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well I'm a VERY open minded person.I can have any random conversation with anyone.I like to danse and to have fun with friends.And I'd like to make new friends all over the world.

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Okay so thanks for opening this up and wasting 5 mins. of your life on me. LoL. Anyways I just wanted to know what is going on in this dude's head. So I know this guy and he went out with this girl for like 3 years and really they seemed like they were in love. Okay so I saw them hanging out and he seemed like he really loved her but two weeks later he breaks up with her because he is bored with her and he wants to explore other people. I really didnt see how he could just break up with her and not say anything but that he's bored. I mean doesnt he miss her? He said he was in a depressive relationship with her. But then he tries to get hooked up with another girl that doesnt like him back and he gets all depressed yet he still doesnt run back to his old girlfriend! After he realizes that the girl that he liked didnt want anything to do with him he then again moves on to another girl that he is now going out with now. I just dont understand how he can just move on from a beautiful girl that he talked to all the time and hanged around everyday of his life almost! For three years. It just seems unreal to me. Does anyone understand?

humm itsnot to be rude or anything but does this long and amazing story has to do something with u???why are you so concerned??is it you the girl he left ?I just dont get why you are so intrigued about all this...

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16, female

well theres this guy, we're pretty good friends =) actually we call each other "best friends" as a joke but i fell hard for him last summer, because we would flirt soo much and it was adorable, lets just say hes a stud. but he didnt know i fell for him, and i didnt wanna say anything because he was interested in this girl and plus we were so close it would of been wayyy to awkward they but they ended up goin out and this hurt me =( keep in mind they're still going out and hes says its been like 10 months already!! anyways all summer i was sad, but we still kinda flirted. then i tried getting over him, and i finally realized i had no feelings other than just being friends with him and we could still hangout alot and i would be fine but now lately i am getting these "feelings" back. like tonight it was me and him and my cousin and like at the restaraunt i was like day dreaming and they started walking without me and then im like thanks guys!!! and they're already sitting down and i start walking over and he scoots in so i can sit by him. and then he like takes my phone, reads my texts, and i try to get it from him, we touch hands/hold for a sec but i just dont know! we were like this in the summer, then it stopped and now it seems like its starting again. and when we were sitting he put his arm like behind me, like on the seat (if you know what im talking about) but i just wanted to like lay my head on his chest, and once he got really close to my face and looked at me and just smiled and i couldnt stop thinking about how much i wanted to be with him. it would be soooo much easier if he didnt have a girlfriend but shes soo pretty and i know he loves her, she loves him and it kills me to see the "i love you, alot" in her profile, and it saying i love my boyfriend he is amazing and same for his. i hate when he talks about her, it makes me so jealous of what they have. i mean i want him to be happy but its killing me!! i wish i could hangout with him without having these feelings and talking to him wont help because he'll just say im sorry, i love sarah (his girlfriend) or it would just make things SOOO unbelievable weird between us. what should i do?! i hangout with other guys too, its not like i just hangout with him. i thought last summer, oh they wont last, maybe i'll just wait and see what happens, and they're still going STRONG.....these two quotes explain how im feeling EXACTLY.. "i hate the way you can push me to the limits with the things you do & then you know just the right time to say something sweet to make me fall for you all over again" *i know you just want to be friends .. and that's okay with me .. but please just stop making me fall even harder*.

AYT.i just got ur answer bcause i was very busy with school so i never logged on my account since the last time i wrote u.but i just added you!hope we'll talk soon!p.s:my sn is tisexy89.im me whenever you're online.

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ok i have these two best friends, molly and tabitha. there the best friends i could ever have and i would hate to loose them, but sometimes they just walk away from me or something. i dont know why, but they never wait for me to go to lunch, ( we hve the same class before lunch) and they just expect me to come running after them, and they always say " oochemo, come on!!! ( thats my nickname), and they will just be hanging out with me and run off together, and then when ever i go off and just leave them alone, thinking they want alone time, they always ask if im mad at them!! and i do get mad at them cuz they always leave me, and i am really getting mad. ive talked to them about it and they still do it. what should i do? im really sorry that this is really long. i just need really good advice.

