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whats wrong with me
I feel like everyone else is always socializing and everyone else can have a good conversation except for me. wWhen im around people who are having conversation i feel like they are talking over me and withot me it seems like anything i say isnt important or pointless becasue no one would rather have a conversation with me why is this? How do i come up with interesting conversation?
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well they will talk behind your back and people will do theses thing u might have done somthing wrong or they might just not like you im sorry about this but it even happens to me sometimes
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You know people just love to talk. I mean maybe for some reason you may always be around the kind of people who just cant stop talking. Thats no problem. What you could do is get some attention from people. Because it seems like people havent really noticed you enough to talk to you in their conversations. So what I would do is get in a fun mood, maybe compliment someone and then ask an interesting question. Then Viola! You are there, you just have to play the question game, then once that happens you have to make the conversation flow.....Listen, smile, Laugh, then speak. Just go with the flow. Laugh it off if you are embarassed. The boring things you do not want to talk about would be the following: Weather, school stuff, you know such boring stuff that you could just yawn to. You can use catchy words. Just be friendly and I swear once you got all this stuff down you'll be a natural and then people wont be talking over you no more! Promise!
♥KASSIDY
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Your problem is that you have no faith in yourself. If you keep going through life thinking you cannot do something such as converse with people easily guess what?
You won't be able to. People are seeing your body language and insecurites when you try to talk with them. They don't know what to make of that or you an keep talking to the person whjo just goes with the flow and looks comfortable.
I doubt they are talking over you or trying to exclude you at all. They might be waiting for you to jump in when the time is right and have continued talking as though you weren't there as you didn't seize your opportunity to talk.
A person who can have a great conversation is one that does a lot of listening and waits for when they can jump in about a topic. Don't be scared to and just go with the flow. You just have to let go of your fears and just talk to people like you would your mom, dad, siblings as it's no different.
When it comes to making interesting conversation with others ask about their interests, ask about music and movies, sports as that always leads somewhere and don't be afraid of saying something as they just might be waiting for you to seize that opportunity and are not sure how to deal with someone afraid to talk.
You NEED to believe in yourself and know that you have the same qualities and skills to hold an interesting and natural conversation with people. Your problem is you are believing a lie about yourself and something that isn't so about your abilities.
All you need to do is practice your social skills at home and do a bit of role-play with your folks to see what you can do better in conversations and initiating them. Build confidence that way and start trying out the tips your family can give you.
You can do this. You just have to relax and start talking to people at school like you would your own family. It's no different. If they aren't receptive of you find another group of people who are.
Sometimes it's hard to break in with a bunch of people who know eachother well or are in a clique. Don't dismay though or count yourself out.
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Ok, so maybe you`re just shy?
You should try to learn about what the people around you are talking about and instead of just standing there and watching people have fun, JOIN in on their conversations but make sure you say something interesting or funny [but make sure it`s about something THEY`RE talking about.]
Don`t be shy, because life`s too short to stand around and watch other people live their lives.
Hope I helped and let me know how this goess..
<3L.
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I feel the same way alot of times! Just try to be more social.. talk about things you have in common.. that's a good idea!! Tv shows, classes you share, teachers being lame, etc.
Make inside jokes, that's always a special thing to share with someone.
Good luck.
-Katie
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