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Q: i have a friend who is so cool but her older brother likes me and he is 19 and is leaving on his mission next month and i 16 cant stop this guy who likes me and he is also my neighbor which is hard my family and theres are really good friend. so any advice would help so thanks.

your friend and her brother are two different people.
Tell your friend what you see and (maybe not too harshly) how you feel bout it.
if she is your friend she will at least try to understand despite the fact that he's her brother.
If he pulls a move and you are not interested, say no, nothing wrong with that, its not like a holy war is going to break out.
unless he tries to force the situation... which is when you start shouting "RAPE! RAPE!" at the top of your lungs.

gluck!

Q: im going to try and keep this short because theres only 2000 max. well ive been friends with this girl for over a year now and have had many problems. shes a senior & im a sophomore in highschool. i met her through my brother who is also a senior.. last summer she screwed me over and made me believe she was alaways here for me and i could trust her and then talked behind my back and ignored me and hung out w other people but me. and then made me feel worthless, yes having me as her pet on the side only when she had no one else. then we became close again after 4 months of not talking.. and we became really close and really good. we tell each other how we feel and what bothers us; and wen we fight hardcore we always get passed it.. but shes always ditching me and with other ppl and i guess i get jealous but she says she does too. she doesnt even make an effort to ask me to hang out with her.. i honestly dont know what to do.. can people really change? is she lying wen she says she cares if shes lied in the past about things? do i continue being close with her? the honest truth is i cant see us not being friends... i dont know what it is but she always makes me happy-with little things she says or does.. i dont know what to do.. because then theres other times where she screws me over, makes me feel horrible and bad and i get upset alot about stuff she says or does.. i just feel like sometimes she doesnt care about us being friends beause of the things shes says and they way she acts sometimes. but wen were good and close im nothing but happy and am always smiling.. but theres still jealousy. and i dont know why because she has nothing i want? if anything, she told me she wants what i have... but i dont know what to do. i cant stand being hurt and fooled by her anymore... but shes the onlyone who always makes me truly happy. i could type on forever about our friendship but ill stop here for now... any ideas?

in short, get away from her.

in long...
take a long look at how she behaves socially, does she give everybody lip service?
Look at how she treats and talks about other people in front of you, and then then she faces them.
draw up the patterns and decide yourself.

but she or the relationship is unstable,
if you want to be grown-up about it, confront her with what you see and see if things change... and you don't have to squint your eyes to see the so-called change.
watch out for lip-service, lots of people are very good at talking "nice".

My Best

Q: okay, im 15, and at my school there's this girl i like A LOT. i see her every day, and she's in all of my classes, and she rides my bus. She lives 2 houses down. I've known her since i was 4, but i REALLY REALLY like her, but im not sure if she likes me, i mean, im not sure if she just wants to stay friends or not, so im not sure if i should ask her or not. anybody wanna help me?

NEVER TELL A WOMAN YOU LIKE HER!

I'm giving the same advice as I gave another guy.
there are going to be lots of other girls you REALLY like, sadly even while going out with another girl... we are all human beings... though we dont have to always act out on these feelings!
So DONT think of her as the one and only!!!!

You already know her pretty well, so don't "Ask Her Out",
spend time with her, joke around, tease her, play with her.
If she is laughing and enjoying herself around you, she probably likes you, unless she wants something :|.

Then lay in wait for the right moment, (casually&slowly) lean in and kiss her.

I've read somewhere that the hair test is a sure sign, touch-play with her hair, if she doesn't back-off violently, you have the green light... a bit hard with girls shaving all their hair off nowadays.

Best of luck to you :)

Q: Guys - Do you like girls to shave 'down there', trim, or leave it?

errr... take a honest look at yourself in the mirror.
Does it kinda look like a spider?
If yes, then it might just have boys running for the hills, and a trimming is in order.

Otherwise, do what you please.

