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Q: Is it wrong to have a guy best friend? Everyone says stuff about us. That we love each other and that we will be together sometime. Why can't a guy and a girl be best friends? I'm the girl. He's the boy, of course. We are both fifteen. He tells me about the girls he likes and everything. I tell him pretty much everything too. When I'm down or sad, he'll play the guitar for me to make me feel better. We text all the time. He helps me with my homework. He sticks up for me. I stick up for him. He sometimes plays my instrument and he lets me play his drum sometimes. I go to him with everything. Girls are just catty and start drama. Having a guy best friend eliminates all those problems which is why I love my best friend with all my heart for making my life so much easier. We're just.. best friends. Right? What's so wrong with having an opposite sex best friend? And what do I tell people when they make fun of us again? Thanks!

Put simply: people are stupid. I have had this problem for most of my life, I have always had guy best friends, because like you said it helps to avoid all of that stupid drama that girls like to start. People watch way too much tv where there are 2 best friends, 1 boy and 1 girl, and they fall in love, so they automatically start to think that that happens in reality.
There is nothin wrong with having an opposite sex best friend, my best friend is a guy and also my ex-boyfriend so I get it 10 times worse than anyone :) I have just learned to ignore them all, there is really nothing that you can say to make them stop. You can tell them a hundred times that you are JUST friends and they will continue to think that its impossibile. Just go about your business and keep the friends that you can trust and that you care about around, ignore all the other dumb B!tche$ :)
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Q: me and my bf have been together for 2 and half years. I live with him and we are totaly in love. well today my friend called me and told me to check his exs facebook. i do and she put up pictures of them kissing and together these pictures are old but she just posted them the othere day. why would she do that ? it irritates me because he has a issue with her not leaving him alone. Should i tell him that she has the pictures up or let it go. It makes it look like he is cheating on me becuase she just put them up?

Sounds to me like she is just trying to start some drama between the 2 of you, she is trying to make you jealous and trying to get inside his head. I think the best thing that the both of you can do is to just ignore her, block her on facbook or myspace or whatever and don't let her bother you because thats exactly what she's trying to do. Thats what I hate about most girls', it seems like they are always trying to start some drama somewhere. I have learned just to stay out of it and mind my own business, its better that way. Don't let them get to you.
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Q: I'm 14 and I'm a girl. I started going out with this guy a week ago and I thought he really liked me. But I found out that the first time we kissed that he got paid to do it. I really like him though and I want it to work but I'm not 100% sure of what to do. Oh I'm one grade above him but were the same age. Please help?

Thats boys for you, but like the below person said if you really like him and he seems to like you then just forget about, boys do stupid things like this all the time. You're young, so just enjoy it and don't worry too much about romance.
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Q: Hey im trying to figure out weather or not I should ask this boy out im 13 hes 14 gunna be 15 in june but hes into drugs and alcohol (i wouldnt dare touch that stuff) but i dont even kno why i like him its just something about him i like but i dont kno what. ive dated him b4 and he cheated on me. but i cant get over him. my friends say i should date him but i dont kno if i should plz help!!!!!!

※ Kizman

Honestly, I think that you should get away from him and try to get over him. In my opinion you like him because he is a bad boy and you feel like you can't have him, in most cases you want what you can't have. Also, a person who is into drugs and alcohol and who has cheated on you in the past does not sound like someone that you should be trying to be with. You deserve someone that will take your feelings into concern and to get off all that crap for you.
One more thing, you are only thirteen darling, you are way to young to be worried about boys. Just have a blast and be young and if you happen to find a boy that makes your heart sing and that you truly feel like he could make you a better person then go for it. But always remember that you do not need a man to make you you, you are beautiful and deserve all the happiness in the world, and never let anyone tell you any differently.
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Q: I've been with my boyfriend for three years. We are absolutely in love with each other, but of course I've got a couple of complaints. He's not romantic, at all. I've asked him to take me on dates, or go do something romantic for a day, and eventually he may take me on a date (after me repeatedly asking and basically planning it). But he has never done anything like that without me asking. I can live with him not being romantic, but I think every girl dreams of a little romance in their relationship. How should I handle this?

