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the names Kassidy. im 16. i go to freedom high. i love running. && hanging out with my friends. oh... im VERY loud. but a FUN loud. not bad loud. : ] yeah...i definatly have blonde momentstm. but its okay cause people still love me anyways so everything is GRAND. [ha] well hopefully you love me too. ;) kaythanksbye!
p.s. im good with any advice so ask me anything or ill just help ya out!

you can take the blonde to the ranch, but you cant take the bikini off the blonde.

♥KASSIDY






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So theres this guy whos in my class, and hes a sophomore.i like him sometimes, and at other times im like "why do i like him" i dont know but i dont really wanna like him, and i wanna find find someone else that i like. :[ what should i do? cause in my mind, i know that i have feelings for him, but i somehow dont want to.

Thanks :D

I feel the same way to. You know guys arent perfect so maybe you are just seeing the weakness in him. And some other times you are seeing the strenghts which you admire a lot. But you arent sure so what I would do is just go with your instincts. If you really want him, and you really find him attractive etc. etc. nice personality. Then go with your gut. But thats what is part of a crush is, like your not so sure if you like someone. So dont think that way, just be happy that you like him deep down. I wouldnt pressure yourself though. Maybe your true feeling are just there but you dont want to know that. So just see him, and you'll know in time.... if you like him or not. If you dont then maybe its time to find someone new!! But i bet you like him for sure!!
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ok the last time i was talking to my boyfriend was monday night before i went to bed he said he would ring me the next day but he never did.his phone is turned off.its 5days now should i be worried what should i do?13/f
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Thats kinda strange. It happened to me this one time, so i just e-mailed him and started asking him what hes been doing lately. Try that. I mean maybe he might be having a rough situation with his family, or has been sick, or just forgot. Try getting in contact with him again, ask his mom, or something. His phone might have a problem. Make this pattern stop before it goes on to 6 days or more. He misses you and you might miss him. So give him a call maybe on his home phone,ask 1 of his friends about him, e-mail him, check his myspace, meet him somewhere, or call him tomorrow for easter..that might be something special!! Most guys just forget to call sometimes, but he might call you soon so dont worry.
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15/f. how do you know if a guy is trying to make you jealous? because i really like this guy, but he has a girlfriend. and sometimes i feel like he's trying to make me jealous because he sometimes talks to me about her. so my question is how can i tell if he is trying to make me jealous or if he just really likes his girlfiend and likes to talk about her a lot. thanks!

If he pretends he doesnt care about you and everything else. He has to know that you miss the attention. Basically if it seems that he is having so much fun "without" you, then he's trying to make you jealous. Like smiling, and having a great time, with great friends, or his girlfriend. Also if he hugs girls right in front of you and looks at you right in the eye (possibly his girlfriend who he might hug). He's basically like showing off right in front of you is how to explain how a guy makes a girl jealous. Its annoying. But guys are guys, he could like you, or he could just be spending time with his girlfriend and whenever something good happens your there. You never know, but if he dumps his girlfriend...then that could be a definite possibility that he might like you, and go after you!!
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14/f/ca sumtimes im walking in the mall and i see this really cute guy and i like wanna talk to him and my friend says come on hilary lets go say hi and im all like NO!! well my question is how can i be more confident when it comes to talking to a cute boy i dont know

thanx in advance

Oh my gosh that happens every single time. What I would do is take a deep breath. Think you can do this. Maybe your friend could do all the talking you could just stand there and stare at him. lol. Just talk to him, think of it as like a normal conversation, there's nothing to be afraid about. He might like it and is probably a lot more embarassed as you are. Or you could just try to get his attention for him to talk to you. The more you talk to guys at the mall or where ever the more you will be able to do it. You might even become a boy magnet you'll get so used to it. Dont be scared just keep your head up high, wave say hi, hows it going? stuff like that, its simple. Be casual. I do it all the time. He might like you after that. Try it, think confident. :)
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How do some people keep their cool at school?

You've seen the cool popular people walking, knowing what they're doing. Its pretty obvious to notice they are cool. You must be relaxed, dont care what people think of you. Have a cool walk (come awn everyone has one). Speak clearly practice and then your voice will be confident. Wear nice clothes. Your posture has to be good. Listening and looking at people when they are talking. Its all about becoming relaxed and knowing who you are. Once you know how to be cool, everyone will respect you for it! :)
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i just started going out with this guy and were both really shy so things are a bit akward.Can anyone give me some advice on how to make it not as akward or help me to become a little less shy ?



thxs in advance =)

My best friend never has awkward moments, she doesnt even believe in the word "awkward". So if you talk more, be more social then more than likely awkward wont even be in your mind. Try to laugh it off when you are with him. He wants to have a nice time with you. And you cant if you guys both look at each other in puzzled faces right? So just enjoy his company. Do something daring like french-kiss him. Or something. Just smile at him. Go places together. The more you open up the better things will be for you guys. Think of subjects to talk about, ask him questions. Alls be nice. Never think negative. The more you are around him the more you will get used to him and it will be better for the two of you. Just have a nice convorsation and let it flow. Trust me if you do all the above things wont even have the word awkard for you and your guy that you are going out with!
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i know this is a really weird question, but is crossing your legs when sitting down considered really y?

