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do you put eyelinear on your top eye and mascara on your bottom eye lash? does it look good? or is it too much?

I put eyeliner more on my top and then just a little on the bottom. Then I put mascara on top and bottom. You can do different things, it all depends on what looks good on you.

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Im a 16/m. Today my kinda girlfriend told me that she started talking to her ex and her feelings came back for him. I say kinda because i never asked her to be my girlfriend because her parents didn't want her to be in a relationship. I told her that if im keeping them apart then i would stop talking to her. She said she cant be with him right now but she didn't say why i think it was a distance thing. Then she told me that she still wants to talk as friends but i cant do that she already hurt me before i don't think i could take it again. So i said goodbye and i asked her if she could stop talking to me completely so i could get over it faster. I don't know what to do i feel sick ive been crying for the past 4 hours and i have to see her tomorrow at school i have her for my last class of the day. And i see her in the halls.
Can someone help me.Tell me about your experiences, or how to get over this, something to look forward to; should i try to get back with her or let her go?

Because of the fact that you two aren't in an official relationship, its hard to give advice. If you guys were really together, my advice would be to break up with her. When did she start talking to her ex? When did she get those feelings for him again? Honesty and communication is essential in a relationship and something that is lacking on her part.
In your case, I also think you did the right thing. If she wants to talk to her ex, those feelings are NEVER going to go away. So even if you stayed "kinda boyfriend/girlfriend", you'd have to deal with him always being in the picture. And if you guys were talking as friends, your feelings for her will NEVER go away.
Its hard right now, trying to get over her and it might take awhile. It took me about 6 months to get over my ex...6 MONTHS! of crying and depression. But I'm just a complete wierdo so I'm sure that won't happen to you. My point is, it won't be easy at first but you just have to stay strong. Take this time to find out more about yourself. A very important thing is, don't try to find another girl to replace her/to make you happy again. From experience, I've learned that the best thing to do is to get over that person completely. Get over them to the point where you're happy again, just being single and loving yourself. You don't want another girl to be the rebound and you don't want to still have feelings for this other girl.
I hope all this helps.

♥ steph.

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so i was with my friends at the mall like 2-3 weeks ago. we were just following people around for the fun of it. so we saw these two hot guys who looked about our age and we followed them into this store. they were like playing with these things and i just go up to them and start playing with them too.( we decided to make ourselves look kinda creepy. haha) and like everytime the hotter one would turn around i'd be in his face. haha
but like i asked for his number and he gave it to me. and like 2 hours late (i had been texting him)
he called me to make sure it was me and was like i think your hott. when are we gonna make love (i know he was kidding. haha)
and we texted like the rest of that night.
i was like i'm gonna fail this paper. he was like i think you deserve a 100 for whatever you do.
and little things like that.
so we texted each other for a week. then he just kinda stopped texting me. but then when it came around to the weekends he would text me being like you wanna hang out? and coincidentally i had already made plans. for like 2 weeks in a row.
but he texts me and stuff saying things like:
hey babe.
yeah babe only for you.
and he even asked me if i was prude and i was like kinda. and he was like well maybe as i get to know you better we can change that.
i know you already hun.
and we talk on myspace and stuff and he is like babe and honay. and stuff like that.
i don't know. and he started not to really reply to me. and i kinda like him...i don't know. hes in highschool and i'm in eighth grade. but hes a freshman.
but like he wouldn't reply so i was like do you wanna hang out this weekend. and he was like yes. that would be cool.
so now we're gonna like hang out.
but do you think he likes me?
i don't know. i mean he doesn't have to text me like all the time but it seems he only talks to me if i talk to him first. i DON'T like making all the moves. i don't even know. i've never been in a relationship before. i have no idea what i'm even doing. i just want advice. haha

Its kind of hard to say. Freshman are a different type of breed haha. But from what it sounds like, he probably does like you. But don't rush into things and don't let yourself fall too hard (I found this out the hard way). Perhaps he's busy or that maybe he's talking to other girls (and there's nothing wrong with that, both of you are technically single)...this is why I say don't fall too hard. There's nothing wrong about hanging out with him (with friends or one on one).
If I were in your shoes, I would hang out with him. This gives you the chance to get to know him better in person, what he's like as a date, etc.
If there is one piece of advice you take from me, please let it be this: do not move too fast. The part where you said you're a prude, you're not a prude. Hopefully you just have morals and don't do anything you'd regret if say, the two of you didn't work out. But you can still have fun and hang out.

