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I'm going to go to highschool next year and i really want to make the highschool soccer team! I'm the fastest girl, on my current team. And I'm also one of the fastest girls in the league. I heard that in the highschool soccer tryouts, I will have to be able to run a mile in seven and a half minutes and then I will have to run another mile. But, I've always been bad at long distance running. I've started out with running a half mile around my neighborhood, but every time I run it(once or twice a week)it's extremely hard for me. I'm worried that I won't be able to run the 2 miles, once it's time for soccer tryouts. (link)
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Keep up the running, and you will get better. It's good that you are starting this early.
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Hi welL I'm not realy sure what I should do. I'm sTill a virgin and so is my boyfriend we been dating for a year alreay he is also a virgin. Should we have sex already? Should we loose it already I'm 14 and my boyfriend is 15. Are relationship is realy close and serious but I don't want to mes it up by having sex.. Please help or give me tips on what to do :) thanks (link)
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You are highly unlikely to ever regret not having sex and very likely to regret having sex, even before it's over.
Spare yourself a lot of heartbreak and pain and continue to enjoy the relationship you have. I know it can feel like the whole world is having sex, except for you, but that just isn't true.
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i currently live 3 hrs away from home where my boyfriend lives, attending college while he finishes his 2 years up at the community one at home.
next year hes thinking about transfering to a college where he can play football which is 1 hr away from our home, but 3 and a half hrs away from where im going to college now. Weve been together for 9months.. and our relationship is really good.
im scared to make the wrong decision giving up my life here and moving to where hes going but i dont wnana do long distance any longer like i would do it if we had to but i want our realtionship to grow.. i made a lot of friends here, and im sure i would make some at another college cause im a very outgoing person, but i never wanna base my decision around a guy, yet im the type of person who is a very good girlfriend and i dont really go out so my life here is kind of boring, and he doesnt drink or go out at all.
Just need some advice, idk. (link)
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It's an old saying... "Absence is to love what wind is to fire; it enkindles the great, and extinguishes the small."
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i have been have sex with my dad for a very very long time now and he has stoped useing condoms what the hell do i do ? is he trying to knock me up or what? (link)
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Make the call. Please.
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hi i had sex with a guy i was dating like two or three months ago and i was taking the pill but the day after i ran out and then im just now like a week ago getting back on it but im always tired i get the hickups all the time i fee weak i feel sick i was eating dinner with my mom it was this stuff i use to like and as soon as i smelled it it made my belly turn and i hjust couldnt eat but i took a test a week after we had sex could it be the pill doing that to me ? i hada miscarriage before when i1st started taking the pill but i didnt know i was pregnant until it was too lated and im getting sharp pains that start at my belly button and it shoots all the way down my vag i have no idea what it is but i had the pain before but i was also on the pill before when i got the pain to so idk if im pregnant the test said i wasnt so i didnt stop taking the pill and i dont want to talk to my mom about it she would get mad that im on the pill she got mad when she found out my 35 year old sister was on it she doesnt like it cause what can happen when you on it and she also got pregnant with my brother on it so please help thanks alot
megan
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I'm so sorry, I only found your question today! (Shows how computer literate I am!)
Does the question remain, or do you have a new one?
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Hi,
This is a silly question but it keeps bothering me. There is a couple at work (I work in a school)and I am jealous of their relationship. So one day I saw the lady give the guy a piece of candy at a staff meeting and I gave them a dirty look. She didn't see it, he did- he just looked at me with such a smirk. He told her because her whole demeanor with me has changed and I'm pretty sure she told a friend or two. I can't stop thinking about it. I know what I did was wrong, she knows why I did it and still told people. (link)
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What you did was pretty immature and you're living with the consequences.
The best you can do is try and rebuild your work relationships by being as friendly to everyone as you can.
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I've decided that I would like to write stories, design characters, and basically write movies, but I didn't know what the career was called, so I just guessed maybe scriptwriter... If you know the correct name, I'd be happy if you told me! Also, are there any really good colleges for this type of career? (link)
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You can get copies of scripts online to help you become familiar with the formats.
I would discourage a major in screenwriting because it's such a narrow field, but get general writing and all the screenwriting courses you can take while you major in something else you like. You might also look for some summer classes that specialize in this area.
