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my friendship feels like its dying
I love my best friend to death! Lately it feels like we're not as close though. We go to the same camp, but I feel like I'm always fighting for her attention against this other girl who she is good friends with from school. I feel like everytime I bring it up, she only ends up getting upset, and its not doing any good, its only pushing her farther away. I dont want to lose her, but it feels like theres nothing I can do, she seems from past expierences to go through her her "best friend" is rather quickly. last year, she was best friends with a girl she now barely talks to (no fight, they just grew apart) and a girl she was best friends at the beggining of the year they are now just rele good friends (once again no fight just grew apart...well thats not true they got in a lot of little squabbles which also scares me cuz we get in squabbles to). a few weeks ago we were getting in a lot of little fights, and I asked her if she thought we were ok, and shes like yeah there not that big and its just cuz i talk to you more than most people. Im very confused, I dont want to try talking to her again and end up saying the wrong thing, that will just land us in another fight, push her farther away, or make me seem clingly and needy. please please please give me some guidence.
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you do not want to sound desparte for her attention now. i think you should just give her some time if you guys are good friends or best friends then you guys should just relax and let things go the way they are going. if she really considers you as her best friend then she will try to work things out with you. i dont think you should be the only one trying to make things better in your friendship. i think you should just let things go the way they are going and wait and see what happenes. i think if things are ment to be then they will happen
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I have had a friend like this also. she goes through her friends like crazy. We grew apart but i realized i could of met otehr new friends in the time i wasted on her. Theres no point in sticking in a friendship when you fight (or even squabbles) Now i have a new best friend that never fights with me. All you need to do is drop this girl and move on. As hard as it may seem you will be better off.
"A friend who makes you feel good about yourself is a good friend and a friend that makes you feel abd about yourself is a bad friend"
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I understand the feelings you are having about you and your friend. In fact, a lot of people know what you're feeling because not all friends stay good friends or even stay friends forever and they do grow apart.
You know for sure that she's always going through best friends pretty quickly and that might be what's going on since it always has been. Let's face the facts by saying that you've basically tried everything you could to keep this friendship burning as well as it used to and it doesn't seem to be working. What you have to do is accept that you and your friend won't be as close as you used to be and that's what happens a lot. Friends will come and go, people in your life will come and go. That's why we meet new people, new best friends, new boyfriends or girlfriends so that we can move on with those people instead of trying to go back in the past and trying to figure out what made her move on.
Moving on to new people and letting go of the old is apart of life and it's something you'll always be dealing with.
-TheTeenGirl
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