Sadly, most men are not romantic beings, now it isn't their fault they just aren't wired that way. You will probably be asking him to do romantic things for you for the rest of your relationship. Your best bet is to sit down and attempt to have a conversation about it with him, this may or may not help. I have been with my husband almost 3 years and have known him for almost 8 years, and I still have to ask him to do romantic things for me. I know he loves me, but he shows it in his own way. You are correct, every girl dreams of a perfect romantic relationship, sadly that doesn't exist. The best you can do is to compromise and realize that no one is perfect and to love someone is to love their little imperfections as well.
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Q: My friend (we are both 16-year-old girls), was recently sexually assaulted by a 15-year-old boy at school who is her ex-boyfriend. The police are involved and so are the teachers and school. (the assault happened at school. It wasnt rape, he just touched her innapropraitely and tried to do stuff. Also the boy and her broke up months ago and he seemed ok with it)
My friend is taking it ok. She is upset and angry and stressed, but she is a very strong girl and hasn't been emotionally affected as bad as people usually are.

The thing is, I dont know what to say to her. When this subject is brought up i dont know what to say. When she told me about it i didnt know what to say. And recently she told me that her dad cant look at her and called her a "slut" and he "cant belive she is her daughter". I think that this is completely outrageous and horrible, but i dont think i should say that to my friend because it is her father.

I just need advice on what to actually say. Should I just say nothing at all? What if she just says "I dont know what to do" which she does say alot. How do I respond to that? How do I respond to someone telling me they have been sexually assaulted by their ex?

I just need to know what to say and how to comfort her.

I am very sorry that this happened to your friend and I'm sure it is difficult for her, really the only thing that you can do is to be there for her. Let her know that you are always there to listen, let her know that it wasn't her fault, and that she should just ignore what her father is saying to her. It is probably just really hard on him and he doesn't know how to react and how to deal with it.
You say that she hasn't been as "emotionally affected" as most people would be, this could be a bad thing? She may be repressing the whole thing and hiding her feelings, lots of people deal with it in this way. Let her know that it is okay to be upset and to voice her emotions and frustrations, keeping them in will only hurt her in the long run. If she says, "I don't know what to do." just tell her to keep pushing through, live her life. Just because this happened to her doesn't mean that she has to be a victim, it can make her a stronger person in the long run. It wasn't her fault it happened, but it shouldn't end her life because it did. You may also want to tell her that if she feels like she can't talk to anyone, maybe she could see a counselor. They can be very helpful with things like this and they can help her to deal with her emotions and even her father.
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Q: I'm 5'4" and I play Outside Hitter. I have a high reach though.. because I'm able to get kills and block, sometimes better than people a couple inches taller than me. I just moved to Dallas, Texas and I want to try out for 2 really good clubs, Skyline Juniors or Victory but after looking at how tall their Outside Hitters are (5'8"-6'0") I am scared! The other club I was in, in a different state, wasn't as competitive.. but I'm serious about playing volleyball and want to play better and participate in bigger tournaments, but.. I'm scared in advance about trying out.

Will they even bother to pay attention to me because I'm so short in the volleyball world? I love playing but I'm self conscious over my height a lot and constantly wish to grow taller. My parents are both over 5'8" and my sister is 6'0" so I don't get why I'm lacking. Hopefully I grow over the summer. Do you know anything I can do to grow taller? Stretches, certain foods, etc?

Should I just lower my expectations and pick a lesser club, or just give up volleyball cause I won't get anywhere in college unless I had a major growth spurt? I don't want to do that.. but. idk. The only disadvantage w/ my height is that it takes longer for me to reach over the net and reach the floor when I'm coming back down. And I have to exert more energy to get really high up. And if someone is like a lot taller than me and they're double blocking.. its gonna be hard for me to receive that. Or I'm gonna have to train like crazy to be able to.. then hopefully my vertical will increase. I don't know what it is btw

In my other school I played JV for Frosh & Soph year (I'm a Soph now, and just moved to a new school) and they made these twins captains of JV though I didn't think they really deserved it. I had much better hits than they did, since my Frosh year. But they had more consistency, so they'd like get more serves over that were usually easy to receive and my serves, though not really consistent, were usually kills. I had more experience playing volleyball compared to them too. I've been playing since 6th grade and they just started in 9th grade and in 9th grade they sucked. But they did club that year and got better.. and there were just so many other problems going on with that volleyball season it was redic. so anyways, that wasn't fair. Anyways, maybe it also mattered that they were taller than me. Like I'm gonna guess 5'8" to 5'9". They played MB and OH. Ugh but I would have been a better Captain cause I never give up during games and always try to motivate people and am nice to everyone. But blah. I dont want a similar situation here. The best player on the team who has leadership qualities should be the Team Captain right?