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Okay this may be kinda long im sorry just bear with me please. so here is the story... my parents have been together for 15 years. It will be 16 this march. I guess my mom was talking to an ex boyfriend on facebook, then they started e-mailing and i guess they met for lunch a couple of times. This ex of hers is also married and has a wife and children. Well my dad told my mom he had a bad feeling and he knew that she had been talking to him. Yet he said word for word what was in their e-mails. I know that he went through my moms email there is no way he could have known word for word what was in the e-mail. Which i dont think is right at all but it wasnt right for my mom to be talking to this guy either. she told me that my dad had found out that she was talking to this ex a while ago and asked her to stop. Yet she continued behind his back. My mom is 36 and my dad 40. Im 17 years old and i have a younger sister who is 10 and a younger brother who is 6. I guess i just dont understand why my mom would do something like this. She is always the one who says "if your happily married you shouldnt need or want anyone else and when you do it is time to end the relationship." But i know for a fact that she is madly in love with my dad. Apparently this ex meant something to her or she wouldnt have done this. but she came crying to me yesterday saying that my dad wants a divorce. me and my mom have a very close relationship and she apologised for not telling me about this sooner. my dad wont even talk to her. I dont know what to do or say. He handed her two grand in cash yesterday and told her that it would get her on her feet and she needed to leave and she told him she wasnt going to leave us. I guess all im asking is what do i do here. Me and my mom have always been closer than me and my dad but i feel sorry for my dad, yet i feel sorry for my mom. im stuck in the middle here and im confused! i just need to know how to act and what to say. If my mom leaves im going with her but i dont want my dad to be mad at me for leaving him. See my dilema? any advice would be greatly appreciated. thanks in advance! (link)
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Perhaps you could write them both a letter asking them to get some counseling and try and work on their marriage. Their divorce will make a huge difference in your family's lives. It is very much your business.
Try not to take sides feelings. Just express your feelings. Many couples are able to work past problems like this and it's better for everyone when they can.
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Okay, here's the situation. I used to have unprotected sex with my ex-fiancee, including anal sex which was unprotected. Then I had the same situation with another girl (except for the anal part). But I found out afterwards that she took drugs, like snorting coke and shooting up. After I found out through her roommate, I had to put an end to it. Of course, my initial reaction was to get checked. I waited about four weeks to get tested for STD/AIDs. Fortunately, the results came back negative. I'm not trying to say that I'm a sexual superman but I'm not sure if it is just luck. What do you think? Is there a possibility that I may have some sort of immunity to STDs? (link)
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Sorry, no immunity.
Plus, you can't know yet if you haven't picked up any STDs yet because of the incubation periods.
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I have been taking orthocyclen birth control pills for nearly 2 years now. I have never once missed a pill, until just recently. I missed the very FIRST pill of a new pack (right after I stopped taking the placebo pills) and I am now late to have my period. I took the pill the very next day that I remembered, around 12pm. My normal time to take my pill is around 4:30pm. My boyfriend and I had unprotected sex 5 or 6 days after this occured and now I am late. Could I be pregnant, or could it just be from stressing so much about it, or could it be that my period is a day late, due to taking my pill a day late?
Any comments would be a great help. I could really use some reasurance.
Most websites I've found said that it was alright not to use an emergency contraceptive, but I have also read that by missing one of the first pills in your pack puts you at more risk of pregnancy.
I'm just really scared and confused and any answer right now would be better than none.
Thank you so much. (link)
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Chances are small, but there is always a possibility - taking the pill at a different time can put you at risk.
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Okay so there's this girl who I told that I liked her quite a bit. She said she liked me too, but she had broken up with her boyfriend of 1+ year at the beginning of summer prior to this semester and she needed time to get over that. I told her that I understood and would wait, but I wanted to know if there was any chance (I didn't wanna wait for nothing) and she said I certainly have a chance and she was really glad I told her how I felt. It's been about 3 weeks since she told me this. The other day I told her that if she ever needs someone to talk to (I noticed she was pretty sad looking lately) that I was there for her. She said that she appreciated the notion and that I didn't understand how much that means to her. She never told me what was wrong, only that it was a lingering problem and the next week she seemed to perk up and all seemed well again. (Sorry that was slightly off-topic; I just wanted to add some detail). Anyways, I realize that there's a good chance that she's not over him quite yet, but I want to know how the healing process is going. It's pretty selfish of me, but I really like her and this waiting has been rough on me (though it's probably nothing compared to getting over an ex). So I essentially my question is 2 part:
1. Should I try asking sometime soon to get a gauge on how the healing is going, but just expect a response like "well it's going, I'm doing better than before but need more time still" etc? Or should I wait another month or so?
2. How can I ask her about it without sounding selfish or like I'm pressuring her for a decision?
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Don't probe her healing and problems.... just ask her out.
