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I like this guy... but I can't help comparing everything about him to my ex. And I mean EVERYTHING. I don't know how to stop. It's making me think about my ex constantly when I don't want to. My ex is a douche who betrayed me and hurt me over five months ago... Yet I can't stop thinking about him recently... he's moved on, he moved on quickly. But I still miss him.. But I dooo like this new boy, a lot. He's not as attractive as my ex in my opinion though I've heard people disagree with that. I just don't feel the same spark with this new guy physically... And I know what most of you are going to say. "You need to forget about you're ex because he hurt you, and its in the past. You need to focus on this new guy because he's nice and wonderful and you'll regret it if you lose him. I KNOW that. I don't know HOW to do that. Does anyone have specific tips or experience of this happening?? That's what I need. Help!

Im sorry to tell youm but you were in love with your ex. You are not the first person to do this. Actually i bet if you asked around most people who have been in love and didnt work our compare people to their exes. I still do it. It isnt really anything you can control. When you find yourself thinking about your ex, dont think of the good times you had together. Think of all the wrong things he did to you, how badly he treated you and that you deserve better and this new guy deserves a chance to show you that he is better than your ex! This is obviously easier said than done; and im not telling you to completely forget about your ex because i know and you know that will never happen. You may still think of him occasionally but this is normal so dont worry!

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Ok so i am 13 female and i am having trouble getting a bf i mean i am pretty or so i have been told i am really curvy and pretty shy when it comes to guys I want to open and be able to feel comfortable around guys again,but not be a slut!Any advice i want to loosen up!
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Honestly hunny it depends on the guy and what he wants in a relationship. If all he is looking for is a sexual relationship he will go after the slut. There will be a guy out there that will see you for you and go after you. Just give it time. Your obviously a pretty girl and your still young. Dont worry about it too much right now. Just be a little more flirty. Joke around, laugh and smile a lot. These are things to catch a guys attention without being slutty.

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I'm 15/f and my bf is 17... sorry if this is long bt i really need help..
okay so i have a daughter she is my world she will be two tommorrow and my bf (baby daddy) abuses me everyday for no reason we live together i got kicked out of my house when i was 13 my mom died when i was 12 and my dad wanted nothing to do with me so i moved in with my bf Dametrious i love him so much we have been threw hell we been together for three years. he hits me hard he leaves bruises and scares yesterday he burned me with the iron i have tears running down my face as i write this he hurts me really bad he got mad because some guy texted me saying that he got my numb off of myspace and my didnt believe him ! im scared that if i keep letting him hurt me then he will hurt my daughter too !! he slaps me in front of her calls me a bitch he spit in my face i have no where to turn what do i do? i have no family!! and all my friends cut me off when they found out that i was preg. ohh ya and my bf cheats on me all the time like about a week ago he brought some girl named asia over our house and told her i was his sister and my daughter was his niece !!!! wtf?? im really crying right now how could he do this to me ? and after that he went upstairs and had sex with her i know because you could hear them !!! what do i do !!!! help !

I would like to start off by saying i am so sorry. It sounds like you have been through hell and your boyfriend is putting you through even more hell! The reason he keeps pushing you is because you let him. And the fact that he hits you in front of your two year old daughter is even worse. She knows what is going on and you cannot let her grow up thinking that it is okay for men to hit women. I know it will be hard to leave him because your scared and really dont have anyone and you have been with him for so long. But if you stick around he could end up hurting you even worse than he already has and it could even get bad enough that he could kill you. He is cheating on you too, it sounds like he is just using you hunny. This is a terrible thing for him to do but that is what it sounds like. You need to get your daughter and your things and get the hell out of there! There are shelters and many places that will take you in. Maybe start by going to the police and they can help you find a place to stay.
I hope this helps! Good luck!
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When my boyfriend gets mad he gets really really mad. He hits me and has choked me twice before. I don't think he'd actually kill me but he does leave a lot of bruises and I'm really tired of it. I can't talk to him about it because he's just going to get mad. I don't want to leave him because I love him with all my heart and soul. I'm just tired of having to hide bruises and cover them up with make up and clothing all the time when I go out of the house. We live together right now and I just don't know what to do. My friend has seen the bruises and got worried but I told her it's no big deal. It is a big deal. What do I do from here? how can I make my boyfriend stop hitting me?

