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HOW TO MOVE ON FROM MY BEST FRIEND <3...
16, female
well theres this guy, we're pretty good friends =) actually we call each other "best friends" as a joke but i fell hard for him last summer, because we would flirt soo much and it was adorable, lets just say hes a stud. but he didnt know i fell for him, and i didnt wanna say anything because he was interested in this girl and plus we were so close it would of been wayyy to awkward they but they ended up goin out and this hurt me =( keep in mind they're still going out and hes says its been like 10 months already!! anyways all summer i was sad, but we still kinda flirted. then i tried getting over him, and i finally realized i had no feelings other than just being friends with him and we could still hangout alot and i would be fine but now lately i am getting these "feelings" back. like tonight it was me and him and my cousin and like at the restaraunt i was like day dreaming and they started walking without me and then im like thanks guys!!! and they're already sitting down and i start walking over and he scoots in so i can sit by him. and then he like takes my phone, reads my texts, and i try to get it from him, we touch hands/hold for a sec but i just dont know! we were like this in the summer, then it stopped and now it seems like its starting again. and when we were sitting he put his arm like behind me, like on the seat (if you know what im talking about) but i just wanted to like lay my head on his chest, and once he got really close to my face and looked at me and just smiled and i couldnt stop thinking about how much i wanted to be with him. it would be soooo much easier if he didnt have a girlfriend but shes soo pretty and i know he loves her, she loves him and it kills me to see the "i love you, alot" in her profile, and it saying i love my boyfriend he is amazing and same for his. i hate when he talks about her, it makes me so jealous of what they have. i mean i want him to be happy but its killing me!! i wish i could hangout with him without having these feelings and talking to him wont help because he'll just say im sorry, i love sarah (his girlfriend) or it would just make things SOOO unbelievable weird between us. what should i do?! i hangout with other guys too, its not like i just hangout with him. i thought last summer, oh they wont last, maybe i'll just wait and see what happens, and they're still going STRONG.....these two quotes explain how im feeling EXACTLY.. "i hate the way you can push me to the limits with the things you do & then you know just the right time to say something sweet to make me fall for you all over again" *i know you just want to be friends .. and that's okay with me .. but please just stop making me fall even harder*.
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This situation may be really tough & its hard to turn feelings like that "off" & "on".
You can either tell him or write him a letter. Some people would say that it wouldn't be a good idea. It could be awkward after and it may ruin the friendship. But that kind of thing only happens if you let it happen. If you don't, then you could most likely still keep a friendship. Just now, all the feelings are out in the open. But you mustn't cross the line because remember, he does have a girlfriend and kind of off-limits. The good thing about writing the letter and letting him know, is that maybe he has similar feelings for you. Personally it sounds like he does. They way his actions are, make it seem like he likes you an a more-than-friends way. But also, have you ever thought... maybe he's just a friendly person? Notice the way he talks to other girls [ besides his girlfriend ]. Do you notice the same chemistry going on between them as you do with him? Because it could be, that he's just a friendly guy.
Hmm. I know your situation kind of sucks. My advice above may not have been good but thats probably because its not something I would do... its just another option. I've been in a situation similar to yours [ except I wasn't aware that he was interested in another girl but he was ]. When I realized they started going out I was hurt more than anything. I really thought things could work out between us. I gave it time and got over it. But I didn't want to lose him so I figured if we just had to be friends, then so be it. But he was doing the same thing, giving me signs that he liked me [ still ]. I never would want to be a girl that just flirts and tries to get guys regardless if they have a girlfriend or not. I would semi-act on it [ like the things he would say to me, etc. ] because I liked him very very much and hey, its how I felt. But I would say things like "Its not the same, you have a girlfriend now." I gave it time and eventually he realized he didn't want to be with her but with me. Annnddd... I guess you could say "we lived happily ever after" haha. But yeah, thats what I ended up doing.
Well, this may not have been the best advice but thats what I did. Good luck.
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My Best friend ever is the guy i am in love with. The only thing is is he knows. Our relationship started out like that. we are not together and infact he has a girl friend now but i still love him. him and i are how do i describe it.. waiting i guess. because if he was single we would date and almost have many times. you know you like him and it sounds to me like he likes you he just is very caught up in his girl friend. when they break up he will be by your side asking your questions about her and you'll be there to comfort him. the way you talk about it he flirts with you alot and seems to like you. its my best guess he does because if he didnt he wouldnt linger when you two touched. you would just be one of the guys to him. hope i helped at all.
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