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My mom has struggled with depression for years. She's told me she's been suicidal in the past. She's really a good woman, raised me right, and deserves to lead a happier life. Today I walked in on her crying really bad in her bedroom. I know she's feeling "that way" again. How can I help my mom get help for her own depression? I asked her before she wanted to go "see someone" but she told me no, and that the feeling would pass in awhile. I'm concerned. (link)
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Try and get your mother to go see a doctor. This is a medical problem. There are drugs that can make a major difference and counseling, along with drugs, is the most effective treatment.
She way need your help to make the appointment, actually making the phone and going with her to the appointment.
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I've been dating this girl on and off for 4 years now. She's amazing, terrific, perfect, and any other word you can find to describe an angel. Today she told me that she things are completely over for her, and that she just doesn't feel the same for me as she did. This is a big shock because she acted like everything was fine and she was happy. I feel like killing myself now. I have been searching for some quick ways to commit suicide without pain but nothing seems right. What do I do? I'm so confused and hurt. My chest feels like she ripped my heart out. (link)
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You describe the feeling very well - like your heart has been ripped out, and now there is a gaping, bleeding hole where there used to be a heart. It is unimaginably painful.
It hurts to have someone leave you, but even more because you didn't see anything going wrong before she dumped you. How long has she been acting like everything was fine? Why couldn't she have told you she wasn't happy? In time the pain will lessen and you will slowly begin the feel normal again. I know that's almost impossible to imagine, but the pain will go away and life will be good again.
Be patient with yourself. Give yourself time to heal. Schedule yourself with friends and keep busy. Talk it out with a few safe people rather then unloading everyone.
Thins will get much, much better, gut for awhile, it's just going to hurt .
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This week i was informed that i have been selected to go to France and study frence with a honors program. It is an opertunity of a life time. The problem is that my brother is getting married at the time i would be in France. So should i go to my brothers wedding and miss out or go to France and miss hiw wedding? (link)
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Go to France! This is, IMHO, a no-brainer.
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okay. i am 12 years old and i want to wear thongs but im scared to ask my mom. shes cool and will probably say yes but i dont know how to ask her if i can wear them.. do you have any advice?? personal stories would be helpful
btw dont answer if youre gonna yell at me that 12 is "way too young to be wearing sexy butt floss" (link)
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I agree. Wait until you are underwear shopping and ask if you could buy one pair. You may not like them, heaven only knows, I've spent most of my life keeping underwear Out of there...
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Hey! I'm a fifteen year old girl, sophomore. My boyfriend is a seventeen year old boy, junior. We've been dating for three months but we've been friends for years. Okay the thing is, I'm a girl that's extremely attracted to the athletic kind of guys, and really turned off by laziness... That's just my type I guess. My boyfriend is fit and active and plays football and baseball. Butttt... he's recently decided he wants to quit baseball. He says he just doesn't want to play this year. Is it bad that I WANT him to play?? Because I do... It's just thats part of why I'm attracted to him I thought that was part of who he was and I dunno I feel like it's really shallow but I just want him to play. And I don't know what to do because it's actually bothering me... I don't know how to get it across to him that I don't think he should quit but ugh I don't know what else to do... It's not completely shallow reasoning though. Two years ago I quit soccer (my reasons were a little different though I quit so I could join a more time consuming competitive cheer squad) but I really really miss soccer. I thought I didn't want to do it anymore but I still wish I could have done both. I've told him this but he sounds pretty set. My third reason is... I'm worried that when he has nothing to do and when I'm going to be really busy with cheerleading that he's going to get super demanding of my time. Baseball workouts are just about to start too so I can't put off this problem... What shoudl I do?? (link)
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Somewhere along the way. while you were growing up, the idea that "real men" play sports got embedded in your head. Parents? What was said to older brothers? Dad's enjoyment of sports? Cultural imprinting?
You are permitted, and even encouraged, to reexamine the values from childhood and decide which ones you want to take into adulthood with you.
Sports are very complicated and there could be a dozen reasons why he does not want to play this year, everything from how a coach treats him to pressure he could be under. (My son-in-law quit HS soccer because the coach declared "Soccer is not for fun!" and he thought, "I signed up for fun - working hard and playing well IS fun!') so he walked.
Has he shown any signs of becoming controlling before It would probably have surfaced by now it it were an issue.
So, if you decide that he's not man enough for you
if he's not playing baseball, let him go as quickly as possible so he can get on with finding someone who views him differently.
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This is kinda embarassing to ask, but i'd rather ask people I don't know then someone I do.