Height really doesn't have much to do with how well you are at volleyball, you can always increase your vertical. Really taller people usually can't jump as high, so I wouldn't worry about it too much. You could also think about changing to another position such as a passer, labero, or a setter, height is not an issue at all in these positions. In fact, setters are almost always shorter than the rest of the team. If I were you I would go out for it, if they are really a good team they will be basing try-outs off of talent not height, and talent is what matters.
I played volleyball for 7 years, I'm 5'9" and I played every position but I was mostly a middle hitter. I was one of the best middle hitters in my district, I even got all-region one year. I even went and practiced with the local college team and blocked their best middle hitter, who was a lot taller than me. The coach wanted me to come play for them, he said I would have been one of the shortest middle hitters ever but I made up for it with talent, speed, and passion for the game. Don't go in thinking you are going to fail, be confident in what you can do and do your best. Thats all that matters :)
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Q: what's the difference between falling in love with someone you're already with, and falling in love with your best friend?

i know when you're with someone, you learn about them, you become close to them. when you're with someone, you become best friends during the relationship, and you fall in love from there. it's much longer to fall in love in a relationship, i'm assuming, because you're still getting to know each other.

what happens though, when you already know each other? when you're already best friends, and then other feelings begin to develop? how fast can you fall in love then? does it take as long or is it possible it takes a short amount of time to love them like that?

16/f, btw, i'm in the whole i-fell-for-my-best-friend situation & im just wondering the difference.

so, explain your opinion? thaankk you lovies.

Honestly and in my own experience, I fell in love with my husband pretty much immediatly. You don't have to know everything about someone to fall in love with them, although sometimes the things that they do make you either fall more in love with them or out of love. When you first meet someone, you know if you (a) could love them or (b) have no future with them in that department at all.
If you already know someone, my husband and I were friends beforehand, it is easier to fall for them because you know pretty much how they react to your opinions and what you have in common etc. I do think that it would be a shorter amount of time to fall in love, simply because you are already comfortable with them and with someone new you kinda are feeling out the boundaries and everything. I also do not think that this is always the case, I think when you find that one person that you are meant to be with you know. Whether you have known one another for years or days, you feel comfortable with them immediatly and you just sorta know that you have finally found that one person. Love is a very complicated thing and even more complicated to attempt to explain, but I hope I voiced my own opinion and stance well.
Hope I Helped and hope I was clear lol, I tend to ramble and not make sense sometimes :)

Q: 16, female.
okaay, so at the beginning of the softball season (like march 18th or so) i fractured my ankle, crutches for 2 in a half weeks.
It was fine after that and i played the rest of the season.
i went to the doctor 2 weeks ago for a check up and everything was fine with it, but Recently the same ankle has began swelling and i can't put very much pressure on it,
does anyone have any ideas what's wrong with it?
Thanks in advance (:

Well a fracture healing in 2 and a half weeks, doesn't seem correct to me, but if you felt like playing and could do so without pain then thats fine. Now as for the pain and swelling now, it could be that you weren't ready to go back although I doubt that because it seems like you played the rest of the season and are only now experiencing this. It could also be that you may have stepped wrong and caused the fracture to kinda re-fracture a bit, or put some stress on it that it wasn't ready to handle yet and strained it. I would put some ice on it and take some anti-inflammatories, such as ibuprofen, if the swelling and pain continues after about a week of ice and meds I would definatly go back to the doctor and see what the problem is.
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In the future, be sure that you are fully healed before you play anything or do things.

Q: 19/f.

A few weeks ago, I'd say 3 I went to the doctor and ended up finding out I had a yeast & bacterial infection, first one ever. The doctor gave me one pill to take for the yeast infection and then a set of pills to take twice a day for a week for hte bacterial infection and I did that. Well things seemed to be getting better and then I ended up getting my period. So a week passed and then I ended up getting the same signs of the yeast or bacterial infection, or both. I'm guessing it hasn't gone away so I took another pill for the yeast infection, I had one refill on that one. Well it's been about 5 days since I took that and things haven't seemed to gotten better. I'm still getting the greenish discharge and still itching a bit. Do you think I should wait to see if it starts getting better or do you think I should go into the doctor again? I am suppose to be getting my period in about a week so I'm not sure whether to wait or not..

