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I am seventeen, but do not let the age fool you. I feel I am more experienced than the average seventeen year old. If you want the honest truth for your questions, ask me. I will definitely not hold back.

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I have clever ideas for kissing me boyfriend, cuddling with him, or just clever, cute things to say to him. I have them in my head, however, when I go to say them I can't get the words out of my mouth! I seem to freeze up, I'm usually not nervous at all around him. How can I get over this?

You wanna know how to get over this? You shouldn't have to have a script with your boyfriend! Do not plan what you're goin to say, because it will be completely obvious that you did plan it. Believe me, the cutest times come when they are a surprise. Be yourself, stop editing your words and actions, and you will be way happier.

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My first serious boyfriend broke up with me about 2 months ago. It was a blow to my heart and the big problem is, I can't move on. I still think about him everyday & get the urge to pour my heart out to him. I'm very involved in school, I have a job and many supportive friends, but nothing is helping. We're actually on good terms but he seems to be happier than ever. How do I let him go & finally be happy? I've never had to go through this. (18/F)

I know this is easier said than done..but you have to look at the BIG picture. What is this guy compared with all of the other men in the world? It's almost ridiculous how insignificant. It's also about maturing. You have to realize that you have other things to live for, responsibilities, and people that count on you. You can't let something as trivial as a breakup disrupt the flow of your life. After all, you do only get ONE life. No do overs. do you want to spend your one chance mourning one person, when obviously he is not mourning you? Are you that desperate for love, or really are you just a little hurt.. Ask yourself those questions and wake up!

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me and my boyfriend waited 9 months before we had sex .. now WHENEVER we hang out we do it like 5 times .. i dont want it to get old .. and i think we do it too much .. he feels differently but im not sure how to talk to him .. please help =[

it's just a new phase..enjoy it..

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So i gave my boyfriend a handjob and i got cum on my fingers but i washed it off and about 40 mins. later i masterbated and i got my period 4 days later and i read that even if you get your period you could still b pregant? do you think i am?

hell no you're not pregnant..don't worry so much.

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okay so theres this boy and ive had a bit of a sexual past with him and im like in love with him ,, however he has a girlfriend.
He lives in my neighborhood,but im moving like in a few days.
He's SO MEAN TO ME!
for example, he sat behind me on the bus
and i said something to another person and the boy i like buts in and said " shut up , he doenst like you"
and then SOMETIMES online hes nice,
i cant get over him and ive tried and tried.
What do i do?!?

im 13/f
btw.

oh young child, you're not in love..and i think you should wait until you know what a sexual past is before you create one..immaturity and sex don't go together

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16-f. ive been with my bf for 3-4ish months and were both really comfortable with each other. last nite for the first time i gave him a handjob and he fingered me. thats the farthest either of us have gone, both with each other and just in general. i feel a little guilty about it. i dont REGRET it, because, yeah we were both a little nervous, i dont know what his reason was, but mine was i just didnt kno how to do what i was doin lol, but also bc it feels like such a sin. i mean my familys not all church-every-sunday-pray-before-every-meal kinda stuff, but we do have a sense of faith.. and believe you should wait till youre a little older and with someone you truly love before havin sex or anything. my bf and i have both talked about this stuff, and i told him i wouldnt have sex till we were together for AT LEAST a year if not longer, and hes totally cool with that and all, and it was a mutual decision that this is the farthest we go for awhile. but i just have this idea in my head that im like going against God because we did that, and its weird. if it wasnt for that idea that like my family would be ashamed of me or that im betrayin my faith [i mean i sin ive lied and i cuss and stuff] but this is bigger ya kno. i dont regret it and im comfortable with him and i feel like we were ready to go a little further so thats not the issue.. but i dont know what to think i mean i almost feel slutty doin that but when i think of other people doin it, it doesnt seem like a big deal to me. i guess im mostly worried about what my family would think/say if they knew.. ahh help? lol

either do it or don't..quit worrying so much. be comfortable with who you are and the decisions you make..maybe i came of age too early..but i think you're acting juvenile. own up to what you do..don't feel guilty

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I am 20 years old an i am engaged to my wounderful boyfriend of 2 years..i recelty found out that this month he has been poking holes the size of tumb tacks in our condums.. i was woundering if there was a chance i am now pregnant...and what should i do..he dose not know that i found out???? i want kids i am just scared that we are not ready

your boyfriend sounds like a real freak! who does that? are you comfortable with that? i think you should ask yourself that question..good lord, the things girls put up with it...it really is unreal.