I'm 16 and my boyfriend and I have talked about having sex. He's not a virgin, but I am. I'm scared that my vagina doesn't look normal. I really don't want to hear "if he loves you he won't care" stuff. Like, in all honesty I'm scared to even take my pants off around other people. Attempting to explain what I mean..My lips don't touch because I guess the part called the labia(?) is large and sticks out of my lips. That's really the only thing that bothers me, besides my skin being very sensitive so I have really bad razor burn. Any tips or ideas to help me out? Thanks! (link)
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"Innies" and "outies" doesn't only apply to belly buttons. You are perfectly normal.
However, if you are not yet ready to be naked with guy, there's no reason why you have to. It is always OK to say no to sex.
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Hello everyone. I really do not know who or where else to turn to with this problem so I am coming back to advicenators after a very long time to ask for some much needed advice.
I am female, 19, in college. I go to a very good college, 30 minutes away from home, live on campus, and work close to school. I am dating a man that is 27 years old, lives almost 1.5 hours away from my school, and works even farther. We love each other very much, but I am not happy.
We have been together on and off for almost two years now. We have had a lot of problems because of our age difference and because of his past. I have helped him through a lot and he has helped me mature. I love him, but the truth is that sometimes I feel like I am in an abusive relationship.
Not physically, of course, even though he does have a temper he's never purposefully hurt me. He is just very selfish and I am the opposite. I would do anything for him, yet he thinks about himself more. I always blame myself when things happen, yet he turns everything so as to not make it his fault. He never believes he is wrong, guilty, or shameful. To him, its always everybody else.
We have had issues with this in the past, and I've left him a few times because of it. He said he would change, and give more, and truth is he has changed a whole lot. But he is still very controlling and selfish. You would think I could be able to break it off...But I've tried doing that and honestly I am miserable without him. I am stuck. I really tried leaving him and the whole time I was depressed and felt like I needed to be with him. I know he was depressed as well, he couldn't eat, sleep, or function, but he said that since it was my decision he couldn't do anything and he was just going to do him and focus on himself because I didn't want him.
I on the other hand couldn't focus on anything but him. It's too hard for me to leave him but it hurts sometimes to need someone to be there and that person only be concerned with themselves. I don't know what to do... I need some advice!
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Darlin', you are 19. You have your entire life spread out in front of you. You are smart, getting a good education which can take you just about anywhere you want to go in life.
And you are choosing to live in a deep dark corner of a cellar.
You have seen the future with him, and it is ugly. His need to posses and control you will only increase and he will do whatever he can to keep you within his grasp.
You will never be right, your children will never be right. You and they will only be allowed to be moons in orbit around him and will not be permitted to have lives of your own. You will only be able to exist to please him.
Please, please, walk away. I know how hard this can be, how empty you physically feel, like your heart has been ripped out, but it will pass with time. You will feel better, life will not be so awful and it will get better, and have your own life, a life you will gladly share with the right person.
Please. Bright red flags are flying. This story has only one ending and it ends with you being unhappy for years and years to come.
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I'm graduating high school in june 2011. I can't choose between majoring in nursing or fashion merchandising. I know thats a big difference but I see good things in both. I love fashion and am really interested in the business on the other hand I feel like I should help people in life and being a nurse would do that. The only problem with nursing is I don't know if I could deal with wounds and stuff like that but I also no it's a good career with many job opportunities for sure. I just don't know! What do you guys think? or offer any info on nursing and fashion if you have any too :)
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Either is a fine choice, but when it comes to future opportunities, nursing takes the cake. There is a nursing shortage, salaries are good and I think demand is only going up with aging baby boomers, changes in health care, etc.
There are many different kinds of nurses, and only a few of them are going to face injuries on a regular basis. Further, you'll have training and exposure before you are expected to manage anything on your own.
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19/f i am scared. i am 5"4 and only like 92.5 pounds. i've been put on this medicine called remeron to help me gain weight but like before i keep gaining and losing. i am tired all the time, people use to ask me if i am anorexic, or tell me oh your so skinny. i mean i got made fun of a lot. and i can't believe i am saying this but i think i have started believing what other people say about me being anorexic. i do eat and it's not like i worry about how many calories i put in my body, i don't eat breakfast, but that's because i am always late for school be cause i get up in the morning and go on the computer. things are just getting worse for me. i look disgusting. my arms are like toothpicks, and so are my legs. i eat junk food. i did stop ea ting out for a while because i got sick of it, and plus at the time my mom wasn't working, but then she got her job back and i started into my old unhealthy routine. now i eat out almost everyday. but still no results. what should i do? (link)
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Please go see a doctor and ask about help in dealing with an eating disorder. Anorexia is not so much about tour body size but about what's going on in your head.
It sounds like you are to get a more accurate view, which is a good thing, but you want to continue to get better, and to stay healthy.
You could ask you mom to make an appointment for you, or ask a school nurse for help.
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