Also, just a question. Would it be bad for me to have sex now? Not knowing if the infection cleared up or not, even if we did use a condom?

thanks!:)

Go back to the doctor and let him know everything that happened, you never know about these infections. You want to be sure that you get them completely cleared up and do NOT have sex unless you are positive that you are clear of both of the infections and the only way to do that is to go and speak with your doctor and he/she will check everything out.
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Q: Sorry its so long :)

So my boyfriend 2 nights ago texted me while i was at work telling me about how this girl was hitting on him at the bar and asked me what he should do. I told him just tell her you have a girlfriend, and he said okay. When i get back from work, hes at the apartment, and so is this girl! Granted, another guy was there, but there sitting in the dark watching a movie and drinking some wine she brought over.

The other guy, Derek, told me that all night she was asking people if he had a girlfriend and that he never told her he did. Derek ended up telling her that Joe was taken, and after he told her that this girl, Susan still came over to my house.

I walk in and she got all pissed off that i was there, and she decided to leave. Derek offered her a ride home and she refused and when Joe asked if she wanted him to drive her she responded with a very fast yes.

So my boyfriend drives her home, comes back, and doesnt think he did anything wrong!

How can i make him understand that what he did was completely unfair. Im not a jealous person and i didnt say anything rude to this girl. All i want is to explain to him how he hurt my feelings.

How can i go about doing this? I dont want to yell or anything, so what is the best way i can go about explaining how he hurt me?

Welcome to the beautiful world of men, unfortunatly men do NOT think the way we do about these things. He thinks that since he didn't flirt back, had no alterior motives, and didn't try anything with her that he did nothing wrong, while you think that since he brought this girl back to YOUR house, and drove her home that there is something wrong with that situation. The best thing that you can do is to sit down with him and try to explain how you felt about the whole thing, let him know that you aren't angry but hurt. Don't scream at him, just explain it in a calm voice, it will probably be hard for him to get at first because he is a guy and they just don't think the way we do about things.
Tell him that you are uncomfortable with him bringing a girl over to your house, watching movies and drinking with her, and then driving her home alone.
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Q: I've been seeing this guy for a while now and we've slept together 3 times only. well tried to. every time that the situation has come up he doesn't perform very long before it just doesn't work anymore. He says that maybe it's because he likes me "too much" but it makes me think that maybe he really doesn't like me at all. i even tried to "encourage" him this last time and it still didn't work. I don't really know what to think or how to take this. it doesnt change my opinion on him because i really care about him, but im worried about what he's thinking or feeling and why this is going on. any advice as to what you think is goin on or even how to make the situation better is much appreciated, thanks in advance.

By doesn't work do you mean that he goes soft? This could be because he is either thinking about it too hard, he isn't attracted to you(which is doubtful because most guys just get so excited when sex is on the table), or he may have a medical problem like erectile dysfunction. Not sure how likely that last one is but you never know. Have you tried oral with him, change up the positions, even try acting out his fantasies. Make sure that he is relaxed and not thinking about it too hard, he doesn't need to stress out about it, just go with the flow. I would try giving him head for a while and see how he does with that, then move to sex. Make sure to change things up and keep him interested, ask him what he likes and do it. Make him look forward to it and make it memorable. Good luck.
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Q: Sooo, i want to get my nipple's pierced. I just want to know if this hurts badly, how long it will hurt. What size to get done, and should i get a boy or a girl to do it? I just want to know any basic info on it :) Thanks!

Yes, it hurts, most people end up just getting one nipple pierced because it hurt them so bad on the first one. & it will probably be sore for the first few weeks, as for boy or girl that really has to do with what you feel more comfortable with. Just make sure that whoever you choose is licensed and uses clean needles etc. I'm sure you know that but just wanna throw that out there.

Good Luck :)

Q: I've known my "sometimes friend, Tiffany" since 7th grade. I'm now 24, our friendship has been on and off throughout the years. But we have never had a "falling out" and just stopped talking, changes of locations and lost of phone numbers, different directions in life, ect were generally the reasons for our lack of keeping in touch. But if we did happen to run into one another or what have you, it was like we never were apart.

