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Should we have sex already?
Hi welL I'm not realy sure what I should do. I'm sTill a virgin and so is my boyfriend we been dating for a year alreay he is also a virgin. Should we have sex already? Should we loose it already I'm 14 and my boyfriend is 15. Are relationship is realy close and serious but I don't want to mes it up by having sex.. Please help or give me tips on what to do :) thanks
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Hi, im 16 and just because you guys have been together for so long that doesn't mean you have to. Your only 14 sweetie, you have plenty of time to think about having sex. And it is possible that things could go bad if you have sex, they could also get better as well. If you know your ready then do what you feel is right, but if you have ANY doubts DONT do it. if you do be sure to use protection. Goodluck sweetie:)
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im 14, and just 4 days ago i had sex with my ex boyfriend...
we dated for only 3 weeks but it was because i wasnt ready for sex and he wanted sex.
now that we've done it, it seems as though lots of problems are disapearing and our relationship has a slight boost.
however now there are more problems such as worrying about getting pregnant, and getting caught.
sex can mess a relationship up, but if you are both ready then go for it. sex is like the glue to a relationship. but since you are so young sex wont be all that great. it takes a while to actually enjoy it.
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If you need to ask if you should have sex, then you shouldn't.
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peesonally, i think you still young and so is ur bf, however if you 2 are comfortable with each other then its your choice but dont have sex with him because your scared of loosing him. break your virginity bcoz you are ready to... having sex usually makes a relationship stronger but dats not always tha case, tings could change... speak to your bf about it and c hw he feels about it...
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You are highly unlikely to ever regret not having sex and very likely to regret having sex, even before it's over.
Spare yourself a lot of heartbreak and pain and continue to enjoy the relationship you have. I know it can feel like the whole world is having sex, except for you, but that just isn't true.
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noo... i dont think you should because first of all you even tho you your in a serios relatioonship your both accually too young and yes it might affect your relationship.
a relationship is NOT all about sex trust me, i think you gguys should hold off on i for a little and do other stufff.
hope i helpedd!
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.
I found the following website while answering a very similar question for other young ladies. I believe you should review this website before making any decision about having sex, starting with “Am I ready?”
On the subject of are you ready: all I will say is sexual intercourse is a beautiful thing between two loving responsible people. At your age sex for you as a woman is different than for the boy. You are more emotionally mature than a partner would at the same age by about 2 years. Sex for a woman most always have a loving relationship, meaning women usually do not hop in and out of bed. Where for a boy of the same age sex is more of a conquest, away to satisfy raging hormones.
The odds are against you marring the boy you give your virginity to, so be selective as to who you chose to be your first. Make sure you find someplace you can have your first sexual experience that is safe, relaxing and that you will be undisturbed. You should be on birth control for at least 30 days and always use a condom.
As someone who is old enough to be your grandparent I should be telling you to wait. I am sure your parents have already given you that advice and it is good advice. It is also hypocritical of most of us as most all of us my age and younger engaged in sex long before we were married. What I will say is there are ways of satisfying the sexual urge without having intercourse. There is masturbation, mutual masturbation, which is generally apart of foreplay, BJ’s and HJ’s. At your present ages you can have all the intimacy of sex using these alternatives without running the possibility of an unwanted pregnancy. Remember no birth control is 100% effective. End of lecture.
My advice is to wait a few more years, let you and your bodies mature a bit more so that you can fully enjoy a sexual relationship. Don’t let pear pressure force you to do something you may not be fully ready for.
Before you make your decision please review the following website. I found this website while looking for answers to similar questions.
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I would say wait. This, of course, comes from an older guy with a different idea of when the first time should happen; I'm 23. My first time was at age 17, and I'm still with the same woman. Even at age 17, we didn't take all the necessary precautions, and we're still thankful to this day we didn't end up pregnant. If you do take the dive and decide to go for it, there's really one simple rule to live by. There is to be ZERO penetration without a condom. Pulling out is about as reliable as saying "it's ok, my mom says only people who really love each other get pregnant so we should be fine."
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