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Q: my parents are really strick, i'm a 14 yr old female and my parents wont let me talk to a guy on the phone. i've told them they were to stick and i am responsible enough to talk to a guy on the phone. and all they say is "no dating till your 17." which is toatlly off topic from talking and dating. how do i get my parents to let me talk to a guy on the phone? cause i have guy friends i cant even talk too. my dad likes to yell a lot so i'd like to say it as easy as possible. how do i say it without getting yelled at? please be specific, thanx

im really sorry! =[ that sucks. first off all, don't yell, try to show that you are responsible no matter how amd you are hold it in because yelling just aggrivates parenyts more and shows them you act like a child and don;t desrve to ahev teh privelleges you are asking for. try and do extra thigns aroudn the hosue like wahsing dishes, or doing extra cleaning anything and make sure they notice it but not by you like poitning it out to them, know what i mean? gradually they will see a mor responsible, newer more amture side of you and this amy take a while but after you have been proven "worthy" then you should start off by asking somone easier like your mom, she will understand better and let them know that you are not looking for anything dating related and tell them they can listen in on your phone calls for awhile (i know this may seem like feeding yourself to heyenas but it should work) also tell your friends not to say anything that you dont want your parents yo know

good luck!! =]

Q: What fruits are the best for you? I mean I know almost all fruits are really good for you, but what ones are the BEST for you? And why?

each fruit is good for a differnt part of your body. lemons and citrus fruits like kiwi, lemons, grapfruits, ornages are full of vitamin C which is good for your teeth,gums,bones and muscles and wards off colds. apricots and raisins are full of iron which are good for healthy blood supply and oxegen. straberries, nectarines and apricots are good for sparkling eyes, sharp ngiht vision and smooth skin. i would go with apricots. also apples are better for you then coffe in the morning. they give you more energy and don't make you crash 20 minutes later.

Q: well i got my period the first day of camp and i stil have it because its still he first week of camp. I put pads in, in the morning and since we swim first period i take it out in the bathroom and go swimming because your period temporarilly stops in water. I don't put a pad in after because i usually go to free swim at the end of the day so it would not make any sense. But my bathing suit bottoms get all bloody. Is there any way to make it easier at camp with putting the pads in.

PLEASE HELP! I rate al 5's!

thx

omigosh!! first of all im so sorry thats happening to you! thats horrible, i think the only way you can get out of that is to
a. use tampons
b. tell your counselor or whoever you cant
c. go home?

i kind of dont understnad your question firs you say you ahve free swim at the end of the daya nd you also say you ahve it right after so im confused

good luck... =]

Q: I love my best friend to death! Lately it feels like we're not as close though. We go to the same camp, but I feel like I'm always fighting for her attention against this other girl who she is good friends with from school. I feel like everytime I bring it up, she only ends up getting upset, and its not doing any good, its only pushing her farther away. I dont want to lose her, but it feels like theres nothing I can do, she seems from past expierences to go through her her "best friend" is rather quickly. last year, she was best friends with a girl she now barely talks to (no fight, they just grew apart) and a girl she was best friends at the beggining of the year they are now just rele good friends (once again no fight just grew apart...well thats not true they got in a lot of little squabbles which also scares me cuz we get in squabbles to). a few weeks ago we were getting in a lot of little fights, and I asked her if she thought we were ok, and shes like yeah there not that big and its just cuz i talk to you more than most people. Im very confused, I dont want to try talking to her again and end up saying the wrong thing, that will just land us in another fight, push her farther away, or make me seem clingly and needy. please please please give me some guidence.

I have had a friend like this also. she goes through her friends like crazy. We grew apart but i realized i could of met otehr new friends in the time i wasted on her. Theres no point in sticking in a friendship when you fight (or even squabbles) Now i have a new best friend that never fights with me. All you need to do is drop this girl and move on. As hard as it may seem you will be better off.

"A friend who makes you feel good about yourself is a good friend and a friend that makes you feel abd about yourself is a bad friend"

Q: Ok, I got twos on my report card in Conduct because i talk alot. (we are graded on a scale of 1 to 4, 1 being the best) My mom wants me to write apology letters to my teachers because its rude to talk while they are talking. Any ideas of things to say at all?

i had to write one of those too, my teacher MADE me write it to a subsitute along with the whole class. I just babbled through the whole thing, tehre's not mcuh you can say than sorry. you could write something like i hope that you won't have to put up with another class like ours and i will try and be quieter for the next class because talking not only disturbs my classmates, its disrespectful to the teacher and causes teachers jobs to get harder than they already are. Hope i helped