OK first you have to calm down.Second,sence you've already spoke to them about it there are not really alot of solutions.To me conversation is the key of everything.So i suggest you go talk to them a second time and if they still continue to act that way then you just back off for a while just to make them come after you.Try to show them that theyre not the only friends you have,and if they are then make new friends because trust me you can make your world around only two people.I'm not telling you to get over them and stop being their friend but just take a litle step off so they can see that u actually can live without them.If they are your real friend i can garanty you that they'll come to you and never do what they are doing to you anymore.If they dont come to you.then you know that you are not as meanigful to them as they are for you.I'M NOT TELLIN YOU IT WILL HAPPEN!i hope it doesnt but i've been there too and I lost alot of friends so I can tell you about it.just talk to them and then give them some time.if they dont come back to you then you will find other friends and make sure this time that they are TRUE.
hope I helped!
Larissa

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she flirts with everyone! including me! Now she is single, how do I make her choose me over the other 5-6 boys she is acting like this with, and She definitly doesnt place me on top of them, yet :-P

1)flirt with her too
2)show her you are serious about it and you take the fact she's flirting with you very seriously
3)do thing the other guys she's flirting with dont
4)Be a friend to her..yup most of the gils fall for their friends(been there yet)
5)hang out with her..like do things together just the two of you
6)TELL HER how you feel..if you like her,tell her,if you wanna get to know her more,tell her,if you love her,tell her.
7)Be yourself!

there are plenty of tips to win a girl's heart.but the most important are first of all to tell her that you are intersted so at least you know where you stand and to be yourself no matter what.dont try to be someone your not just to please her
Hope I helped!
holla if u need more tips
Larissa =)

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what does this say to you
im a 14 yr old girl
does it say i like you
or like i want to be your friend with benefits???
what does it say
im way confused...


would you makeout with me me?
[] Hell Yea [x] Yes [] No [] Maybe

Would you sleep with me?
[] In an instant! [] Yes [] No [x] Maybe

Am I attractive?
[] Heck no [] hot as Hell [] Fine [x] Cute [] Okay [] Ugly!

Do you think I'm a virgin?
[x] Yes [] No [] Don't know

Name one thing you would like to do to me... [eh hang out]


I look like..
[] A player
[] One time thing
[/] Next bf/gf
[x] A friend
[x] A friend with benefits
[] A possibility
[] A loser

If you saw me for the first time would you talk to me?
[x] Yes [] No [] maybe

Would you rather.. ??
[x] Hook up with me
[x] Cuddle with me
[] Date me
[x] Friends
[] Friends with benefits

On a scale of 1-10 (10 being the highest), rate me..
[] 1 [] 2 [] 3 [] 4 [] 5 [] 6 [x] 7 [x] 8 [] 9 [] 10

What would you want me to be to you?
[x] Friend
[/] Girlfriend/Boyfriend
[x] Friend with benefits
[] Husband/Wife

Would you give me a lapdance?
[x] Hell Yea [] Yes [] No [] Maybe

Would u give me your number if so let me get it?you got it

thanks

I think he want to be just your friend for now and maybe later he'll see what he wants to do.but for now he doesnt want anything too serious to be between you guys.

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14 / f and my best friend is 14 /f

well. my best friend lives in another town - not far, like
30 or so minutes. so she goes to another school.

well we call each other our best friend - but the thing is,
she's ALWAYS busy. and like, i thought i thought up a
solution - to just send really really long emails and when
she gets a chance, she can respond.

well i have written several long emails, but she hasn't
responded. i know she's not mad at me cause she does
not have a reason to be, but i think she's just busy.

it's really frustrating - i dont really like anyone from my
school. so i always look to her for guidance with
my problems and such.

i have tried talking to her about it, and she apologizes
proFUSEly but it just.. she's just a busy girl.

i have a diary, but it's not the same as a person.
i have other friends, but i can't tell them stuff like
i tell her.

please help...

