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is it normal to have little like white specks on your nipple if your not prego.
Eh, I'm not pregnant, and I do.
So I guess so?
Does anybody know any online site where I can buy
pants like Avril Lavigne wears.
Like the ones she wore in I think its the
Complicated film clip.
You know, back when she was cool.
Before she got the Hollywood make-over form HELL!
Like this: http://images.paraorkut.com/img/pics/images/a/avril_lavigne-4983.jpg
Help.
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http://www.hottopic.com :)
18/F I had a friend agree to come to my house and give me a voice lesson. I offered to pay her and she said she'd be over. She didn't show up on time nor did she call me back after I left her a message. I'll admit, she's not a very reliable person, but how do I let her know I'm not okay with this. Usually when a friend backs out of plans with me, I'll say : "it's okay, no worries..." because it truthfully doesn't bother me that much, but it doesn't mean I want people to treat me like this. So basically, how should I respond when someone doesn't make me a priority?
When I read this, my first thought was that you should do the same thing to her next time she asks you to do something, but then I thought it over.
Because I myself have issues with acting like a pushover, then getting annoyed afterward, but, strangely, I'm never passive-aggressive...?
Maybe, if this happens again, you should call her and ask where she is and about how long it will be until she arrives at your house. But, of course, she might not answer the phone like you said she didn't above.
When you see her in person, you should ask her what happened & why she didn't show up.
This advice probably isn't very good. Seeing as I'm the type of person who has problems with confronting people, yeah.
She really won't have any other option but to answer your question, though, if you're standing face-to-face when you confront her.
Hey, how much would it hurt if I grabbed onto an
electric fence?
Also, would it shock us all if I grabbed it, and
like, 5 people linked arms with me?
Are you planning on doing this?
It probably will.
Since it's called an electric fence for a reason.
Electric current would probably stay the same or gain power as it passes through because electricity runs through a person's body to begin with.
As the curren passed from you, to one person, to the next, and to the next, it would probably gain potential energy with each successive person.
I'm really confused about what to do!
To make a very long and complicated story short and simple, I had sex with my ex boyfriend of 4 years about 2 months ago. He committed suicide about 2 weeks ago.
I think I may be pregnant with his child. I'm against abortion and would never give up my own child for adoption because... you know... it's MY kid! However, I don't have the money to raise a child. I'm in college right now and if I am pregnant, then the baby would be due around October... I can't not go to school because then I won't have a degree to get a decent job, besides who would take care of the baby while I'm working/in school... my parents would never help me out with this... they would press for adoption or abortion because they're barely financially stable enough to help us - I'm in school strictly on student loans, my brother is joining the armed forces so they'll pay for school, and my sister never went to college- she's got a full time job and is living at home. None of us can support a baby, and I can't ask my dead exes mom to help - she just lost her son and is extremely financially pressed... it's insane! I don't know what to do !!
What would you do if you were in my situation?
I don't have anyone to turn to because the baby's father is dead... I just don't know what to do right now!!
You should not keep the baby & try to raise it without an adequate amount of money just because it's your baby.
That's extremely selfish and makes no sense whatsoever.
I think you have no other choice but to give the baby up for adoption because if you decide to keep this baby, you will run out of money. Then, your parents may try to help in your time of need. But you said they're not financially stable enough. Ultimately, everyone would starve.
The solution is clear. Give the baby up for adoption. Some other couple who will give your baby a good life with the necessities of life and you'll feel confident in your decision.
Also, it doesn't seem that you would want a reminder of your ex as a reminder of his demise...sorry to be morbid. But really.
I have a older sister who I cannot quite understand why she acts the way she does. She is 25 and has always lived with my mother. She has always had a problem with her finances. She cant seem figure out what kind of a career she wants or what she wants to do. She owes almost everyone money and the money she does earn from her waitress job gets blown on booze, clothes, food and fun. She seems to make spur of the moment decisions and is very easily influenced by freinds who dont have responsibilities like her. The same kind of friends who live with their parents and have absolutely no obligations. I almost feel like she has no conscience about spending money when she knows she has debts to be paid. Sometimes i feel she has the potential to be a homeless person! This is just a tip of things, there is so much more detail but it would take days to explain. Please help! I need to know what i should do to help her and how i can get through to her!
She sounds irresponsible like most people when they're around 17-22. I know because I have 4 older siblings & I saw them all go through those years.
Maybe you could borrow some money from her, then not pay it back. When she asks, say you spent it on McDonalds on your way home today...or you spent it on Saturday night. She should get the picture eventually.
