my name is vanessa williams
and i want anyone who has any problems, feel free to ask for advice, i am non judgemental, listen and give you good advice, not what you want to hear but the right advice
take care and God bless
Member Since: May 6, 2005
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Last Update: September 23, 2005
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16/f
me and my boyfriend recently broke up and my other guy friend says that the best way to "get over" a relationship is to rebound date. personally i don't think that's right because its leading the other person on, making them think that you like them when all you are doing is making the ex jealous or making yourself think about the ex. then my other guy friend (the one from above) calls me up and asks if i want to do something this weekend, and i say yeah because he is my friend. but later on during our conversation, he suddenly whispers really fast that i should go for the rebound dating. i know what he wants, but do you think that rebound dating is the best way to "get over" a previous relationship? thanks in advance.
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weirded out and conflustered (link)
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hi there
i am sorry about you breakup nothing anyone can say, can make it better. it could be your friend likes you, but to go out with someone that you're not really into isnt a good idea , my personal opinon i don't think is the best way, because whatever you friend does you find that you'll be comparing him to your ex boyfriend
nothing i can say, can make you get over him, jst give it time, it might help if you knew why you broke off in the first place . personally people say time is the best healer for the sore heart. i am not saying i'll agree with this , but give it time and its not easy
Good luck
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Sorry to bother you again. But today the guy didn't talk to me. I had told you my friend asked him if he liked me. Well he wouldn't talk to me until we had art class. I was with my friend. He told her Hi oh i'll tell you something later. I can't talk to her(me). It was confusing. Then he came and sat down and started to talk to her only looking at her. My friend told me to leave, he said no she could stay and listen. The thing is that her friend told me that if i liked her and that i bothered her. So i don't want to bother her anymore. I was like well that didn't come out of my mouth. Everything was going well again. Until his friend that told me that we flirt a lot came and he(the guy that i like) told him what he said. His friend said we flirt a lot and maybe in the future we're going to be together. After that our last period. he said hi to me and i told him hi. I asked he so are you ignoring my friend now cuz u didnt say hi,then he said hi. Atter we were done with the work in class he went to the back and started to practice because he is going to be in the talent show. My friend was telling me he was looking at me and i think it was so too. I just can get him off my mind. should i do something special. i dont want to tell him straight up that i like him. How are some ways that you can tell that a guy likes you. thank you for your time
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hi there
i sorry i didnt answer your question straight away, well if a guy likes me , sometimes its caled intuition , you just know , it could be the way he looks at you, like when you are looking at someone and he lookes at you, try asking someone that he knows doesnt talk to you , that normally works,
sometimes they might not able to look you straight in the eye
basically i think from what you've said he likes you , try just being his friend now and you'll never know, what could happen in the future
good luck
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i'm in 10th grade/female and theres this boy i was talking to for about 4 months then we suddenly just stopped talking because of people making up all these rumors about us so he ended it cause he thought i was the one saying it all. for awhile i was ok with it but then i got the feeling i was never really over him. and now i can't stop thinking about him were sitll friends and i tried talking to him about it but he says things are just different now. how can i get over him, please help its been soo long since we stopped talking and i'm still not over him. like wtf? (link)
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hi there
well i feel your pain, i don't know why people start rumors, i am thinking they are jealos and don't want to see you happy
i can't tell you of anything that would get you over this guy
i don't know if he belived these rumours, you should talk to him just to clear the air , just incase rumours start again
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Well I like this guy and he has a g/f but he secretly likes me and when he is not with his g/f he talks to me and hugs me and jokes around with me but when he is with her he never looks at me. His aunt tells me he likes me and I like him secretly too. He always trys to stare at me when his gf is not looking but his g/f is one of my good friends. What should I do? (link)
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hi there,
well it happens, if you say she's yor friend, you wouldnt approach this guy, think about it, if the tables were tuned would you like your friend to be after your man ?
if he doesnt look at you when she's around that should give you an idea, that he might not want her to be aware that he likes you ? the question is who does he like better and even if he likes u better how will your friend take the news ?
is it worth losing your friendship over ?
think about the decision you make, it says something about who we are, forget impression forget perception,i can't tell u what to do
under advice you
take care of your self
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17/F
Ok, so I lost my virginity to my boyfriend the friday before last. I love him more than anything. But the other day he told me that a couple weeks ago he got really drunk and ended up having sex with one of our girl friends who was there. He is really truly sorry. When he told me he was crying hysterically, and kept telling me that he made a mistake. And I knew he was really sorry and felt horrible. We spent a long time crying together but eventually we got through it. He told me everything that happened, and I forgave him. We're still together, but it seems like I can't trust him the same. It's like when I'm not there, I'm scared hes going to do something again. I don't know why I feel this way when I forgave him, and we're actually better than before. How can I get myself to trust him like I did before??