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Ok...so im not a virgin but everytime ive had sex i told the guy to keep my bra on. My reasoning for that is my boobs look bigger in my bra and i dont want it to be a disappointment when it comes off. I really hate it because my boobs look like they are like an A when my bras off. What should i do about that? And my other problem is you know how people have hair on there stomach? Well since im full italian mine is like dark so it kind of grosses me out what can i do about that cuz that also bothers me?

wow, shave your stomach..and i have the smallest boobs in the universe..guys are pigs..they don't care..:)

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18/F

Okay, my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 and a half years. I really want to lose my virginity to him. He is not a virgin but obviously I am.

I've talked to him about it and he says its my decision and he will stand behind which ever I make. (Wait or Not Wait)

Half of me wants to do something, then the other half is just like worried. I know I'm gonna spend the rest of my life with this man.

What do you guys thimk I should do?

Also, I heard you bleed a lot when you lose it. He has a rather large penis. So will I bleed heavy like on my period? Or just a little? And if I put my pants on afterwards, will I bleed threw my pants?

Thanks.

Well, i used to be just like you. dont't worry about it, it's no big deal. and you won't bleed much, if it all. Your hymen could have broken way before now. No big deal. don't worry.

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I am 21 and a bit of a "nerd." I love to be around girls, but I have always been shy, and I have not had many dates. The dates I've had were just dinner and a movie and then take the girl back to her home, and I'd go back to mine, and maybe we'd talk by phone later, and go out again sometime, but nothing more. All pretty innocent stuff; rarely even a kiss.

But recently I met an attractive girl in one of my glasses and things are different this time. She was hard not to notice because she often wears short skirts or shorts (when the weather permits), and she has really nice long legs and a great body to match. We have gone out several times. After the first three dates where we did nothing but kiss, we began getting a little more intimate. Since our fifth date, she has given me a handjob on every date. Of course I enjoy it and would do practically anything to have her do it to me. But here is my concern: She seems like a nice person, and even has certain Christian values, goes to church regularly, and other stuff. Yet, she tells me that she has given most of her other guy friends handjobs. When she told me that, I felt a whole lot less special, and so I asked her why she did it. She told me simply that she thought "guys like it", and she saw nothing wrong with doing for them what they do for themselves all of the time. She says she's a virgin and will not have intercourse until marriage. Now, everything else about the relationship seems to be going well except for my knowing that she gives guys what they want (within limits). I am not very experienced with dating and with girls. Is this normal behavior in dating? Did I grow up in such a conservative environment that I never learned about these things? Or, is she not the "nice" girl that I thought she is? If this is the case, I want to get out of this relationship as soon as I can find the courage. I just don't know what is "normal" dating behavior, and what to expect. Is this what people do on dates? Do girls and guys our age (were both 21 now, and we were 20 when we met) do these things (i.e., have manual sex) fairly casually? Or, is my "nice" girlfriend really promiscuous?"

Oh, sweetie..i'm seventeen and feel that i've seen more of the world than you..obviously you were rather sheltered..if you like it, don't complain..who says you have to be a pristine, nice young gentleman...and every girl has a wild side..and also, what is wrong with a girl that may be a little promiscuous? even though giving a handjob is not really promiscuous...sex is usually a part of a normal relationship..it's okay..what you're doing is not wrong..don't stress

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So im having a baby in a couple weeks, its a boy. I want to name him Aiden but im having trouble with a middle name. Any ideas?! thanks!

Maybe..
Adrian Rae
Adrian Brody
Adrian Elijah
Adrian Carter
Adrian Gabriel
hope these helped..post what you decide to name him!

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16/f
so my friend asked this kid if he liked me and he said why do you care? and then she was like i just wanna know. and then he didnt say anything. and then she asked him again and he said SERIOUSLY why do you care? and she was like i just wanna know. and then she said im not gunna stop bothering you until you answer me so do you? and he said maybe maybe not.

do you think that means he does or he doesnt? even if he didnt say it but most likely.
thanks in advance =)

oh jesus christ, grow up and ask him if he likes you.. what? are you in junior high? seriously though, just ask ...or did you even like this guy before all this game of telephone went on? i swear, girls are so silly..some guy says nothing about you, but you're already planning your wedding..please don't act so desperate for attention..stand on your own two feet.