But that'd given that she'd actually lend you the money.
Maybe you could just ask your mom to talk to her. Maybe your mom could charge her rent?
That sounds mean, but most 25 year olds are in apartments...paying rent.
And if she hasn't paid back debts to your mother, the least she could do is pay rent.
Did that help?
I hate it when he looks or talks to a girl. it bothers me! ugh i hate it so much.
all of the stupid girls in school like him.. i feel like hes never gonna be mine 100%. we've been going out for almost 8 months and im not happy at all, i mean like im happy with him.. we're both in love and stuff but i feel like my head is gonna blow up.. everyday i start thinking crap.. and i fill my head with stupid dumb thoughts about him being with another girl and stuff.. he tells me that he only wants me and that he loves me and yeahh im just scared :[
what if i stop being jealous & i finally trust him 100% and then boom.. he cheats on me? i will feel like garbage, like nothing. that would destroy me. i dont know what i would do :/
i need help.. i hate being jealous. I DONT WANT THIS ANYMORE :[ its ruining my relationship.
every day we fight bc of me. bc of my jealousy.. bc of girls. :(
I dont want to lose him. ever
Here's a way to look at the situation in a totally different light:
Rather than be jealous of other girls looking at him, rather than feeling inferior to those girls...you should feel extra-confident. You should feel superior to them. This should give you an ego boost because your boyfriend is the guy every girl wants...and guess what, he's YOUR boyfriend!
He sees you as good enough for him; he hasn't left you even though he sees the other thousand girls staring him down.
As for the anxiety about trusting him, then being let down...you'll have to let that go.
Because, truthfully, if you can't trust him, there's no real relationship there. A relationship is built on trust.
I understand that it'd hard to just change your attitude...it's not like you flip a switch and you trust him. You'll have to look within, because that's where the uncertainty lies. You're not confident in some aspect, if not a few aspects of yourself. Perhaps those are some that need changing, or some that need embracing & developing.
This is going to sound irrelevant because it pertains to religion, but it applies here as well.
A man once said, "I'd rather live believing there is a Heaven, then die & find out there isn't, than live believing there is no Heaven, then die & find out there is."
You'll spend more time with your belief of whether or not he's cheating. And when you find out the truth, that will be maybe a few minutes of finding out, whether it's positive or negative.
Let's say you believe he isn't.
If it turns out he is, you wouldn't have been miserable before and after you found out.
If it turns out he isn't, you'll regain trust in yourself.
Let's say you believe he is.
If it turns out he isn't, you'll feel relieved after...but what was the point of the previous worry?
If it turned out he is, you'll regain trust in your judgment & have one more experience under your belt.
My point is...always hope for the best.
I'm pretty sure, though, that if there are many girls that want him & he hasn't left you, he wants you. He's not going to cheat.
Okay, right about now,my life isn't so great. I don't have any close friends, absolutly hate the close minded town i live in, and can't stand my family! I want to get away from it all,and the only way I can do this is by moving in with my dad who lives in another state. See,theres some problems with this though. My brother (who i hate, no,not the kind of hate thats like "he's still your brother"-he's deffinatly no brother to me.) moved with my dad about 3 years ago. He hated it there and fought with my dad all the time so he moved back here. Now,my brothers a very controlling person and always believes he's right(he also breaks everything.) But its so much more as well. Thats how my dad used to be,but he changed. I honestly believe my dad's a much better person now-he's just much more happier. We're also interesting in the same things;music,acting. Anyways, i told my mom i was depressed here and wanted to move away with my dad and she completely flipped out. My moms very mean,not caring.She doesn't care about my feelings what so ever. She thinks my dad's giving me ideas to live with him. I really want to move in with my dad,but she refuses. It's really bad though,because my dad made a credit card under my mom's name and she might have to pay 800 dollers. I'm mad at him for that, but i'd rather be with him than live with my brother and mom for another day.I just want to move so bad, but i feel like theres so many things on both sides telling me to go and not to go. I'm 16,so i have a choice,right? The only friend i told about this didn't understand, so this is really the only place i can go to. Should i stay,or should i go? sorry this is really choppy by the way, i'm just really sad. thanks for the advice though everyone
I'm going to warn you. You said that your dad acted like your brother before, but now he's changed?
People do not change.
I've tried so many times to convince myself otherwise. Life will mold you in little ways & change slight characteristics & slight tendencies, but you made it sound as though your brother is a threat...and I know many people like that. My father is just like that...and he's very threatening. He's bipolar & unmedicated/untreated. But they don't change. He hasn't changed one bit since I started to harbor visible hatred toward him.