I think you should just talk to her about it and if she doesnt react like if she continues to be too busy for you just give her some time.I was in the exact same situation lately with my best friend.I moved last year and lately she never had time for me because she was too busy doing other stuff..I did the same thing you did,write her lonnnnnng letters everyday and she still couldnt reply.my only solution was to back off for a while and next thing you know she calls me and acts like whats wrong with you?you dont even botter writing me anymore and stuff..well she told me the thing was that she was as busy as your best friend is so she never had the time to reply my emails but she alwayz read them and she was happy i took the time to write her everyday.and the fact that she never replied didnt mean she forgot about me..
well anywayz lemme tell you something:if your friendship with your best friend is solid enough then a litle distance and some unreplied emails dont mean sh*t.dont worry about it soon she'll realize something's missing in her life and she'll get back at you.I promise!
And remember:"true friends never go away" so even if you guys arent as close as you used to be,im sure she'll alawys be here for you.

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I really like this guy but i think he might only be looking for a hookup..(because he likes someone else too and whenever their around he hangs out with them) im for sure he really does like me so how can i show him that im serious about this and i dont just want to mess around??

Also my friend has band practice with him and she was going to be like "yea she decided that if your not gonna ask her out soon shes just gonna not bother messing around with you anymore" im not sure if this is such a great idea what do u guys think??

Well I dont think its necessary that your friend talks to him.just go by yourself and tell him about the way you feel toward him and you'll see what happens next.im sure he will apreciate it more if its you who go talk to him.

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okay so ive liked this guy for almost two years and we used to talk all the time and we went out then i said some stuff to get him to break up with me. and it worked, now for the two years that ive liked him he wont really talk to me. if i call him and he feels like talking he will act like he likes me and tell me he wants to do stuff with me but then he wont talk to me again. a couple weeks ago i went to see him (we live in different towns) and we made out and now he wont talk to me. he really hurts me
what should i do?

You should just tell him how you feel.thats the only way you'll get everything cleared up.other than that u will never know.your not even sure he hates you.maybe he was hurt that you made him break up.I think you should just go and tell him how you feel about it.have a heart to heart conversation with him and see what happens next.but right now you cant be sure of anything.so just go for it.you never know what might happen..maybe he likes you too!

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ok, so yesterday i went to my boyfriends house. we were messing around and he fingered me like really hard and when i got home, i noticed i was bleeding. did he pop my cherry? am i still considered a virgin? im so confused and worried b/c i didnt want to have sex or lose my virginity til im married

Well calm down.maybe he went a litle bit far but i doubt a finger could be long enough to pop your cherry.and even if it did,yes you would still be a virgin.its ONLY when you have sex that your not a virgin.being fingered well means..being fingered and having sex(witch makes you no longer a virgin)is when the boy penetrates your vigina with his penis.Sorry to go that straight but gotta face it;)
hope I helped!
Larissa

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ok this is not a joke.
i went on my dads computer to do research for a paper we have to write for my science class, and when i went to history he had all this stuff like " hotel sex, gaymen's club" and gross stuff like that and his yahoo email was logged in so i went to it and he had all these messages like "where do you live do you want me to f*ck you or you to f*ck me" and he answered w/ "i live ______ do u have lube and a condom?" (the ____ is where we live" and i like am really scared that he is gay!

and i take after him and i think i might be a lesbian! i really doNOT want 2 be one but i think i am kinda aliitle bit.


so what im asking is how do i no if hes gay or not and how do i make sure i dont become a lsbian?



thanx in advance i will rate high ANY advice.