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I always wake up once I have about 5 hours of sleep.
I've tried to sleep more because I heard you needed it for teens.

I was really tired so I went to bed at 10 and I woke up around 2-3. I couldn't go back to sleep. It's already 7 now.

So what's wrong with me?

Well, its good for teens to get about 7 hours of sleep each night. But if you're waking up after about 5 hours and going on with the day and not getting tired, then I don't think its that big of a deal.
If you want to get more sleep, after you wake up, just kind of concentrate on nothing. Don't think too much about whatever.
First concentrate on your toes and think about them getting stiff...then think of your legs...then think of your stomache...chest, arms fingers etc. and only focus on your body parts. We learned that in psychology and its supposed to help you fall asleep. It def works for me, you should go ahead and try it.
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16/f
I've been in girlscouts for about 10 years. I've been with the same girls in my troop for that long. We are down to about 10 of us. We are all working toward our Gold Award, which is the last award. Then, we complete girlscouts.
This summer, we are going on a cruise. I want to do something really special for all of them. Maybe buy them each a little something, or make a toast at one of the dinners on the cruise.
Its just .. these girls and i have been through soo much and I just want to show them that I appreciate all the itme we've spent together.
Ideas for something special wanted!
Thanks!

Its good to see someone going towards their Gold Award! I was in Girl Scouts for 8 years. I started when I was in 5th grade and I went all the way to the end of my Senior year & I had my ceremony in June-ish of 2006. I worked on my Gold Award from sophmore year until Senior year of high school. Its a challenging thing but it feels good to be able to say that you've earned it. And even though you haven't finished yet, I still give you major props and want to say Congratulations!

Thats awesome that you're going on a cruise, it'll be a lot of fun to go with them together (my troop went to Orlando, FL back when we were sophmores with our Cookie $$) especially since you guys have known eachother forever. You should definately do something special for them. If you have a lot of pictures from over the years I would try and either do a slide show on the computer (if you have a scanner, scan the old "pre-digital camera era" pictures) & add music to it. Make each girl a copy of the DVD. Thats an inexpensive almost no cost gift, just a tad bit time consuming if anything so if you still want to buy them a little something that would be awesome. You can even get individual pictures of each of the girls (maybe even a baby picture as well) and like introduce each girl in the very beginning and then have like a group photo introducting "Troop ###". If you're not good with the computer gather all the pictures and get copys of them and create an actual photo album for each of them. Those would be awesome. You can ask each of the girls to give you the pictures that they have as well so you can get copys of everyones.

Hope this helps. You're not spending too much money plus its one of those gifts that come from the heart :)

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i like acoustic things, or really pretty, beautiful songs like Sia, Breathe Me but i don't know of many artists with songs like these :/

I've never listened to that song :(
Buuut you can always check on myspace like look in the acoustic category. Or http://www.allmusic.com; if you search for that artist, it'll give you a bio and a list of their CD's plus influences & similar artists.
Hope this helps. Please rate.
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I want a purpose in life. I don't think I have one. I'm lonely all the time. My friends don't come and see me anymore. I go to school once a week and do a packet to earn credits.. while they have school. I guess Juniors have more work to do.. but just one day to hang out would be nice. I feel lonely and a last resort. All i do is spend my days with my boyfriend. It's nice BELIEVE ME. but i haven't seen my friends in like 6-7 months..

and no one will hire 16 year olds.. so what am i supposed to do? i'm home all week except for one day..

Since a lot of places won't hire 16 year olds, you can try doing some volunteer work somewhere.

Before I had my first job I was a Candy Striper at a local hospital. I worked in the Adminstration Department and that helped me gain experience a bit.

Theres many different places that you can volunteer at. Church, helping with kids, schools, hospitals, animal shelters, etc.