Usually its rude for a girl to cross her legs. And not really good too. But its only considered if you are wearing a skirt, or a dress then you would cross your legs or maybe something short. Other than that I wouldnt do it.
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My World History class is SO effing BORING! I fall asleep EVERY time I'm in that class...and the thing is...we're not allowed to sleep...otherwise, we get an F for the day. And I can't help it. My eyes close...and I can't stop it lol. What's the best way not to fall asleep?

ehmygawsh, ditto, I know what you mean. I would bring bottle water it keeps people awake. Sitting up straight. Not slouching that helps. What I always do is always bring a bag of jolly ranchers and put a ton in my pocket then just suck on them. It helps me stay awake in history even when Im about to not fall asleep. Plus its sugar. Chewing gum does. Whatever it is just keep yourself busy and maybe catch up on your sleep. Hope that helped ya.
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How do you put a photo in your about me section on your myspace?

You first upload the picture on imageshack.com or tinypic.com. Then you copy the URL (meaning code), then paste the code into the about me section. Basically your just using a code and then click save, view profile and its there! Hope that helped.
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I feel like everyone else is always socializing and everyone else can have a good conversation except for me. wWhen im around people who are having conversation i feel like they are talking over me and withot me it seems like anything i say isnt important or pointless becasue no one would rather have a conversation with me why is this? How do i come up with interesting conversation?

You know people just love to talk. I mean maybe for some reason you may always be around the kind of people who just cant stop talking. Thats no problem. What you could do is get some attention from people. Because it seems like people havent really noticed you enough to talk to you in their conversations. So what I would do is get in a fun mood, maybe compliment someone and then ask an interesting question. Then Viola! You are there, you just have to play the question game, then once that happens you have to make the conversation flow.....Listen, smile, Laugh, then speak. Just go with the flow. Laugh it off if you are embarassed. The boring things you do not want to talk about would be the following: Weather, school stuff, you know such boring stuff that you could just yawn to. You can use catchy words. Just be friendly and I swear once you got all this stuff down you'll be a natural and then people wont be talking over you no more! Promise!
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okay. so like when my crush ims me hes like ehy cutie =D what do i say? do i just say hi or?

Aw thats ah-dorable for him to say to you. Dont cha think? You can call him a cute name like...buttercup or cutie-pie. Or you can make one up 'just for him'. I wouldnt say hi hes flirting with ya girly. Just use your imagination and impress him with a cute little name for him...it will make him have a big smile across his face for SURE:)
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well i recently told this guy "j" that i liked him.. before that he was one of my best guy friends. we could talk for hours on aim about anything. we had a ton in common. he'd always keep me entertained & hes funny.. well i miss that :[ ever since i told him that i liked him he never talks to me.. only when my friends yell at him because of it, then he'll talk to me. but its not the same anymore. ehh what do i do? i havent really told him myself that it makes me upset but its obvious & i know he knows it. also, he always stares at me in class.. do u think its only because he wants to see if im staring? or does he possibly like me? im almost positive he doesnt though. thankss

Ehmygawsh girl, when you tell a guy that you like him, hes going to be scared of you. It's just how guys are. Buh-lieve me, I told this guy at a dance I went to and then next thing I know is he tries to not make eye contact, blushes, and advoides me as much as possible. Hes just scared and insecure of what to do now. But I know once a guy knows that you like him...there's one thing they will always do is STARE at u. He might like you i must say. But hes becoming speechless now that you told him that. So I would just treat him like you used to as a friend. Or maybe ask him if he likes you 2. Hes feeling awkward around you so try to manage yourself around him and keep talking to him like you used to then he might tell you that he likes you!!
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This is probably a really dumb question, but I've always wondered.....

The body splashes from Bath and Body Works; do you actually spray them on your bare skin? Or on your clothes? All of my friends spray it on their clothes, but I wanted to see if you can also spray them on skin.

Uhm you spray it all over your body. You can but your not supposed to. I would just spray it into the air and walk right through the spray. Its quicker that way.
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14/f im turning 15 in less than a month and i dont know what to do for a party, im considering having a party at home and going in the pool or w/e but i really don't know what i want to do. im not gonna invite a lot of people but the guys i do know i dont have a crush on them so i can be comfortable around them, should i invite them or would i have more fun if it was just girl time?

I remember doing that i like invited all the guys i liked to my party last year, and it didnt work out like none of them showed up. I mean you can if you want to. It might be fun and x-citing!! I would do like a mid-night pool party then sleepover kinda thing. But more than likely whatever happens I think you would have much more fun if you just invited ur besties you will have a blast with them more for sure!!
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14, female. Okay well I recently broke up with my ex. But we have both moved on..well I haven't the only thing is that He has a new girl friend who my mom says that her face is like a moon pie (lol) anyways, so I got extremely jealous when he brought her a frappichino one day. So then we started talking more then I over heard her saying that she was going to break-up with him, as happy as I was I had to tell him. So when I did it was true so now he is single again. But I have dated a lot of guys and I have never felt this strong love for him. And it's not his looks or anything it's his personality and it strange to say this but I love him. And I really want him to give me a second chance but I don't want to be rejected by him. What should I do? Should I make a move, tell him how I feel? When should I say something?! HELP ME!

