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I'm 15 years old & have been with my boyfriend for a few months. He's not a virgin and he's done sexual things with many girls. He told me he was ready to have sex whenever I was. I feel like I don't live up to his old girlfriends and that I'm such a good girl - being a virgin & unexperienced. I'm a little scared to have sex but when will I know I'm totally ready and mature enough to do it? Is it that wrong to not be sexually experienced at 15?

If this guy has a rep, for having sex with girls and then breaking up with them, don't have sex with him. If you really feel ready now, its up to you to decide. I hope you make the right choice for you. Good luck!
~Cayd

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i want to sleep with this guy, im a vrigin and im lil nerveous but i know im ready should i?
i rate good

If you want to, go ahead. It's okay to want to sleep with a guy. If you feel very ready enough, go ahead. Just be true to yourself, and be careful, you don't want the guy to tell the whole world.
~Cayd

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This may not be the right category, but I couldnt find a better place. I just found out today that one of my friends from school, that I graduated with passed away yesterday. His friends were going through his cell phone, found my number and called me. I had one class with the person, we always flirted with each other and talked about hooking up. I never called him after we graduated because I thought, yeah hes to good for me. Well, he still had my number in his phone and I feel bad for never calling him. I want to go to the viewing to see him one last time and to pay my respects to him. He was a great guy. But, then again, I dont want to go because I want to remember him from how he was before. I dont think I could handle seeing him in a casket. I dont know what to do. Should I go to the viewing or not? The viewing is Friday..so I need answers soon. Thanks!!

Here's one way to do it: Pay your respects to your friend because if you don't, you may regret for the rest of your life. You can go to the funeral home and give your condolences to your friend's family and possibly talk about some happy memories. You can decide if you want to approach the casket or not, it isn't mandatory for you to have to approach it. If you decide to approach the casket, you can look somewhere else, other than your friend's casket or you can close your eyes. Its up to you, just follow your heart.
~Cayd

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I'm really attracted to my friend. Hes 17 years old and is a total hottie. I really would love to spend the rest of my life with him. He gives me chills down my spine to see him happy and when hes sad it kills me ... literaly. The only thing is, that is stopping me from being with him, is my religion. In my religion it is against my code to have sex with another male. What do you think i should do? I really want to be with him and have sex with him but when i do i feel bad... help please. im an 18 year old male. Weve known each other for 5 years now. please help.

Think about your religion first. If you think, okay, maybe i should do this, go ahead and do it. I think it's great that you want to be with him and want him to be happy, but just give it a little time. Its up to you to decide this. Keep thinking and follow your heart. Good luck!
~Cayd

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Ok im really attracted to my friend and he's a guy and i really think he's hot but idk how 2 tell him how i feel or even if he's gay. Please help i am a 14 and im a guy please help!

Wait awhile to ask your friend. Study how he acts around girls or other guys. See if he flirts with guys or girls. If he flirts with girls, he probably is straight. Hope i helped a little bit!
~Cayd

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i need to know some really great websites that I can go to to get some ideas for really cute hairstyles. i'm trying to experiment this year and i really need a website with like pictures and directions on how to do your hair!! if you can help in any way, please do!! please answer this!!!!!

Try going to google.com. Type in hairstyles or whatever. Good luck to you!
~Cayd

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ok.. how many of you think its possible to love at 15? i kno there's girls on here and guys that say they love their bf/gf. but do most of you take it as "puppy love?" i think it is possible. bc see my bf now.. ive been with him 9 months and i lost my virginity to him and the thing is my mom and family dissapprove of me and him together... because hes black n im white. but i still go to see him and he comes to see me at like the park and stuff and we hang out. and im 15 and so is he. i mean i kno this may sound stupid but i really can see myself with him forever. like i dont want to be with anyone else. i kno i love him and not that fake stuff. i would do anything for him. i kno u all dont think i kno what love is bc im so young but thats ok. but i do love him with all my heart and i would die for him... but how many of you believe that u can love someone at 15?
id like to hear ur comments. ill rate. thanks..
Manda

If you really feel for this guy, i think maybe you really do love him. I think its up to you to decide if you really do love him. It sounds like you really care for him and that is a good start, because a good relationship starts with caring, and will grow into love. Time will tell you if you do love this guy. Be true to yourself and tell me how it goes!!!
~Cayd

Hey!! Thanks for the five. I don't have AIM or MSN but i'll give you my Email adress in case ya need anything else. :) look on my page and there it'll be just 4 u!