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I been crushing on my best friend for 8 years now. and i finally told her about my feelings. she said she doesnt feel the same way, but she ask me why i like her. just stop me from my tracks. i stood there realzing that i dont know why i like her like that. all i know she is my very first long trem crush and first girl crush. i couldnt belive that i like her and now i dont know why. she is so annoying and so passvie and it drives me up the wall. she doesnt care too much of her self and she doesnt think for her self. when i first met her she looked very sad and unhappy. then i help her from her famliy and health issuess. so why do i like her???? i told her (lara) that the reason why i like her. this is what i said "i dont know, you just attract me in some way and its hard to put into words". she said "oh". and the odd thing is i told her three times that i like her. every night and day i think about her but i shouldnt. i need to get over her and i cant. because she is my best friend and i hang out with her every other week with our friends too. but how can i get over her? yes they say look for some one eles, or be very busy. but let me tell you this:
1.i am very busy
2.i cant look for someone else when i might move out of town next year.

that is my plan to move on is to move away but it is a maybe and my friends dont like it even lara.But they cant stop me. for now i just cant get her off my mind.
but i dont know why im in love with her?
is that love????

Bi/F/20

Its okay that you don't understand why you like her. I don't know why I'm in love with who I'm in love with... its an unexplainable feeling & thats okay.

I'm sorry that she doesn't feel the same way about you and thats very difficult I'm sure. This might not be the answer that you're looking for but you pretty much have it down. Just stay busy and keep your options open. Don't just shut everyone else out because you have your mind set on this one girl.

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I am going away to college, about a half hour from my boyfriend. We have been dating a while now and I want to know something sweet I can do for him or give him before I leave for college. I also want some ideas of what to do while I am in college to make sure we keep in touch and stay together. Thank you!

A half hour is NOTHING. Trust me. If you two love eachother and want things to work out, they will.

As far as keeping in touch, call eachother, send e-mails, send pictures, etc. Its really not that far. If you have no classes that day, drive and see him. If he's not busy, have him come and see you. Even if its just for lunch hour or something, if he's free & gas/transporation isn't a big issue, then he should be willing to drive a half hour to see you.
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theres a guy i like in my church group and we have church sleep overs (for our youth group only) and the leaders always fall asleep really fast and we go into the sanctuary and make out (and the other people in the group just stay downstairs cus they're watchi ng a movie) and i absolutely love him he's the perfect guy with like glasses and not popular but when you take them off u see a really handsome face with gorgeous eyes and i'm not a popular girl so this is absolutely awesome for me. after like 15-20 mins we go downstairs and we get in our own sleeping bags but i woke up one morning and we were still in our sleeping bags but like right up against eachother like literally i woke up against his cheast and i would really really really like to know if it would be a bad idea to do any romantic things with my guy because we're in church but isnt it like the perfect place? lol. No but he's sooo awesome and sweet and i just dont want to wake up like naked and be embarrased. he respects me so its not like he'd rape me or take advatage of me. i just want to know whether you guys think it's bad to express my love for him in a church because you never know...ahg i don't know please any advice to help clear my mind would be greatly appreciate. Thanks. o by the way, im 14/f.

You could always hang out with him outside of church or church camp. Its cute that you two met there and everything but I hope he's not like the only reason you go and the only reason you want to go is so...you can make out with him. You should want to go and build your relationship with God. But anyways, you should try and and out with him outside of church camp. I wouldn't go any farther than you two have gone while you're in church. Make plans with him outside and see where you two end up!
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ok so my absolutely lovely girlfriend is out of town for three weeks. what are some ways that can stop me from missing her so much?

hang out with the guys and go do activities you usually wouldn't take your girlfriend to do [ that doesn't include cheating on her, hooking up with other girls, etc. ].

orrr you can work on something for three weeks and suprise her with it. building something, making a photo album of pictures of the two of you, friends, parties, etc.

i know it'll be hard but try not to think about her being gone so much. don't just foreget about her [ i doubt you would ], but sometimes when you're just sitting there thinking about her and you two together it makes things tough. try to get your mind off of it & concentrate on other things.

just be glad its only for 3 weeks. navy relationships are hard... try being apart for 6-7 months due to deployments =(

you'll be fine, don't worry.
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difference between jealousy and envy?

jealousy is more of a negative attitude towards someone while envy is more of a positive.

for example, if you're hating on me because... i have a really nice boyfriend and we've been together for awhile but you also want a really nice boyfriend & want to have a good relationship with someone, then you're jealous of me.