Alex ♥

Q: uugh everytime i shave my bikini line i get really bad bumps. i used a new venus razor and shave gel, but they still show up. THEY DO NOT GO AWAYY. lol. what can make them go away? thanks

tehre is an excellent cream for after hsaivng called bikini zone
get that

Q: what are some good songs or artists that sing songs that are like ..live it up to the fullest and just be happy and such ..and good songs ? ill rate 5's and thanks!

i lOVE THAT KINDA MuSIc

(ALL OR MOST OF THESE SOGNS CAN BE FOUND ON
www. radioblogclub .com, this site is great because you don't download the music, you just listen to it on the site, hope it works)

Here are some of my favorite "happy" songs
-Shania Twain "Up" (REALLY GOOD)
-Shania Twain "I'm Gonna Getcha Good"
-??? "Don't Worry, Be Happy"
-Beach Boys "Wouldn't It Be Nice"
-Gavin DeGraw "Chariot"
-Daniel Powter "Bad Day"
-Relient K "Be My Escape" (I LOVE This song)
-Myra "Miracles Happen"
-Krystal Harris "SuperGirl"
-Natasha bedingfield "These Words"
-MVP "Rock Ya Body"
-Coyote Ugly, leanne rhimes "Can't Fight The Moonlight"
-Eurythmics "Sweet Dreams"
-B52's "LOvesShack"
-Kelly Clarkson "Walk AWay"
-brintey Spears "Can't Make you love me"
-Smash Mouth "All Star" (GREAT SONG)
-Jackson 5 "I Want you back"
-JAck Jonhson? "Follow Me"
-Lou Bega "Mambo No. 5"
-Jason Mraz "I Won't Worry (The Remedy)"
-REM "Happy Shiny People"
-REM "Everybody Hurts"
-Lillix "What I like about you"
-Fleetwood Mac "Don't Stop" (PERFECT)
-No Doubt "Different People"
-Len "steal My Sunhine"
-Sheryl Crow "Soak Up the Sun"

I REALLy hope you like these
tell me if you do or don't
Happy LIstening!

Q: Iam bored out of my mind!! I'm going crazy, theirs absolutely nothing to do but go on the computer!! It's my summer vacation and none of my friends that live in my city are out of school yet. Can you PLEASE gice me some suggestions on waht to do, my Mom is like yelling at me for doing nothing, and wants me to go to some day camp that i hate!

I HAVE the same problem!!!!!!!!!!
I have gone crazy and few times myself. Try calling your friends and plan dates with all of them to visit their hosue for a couple of days to not be bored later. For right now heres a list of things you can do. . .
Draw, Read, Sleep, exrecise, Cook something, educate yourself on something, tan, listen to music, rearange the furniture in your room, play with your pets, meditate, learn sign language, call your friends and talk, help your mom w/what shes doing, create something (scrapbook, emmory book, quotebook, journal, whatever), think of ways to amke money, make a myspace, add friends, look through bulletins, take quizzes, give advice, watch tv, watch a movie, play a video game, go bike riding, rollerblading, think of new outfits, sing, dance, play DDR, walk to a store, play a board game, practice telling jokes, take abath with your clothes on, just tkae a bath, && read magazines

Q: my lips are swollen from being so chapped.. i try chap stick and it doesnt seem to make it better. what can i do?

I've gone through that also, and soft lips chapstick worked wonders for me. Aslo try not to pick at your lips, and apply it often. blistex and burts bee's are good also

Q: Ok, I know this is another stupid boy question but I really want to know. I have a guyfriend that I know from school that's on myspace. I really like him. He's really hot and single. Should I tell him I like him? And if I do, I'd like to do it in a way that wouldn't ruin our friendship. Seriously, I can't stop thinking about the dude. He is so FINE!!!
Please help! I really need the advice. During the school year we did flirt a lot, but I don't know what to do.

GO FOR IT GIRL!!
take the chance, tottaly!! You never know what your friendship could turn into and you will never know unless you find out. Don't worry && be confident. He might like you too and your just holding back. So trust your gut and spill your beans.
Good LUCK!!

Alex

Q: ok my ex im going to go see a movie with him on friday and he said he is going to hold my hand i say ok thats all rite and mind you i have a bf. and then in had a dream that i was going to kiss him and someone found out and told my bf and he was so upset i broke up with him before and he looked like he was going to die and i didnt like that so i invited a freind to come along so it doest look weird and she might not be able to come if she doesnt should i still go? or should i not go at all? i mean i love my bf but then im falling back in love with my ex so if i kiss him & find out i dont and love my BF does it make it ok to do? or should i even go through with this at all? idk but if i feel to do this at all i ocbiously dont have much feelings for my bf imean i say i love him but i dont feel that tingly feeilng when i see him hes just there kinda feeiling! what should i do plz help me!?