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hi there,
how are you, i now that you must be in pain, at least he admitted it, maybe because you were going to find out anyway, if he said he was so upset why didnt he tell you immediately ?
how can you trust someone who has betrayed you like that? there has to be forgiveness but can you really forget and get over it ? i don't think any woman can get over it? why didnt he tell you before you gave him your virginity ? he waited until you both done it then confessed
all i can say is, if your love is strong and you are able to forgive and forget and not throw it at his face with every oportunity go for it.
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I am 16 yrs. old female. He is 15 male. I started liking him a not long ago. Ever since his friend told me that we flirted a lot. After that i started seeing my friend in other eyes. Other people have noticed too that we flirt a lot. I had a boyfriend at that time, now i don't. But after that he would ask me if there were any guys that i was interested in. He has a girlfriend. My friend asked him in front of me if he would cheat on his girlfriend he said no. Another friend told him today if he liked me because he flirts with me a lot and he kept asking her why. I don't know if he is suspecting something. I don't know what to do with this. i want to know if he likes me but at the same time i am afraid of rejection. Is there a way i can find out? By the way his friend told me that what was up with me and his friend(the guy i like) i told him nothin he said he could hook us up. i told him no, i had a boyfriend n then he told me that (his friend)had a girlfriend. I don't know if his friend was just asking me just to ask or if(the guy that i like)has told him anything. (link)
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hi there
am sorry for your pain, you can talk to him and see how he feels about it, since you had a bf ant the time maybe he moved on, and he has a girlfiend, he says he wondnt cheat on his irl, but if there isnt any girl to cheat on, find out from a friend of yours that talks to him, mystriously to find out how he feel, but if you dont ask him direclty you'll never know he might not want to say he'll cheat on his girl incase he gets dumped.
good luck
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I NEED HELP!!!!!!!!!!!i am in love w/ this guy named Travis...we have been "Friends With Benefits" 4 quite a while now...he knows that i luv him...We say "I Love U" EVERYTIME that we r on the fone together...he treats me like a PRINCESS...last nite he told me that i was like a sister 2 him.....i was CRUSHED....i cried myself 2 sleep.....he is my EVERYTHING!!!!!....i dunno what 2 do....i feel like giving up on EVERYTHING...including life....I NEED ANYBODIES HELP!!!!!!
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hi there
i feel your pain, i am not just saying it, no one deserves to go through this heartache, first of all since your his friend and he says your like his sister, why would he sleep with you because to me he isnt being a true friend a true frind will cherish you and your friendship
personally i don't think he is being honest with you, you should have a talk with him a serious mature conversation, because if you say your his you everything, you need to talk
yo usay that you say i love u , everytime he might have a different interpretation from the one u used, talk to him, also has he got a girlfriend,
Good luck and God bless
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So it seems no one cares that its right to wait untill marrage to have sex (in the chrsitian religon) and now to me it seems seroiusly wrong, but later on it probubaly wont. I just wanted to know at what age do most people lose it? Since im in 7th now, and next year is supposibly the year everyone starts. Most likly the guy I marry wont be a virgin, right? 5's for anyone who is reasonable. (link)
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hi there,
i am a christain and i believe in waiting , people don't understand that f you sleep with different people they are given a part of themselve away, even though when we all die, its our body that turns to dust, God gave us the body for a reason, fo us to cherish it, not to abuse it, even though i am well aware that most men than women arent virgins.
ne of my firned is a muslim and shes dating a christain, i can't say it would work, because if they had any respect for their religion they wouldnt disrespect it, and then what's the point of religion ( if your a muslim a females can't get married to a christain male )
and if they disrespect it, what's the point of getting married, it also has to do with values and also the future.
i think that saving yourself, is giving a part of yourself from the Lord, that no money on eareth can buy
Good luck and God Bless
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how do you get a girl that is a pussy to tell you stuff to tell you how she really feels...cuz its getting pretty annoying...
(P.S. my guy friend asked this question...not me--no, not a lez) (link)
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hi there,
just talking to her in a very comfortable enviroment, where she feels in a total comfort zone, when asking a question try not to push to hard,
good luck
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Ok, I just wanted to thank me ppl for their advice. I found out the she is having a relationship behind my back. This is the new one. I just went to our senior prom and met this girl. She is the bomb, I mean everything about her is perfect in my eyes. I almost hooked up with her and found out that one of my friends like her,but she doesn't like him that way. I'm in some trouble on this one. LOL. What should I do on this one. Arrrrgh, why do my friends and i like the same girl.
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hi there
if you have an respect for your friend you wouldnt go out with that girl even though she's perfect in your eyes. think about it is it worth it to sacrifice the friendship, for this girl is not like you are going to marry her
think about it, i cant tell you what to do, but if ts going to cause problems in your friendship ask yourself is it worth it
i believe in always doing the right thing not the wrong thing.