if you're happy for the two of us, and you want what we have with someone of your own, you're envious of me. and him.
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Okay, you know those bracelets that come in different colors? The Jelly Bracelets I believe? Well some people twist them together, but what does it mean if they don't wear them twisted together? And what do the black and gray ones mean? I've been wondering...
I heard the black ones can mean a lot of things such as child abuse, trauma, and/or mourning. But then I realized they were talking about kiwi jewels, and I don't think those are the same thing. And on he same website it said the gray could mean mental illness, diabetes, and things like that. So, what do the gray and black jelly bracelets mean?

Ehh no one really wears them because of the meaning, they just wear them because they like the colors or whatever.

Yeah, theres a game out there where, if someone rips one off they get to do something with you and the colors symbolized different things [ white=kissing, black=sex, etc. ] but idk where they actually do that. I'm from Southern California and I never saw or heard it happen, I'm only aware of it because of the news.

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i am a 13 year old who hasnt gone out with a guy yet! ugh.. i wanna feel how it feels to be in a relationship and have the guy love me in that way and i'll be able to have my first kiss and all that. it hasnt happened yet and i notice like everyone i know practically has already gotten their first kiss or first boyfriend.. not that im in a race to get one, i just let it come to me and if i see a guy thats cute, i'll say hes cute and stuff.. i just wanna be in a relationship and stuff!!

and i've been asked out by guys about 5 times but i dunno if they're being serious or joking. how can you tell? only three of those 5 times i knew it was a joke... but i really dunno! i reply "no" to them because i dont see them that way like romantically or anything.. ugggggggggghhh what do i do and stuff? thanks

i was a lot like you. i didn't have any of that until i was way older. it was something i wanted so much but it never felt right. boys would do that and i would say no too for the same reasons.

yeah it sucks knowing that everyone around you has already been through everything but don't just get your first kiss or your first boyfriend because everyone else is doing it... seriously, you should wait. wait until the time feels right and you feel like the boys right, it makes everything better and you'll be like "yeah, it was worth it". i waited and i'm glad i did... that boy was worth it :)

idk if this is good advice [ i haven't done this in a couple of weeks ] but i'm just saying i know what you're going through because i went through it too... and this is what i did & it might work for you as well.

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when i see girls i like i tend to freeze up....yeah so what are things you can talk about after school, in the hall ways, on aim, and on the phone?

try not to be so nervous lol. just relex and be yourself. i used to freeze up around guys but now i've gotten over it. you probably will get over it too.

talk about classes/what classes they have. bands you like/bands they like. sports [ if you're into sports ]. what they're doing this weekend. and sometimes random/funny comments won't even hurt. its really wierd but sometimes people bond while hating/complaining about something. like that stupid ass worksheet you have to do in math? yeah, most likely that one girl hates it too lol. negativity isn't really a good thing and i try to stay positive but sometimes you can really bond with it... i know, it sounds wierd but i think you know what i mean.

good luck, and just relax. be yourself though, don't be someone you're not.
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Is it weird or pathetic that i'm 17 and haven't had a bf or kissed anyone?

Not at all.
Just be patient and when he's the right boy and its the right time, it'll happen.

I didn't get my first kiss until later on either. I'm glad I waited though, it was well worth it.

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The skin on my face is starting to peel, and I'm not sure why. I'm out of my face scrub so that isn't an option. What can I do to smooth my skin?

Try face moisturizer. Make sure its face moisturizer though... not just any kind. When I was younger I put like hand lotion on my face and I broke out, lol. I was younger so I didn't really know anything.
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there's this girl I know who makes tote bags and sells them. it's a really cute business and it's going really well for her. I was wondering if you could give me any ideas about something like that to sell. thank you

a couple of guys at my school have "clothing lines" & they pretty much design t-shirts and stuff. they'll take their brand name and just make cool pictures on t-shirts and stuff. something like this http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=155890855 but not as "advanced" but how they just make shirts and stuff? pretty much like that. and one guy even makes tote bags as well. i would give out their brand names but i don't feel comfortable doing that lol. but its really cool. just be original & it'll go good.
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what are some songs about summer and stuff? for example, summertime by kenny chesney, summer by tasty merc, or in the summer by m something? anyways tell me some other ones besides them. thanks