You should go just to have fun bvut don't DO ANYTHIGN WITH HIM, NOT EVEN HOLD HIS HAND!! Nothing! NADA! You don't want to hurt your b/f like that first of all,
-it gives you a bad rep
-it hurts your b/f
-your ex might be just jealous and want to play around with you
either way its not a good idea. Try asking one of your otehr firneds to go with you also. get more people to come along and reasure your boyfriends about youre lationship if you do deicde to go. If you want to play it safe you could wlays stay away. think about WHy you broke up with your ex. Is it worth breaing up with your current b/f? HWo is better? who makes you happier? Who are you more comfortable with? who GAEV you more butterflies (don't say your ex becuase uyour not sued to him obviosuly so you will ahve more 'flies with him) think about your old relatio ship. Who did u have more butterflies with? Who loved oyu? who cared about you? that is the guy you want to be with, hope i helped

Q: OMG i need to know like right now! im going to the fall out boy concert TONIGHT and i have no idea what i should wear.. its at the palace and i think im in seats not standing.. so any help would be great!!! thanks!!!!

T-SHIRT! and JEANS!! Maybe you should bring a sweater or something like a zip-up sort of a thing , ive been tehre before it gets kinda cold)with plenty or bracelets and accesories, converese would be cool NOT FLIP-FLIPS!! I REPAET NO FLIP FLOPS. Omg your so lucky your going there, i wanetd to go to that concert so badd!! cn u tell me later on how it was... thnaks

Q: what do you talk about with your friends or your crush? Im at a loss b/c im not that interesting but im not mean or anything either. what can i do to change this?

think about what he likes to do or what subject you are taking together anything that both fo you have in common, even a stupid question on h/w or something you already know can tkae you somehwhere else in a conversation. Ask questions! You don't have to do much of the tlaking and yet he is still intrseted, also people love to talk about themselves so ask what are they up to this weekend? or how was spring break? or how is spring break going? Make comments! Say what's on your mind. Be honest, be open, be confident about yourself and BE YOURSELF.
It also helps to think that this guy is the luckiest guy in the world to be talking to me, this helps you have that good state of mind and be really confident of yourself. Imagine yourself lauighing and having a good time and just be loose and trust whatyour tlaking about, don't let him put you down.
Then with your friends, just be tottaly honest and be yourself because people who mind dont matter and those who matter don't mind.
Don't let anyone change you, IF they won't like you for that they are not worth it and then you will find someone who will respect you and treat you like a queen or king.

Q: I like this boy and i Dont know if he likes me.Theres this girl anna and she says that he said to her that he liked me. But I want to believe her but she tells alout of lies. aND i HAD A DREAM HE WAS KISSING ME. and he keeps looking at me please help me!!! Thanks!!

hello, personally you can't really trust what otehr people say, better just go with your own instinct. Just because you has a ream doesn't mean anything, i ahve dreams about random people all the time, better get this taken care of quick before you get obssesed or soemthing. Ask him or ahng ut with him, it's usually pretty easy to tell if a guy likes you, if he flirts w/ you (AKA: hugs you, sits close to you, pulls your arm, touches your hair you know) if you guys tlak alot that kinda stuff hope evything goes well

Q: OK, so I have this friend Jassy. And she is making a huge mistake. She met a guy over the internet and started dating him. He, of course, lives on the other side of the country. And, being the idiot she has always been, is meeting with him over the summer. Now, if you are willing to travel 3,000 miles across country like he is, you are not 14 like he says he is.

Therefore, my friend, Jessica, and I are trying to convince her not to meet him. Jassy thinks she's safe and can trust him but she can't. Jessica felt the same about her neighbor and he molested her. Her neighbor is someone she's always known. Imagine what someone my friend doesn;t even know could do to her. Jassy keeps saying it can't happen to her. She's just being so ignorant!! What should I do? She can get extremely hurt. Sorry this is long, but my friend is putting herself in danger!

TELL HER PARENTS! TELL A COUNSELOR! TELL SOMEBODY, honestly if you care for your friend you would do it! NO MATTER WHAT, don't think twice about her safety becuase she might get rpaed an then you will regret not telling anybody.

Q: my face is pretty clear. i just have very little pimples on my forehead. how do i get rid of them, what should i use?

i want to be flawless!!

wow, just be happy with what you ahve, try some clearasil cream or proactiv. Thats really great. Just kepp up your routine and you know waht go to sleep earlier honestly, thats what makes us break out, not enough sleep, oireally think thats it. Oh also if you have bangs thats proly why.
good luck

Q: Okay there's this kid James who goes to my school. I see him as a friend but all my friends thinks he likes me. The thing is, he's not exactly what you would call friendly. Sometimes he's just really mean to me when I don't even do anything. Like this morning, my friend pushed me through a door after gym class, and now all he does is say "go run into the door" and at the end of the day I just said "Hi" and he's like "F**k you." Whenever he, or anyone, does this I get all upset sorta. I'll go "Jeez why are you so frickin mean to me?! I've never even done anything to you and you're still as mean as heck to me" When I do THIS he laughs like he was joking to begin with just to see me upset. But other times he's really nice to me. It's really confusing me.