Hey i really dont think you should make such a big deal out of it.I know it might be hard to accept such a weird thing from your dad but you cant just jump to conclusions like that:
1-you dont really have solid proof that hes a gay.He might just be joking around..i alwayz do those kind of stuffs online=/
and 2-the fact that your dad would eventually be a gay doesnt make you a lesbian.these kinds of things arent hereditary.trust me.

well i really dont suggest you to go and talk to him about it.He could take bad the fact that you went into his personal stuff.So my only advice to you is to calm down and focus on what you do and really dont let the idea of you being a lesbian get into your mind...that might get you to it.just relax and cntinue live your life.

hope I helped and if you need more advices i'll be here.
Larissou

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okay so some of you guys may remember i had this problem with a guy named brandon and hes black and 17 and im white and 15 and i said that he wouldnt wait for me to losse my virginity and if i didnt losse it to him by friday then it would be over!!!

well now i just got done talking to him and he asked me a weird question he said if you could have one wish what would it be and i said for you to wait until im ready to losse my virginity so we just started talking and then sometimes it would be silent then he said babe imah tell you what forget friday and forget everything i want you to stay a virgin im gonna wait for you.Then he said whats wrong babe and i said nothing and he said i know when somethings on my babys mind.and i said i just really love you and he said i love you too.Then i said i dont want anything to be weird now between us.He said baby its not gonna be we still go out and i still love you.IM SO GLAD I CHANGED HIS MIND AND HES GONNA WAIT FOR ME!!! but what do i do now.......

so funny!...well now you WAIT until your ready.dont just go for it because he accepeted to wait!just enjoy the moment being with him and when the right time comes you will do it.It could also be a good way to see if he truly loves you by him waiting for real..maybe he just told you he'd wait hoping you being all touched and decide to do it yet.
well do waterver u feel like doing but alwayz keep your head straight and think about what might hapen next so you dont regret.
good luck
Larissa

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ok my best friend has new and first gf they hung out like whole spring break and today i asked him if we could catch a movie on friday but he said that he is goin to the mall wit his gf
he said i could come but i dint answer because it rele had to get off the phone
so if i go will i be just a third wheel or is this a good way to meet his gf
i want to know her because ya know i need to c if she is good for him
and please no ooooo u like him and stuf because i dont 15 f

thanx in advance

well i think you should go and have a good time with them.if hes really your best friend he will no let u out and if your not sure i suggest you to go with another friend of yours in case he does.
but anywayz i can understand you not liking him dont worry.just go meet your eventual sister in law ahah
and have fun
Larissou

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I'm 16/m. How can I tell my best friend i have feelings for her...without pretty much just saying "I have feelings for you?" I mean I want to I guess hint at it, beacuse I don't want to ruin the friendship.

hey I've benn in the exact same situation lately..well my best guy friend was in love with me(...)and well after a looonnnnng hesitating he finally said it.well he didnt went that straight like"i have feelings u" he started byt telling me how i was meanigful to him and stuff and finnaly i think i was the one who told him i liked him(cause i did too)and most of the time best friends do have feelings for each other.so i suggest you just go for it starting by telling her how you really feel about her(talk with you heart without no fears) and then depending on her reaction you will tell her that u like her.
good luck!
Larissa

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14/f and hes 15/m (both in same grade)

ok i loved this guy for so long and towards like may of last year i told him i loved him and he said we should just be friends. but i've talked to like 3 of his really close friends and they said that they thought he really loved me. i don't understand. why would he pretend? any ideas? also, it's been awhile (seems like forever) since this happened and i still can't get over him..i really love him ..what should i do? should i just forget about him? were friends now and we do talk and stuff but if i were to just bring up the fact of me and him being in a relationship together it'd be really awkward...thanks for helpingg.

I think thats since your very close to him now you should bring it up again.just go like hum i really like you and i need to know where im stand so do you like me too?dont be afraid.if you guys are true friends then eventually if he doesnt like you he will tell you no and everything will continue to be as normal(maybe after a week or 2 eventually)and if he likes you he will tell you as much.just go for it if you really want it.because you have nothing to lose by telling him but that eventually if he says no you will be a litle cold for a while.but you do have to lose by not telling him and never knowing wher you stand( you have 50% chances he says he loves you back)well i suggest you tell him and after that you will know if either u have to move on or do something about it.