I wouldn't tell you that it's dangerous to live with your dad because...I don't know your dad. But, then again, I don't know your mom. I don't know you.
I do know that the whole thing with him making a credit card under your mom's name...along with the uncontrollable behavior...does not make him sound like someone anyone should live with.
So, in answer to your question, I think you should stay.
Hey I have this Tommy Hilfiger long sleeved shirt (100% cotton) and I accidentally stretched it out because I kept pulling it when it was wet. Is there ANY way to unstretch it? THANKS!
Maybe you can stick it in the dryer...but if it's been washed/dried enough times, it won't shrink.
But it's worth a try.
14/F
Okay, so I turn in all my assignments and I pay attention in class and ask questions.
The lowest grade in my school is an E, the highest is an A.
I have an E in Algebra, even after I've tried! It seems after every time I try, I fail! Any ideas on what to do?
I gave up on this last year and the year before, but I don't want to do it again. I need help.
P.S I really don't want to sit alone in a room with my teacher either. o-o; I get super nervous a lot.
Algebra was pretty much second nature to me...I took it last year & kept a 112 average.
But, I will say that the only way I was able to study from my notes is if they were taken step by step. The notes had to illustrate every little change that occured in an equation.
For example, I wouldn't have been able to study from this:
6y+2=8 --> 6y=6
In order to study, I would've had to write that same equation like this:
6y+2=8 --> 6y=8-2 --> 6y=6
Maybe this can help you.
It helped my friend when I showed her.
Also, maybe if you looked at the equation from a different perspective, you could understand it a little better.
Algebra is a lot of inverse operations, and people don't partake in inverse actions much because everything we do is electronic. We push a button and things go back to their default positions.
If you look at a problem that tells you to 'find x,' think of it literally in terms of "finding x." Then, your logic will come into play and you won't just be thinking, "x is a letter...what is this?...confusing?"
Think of it in the same terms as if you lose an object in your house & you have to backtrack to find it.
So, if you think you lost your toering, and it might be on your toe, but you're wearing socks, you'll just think, "Okay...well I put on my socks...so I'll take them off to see if it's there."
So, in algebra:
6x+3=9
Well, you added 3 in there, so, to find x, you'll have to subtract 3 from 9 in order to isolate x.
6x=6
So now it looks like x has been multiplied by 6, so to find x...divide by 6.
Always divide both sides, though.
x=1.
Now that I typed all that, I'm thinking...maybe you needed help on the more advanced algebra...towards the end, with graphs and all.
Oh well.
Hopefully I helped you.
Well to start off i'd like to start off by saying my subject sounds like the name of a film or something doesn't it =/ l0l
Well heres my problem...
My friend and his girlfriend have been going out for around 2 years now, but for about a year me and his girlfriend have been texting and talking to each other on msn. As soon as i saw her i really liked her and after spending time with them both i realized i really liked her !
Also after a while i found out she liked me as soon as she saw me too.
Anyway we found out we liked each other by joking about liking each other, and then we thought we would just tell the truth and admit we do find each other attractive and like each other.
And after talking to her quite often on msn and stuff we decided to go owt together for the day in leeds. It did seem kinda wierd n i did feel awful about going behind my friends back so i told her how i felt about that.
But recently we have and so have alot of other people, found out he has cheated on her with a few girls ( 3 that we r aware of). They are still together but i dont understand why l0l. He now knows about us two liking each other. He now likes another girl. But yet they are still together.
I am still friends with him but dont see him often at all. i see him about 5 times a year or less because he works ALOT, or is spending time with his girlfriend which isnt a lot at all l0l.
What should i do ?
Should i speak to her about finishing with him and being in a relationship with me or should i just leave it, keep talking to her but wait untill they finish and then make a move ?
or should i wait untill they finish, still talk to her but dont go into a relationship straight away ? WHAT SHOULD I DO ? its been like living in a episode of hollyoaks or something being in the situation l0l =/
It really does sound like a movie.
But anyway, definitely. She should be done with him not only because she doesn't like him as much as she likes you, but because he's cheating on her.
The strange thing about reading this...is that the same exact thing happened to me, only I was the girlfriend.
And this guy, he seemed so great.
Then I got to know his friend, who informed me of all the things that the other guy did behind my back.
Then I started liking his friend...but it never got past that.
We stopped talking abruptly so yeah.
But it would've been great had he and I kept talking.