Blush

Q: Is this okay to do?I've always heard it's better to shave with warm-hot water,but whenever I do I get all cut up.I tried cold water today and there weren't any problems but I think I heard something about having a chance of getting ingrown hairs or something like this...

just to dodge the whole ingrown hair scenario (even if untrue), hot water gives the better shave.
Take your time and get to know your face while shaving, figure out how to shave which parts or your face.
Unless you want to try a electric shaver.

Q: i was at a sleepover and 2 of my friends talked crap about my other friend and i told my friend they did and that friend is gonna tell the friends who did it that she knows...and they're gonna find out its me but they're my good friends and i dont want them to hate me WHAT DO I DO!!!!

unless you want to become a politician, NEVER GET INVOLVED IN POLITICS.

unless she already told about your shameful betrayal, tell the friend to keep it to herself or you might never let go of such juicy tidbits ever again (besides you might never get them again).

AND the bible does contain a part about something along the lines of "don't sit in the circle of the" ...err... s**t-talkers. So in a way LadyH is right.

any case, if they already know... hard luck, it'll probably blow over in due time, but you did betray the trust and if you feel up to it, you'll have to earn it back.

But rest assured we have all made THAT mistake repeatedly, and life does go on.
good luck to you.

Q: To start off im 14/M

I really started liking this girl and i told her. She was like okay i don't like you back but i'll still be friends.

So recently we started talking alot

i think a wee bit too much for our own good cause we stayed up till like 3 in the morning talking on the phone

and I really feel this connection with her and i just want her so bad that id almost do anything

but the poopy part is that she likes another guy

and hes like my best friend

so i give her pointers like on what to do so everytime she gets closer to her i feel like shes getting farther from me

but i always tell myself whatever makes her happy but i feel so sad sometimes that shes getting farther away

what can i do so that we can get something going?

first off, you are 14, there WILL be other girls to have a connection to, so do yourself a favor and DONT think of her as the one and only.

Dont give the pointers, you are obviously shooting yourself in the foot, and where it might seem like the honorable thing to do, its not the good and right thing to do for you, your feelings have just as much credibility as hers, plus always being the nice guy like this will leave you alone and bitter.
I'm not at all saying to shoot anybody down, but its not your job to help anything along.

NEVER say you like them in ANY way (before they do), just by spending time with her, you telling her that already. Plus doing the emotional thing makes them think you are weak.

Spend time with her, just as friends. talk with her, play with her, joke with her, tease her allot about ALL her faults (IMPORTANT!!! but not in cruel way...).
Then look for the right moment, and kiss her...(you may not, but i have had it happen to me... don't go emotional then :D).
Then do this step over and over.

Trust me if she is laughing and enjoying herself with you... whats your friends name again?

and if it doesn't work out... remember the first part.

good luck and VIVA LE RESISTANCE!!!

Q: Alright, to make this simple, I'm in love with two guys as weird as it sounds. One of them is my first love ever, and the other is my second. My first love started back in seventh grade, and I'm in 10th now. The second just started this year. My first love wants to be together again so badly, and says he loves me back, but sometimes I don't believe it. We've been on and off since seventh grade also. No one wants me with my second love, including my family, but he loves me so much and I can tell. I think that maybe my first love thinks we're together right now, but a couple of days ago I had sex with the second love =/ I'm not sure what to do right now, and advice would be great. Thank you!

cut the first one lose.
if you can't do it, lose the second...
and if you can't do that either, cut yourself lose, ur just going to hurt them both.
take some time off and sort it out.

Q: I've been dating this guy for a month, we've gone on 3 dates, he's 2 years older than me. We're both gay and he's in the closet... I don't know whether or not I should ask him to be my boyfriend or wait for him to ask me... What should I do? His birthday is coming up and I was thinking we could have a candle lit dinner and then I'd ask him if he would like to be my boyfriend in a like proposal sort of way ^_^. He's going to be 19 and i'm 17. We both share roles so that it's not strictly dominant/non dominant. So... yeah any advice?? He's never been in a relationship before and i've been in two... Anymore questions just ask me!

he doesn't have experience...so take the lead and ask him.
goodluck

Q: 13/f
i posted a queastion like this before, but i must have left something out because it was very misinterpreted.