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What are signs of a cheating bf..and what would make a boy want to cheat? thanks..idk if im being to paranoid or not so i wanted to get your guys imput

Well hum I personnaly dont think there really are signs because some guys are very smart and wont let you know theyre cheating on you if they dont want u to know(true players!!)trust me I ve benn going out with a guy who was constantly cheating on me for years and i was convinced he never did until i found out...AFTER we broke up.so honestly if your bf is cheating on you and doesnt want you to know:u wont know!..but a guy friend of mine told me this and i totally agree with him..the fact that your bf is cheating on you does not mean he doesnt like you.
and nothing can make a guy cheating but either him being a little or should i say alot distracted by other girls or maybe the fact that his gf might not satisfy him enough..so if you are paranoid as you say i avice you to five a lot of attention to your bf and spend time with him(without being too stiky)
hope i helped!
Larissa:)

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ok. my problem is that when i like a guy, i make it way
obvious (not on purpose) by flirting with them and talk-
ing to them etc. and just making eye contact. i can't
help it. it's like a feeling of being noticed, sort of.

but i
only do this with guys i know i have a chance with. not
"popular" guys that i like. how do i stop being so flirty
and messing up my chances so quickly? it's like i start
digging him, and then i come on so fast like by flirting
and talking etc. that i feel like they dont like me.

how do
i take it slow, and not be so flirtatious all the time? +
please dont say "'it's okay to be flirty." cause i know it's
okay to be flirty, but i just dont want to be so flirty so
fast! and so much. help?

Well i suggest you start by trying to know them fist before starting acting flirty.and even thoug i think ITS OK TO BE FLIRTY [boys like that trust me i have 4 brothers!!=)] but if you wanna stop just go to them with the idea of being only friends with them..hope you dont flirt with your friends 8) hum but I think u just shouldnt go that straight ..and eventually wait until they come to you..its not always good for a girl to go after guys.
hope i helped!
Larissa:)

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im 15/f. if i find out a guy i like likes me back, i usually lose interest in him. am i not ready for a boyfried or what? its seriously annoying and id love it to stop

If they don't like you back then its not meant to be.Trust me when the ONE(S)will come they'll like you back.just dont force things to happen and everything is gonna be just fine.remember this "if it's meant to be,it will be.If it isnt..then it wont be".so dont pressure yourself,one day you'll find someone you like who will like you back.I garanty you this.Larissa

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Is it possible to get a photo from my computer to my phone? As in, get a picture I have saved on my computer to be my wallpaper on my cell.

it depens on the kind of cellfone you got!if u have blutooth or a usb cable.guess u could do that.i do it with my RAZR via usb cable

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HI, I'm not fat, my stomach is just a little chubby. If I cut back on sweets and drink more water and do at least 100 push ups a day and run at least 10 minutes around a track, will my stomach be flatter in 2 weeks?

push ups only make your arms bigger!!what you should do is a litlt bit more sit-ups and eat alot of pinaple lol i know it seems weird but trust me it works!

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hiiii my name's yasi and i'm rlllly cool. :) yea be jealous ok anyways there's this guy and he is soooooooo gorgeous his name is ZBIGNIEW ZENTAVIOUS ZITKALASA he's fat, hairy, and has bad smelling breath! !!!!!!!!!!!! ;) and im like obsesseed but eveyrone else says that i'm retarded :( cry me a riverrrrrrrr ok yea wellll WHAT DO I DO HE IS THE MAN OF MY DREAMS

lol babe dont worry about what what others think.If you like him,then go for it.you might regret it later.so i suggest you go talk to him and become his friend then you'll see later if he really is the man of your reams like you said LOL.anyways holla if you need more advices;)
Larissou
p.s:u seem really cool..that makes two of us;)

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