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I understand all the pain you go through. I see the tears I see the pain I see it all, don't hide behind a fake smile because it'll get stuck.
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I used to smoked weed for like half a year yet i do not think it was that much. I have depersonaliosation/derealization, i also at times get anxiety attacks and depression led to it as well. My sleeping schedule is off, i think i'm going crazy. My mother and my sister were in the kitchen while i was in the bathroom and i thought i heard my sis crying loud and i went to them and tapped her and she looked at me...she was fine and i was like "whaaa" ...anyhow, i sometimes understand things in a different way. I also feel useless to this world (have no job) im 17....i also think i see one thing but is not...they aren't serious at all i think. I feel like i often push people away, like a mean side comes out of me but i mean no harm :/ or am i meant to be an asshole? (link)
Well for starters your not alone. I never did weed but I do to push people away. Because of weed you may have after affects from when you were doing it drugs can make your moods and emotions towards others change and your actions are different but you're fine. Its probably just side affects from the drugs.


look im an failure of med field i know all the method of suicideBUTTHERE IS NO IDEAL SUICIDEAGAR KOI BHI WAY SR SUICIDE KI AUR BY CHANCE BACH GAYE TO THAT LIFE WILL BE SO CRUAL AS ADDING MORE PROBLEM SO by all your expert knowledeplease tell me HOW TO DO SUICIDE WITHIN SECOND ? (link)
Why would you ever want to commit suicide? That's terrible. No one is a complete failure we do sometimes mess up and we deal with it and move on you can kill your self over one little failure. sabrynalstatt@gmail.com inbox me anytime


i think im bipolar.. ive read alot about it online and in books because ive had people ask me if i was.. what do i do? Do i just have to live with it? My emotions do change rapidly all the time .. (link)
IF your bipolar than your moods and emotions do change. Are you suicidal? or cut yourself over some difficult problems? inbox me anytime! Well my email is sabrynalstatt@gmail.com email me when ya need me! I can help !!!!


I have trouble dealing with my shyness. It prevents me from making friends and asking girls out what should I do? (link)
If you're really shy than the only advice I have for you is to try to find a way out of your comfort zone. Once you have done that you will be able to talk and make new friends that you wish to have.


16 and already giving up. thats sad. the best years of someones life is right after school when you go start your own life as far from your old one as possible. then it all goes down hill in mid twenties and thirties. (link)
You should never give up on yourself. You are supposed to live your life to the fullest. Don't let yourself down. Your stronger than that. I am here if you need to talk. Best of Luck!


I always end up running back to a girl at my school. I hate it because I don't have a chance with her and she's way to "cool" for me .I've had feelings on and off for her for about 2 years.I'm 14m and she's in my grade,but I want to know how to completely forget about her romantically. I want her as a friend but I want to stop crawling back to her. Any help would me very much appreciated guys! A THOUSAND thanks! :D (link)
Maybe for a while you can try not associating with her. If you aren't around her as much and don't talk to her as much your emotions for her romantically will decrease and you will be over your "crush" I would say. Good luck!


I crave for a true purpose in life. I would like to help people and do something that really matters. But I feel like I'm so incapable of reaching my goals... or maybe I don't have any definite goals anymore. I always have this fear. I know it's very unnecessary and I don't need it. But it's always here in me. I want to say something, to speak my heart or just to simply be wherever I am. I think I've lost my voice and I can't simply say what's in my heart. I always run away. That's why I don't have a stable job, never been with a relationship and I don't want to be this way anymore. Maybe I know what to do but I feel like it's so hard to start and I don't have the strength anymore. I need help. Please I beg for help. (link)
It is hard to let go of fears. Everyone has looks for a true purpose in their life. Everyone is capable of exceeding towards their goals if you believe in yourself you can do anything. If you don't think you can speak the words you truly feel...you can write them and express them to others. I do that; like when I can't express the words I feel I write them down and let others read them. There are lots of other ways to speak your mind without verbal usage. Life's purpose isn't to run away from problems, but rather to face them and overcome them. Best of Luck!


Okay I'm from Philippines. And my problem is i don't know yet what to buy anniversary gift for my bf. And its hard for me to think cause i don't have a job yet that's why i can't buy expensive gifts for him even though i want to buy an expensive just for him. My money is 500php plus.. Can you please give me some idea what to buy since my money is 500php only? And what should i do to make him happy and memorable on our 1st Annversary.. Thanks! (link)
You could get your boyfriend a special non-expensive necklace or bracelet. Something that expresses all the the memories you two have had together. You could try making something yourself and give it to him. If you made it; it will have more value to him. Best or Luck!


What should I do if my parents sell illegal drugs ? Like weed ? (link)
Well I advise that if your parents are selling illegal drugs
That you need to tell the police about it...I know that you
Love your parents but the action is illegal and could
Ruin your life in the future. Sorry to hear about that.


Im a 15 year old girl. I went to my friends party it was our last day of 8th grade. Her friend from Michigan city came by. We started talking and he asked me for my number. We are both 15. We've been talking every day since then. Its only been like two weeks. He asked me if i would do a long distance relationship. I dont know what to do can you help me?? (link)
Sure. If you think you can hold a lob distance
Relationship with him then go for it but its nothing
People can actually help you with...simply because it
Is with your feelings not anyone else.