In March or April of 2008, I had come across her myspace page and emailed her, we started talking and hanging out pretty regular.
She had a little boy and was coming out of a really bad abusive relationship with the father of her son, and having problems finically and finding a babysitter, ect. So I stepped in a helped her as much as I could; I would watch her son-pay free, gave her money if she really needed it-never expecting to be paid back, let her use my apartment if she needed a place to get away from it all.
Would pick up the tab if we went out or had dranks. . (I know how this sounds, but no, this was not a lesbian relationship of any kind! This is just my personality and I have been very fortunate to have had a wonderful career in the Marine Corp, so when I can help someone, I like to go above and beyond and I know I appreciate a friend like that. So I helped her when I could.)

Anyway, off the bat I noticed that she was a big time slut and it always bothered me that she "needed" a man to feel complete.
Also, she's one of those people who, when they get a little male attention her (friends) take a backseat.
EVERYTIME.
I use to feel like that so I understood and I thought I could help her get some that self esteem back.
However, recently, like the last year or so, its become a concern of mine for her son's welfare.
Not only dose she sleep around who whomever is around, she moves them in ASAP with her and her child.
Tiffany has had between 5-7 live in "boyfriends" aka scum bags who sponge off her for a little while then move on. And countless other males that will "stay" with her from time to time and who she lets watch her son.
She obviously dose not know these people.
I don't have any kids, but I would think that your child comes above everything else and their safety should be number one.
(If her son wasn't a factor, I would have said goodbye to her a long time ago. She lacks in values and morals and is not someone I want as a friend. Its always all about her and no one else matters.
I'm not attached to her son or anything, but its still not right.)

Just recently, she met a guy where ever and two days later he was living with her, needless to say that lasted maybe a month or two.
He (not surprising) was cheating on her, he "broke up" with her and now, she's found someone else to replace him. Its a pathetic, unsafe cycle that she dose not acknowledge or even think its a problem.
Which is beyond fusterating!!

Back to her little boy, I'm scared that something is going to happen to him.
My mother was also a young mom, who always had a new face around my brother and I. And unfortunately I was molested by a few of her "boyfriends". I grew up angry, confused, very untrustful of men and resentful of my mom, who still dose not know.
I do not want anything to happen to her son. All because of her selfish wants and low self esteem and worth.

If I bring it up, Tiffany and I always get into an arguement where she physically wants to hurt me.
Whether she and I have a friendship or not, is no longer my concern, I want to know if I should just mind my own business-bc she dosent get it or what can I do to keep him safe, if anything????

Unfortunatly, most of these women without professional help will continue to do this and most of them don't think that they have a problem. You really can't make someone change, unless they want to.
My husband's mother was like this when he was a boy and he saw men beating his mother, he had to save her a number of times, she also tried to commit suicide[in front of her son], needless to say it was an awful situation and causes my husband and his brother lots of problems now. If I were you I would really try to sit down and talk to her about it, tell her that you care about her and her son and want them to be safe and tell her your concerns. If she ignores you and you think that she is really a danger to her son, then the only thing left for you to do is to report her to child welfare services. With this option you have to worry about where the boy will go, because sometimes foster care is just as bad as where they came from. It really is a tough situation for everyone, including the mother.
I really hope that you can help this woman and her son, I wish someone could have helped my husband's mother, she is still putting herself in bad situations.
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Q: Tell me if this is normal because i'm freaking out.

I'm a 17 year old girl. Junior in High school. I still can't wear tampons. Is that bad?? I only wear pads and i've tried soooooo many times to try tampons but they hurt too badly and feel weird all the time and i just overall hate them. I feel so different. like other girls can handle sex and stuff, but i can barely put in a tampon! is something wrong with me?? It will be a year with my boyfriend in May and he's always wondering why I don't want him to finger me. If i tell him, or anybody for that matter, i'll be so embarrassed and feel like i'm so different than everybody.

Helppp i'm desperate.. everytime i try, i start crying in frustration because it NEVER works out. I get about an inch in, and then it starts to feel weird and gross.

If it helps, i'm terrified of needles. so i think that putting in a tampon reminds me of a needle going in me. do you think that could be a reason??