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I'm not sure that advice is EXACTLY what I'm looking for, but I'd like to understand something. Love seems to have a different impact on everyone who feels it. (This is about romantic love.) Why do you think love is important? What does it do for people? What is the point? Fulfillment? I have heard that no two people can ever fully understand each other, but we all spend years trying to find that one person who can understand us. Why ?

To me, love is something we tell ourselves we are in to make ourselves feel worth something and to give our lives purpose. It's totally intangible and false. jaded? maybe...

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Advicenators, help me, I think I might be heartbroken. For three years now, I've been stepping over bodies for this one guy to notice me, I've really done everything. I live for him. There's nothing I do - if it doesn'thave to do with him. And I can't remember the last time an hour went (just an hour!) without me thinking about him.. so im obsessed. but that's not the problem, the problem is... everytime i get close to him, or confess my feelings for him, he does the same to another girl. i dont udnerstand! he doesnt seem to be rejecting me, he's always saying "i miss you! i cant wait until i see you and get to SHOW YOU exactly how much ive missed you!..i wish we could be together!" and so on, so i donot think its a way of rejection..but still, its weird.. here's an example, we were IMing and i was like "i miss you!" and he was like "i miss you too - you and your beautiful eyes! and then the next day his away message is about a firned of his (who i know) and it says "i love loretta and her beautiful eyes!" and like if i would tell him "i was watching the simpsons and it made me think of you.." the next day he'll tell this girl loretta " i was watching our show, one tree hill, and it made me think of you"

you know what im saying?? like i dont know what to do! its so weird! and i cant stop crying just because his name was about HER beautiful eyes when thats what he always compliments ME on!

Wow, this guy is a big jerk and you're letting him string you along just like a little puppy. Put a stop to it and don't be so dependent on a guy to make you happy, or you will end up in life with a husband who takes advantage of you. I wish you could understand how many guys are out there that could treat you right and make you happy. You wouldn't even give this guy the time of day.

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well i did get my period today which is 10/30/06 i hate it. now my friend who is going to be the last of my gang wants her period what could i say to her that would make her understand that having a period is not everything. please i dont know what to tell her about it except that it is a pain in the ass. help. oh when you first start your period when you stop bleeding the blood in the pad can be red one sec then brown the next? also i think i stopped menstruating is it ok if you only mentruate for one day though this is my first period. im scared!!!!!!! help im desperate.

Um, sweetie, it is just the blood drying...and your first several periods may be weird..also you may not have another one for a while.. it could be that way for a bit..it's totally normal and it will work out.

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Help! Please. Ok so I had this boyfriend for like 8 months. He was always so sweet and everything seemes to go right. He's a (A.) Student so he always expects to get good grades. But this year we entered highschool (we both go to different ones) and he failed 4 classes he was really sad and he said that he needs a brake. He said that he needed time to think and that he loves me but that he needs a brake also that his life isn't going the way he planned. And then I told him that I wasreally hurt. And then I signed off. But I haven't spoken to him for like 4 days he goes online all the time and its hard to see him online and not be able to talk to him. I don't want to talk to him because I'm afraid he won't write back or he says something mean. I don't know what to do. Also. My friend told me that he probably broke up with me because he wnats to date other girls. Is that true? What do u think about all of this?. Help. Sorry this is so long thanks!

These answers are way too positive. You have to understand something about guys. They never say what they mean. I really wouldn't buy that whole "i love you i just can't be with you" thing. I'm sorry, I may be a little jaded, but I do not think that is what it is. You should just move on. Really think and ask yourself why THIS guy is so important. I promise if you do that, you will see that he isn't and there are many many more boys out there.

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i love this boy.
Ive liked him for about 3 years on and off
and we used to be close but have grown further and i still talk to him but he has a girlfriend and it makes me more jealous by the minute
but he talks to me online etc. but at school hes a jerk to me.
I dont know what to do , i cant stop liking him!


help!

Screw him hunni...if you only understood the magnitude of men that are available you wouldn't stress over this obvious jerk.

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