i like this guy. i told him i liked him, but he doesnt like me back. he likes my friend (i new this even before i told him). my friend and him are good friends, but she has a boyfriend (11 months so it wont end any time soon). she doesnt like him back obviously,but he still likes her. the guy i liked asked me out, but it was months ago, but he did used to like me (i rejected him then). what should i do?

if you love someone, set them free, if they dont come back...HUNT THEM DONW AND KILL THEM!
hehe, soz... but let it go and move on, if he comes around good for you, if he doesn't... you've moved on.
tempting i know, but don't kill him though ;)

Q: I'm so depressed, I only found out this morning that my dad wants us to move house, he says he doesn't know where...Just go. We only just got here really, haven't been here long , but it's a really great place and we all love it here. I don't know why he wants to go. I'm just about to start a new school, a new job and now we have to go?! All that aside, the best thing that's ever happened to me will be taken away from me. My boyfriend is the most perfect, beautiful person and I'm so scared I'll lose him, that's my biggest concern. I love him more than anything and I just don't think I can let him go. My dad is often all talk no action but I dunno this time. I can often talk him out of stuff....Please, I need help, what will I do? Now I havent even started school or my new job yet...and I just could bear to leave.

Thanks

talk to your dad, why does he want to leave a place he just moved to?
try to get more "dad" related reasons (or awnsers) for staying and tell him about it.
hope i helped and good luck

Q: i dont know.. lately i just feel like i really wanna be called beautiful.. or smart..or just anything positive, i feel like i really need to hear something good about myself or hear someone tell me they love me, or atleast admire me or something.. thats weird, right? like i feel kinda lonely, and unappreciated. and i dont know what to do to get rid of this feeling. its like i cant feel goood about myself unless someone tells me im good. and i cant feel beautiful unless someone tells me im beautiful. and i cant feel smart unless someone tells me im smart. you get the picture right?

so what do i do about it??

there are alot of people who feel the same way.
but...you can be a leech and always suck the strenght of off other people or you may become your own best friend. im willing to bet that you never have someshing good to say to yourself. stop it, and start telling yourself the things you want to hear.
"£$% everybody else, theres not always going to be people around to pick you up, so learn to do it yourself.
do EVERYTHING and ANYTHING to build your self esteem, even if you have to go for therapy. it WILL be worth it, and you ARE worth the effort.
sorry if i sound a bit harsh, best of luck to you.

Q: 14/f i like this guy who likes me back & ive been talking to him for a while but im sick of waiting. i couldve been with other people but i really like him & hes really nice but im tired of waiting what should i do?

aah, welcome to the 21st century...
make the first move and kiss him.

Q: well this girl named B asked my boyfriend out and stuff and then her friend said they hookedup .. i didnt know who to believe so i gave my bf the benifit of the doubt. but i was with him yesterday and on his recieved calls there was a call from her from the 19th. i dont know what to do or how to respond because of everything that happened. he said he didnt tell me because he didnt want me to get mad. im not sure though

well,
Tell him what you heard (not from who!!!), and ask him about it. then if you aren't satisfied with the awnsers, make it clear what you feel, even if it means getting him to have no contact with her.
He has to respect your feelings... unless you get jeolous of every girl he talks to... then you should get a handle on your emotions.
trust is very important in any relationship.
goodluck

Q: My boyfriend has been through a lot of stress this week and he said its best not to talk to no one and he doesnt answer his phone, but I have talked to him face to face he is not mad at me but life is just getting to him. What are some things I can do to make him feel better or something romantic to do?

maybe show up naked? that would destress me :)
it would be good for him to talk about it...not bottle it up, but don't put stress on him to talk.
just be around him, show him you love him no matter what, try to have a little fun with him, get his mind on something else.

Q: has anyone else had a wish come true on a shooting star, the first star out at night or something similar??

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yes, but i was willing to work hard for it.