Does he like me or not??

hmm well to sart off this caight my eye cuz i ahvea friend named james too but besides the point, that sounds like a real jerk, well there could be few options for this right here.

#1 he could just be a real jerk and secretly want to get mad at youa nd not like you and want you to get away from him, oh does he have any sib,lings cuz usually kid s with no sibligns are like this they care less about otehr people and stuff, mostly

#2 he likes you but he doesn't want you to know, some days he likes you and some days he likes other girls, i hate when guys do this, i wish he would just stick with one girl, it can get pretty annnoying after a while. I know how you feel. If your firneds are telling you he likes you they are probbaly right because your friends know a lot about you and they defnitely know that someone likes you before you do

#3 Myabe he just does that because he was in a bad mooda nd he had to tkae it out on somone and your just the person that happnes to be there at the time, can you say anger managment?

there might be more options but hey im not einstetein here, hope you find out wether he lieks you or not, hope i helped

Q: I am completely in love with this guy, he is like my best guy friend. Yet we petty fight, argue over stupid stuff(old married couple kinda stuff), but not always to the point of not talking. But there are times when it gets so far that we say harsh things to one another and break up with the other or don't talk for a day. He has been my backbone through a lot of changes in my life recently and one of the major reasons why I didn't take my life. Lately, its been nothing but fighting over stupid crap and I can't stand it. I am like an open book with him, I tell him everything that happens in my life and how I'm feeling; he on the other hand only tells what needs to be told and answers what I ask him. He doesn't like this guy I hang out with so I stopped hanging out with him just for him, but one night I ended up at a place where the kid was and we hung out. The next night, my boyfriend went out with a girl he has feelings for to get back at me. I really am fed up with this and my friends say to just walk away from him, but my heart won't let me. Should I just walk away b/c he is such a jerk or what?? If so, how? He is truly the only guy I want to be with and even with treating me like crap and me not trusting him around girls, I am still in love with him. :( Please, please help me!!!

Well if he is hurting your feelings already, what can you expect of your relationship, just because you guys are going to be dating doesn't mean it's going to solve all of your problems. I mean maybe you could try talking to him before, like amking sure you like him, and remember that you are risking your friendship but i guess you thought through that, i mean if you decide that you wanted to be with him then you defiinitely should tlak to him and tell him how you feel, be real and hoenst and open, don't expect him to be honest right then, it might take a while but ocne he notices what a differnce your rreltaionship is with him then he might understand and back off. He'll lobe you so much he'll just let you tkae control of him, you know waht i mean. Don't jump into a already troubled relationship and don't let the problems go further than they already have because you never know waht could happen, so tlak to him first. GOOD LUCK!

Q: i try to put foundation on and my acne is...still dark red. o.o; how can i lighten it? i dunno what i'm doing wrong.
i see other peoples makeup and it's covered nicely but for my face..it's not.

okay well, i know what you mean exactly that used to happen to mine. If you really want to use foundatio and cover it up, maybe you should try tanning to get a darker skin tone and tehn you could use darker cover up and it would cover better. My skin is light colored and i got a darker cover up to cover better (a LILTTLE BIT DARKER) and it does but i look like im tan on my face, i try bledning but its better to just go tanning and then you would get a tan AND look better with covetrr-up ik tho thats just my opinion

Q: i'm on the yearbook staff at my school. we're trying to think of themes for next year. do any of y'all have any ideas? what have been the themes for yearbooks at y'all's schools? the name of my school is pine tree, if that helps.

do a rollercoaster theme! like different roller coaster ridesa nd stuff with things like the school year being one big ride of your life and then its opver so fast. or maybe you could do a wonders of the world theme. Like there are different wonders like the great wall of china, mt.everest and stuff like that also a tv theme. Like tv shows and entermtainment. A big hit would aslo be a music themne. With notes and stuff. Like a song is a school year and it tkaes a long time to perfect and someitmes it doesnt come out too well but you still ahve to listen to it no matter hwat dn theere are consequences. or hmm maybe a animal theme, with like bevarrs and racoonsa nd skunksa nd foxes since your shcool is pine woods or Oh holidays! yeah holidays try doing that like differnt kinds of holidays for each person or hrade or somehting. Thats all ive got hope ive helped!