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ok so i liked this kid ryan like 2 weeks ago, and then i stopped liking him, and now everyone keeps asking me if im mad at him or if i still like him. And tonight my guy friend told me if i was mad at him because they were playing basketball and ryan told him that he thinks i am, does this mean anything? (link)
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hi there,
first you have to make your feelings known to him, if you have stopped liking him, for what reason or did you like him for the wrong reason
he might think because you arent talking to him as you used to , maybe you are
all i can say is talk to him, be honest because at the end of the day tell him wht ou think not from someone else
good luck
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What exactly is a facial (like when you go to a spa)? (link)
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hi there
facial like the one you have in a spa, are used because of the dialy harsh chemicals, it acts as an exfoliant, mosituriser which removes dead skin, to reveal soft smooth skin, some facials make your skin younger looking,
if you have sensitive skin you have to let them know just incase you might react to one of them.
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ok so I have this friend who I can't stand. (she isn't really my friend) She is so screwed up and I can't stand her. 1. She is a patheloical lier and 2. She snjoys screwing peoples lives up. So anyway my best friend recently started dating her and I can't fiure out why. She's mean, ugly, dramatic and really hurts people. No one likes her. So we were at a concert and he had his arm around me and I turn around and he was making out with her! How do I tell him how I feel about their relationship? Thanks. 14/f (link)
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hi there,
i totally know where you are coming from, i believe that they are some poeple that are mean and end up going with the nice guy, maybe she doesnt act that way wheb shes's with him, i have a so called friend that is exactly like this, i don't think you are jealous , you are just looking out for your friend that's all , beware that if you tell him, she might put ideas into his head and say that you are jealous, but you arent
all i can say it just be there for your best friend when it gets bad or the relationship is over , think about it her true colour are going to have to come to light sooner or later
good luck and take care
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ok so tonights our big Spring Formal and I have no idea how to do my hair..an i cant get it done anywhere cuz everyones booked...so any cute, easy, do-it-yourself hairstyles is what i want...pics would help(if possible)..=]..thanks i rate (link)
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hi there,
well without seeing you hair and your face i cannot tell you what hair design would duit you
you could easy braid you hair with curling lotion for like 3 hours and take it off to reveal the curls
have you got a curling tong you could do a really slick hair , if your hair is long, you could gel the hair in the front, like the hairline area, creating a design and put your hair in a wavy pattern, this hair design is really hard to describe
you could flick your hair forwards always look cute, using a straight iron don't forget to add mosituriser
good luck
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Does anyone have any idea on how to do REALLy good makeup tips (link)
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for eyes which means using mascara, don't stroke the mascara in different direction, stroke the mascara in one direction so it goes with your eyebrows
to have a good complexion, always wash your face twice a day, and apply a good mosituriser and if you apply face powder, some people but a face cream and a make up base and when it is dried apply face powder moderately, which looks natural
if you wear lipstick, try to use on which moisturise your lips, so it doesnt look dry
good luck
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my hair is naturally black and i want to dye it brown so what kind of product would be good to use for my hair thats permanent ? (link)
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colouring hair can damage your hair's health so its better to use a quality brand like loreal, if you have sensitive scalp try using hair dyes that contain herbal solutions, which gives you that just salon performance, and also mosturises your hair, so it dosent break or look dull a good brand is garnier
good luck in whatever you decide
and also remmeber after colouring hair, you need to use a colour shampoo and a consitioner
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ok im going 2 a new school and i hav a new friend.. she and i both like the same guy... and unfortunately he won't tell ne 1 who he likes at the moment... and he never tells ne 1 if its the newest person i school.... and im not sure if he likes me... but my friend says he does.... she isn't mad at me... but i dont' want 2 her 2 no that i like him.... what should i do 2 find out if he likes me? should i ask him myself?
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Thanx, Hope (lil hil) (link)
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if you have any respect for your friend , you wouldnt go out withh him, but if its fine by your friend then its okay because if you don't tell her you could get bad karma, because what goes around comes around,
try asking
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i have a lot of trouble getting to sleep. i can't switch off wheni go to bed and i feel tired a lot of the time. I have tried cutting out caffiene, herbal sleeping tablets and all the obvious things and nothing works. can you help (link)
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hi there,
well the normally hours of sleep anyone should be getting is 8 hours
try taking some herbal tea or horlick, what about aromaterapy oils, having a bubble bath before bed time also try drinking lots of water before bed time
good luck
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can a muslim female marry a christain male, (link)
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it is unlawful for a muslim female to marry a christain male, it says so in the holy quran
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im a very good catholic. i really feel bad if i do so much as say oh my god. anyway. i have been sort of mastribating lately. when i get horny sometimes i use a fake penis to 'have sex'. is this sinning because i wanna know if i should stop doing this. please please please help (link)
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hello ,
i am not judging you, but being a good catholic, means no sex before marriage, you have to respect the rules and try not to break them
well i am not the Lord, so i can't judge you , if you say you are a very good catholic you wouldnt be doing what you described
think about it if you cannot stick to the rules, you have no respect for your religion and poeple may say that yo uare a catholic by name
repent to God, ask for forgiveness, it easy for me to say , but not for you, Judgement is passed by the Lord only
pray God is listening when you don't think he is , he is in the air we breathe everywhere
Good luck and may God continue to bless you
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