I think thats very tough to have to deal with. Well you were in a realtionship with him, you probably didnt think twice on how much you liked him...before. hmmm. You know the saying "ex boyfriends are totally off-limits". Its your descion, he doesnt have a girlfriend at the moment and you were soo happy when his gf broke up with him. So i bet it wouldnt hurt if you gave it a second chance yea I ah-gree on that. Even though sometimes when you get back together with someone it doesnt always work out the way it seemed. But I wouldnt give your hopes up, since you have strong feelings for him I would just tell him you like him ay-sap. Make your move when you guys are alone maybe ask him if you could meet him somewhere after school or someplace else. Then tell him from the bottom of your heart that you want a second chance with him. Hey! He might NOT reject you. Even if he does you will have learned from him. Let him know and always do what your heart tells you to do. I hope he says yes:)
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I've known him for a while & have seen him at the same places I've been twice. I just started talking to him on IM today because I've been so shy & scared to IM him. But, I realized that I like him, and I don't know how to tell him. I want to, but I'm scared he'll think I'm ugly or whatever. I mean, I know he doesn't, but I'm scared he won't like me back.

Help?

OK. First things first you dont have to exactly tell him you like him with words. You can do something to show that you like him instead. Dont be shy around the guy you like. Just act calm and collected. You never know but I would wait until you know he likes you, then I would tell him you like him. You dont want to scare him off. So I would just gain your confidence and practice somehow soon and then start. Make sure you do it at a good time when you see him. Once you tell that boy you like him, it doesnt matter what he thinks because you told him. He might express his feelings too. Remember keep your cool and be straight forward and tell him.. be brave!
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Okay, so i have this friend of mine. His name is Ryan. He likes my other friend Samantha, but she doesn't like him at all whatsoever. So, Ryan is trying to impress or trying to figure out how he can win her over, but i am fresh out of ideas haha. I was wondering if anyone could give me advice as to what i should do in this kind of situation.

Thanks

I would try the all time charming personality for your friend ryan to do. Like you know how guys can be sweet, and girls just heart it. Tell him to be the kind of guy that every girl wants. Smile, make eye contact, tease or something. 1 of my guys friends did to tell a girl he liked her was to "accidently" bump into her. Or he can impress her by doing some kind of sport if he does one. Whatever it is make sure he doesnt do anything humilating. So...help him do something that your friend samantha enjoys. Good luck
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15/f

I kinda like my best firend. He is seriously the most amazing guy I;ve ever met. And he's kind of confused lately. He has a girlfriend but he doesn't know if he wants to stay with her or go out with me. And I feel really bad cuz he told his girlfriend this and she is obviously mad. But he still doesn't know. And I don't want to get my hopes up. How do I do that?

so hes that ah-mazing? thats tough. Again, this is bad to be doing but if you truly like this guy then I would suggest becoming friends with his girlfriend. Then you wont have to worry about all of the cat fights that come along or whatevs. Then when shes not around flirt with him, treat him as if hes yours. I'm pretty sure that the guy will make his decsion on who he likes. Remember you cant make that for him on he can so...Just be sneaky and treat that girl as if shes your best friend. And everything will work out just fine:)
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im 13 and weight 220 pounds and i dont like it!Its all in my stomach and im fat!! Im thinking i can just drink water and get full on that but cant u get sick by doing that, i dont want to eat i only want to eat a VERY lil but not nothing.. so if i drink alot of water and like a slice of bread for breackfast and a lil lunch and dinner would i lose weighted also exersizing

aw. I would make like a chart of what you need to eat like for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. And try to not eat anything with a lot of calories. Then maybe like everyday right when you get back from school or something run in your backyard maybe a MILE or 2. (recommend a spedometer or something to keep track). Running helps everything and its the best excersie you can get. What my friend ususally does is she does like 1,000 sit ups/curl ups a day. I know it sounds bizzare but its totally worth it. Try it out :)
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okay. i love my boyfriend to death. i feel like i love him a lil to much. i trust him i really do. he has showed me that i could trust him and that i have nothing to worry about. we pretty much spend every day together. but when i leave him and i'm not around him, in the back of my mind something feels werid. this is the 2nd guy i have been in love with. the 1st one moved outta state. could i be holding back how much i really love him bC of the last relationship? yes, i have talked to him about this, he understands me and listen to me, he is pretty much what i have been waiting for to come into my life. i just don't know what i need to do i don't understand why i'm so scared to leave him everyday and be away from him, i've never had this feeling before

i defintely think you are feeling the word LOVE!! I mean maybe you could just be holding back if you havent gotten over your first guy i would try doing that ay-sap! Try getting over him before you move on with the guy you are with so you feel more secure with him. Its ok that you are afraid to be away from him you are probably feeling scared of him gone. Think postive and remember that hes yours then everything will start to feel better and you'll be on track with your man lol!
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