Having said that, tell her to get rid of him and go out with you, because if not, you might be like me, regretting not taking action.
What would be the best and most efficient way of doing this?
Thanks! :)
Cut out the starch and work out.
It will be hard at first but trust me, it works.
I've lost 50 lbs by doing that.
hii so there is this new guy who came about 3 months ago, so not too new anymore haha :]
and well i really really fancy him, like he's so cute and nice. but he also seems a lil shy tho :/
so like when he was new, his mum told my mum (they got to know eachother at parentsnight) that he really likes this girl who looks like blabla(discription) and that was pretty much me haha (: and my mum was like omygosh thats my daughter blabla and then told me. i was really happy and i know that he meant me because like i'm the only one with long hair down to my waist x]
so like in school i try smiling at him and stuff but he never really looks at me? but my friends tell me that he looks at me ALL the time when im not looking. and we've talked like a few times before but he never really shows his feelings and acts all 'cool'. but then he gets really jealous sometimes when i talk to anothe rguy. i mean i talked to this guy yesterday and he was watching, staring at him like he wants to punch him in the face :/ he's really shy when it comes to liking someone though but the issue is, so am i. and i want to say hi to him sometime in the hallway or something but i never really find the right situation and i dont have the guts ://
argh, i know this is a typical problem but please help meee :]
Well, if you're shy also, then you should know that shy people will not look at the people they like, if they can help it. I'm shy, so I know.
The only reason anyone is shy about their feelings is insecurity, or fear of rejection.
If you know that he likes you, then you have no reason to fear rejection when you talk to him.
If you talk to him, he will feel that you are not repelled by him, and then get more comfortable.
The reason why he won't make a move is he doesn't know that you like him back.
But you have an advantage. You know his feelings & yours, so you have complete oversight of the whole situation.
The ball is in your court.
Good luck :)
This just occured to me the other night while I went out for dinner.
I went to a chinese buffet now the waitress gave us water, took our empty plates but this was a buffet where we serve ourselves now was I supposed to tip for the waitress filling my drinks and taking my clean plates? I'm confused...
Yes, definitely.
Waitresses/Waiters make most of their money off of tips.
You should always tip 18% of the total cost of the meal, if not 20%, regardless of what type of restaurant you're eating at.
They still have to pick up dirty plates & give you refills on drink.
Trust me, there are enough people that don't tip waitstaff at all.
Just put yourself in their shoes.
Ok. Im trying to burn my friend some songs... but I want the songs to have the meaning of "You should be with me." or "Im the one you need." I have feelings for him, and im putting a few random songs on the CD im making him with that kinda tone. He already knows what to expect, but I just want a few good songs where a girl is professing her love (or like) for a guy, that has a girlfriend or another love in his life.
ANY help would be GREATLY appreciated!
I rate high for good ideas!
-MEJ
Age 18
I don't know what kind of music you're asking for, so some of this may seem lame.
"Miracle"-Cascada.
"To love you more"-Celine Dion
"Somebody's Me"-Enrique Iglesias
"Always"-Blink 182
"I'll Stand by You"-The Pretenders
"I Need You"-LeAnn Rimes
"Right Kind of Wrong"-LeAnn Rimes
That's all I can think of for now. I'll come back if I think of more.
So has anyone else noticed that on all of the relationship questions on here everyone makes it sound like their relationship is perfect??? I do it to but i wonder if everyone feels the same or if they are just lying so everything sounds like its great when its really not if that makes any sense...
I don't want to be pessimistic (if pessimism even would apply here) but they probably are.
The mind has control over the entire body.
They're writing about their relationship on here, probably because there is an underlying issue that may or may not have been addressed.
Some peoples' minds work in a way that they can convince themselves of something that they know isn't true...in order to survive.
It's a coping mechanism that I've yet to learn.
ok i went to the doctor and they think i might have thyroid problems.
i have all the symptoms but i want to know whats a good diet to follow. thank you
Without a doubt, the best thing you can do is either take an iodine supplement or eat an adequate amount of seafood.
You may live in a region where seafood isn't abundant, so if that's the case, take a supplement. The thyroid gland is powered by iodine. The above advice applies to hypothyroidism only.
Symptoms of hypothyroidism are fatigue, weakness, weight gain or increased difficulty losing weight, coarse/dry hair, dry/rough pale skin, hair loss, cold intolerance (can't tolerate the cold like those around you), muscle cramps and frequent muscle aches, constipation, depression, irritability, memory loss, abnormal menstrual cycles, and decreased libido.