Q: my best guy friend says that he wants to have sex with me before we graduate. we're sophmores. i dont mind because i care about him because he is one of my best friends but if i have sex with him will it ruin our friendship?

but most of the time it just complicates the friendship, and its usually a good start for a friendship circles demise.
but its not as simple as that, it all depends on what kind of people you are.

Q: alright well i'm 90% sure i want to break up with my boyfriend.. but idk what im goin to say.. he broke up with me last week and he got his friend to call me and say "john wants to break up with you. bye" (he asked me out the next day, which is how we are going out again). so i was maybe thinking i could get my friend to call him and say the exact same thign to see how he feels! or i might say "hey i think we should just take break from each other and just let things smooth out" because we got in a fight earlier today.. and hes just too dramatic and he always brings a lot of unneeded drama. so someone please help me. how should i do it?? and should i do it on the phone?

do it the way you think he should have done it.
and no i really think its bad taste to break up over the phone, face your demons.

Q: I'm getting to the point where I can't stand to be around my boyfriend. He is really frustrating me. I don't really consider myself unreasonable and I feel really guilty about all this. He's constantly analyzing every aspect of our relationship on whether it's considered "sinful" or not. He even went on about kissing and how it must be considered 'selfish' to a persons own desires. He reads all these sexual purity books and gets his morality and philosophy from them. He is really stiff and concerned about purity.. I know most girls would love a guy who isn't sex obsessed, but sometimes I think it'd be better if he was. I feel I'm not worthy when I'm around him. I always feel like shit when he preaches about morals and stuff. what should I do? is it stupid to care about this? i feel like i'm making a big deal and should just accept it and move on.

thanks

not stupid to feel this way,
maybe start listening to what he says and challange him on some points, like kissing being selfish, what a load of crock, if you are both enjoying it its NOT selfish is it?
it is selfish to rape someone.
tell him to lighten up, a relationship should have fun too, not just preaching.
If he no budge, don't make a big deal, accept it and move on.

goodluck

Q: Hi everyone!

My name is Todd, and I am a 15-year-old teenager. Well, my question is whether or not I should take the next step. Let me explain.

About close to a year ago, I met this girl, Andrea, in my Freshman year, and she and I didn't date, but we were good friends. We were both the same age, but I was about a month older. Through the months, we knew more and more about each other from our last names to what candy we like.

As strange as it seems, I've never had a relationship, much less my first kiss. I am trying to see if Andrea likes me or not, but more than a friendship. Some relationships can be harsh, so I don't want to try that, but I just want to know if she has the same or at least similar feelings that I do for her.

I am always glad to be around her, and sometimes I hang around her more than some of my other friends. I've also noticed that when I am with her at lunch, she wants these other girls at the table to go away, since they're annoying, but I'm not sure if it's just because she wants to be alone with me or something, since she and I usually sit alone.

As far as hanging out goes, she and I have hung out at my home once, and we've seen each other at school. I've been trying to hang out with her more, but she has a dysfunctional family which makes it tough for us to hang out on weekends. She is also depressed, so I try to help her through it.

I have been trying to show her that I love her by telling her that I care about her, how much I do care about her, and by doing things for her, like buying her gifts or getting things for her. Whoa, lot of "her"s in that one. Well, anyway, she never freaks out, but she always smiles and sometimes nods her head up and down a little bit. She might say things like "that's nice" or "thanks", but I never really can tell if she is nervous or anxious. I remember when I told her that I did really care about her, she smiled but she kind of laughed, and she said "I'm sorry for laughing...".

So, I would like to ask if I should take the next step and try asking her out. My parents have said I shouldn't because of her family, and some of my friends have said to go for it, just because she's single.

Thanks for reading this.

Todd

carefull, don't get too attached to her and stop buying her stuff, and showing her you care, maybe once every 6 months or so untill you are in a relationship with her, for now it shows you care by simply being her friend and taking of your time to be around her. In short don't get clingy too soon!
For now she is your friend and thats it.
I KNOW that when she laughted it must have been bad for you.

If you like her enough to take the first step go for it, else don't bugger up a good friendship.
Be the man and lead the relationship where you want it to go.