What's the easiest & free cell phone tracking app out there? (link)
If you have a smartphone...then my
recommendation would be to download the
IPhone finder app or similar names like that. :)


I have a friend called tiffany.. She is a good friend and she goes to the same school as me. But ever since she has come to my school I have been getting into more trouble but I'm not sure whether it her influence or its me?? Her dad says I'm a bad influence on her but my mom says she's a bad influence on me ? So I have (on my own) decided to move school away from her was that the right decision tho? (link)
If your friend Tiffany is a bad influence on you and making you change from what you were than it might be the best way to get away. I know how you feel. I think you did the right thing to move to another school where she wouldn't have that much of an influence on you.


i feel so depressed i don't know whats wrong with me, i don't smile the way i used to i feel empty. I'm so stressed at the moment i hardly sleep, i literally want to cry everyday but im so strong at holding it in me, a part of me misses my old old life , the person i used to be. I hate who i am now I hate feeling this way, i keep lying to myself thinking everything is perfect when i know inside its not, i don't even feel attractive anymore, i feel ugly, i just want to get away from everyone else i've had enough... (link)
I understand exactly what you are going through. Depression isn't easy by any means but there are other ways to treat depression. When you feel ugly you can say to yourself I am beautiful and I know it. The stress...can be relieved if you take warm baths. IF you ever need anyone to talk to about your depression I'm here for you okay. I have a question though...are you being bullied at all? If so I have a lot of answers and suggestions that could really help you.


Heey everyone! Me and a few others in my class had a bit of a debate over something. So I would like to see what u think about the answer.. so we were wondering if its possible to grind up food into very small peices like microscopic then inject it intobyour bloodstream? (link)
Yes. The process is possible...but the food even if microscopic it's still not good for you. It can cause all types of diseases and could possibly kill you.


what does it mean whwn u use a tampon 4 the 1st time & stop bleeding when its only been the 2nd day of ur period? havent bled 4 2 hours (link)
All girls are different. Some girls periods only last 2-8 days or more or less. It might just mean you only have your period for 2 days.


I always get bullied for being one f the "fat" girls. And i just don't know how to make them stop. I have starved myself for 3 days and i only lost 6 pounds. I am just sick of this, Everyday i know there is going to be a person who is going to be calling me fat or fatty. I have stayed home for like a week in a half (in total) Just because i didn't want to go to school. But now i am being forced to go because i got a letter from my school saying that if i miss one more day then i will go to Juvenal court. So now every day i have no choice but to go though hell for 8 hours.
So can someone help me and tell me what i can do to loose some weight? (link)
You don't need to purge or starve yourself to lose weight. You simply need a dieting program or a exercise plan. You're not fat, you are simply fuller figured. You don't need to be skinny. If you aren't happy with your weight than you can like I said try a dieting program...Drink a lot of water when your hungry that is satisfying but it will help you lose weight. of course, you still have to eat though. Goodluck!


Can I get rid of stretch marks by natural ways ? (link)
I've heard that if you use Cocoa Butter lotion to stretch marks that it will decrease the size of stretch marks.


I have really large, almost buggy eyes that everyone makes fun of. they are big and they practically bulge. they're not that bad, but there's like a line under my eyes. they are blue. I have middle length blond hair that is really thin.. its light blonde and has a purple streak. I'm a girl, 13, and 88 lbs. , and 5 foot 2 and my breasts are 36B I'm not like stick skinny, though. I'm just skin, bones and muscle.

my best friends say I'm gorgeous and they wish they looked like me, but other people like some guys and girls say I'm ugly and weird. I get depressed about this, and one time I carved ugly into my arm with a pointy stick...

Do I sound ugly? I'm in middle school, also. (link)
You are gorgeous. Everyone is. It doesn't matter what hair you have or the weight you are. Everyone is beautiful. You are beautiful. You shouldn't take the anger and hurt and put it on yourself. I am here if you ever need to talk to someone. I don't judge people and I never will.


I work in rows on my scarred skin
My razor my spade my drug allowing me to feel again
People chant Yolo and live in the now
But when I catch my reflection in the mirror all I see is a fat sow
When I look down my future is in binds
Scars and fat is all I find
I cant even breath
Ive bloodied my sleeve
I always have people say theyre always there
But I feel as if no one really cares
As the pain and vomit urges me to bid good bye
The pain and blood will sing me their sorrowful lulliby.





Please help me.im 13 a girl and am hopeless.I cant stop.
(link)
Like others say, you aren't alone. A lot of people go through what you are going through. Ive experienced what you are going through. I write all the good things about myself and repeat them over and over. People are going to judge but your not alone in this. I know its not easy to stop but you can try though. You are worth it. You are somebody. Nobody is fat. They are maybe fuller-figured. Its a better term to use. You are beautiful and you should tell yourself that. Don't listen to the negatives, because you are beautiful and you should believe it.


What is swag?
I rate 5s and i rate high :) (link)
Swag is technically a slang word for the each letter in the word. The word swag can have many different meanings based on how people use it. Alot of people misuse the word "swag" because most people think its for Something We Americans Got or Secretly We Are Gay but truth is swag actually means in its noun form:an ornamental festoon of flowers,fruit, and greenery. The verb form of swag is:arrange in or decorate in a swag or swags of fabric. Did that answer your question?




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