There is absolutely no reason for you to feel awkward or weird about not being comfortable with tampons. I hate tampons and refuse to wear them, but I am married and do have sex, the 2 really don't matter together. Just because you are uncomfortable with tampons doesn't mean you will be as uncomfortable with sex, or your boyfriend fingering you.
Don't get so worked up about, use whatever works for you, if thats pads then so be it. It's really not that strange for some girls to not like tampons, I knew quite a few girls in highschool who preferred pads. Everyone is different and there is no reason for you to be embarrassed, just be who you are comfortable with. I'm sure your boyfriend won't think that you are weird if you just tell him that you don't like tampons and that in turn makes you nervous about things in the sexual area, like getting fingered.
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Q: So my grandparents and my family found a litter of lab puppies. We are both getting two. My aunt picked out all of our dogs we are all getting. My grandma and grandpa are getting 2 Black Lab GIRLS and we are getting 2 Yellow Lab BOYS. i need good names for girls or boys!!! ASAP! Thanks so much!!! (mostly boys would help the most)

Okay I really don't have any names, but had to post because of the answer below. When potty training a puppy do NOT spank them if you find a mess in the house, the puppy has already forgotten what it did. Now if you catch a puppy IN the act, give a firm no and stop the action then take the puppy to the place where you would like it to potty. Then throw him a little 'potty party' for using it where you want it too :)
It doesn't solve things to spank them, now if they do something wrong like chewing(which will be a huge issue because they are labs) tell them now and place them in a crate or closed off area with no fun things for about 5 minutes, or replace the item they are chewing on with something that you want them to chew on.

As for some good names:
Carson, Turbo, Marley, those are the top ones that I can think of.
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Q: 19/f
I was going to go away for college until I found out the day after I graduated that I was adopted. I decided I wanted to stay home for a little while. I do not attend community college or junior college. I am in the university. So, there are dorms. As of right now, I am living at home. I live with my mother and my grandparents. Although I love them very much, there are some issues with living with them. For one, my grandparents are older and this IS their home. They have their habits, which I cannot break. For one, my aunt (who lives across the street) comes here EVERY NIGHT to watch soap operas with my grandmother. They are not in a private room watching these quietly. They watch it VERY LOUD in the living room.

Recently, I fixed my room to make it more adult-like. But, that was not the solution. My mom spends all her time inside of my room listening to music and playing on the computer. I asked her if she could please relocate the computer to another area of the house. I would not mind it because I have a laptop. But, having the main computer of the house located in my room is a problem. Not only is that the computer everyone uses, but my cousins (who live across the street) come over all the time to use my printer, when the internet is down, etc. That room is NOT mine. It is like a community room where the privacy is handed to me after midnight... sometimes.

I am on a full scholarship at my school. Therefore, I do not pay anything. In fact, I get money back. This is usually about $3000 per semester. I try to use my money wisely and not spend it on things that I can't really afford. Don't get me wrong, I like to treat myself too, I'm just saying I'm not spending money all over the place. Aside from that, i do work part time. I make about $1000 a month. I cannot work more than that because I am a student and my priority is school. I also need time to exercise and go to club meetings and society meetings at school. As far as a dorm goes, I cannot afford it. They will not give me extra aid to go get a dorm. I would have to take out loans, which my parents are completely and totally against. I'm not too big a fan of loans either, unless there is no other way.

My other option would be renting an apartment. But, realistically, with the way the economy is, I don't think there's a way. What if I don't keep my job? All my money would go to the apartment and I wouldn't be able to do ANYTHING (like eat). lol. There has to be something I'm missing here. Living in my house could be an option if I had a shed or something... but I don't. I came from a school where everyone was really rich. I've always had less money than they did and I'm not exactly poor. But, these people were RICH, like millionares. I need an option here, because living with my parents isn't cutting it. This is not a place for a student. If I were older and working, and had nothing to do when I got home, then maybe yeah. But, when I get home, I need quiet to study. I need to unwind because I'm juggling school, work, and my certification to become a fitness instructor. I'm a little older now and I need my own space.

Going away to college is not an option anymore. Everything is here: family, friends, boyfriend, work, and organizations that will find me a job in the future. I love my school and I can't leave my dog here either. I know it sounds crazy, but I've had him for a while and there's just no way that I can leave the dog. lol.