ALTHOUGH IF YOUR ISSUE IS HYPERTHYROIDISM, DO NOT TAKE MY ADVICE. ASK YOUR DOCTOR.
If you're not sure, hyperthyroidism is characterized by elevated body temperature, sweating, weight loss, nervousness, insomia, light or absent menstrual periods, fast heart rate, trembling hands, muscle weakness, warm moist skin, hair loss, staring gaze, breathlessness, and fatigue.
i have this problem where i'll get bad gas pains in my stomach and a part of my intestine in my lower left side swells up(you can feel it) and it hurts and it seems like when the food gets to that point and when it swells up i get the gas pains and i have to run to the bathroom...and the last 2 days i've had a pain in there ( i thought it was the appendix but thats on the right) but i went to the doctor and they dont really understand it..but is it possible there is something wrong with the piece of intestine? (its the same exact spot and lenght that swells up everytime) so i thought maybe something could be wrong with it or a piece of it is no good or something?
...sry its kinda digusting.
im a male btw
I experience something similar to that on an almost-daily basis.
I've attributed it to bad gas, lactose intolerance, even IBS.
My brother also gets it, so there isn't much to do about it.
Tums help me...Also, there's a supplement forumlated by Dr. David Williams called Probiotic Advantage.
It's made of all natural ingredients, no chemicals. Only need to take once in the morning.
It works really well.
I have another condition that you may or may not be familiar with.
If I wait too long to eat, acid accumlates in my stomach. Then, when I eat something, thinking it's hunger pain, the pain is worsened because the food is compacted on top of the pre-existing acid...and it's a well-known fact that when you eat something, more acid pours into your stomach to help digest the food.
Well, if you're interested:
http://www.drdavidwilliams.com/Products2.aspx?ProductID=PA31&AspxAutoDetectCookieSupport=1
i've heard that when you have a nightmare its because there's a spirit sitting on top of your chest, and thats why you get up feeling like you cant breathe.. is that true? i've also heard that if you put a cup of water under your bed in the center, it'll drown all the nightmares.
I heard that bigfoot really exists...
Can you honestly even acknowledge the existence of these myths?
I don't believe that it has anything to do with spirits sitting on top of your chest because, to begin with, you are having this nightmare. Your brain created the scenario because, as you know, you're the only person dreaming it.
When you interpret the meaning of a nightmare through symbolism, it's very accurate...and it's creepy.
For example, every nightmare I've ever had involved the same two people:
my brother, who has asperger's syndrome, and my mother, who I'm very close to.
I looked into the reason and it's that the people that are in your nightmares with you are the ones you feel that you're responsible for or protective of in some way, or the ones that you feel are responsible for you.
So, in a way, you're either the hero or the victim in your nightmares.
I'm sure you could find many sources either online or at a bookstore for dream interpretations.
*You feel like you can't breathe because of an adrenaline rush caused by fear, which causes your medulla oblongata to sense a lack of homeostasis. Thus, causing your heartrate to rise. From then on, the medulla oblongata (again) senses even more chaos, then you're breathing is faster, causing you to hyperventilate.*
I'm a 15/f who loves makeup!
I usually wear mascara and eyeliner, and it tends to run under my eyes so im always using Q-tips to wipe it off. And when i take my makeup off it usually all runs under my eyes, so i have to rub harder under my eyes. Anyways what im trying to ask is how do i prevent sagging, and bigger eye bags from all this rubing, because im sure from all that rubbing my eye bags are only gonna get bigger.
any advice!?
please and thank you!
Here's a tip: The easier the eyeliner glides on, the easier it will glide off.
You should probably get a better eye makeup remover and rub more gently, rather than vigorously....do not rub hard under your eyes. It's just not a smart move.
It would be better just to stop rubbing completely and get an eyeliner that is not waterproof, so that it will come off on its own when you shower. You'll have to apply it more frequently throughout the day, but you'll pay more money on special creams when you're older for the saggy eyes than you will now on extra eyeliner b/c you had to reapply.
Btw, eyeliner tends to stay in the lashline if you apply it there, even if it isn't waterproof, so perhaps you should leave it alone if it doesn't come off there because you don't really have pores that will clog in your lashline to cause pimples.
But if you insist on rubbing under your eyes, rub from the outer corner of your face, in toward the nose because as you get older, the collagen tends to all gravitate to the sides of the face & downward, creating frownlines. Yes, your bags will create frownlines, as odd as that is. Gravity is not kind.