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I am 17/f. I had this childhood friend of like 8-9 years. We were best friends, but then we hit a ofrk in the orad and she turned to drugs about a year and a half ago. When I fisrt found out that she did it, I was pissed and told her that she was dumb and shouldnt do it again. She told me she wouldn't, that she was just tryingit so I gave her the benifit of the doubt. Her and I stopped being friends about 6 months ago. She started becoming really selfish,and just always pissing me off. She was telling me she was clean but I know her too well and could tell by how she wasacting that she was lying to me. Now she hangs around with my younger sister who is 16. I just found out the other day, that just as I thought, she is still using. My sister told me she snorts heroin in front of her all the time and that she is getting really bad. She also told me that she offered her soem to try but my she told her no. The fact that she had the nerve to offer my sister drugs really pisses me off. I feel like calling her up and telling her off. I have been debating on doing this for like the past 3 days. I cant seem to stop thinking about it. I understand that she is ruining her life but why would she encourage someone else to do the same? I wanna call her or so bad! I am so mad! I don't know what to do.

Call this girl! She needs serious help. She has a problem and doesn't realize it. You and others need to MAKE her realize it. Let all of your anger out if you talk to her. Tell her how she is destroying her life and her body. Tell me how it goes.
~Cayd

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My friend is having a birthday/sleepover party this weekend. Problem is..I dont like sleeping over anybody`s house (just a problem I have) I do sometimes though..but i reeally dont like it. Plus, the friends shes inviting are people i dont know at all.Please help, i dont want to go to this party..what should i say to my friend? I really dont feel comfortable sleeping over someone`s house ive never been to before.My friend, whos going to be there, knows about my problem and im afraid shes going to tell.Should I make up a dumb excuse or admit my problem and jus hang at her house til like 10? I really dont wanna hurt my friends feelings or embarass myself.
Thank you soo much for the help in advance!!!

I have that problem sometimes too. Its no big deal. Talk to your friend, see if you can go to the party until ten or whatever. You'll still get to share most of the fun. If your friend's friends ask why you have to leave, make up something. Say you're going on a day trip with your family the next day or something. Good luck!
~Cayd

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I have a "boyfriend" we met on the internet. At first all we did was talk on the internet. Then we moved to the phone. he sent me a pic and i sent him one... we saw each onther on cams(web cam) so hes not an icky old man or anything. we've been "together for a about 7 months and im just really confused.we talk about meeting each other but we never really can, we live about an hour from each other which kinda sucks. i mean i saw i love him.. but now im not really sure i do anymore. its just really confusing. i wanna be with him and meet him and do "couple" things and theres this side of me that wants to just be done with this. PLZ HELP!!

If you know you are never ever going to meet your hottie, be done with it. What good is having a boyfriend if you can't even see him? If you can meet him, go ahead and meet him. spend a day together or something and see how it goes. Hope i helped!!!
~Cayd

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OK, today my private started to hurt really bad. and i looked at it and it started to bleed. I dont have mi period and i know its not that because the sides were bleedin. I dont know what to do! sumone plz help me. PLZ ILL RATE U A FIVE EVEN IF U SAY "BLAH".

plz help thanx

I know it may be embarrassing, but tell an adult who is close to you. Good luck to you! Hope i helped a little bit...
~Cayd

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ok well i have this friend who cuts, but she wont tell me that she does. i found out from someone else. i want her to tell me because i can atleast try to help her stop. i had cut in the past but i stopped and now i want to help her. i dont know how to get her to tell me so i can help her. i can't let her know that i know though. please help if you can.

If she's not going to tell you, you should just walk up to her and say, "I heard you're cutting. Is this true?". If it is, give her attention. Convince her to tell her parents, she needs help if she's cutting. You will be helping her, and if she doesn't want to tell her parents, then you should. I know it may seem like you are letting her down or something, but it isn't. I know what a big problem cutting can be. Good Luck and tell me what happens!
~Cayd

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i am going to this camp 4 older kids and i like this kid. he is going into 7th grade and im going into 8th. he is really nice and his friends and my friend all hang out together. i think he likes me 2
i have his sn and his number. but this is da last week i will c him. do u think i should tell him or wait till he tells me or forget bout him??

If you really like this guy, and you sort of want to tell him, take it slow. Keep in touch after you leave camp! If you really want to know, go and try asking him. Whats the worst that could happen? If it doesn't work out, there are plenty of other fish in the sea! Good luck!
~Cayd

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my stepbrothers friend and i are in a relationship. we were thinkin about having sex, or at least me giving him head. whenever i talk to him dirty online he goes back and tells my stepbrother. im also scared cuz my dad is really strict nd im only 13

It's awesome you're in a relationship but i think its up to you to decide whether you're ready to have sex and give head to your boyfriend. If you are scared to do this, maybe its not a good idea to have sex. Its up to you. Write back to me to tell me what happens! Hope i helped!
~Cayd

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