Doin' Time - Sublime

haha. thats all i got. bands like slightly stoopid, sublime, pepper, jack johnson, bob marley, ben harper all are good to listen to in the summer [ or all the time ], but they don't all necessarily have songs ABOUT summer.
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16, female

well theres this guy, we're pretty good friends =) actually we call each other "best friends" as a joke but i fell hard for him last summer, because we would flirt soo much and it was adorable, lets just say hes a stud. but he didnt know i fell for him, and i didnt wanna say anything because he was interested in this girl and plus we were so close it would of been wayyy to awkward they but they ended up goin out and this hurt me =( keep in mind they're still going out and hes says its been like 10 months already!! anyways all summer i was sad, but we still kinda flirted. then i tried getting over him, and i finally realized i had no feelings other than just being friends with him and we could still hangout alot and i would be fine but now lately i am getting these "feelings" back. like tonight it was me and him and my cousin and like at the restaraunt i was like day dreaming and they started walking without me and then im like thanks guys!!! and they're already sitting down and i start walking over and he scoots in so i can sit by him. and then he like takes my phone, reads my texts, and i try to get it from him, we touch hands/hold for a sec but i just dont know! we were like this in the summer, then it stopped and now it seems like its starting again. and when we were sitting he put his arm like behind me, like on the seat (if you know what im talking about) but i just wanted to like lay my head on his chest, and once he got really close to my face and looked at me and just smiled and i couldnt stop thinking about how much i wanted to be with him. it would be soooo much easier if he didnt have a girlfriend but shes soo pretty and i know he loves her, she loves him and it kills me to see the "i love you, alot" in her profile, and it saying i love my boyfriend he is amazing and same for his. i hate when he talks about her, it makes me so jealous of what they have. i mean i want him to be happy but its killing me!! i wish i could hangout with him without having these feelings and talking to him wont help because he'll just say im sorry, i love sarah (his girlfriend) or it would just make things SOOO unbelievable weird between us. what should i do?! i hangout with other guys too, its not like i just hangout with him. i thought last summer, oh they wont last, maybe i'll just wait and see what happens, and they're still going STRONG.....these two quotes explain how im feeling EXACTLY.. "i hate the way you can push me to the limits with the things you do & then you know just the right time to say something sweet to make me fall for you all over again" *i know you just want to be friends .. and that's okay with me .. but please just stop making me fall even harder*.

This situation may be really tough & its hard to turn feelings like that "off" & "on".

You can either tell him or write him a letter. Some people would say that it wouldn't be a good idea. It could be awkward after and it may ruin the friendship. But that kind of thing only happens if you let it happen. If you don't, then you could most likely still keep a friendship. Just now, all the feelings are out in the open. But you mustn't cross the line because remember, he does have a girlfriend and kind of off-limits. The good thing about writing the letter and letting him know, is that maybe he has similar feelings for you. Personally it sounds like he does. They way his actions are, make it seem like he likes you an a more-than-friends way. But also, have you ever thought... maybe he's just a friendly person? Notice the way he talks to other girls [ besides his girlfriend ]. Do you notice the same chemistry going on between them as you do with him? Because it could be, that he's just a friendly guy.

Hmm. I know your situation kind of sucks. My advice above may not have been good but thats probably because its not something I would do... its just another option. I've been in a situation similar to yours [ except I wasn't aware that he was interested in another girl but he was ]. When I realized they started going out I was hurt more than anything. I really thought things could work out between us. I gave it time and got over it. But I didn't want to lose him so I figured if we just had to be friends, then so be it. But he was doing the same thing, giving me signs that he liked me [ still ]. I never would want to be a girl that just flirts and tries to get guys regardless if they have a girlfriend or not. I would semi-act on it [ like the things he would say to me, etc. ] because I liked him very very much and hey, its how I felt. But I would say things like "Its not the same, you have a girlfriend now." I gave it time and eventually he realized he didn't want to be with her but with me. Annnddd... I guess you could say "we lived happily ever after" haha. But yeah, thats what I ended up doing.

Well, this may not have been the best advice but thats what I did. Good luck.
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