
The only way to be a good girlfriend is be yourself. In a relationship the other person has to care about the other person so do that. It was a heated fight so your boyfriend said something he probably would never say. He feels guilty so it is not true. Don't worry so much because your being the best girlfriend you can be.
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How can you tell when you're full? I am not overweight, but I tend to over-eat often. I'm sure my body gives me signals when I am full that I am just overlooking. How can I know when to stop eating?
Your body must is accustomed to eating a lot because it is healthy. your not obese because you don't over eat unhealthy things. You will probably eat more because you must have high metabolism so you shouldn't worry.
This is kind of a weird question. Wasn't sure where to categorize it.
I'm 24/f. I've met this guy and I've known him for a little over two years. I really enjoy his company, and I really like him. I know he likes me too, that isn't really the problem. The problem is, I live like 4 states away, so we usually see each other every 2 months. Well, the last time I saw him was in March '09. He has a really good job, and so it's hard for him to take time off work. The thing is.. like I want this to go further. He asked me if I'd move down to where he lives, and I said yes. I really want this to happen, but I don't know how to approach him about it. I want to be his girlfriend, but I also don't know how to bring it up. I feel like I'm sitting here potentially waiting for something to happen, that realistically won't ever.. I want to bring it up in conversation, but I'm not sure how.
I really don't know what to do! Any advice would be greatly appreciated! :)
if you really like this guy as much as you say then make the first step.
in this type of relationship time is important. Don't be afraid! if this guy likes you so much then he wouldn't come visit you from four states away every 2 moths if he doesn't want commitment. This guy is holding on to you because he cares and he is afraid you don't want the same thing so talk to him about living together. Don't be afraid to start talking about it because he might want the same thing. Just be brave! I mean you already said yes so go to the next step.
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