If you can offer me advice, there HAS to be something I'm overlooking. Please only answer if you have a real, genuine idea for me. Please don't say look into cheaper housing or find a roomate. No one here is willing to room and I refuse to room with a stranger. I just need an idea to have more privacy and my own space.

I agree with the below person, I would just move the computer to another room and speak to your family about the privacy that you would like to have. Let them know that you are growing up, in college, and need some space to study and be an adult. Also, maybe think about saving up some money this way you can have some money to either use for housing or to get an apartment. I know that you said that you would not like to live with a roomate, but really it can be a great experience. It gets you out there with some new people, gives you the privacy that you need, etc.
If you still don't like the idea of a roomate, then your best option is to just speak openly to your family about how you have been feeling and what you would like to change, I'm sure that they will understand. They love you and want you to be happy.
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Q: Ok so stupidly me and my boyfriend had sex whilst on my period (obviously it was in the time i wasnt taking birth control pills) Ive looked online and im worrying because I saw that the birth control pill can kill a baby when your pregnany, seriously harm it or cause miscariages.

What if I am pregnant? We only had sex 2 days ago so I wont be able to take a pregnacy test but If I am pregnant I dont want to harm the baby. Im meant to be taking the pill starting today.. I dont know what to do. Should I stay off it until I take a test? I am still on my period atm and the only thing that makes me stop my period is the pill. I dont know when I can take a test to find out... does anybody know?

The best thing for you to do is to call your doctor and speak to them about it. They will know the specifics about taking the pill if you are pregnant, and the earliest that you can take a pregnancy test. And don't do this again, always use protection, learn from this.
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Q: My husband and I are just not communicating properly. We've been married for 12 years. HE's from Holland, I'm Canadian...that's been a cultural issue in the past. We get frustrated easily with each other. We were both the youngest in our families...if that makes a difference. Our kids don't see us comprimise, figure out problems together or work together very often at all and I'm afraid we won't teach them how to do those things properly for their future. Where do we begin?

Communication is a very important part of every relationship, but it is also one of the most difficult parts. The first thing that you need to do is sit down as a couple and voice your concerns to him, try to stay calm, if you get frustrated he will get frustrated and neither one of you will be able to get any point across. You need to keep coolheads. Try to be understanding when he speaks to you, don't just disregard what he is saying, really take it into consideration and be respectful and ask that he do the same thing in return. You don't have to agree on everything but you do need to be able to agree to disagree and come to a compromise with one another.
If you don't think that you can that the two of you can open the lines of communications on your own, you might want to try a therapist. They can be very helpful and sometimes it is better to get an outside opinion, usually you can't see what you are doing wrong as well as he can't see what he's doing wrong. But we often take offense when our partner points out our flaws. The cultural issue is another big thing that the therapist will be able to help you with, he/she will be able to help you better understand one another in more ways than one.
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Q: my friend and her boyfriend have been dating for a little over 2 months and he practically lives at her house with her, her brother, and her brothers friend. her boyfriend cory is controlling of her and doesn't ever let her hang out with her friends without him and when she does hang out with me cory gets really mad at her thinking that she would rather spend time with me then him. so when me and my boyfriend wanted to go to the beach with my friend, Cory didnt want her to go so when i called her house he said she was in the shower and would tell her i called and tell her to call me back which she never did. but, cory always goes and hangs out with his friends all the time without my friend while she is working and even when shes not. im just very concerned for my friend because im scared for her when she realizes what a jerk he is being and if she decided to break up with him, that he might want to hurt her, i dont want to ruin our friendship but i just dont know what to do, me and my boyfriend are both very concerned. does anyone know what we can do? please help

I think that your concern shows how good of a friend that you are, you are correct that controlling boyfriends often turn into abusive ones. As her friend the best thing for you to do is to voice your concern, but beware that she might get offended and jump down your throat, often girls who are in controlling relationships don't see that risk and they think that their boy is doing everything because they love them, while in reality it is simply because they want complete control over their significant other.
She will probably ignore your concerns, I know that when my friend was in an abusive relationship she didn't want to hear anything that I had to say. In the end, she had to learn on her own, and I had ot be there for her. As a best friend, your job is to be supportive even when you don't agree with what they are doing. Just be careful, tread lightly, and be there for her when she needs you.
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