I know that you may love him but he has no right to hit you! You either need to talk to him about this, or leave him. if you are scared of him getting mad and hitting you go to a public place where a lot of people are and talk to him about it. Let him know that you love him but he needs to get help and needs to stop hitting you or you will pack your stuff and leave.
A lot of women get "addicted" to being in an abusive relationship. Whether it be physically or mentally. When he gets mad he hits you, then after he calms down he apologises and tells you he loves you and it wont happen again right? well it is the make-up part that all women love. We all hate the fighting part but we all love when he gives you all his attention and tells you how he feels becuase he knows that he is in the wrong.
Hunny if this continues to happen i hope that you dont stay with him. He needs to make some major changes. No matter how mad he gets he still has no right to hit you. I am sure he is a lot stronger than you and what if one day he gets so mad he tries to kill you? He isnt worth your life i can promise you that.
I wish you the best of luck!
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Okay, im 17/f and my ex is 20/m. I dated him in 06' when I was 14 and he was 17. Two months of us dating I turned 15, so it was only a two year difference. We dated for 8 months. We broke up because his mom said we had two different maturity levels, and we needed to either break up, or get back together later on. I thought I was in love with him, and he said he was in love with me but everyone said I was too young to know what love is. When we broke up, he pinky promised me that on my graduation day in 2011, that he would propose to me. I believed him.


Every since then, I haven't had a real boyfriend since, its like my heart just doesn't feel like giving anyone an opportunity because I guess it finally found its home with him. During these last 3 years, I have seen my ex here and there. My parents got real attached to him, so he comes over to visit occasionally. I really believe my love for him is real. Everytime I see him, my heart drops, stops, and skips beats, and I get a little nervous inside. I only feel 100% normal and secure when he's hugging me, Im hearing his heartbeat, or he's just holding me. A few months ago, he came over and we sat in his truck, and he was bringing back old memories that I thought he would forget. It made me happy to know that he remembers EVERYTHING. He even remembers the promise he made me, and he also said that he's still in love with me, and after we broke up, he hasnt be able to be with anyone longer than 3 months. He cried to me, for the second time in our whole relatioship, just because he really missed me, and he missed the feeling of being able to be himself 100% and someone love him for it. He promised me that when Im legal (18) he will ask me back out, (therefore his mom can't trip about our age difference) and we can finally be happy again. I turn 18 on November 20th. He still remembers the proposal promise he made me 3 years ago, and he says he still plans to keep it.
He says Im the only girl he's ever been able to look at and his heart stops likes its the first time he's ever seen me.

Im just not too sure if his feelins are real, or if im to young to know what it is, but i do know the way I feel about him, isn't anything you feel for just a friend.

Most people will say your too young. But i believe that we can find out what love is that young. If you both have waited for each other this long you obviously have love for eachother. I think it is a little soon for you to be engaged. Just date him for the first little while and make sure all the feelings are still there. Maybe even date a year or so before you decide to get engaged. I do believe that you are in love, and it sounds like he is head over hills for you too(: try it out, see how it goes and take it from there!

Good luck and i hope i helped(:
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Me and this guy Gio were messing around in March, We stopped talking because his sisters a physco bitch and didn't want me talking to him, and my mom was going crazy about his age because he was 19 and I was 13.

So we dated other people he was gonna mary this girl, but he went to jail and just got out like a month ago, And now they broke up. And i got really drunk one night and wanted to see him so my friends boyfriend called him. he came and we kicked it and we had sex. He wanted to see me again so we kicked it again that thursday. Then Saturday i went to a party with him and i was kinda being a bitch to him because his ex girlfriend was there, the one he was gonna mary. They were in the kitchen talking and it looked like he wanted her, So i was pissed then he tried talking to me, and i kept ignoring him!

So we talked on myspace like 2 days later and he told me i was ignoring him hella so he went to the next, and we just kept talking and i told him i wanted to kick it, and he told me to call him when i wanna kick it, so i said okay, i called his phone last friday and his friend answered [My ex] and he started talking to me asking me to go kick it with him and stuff, i said wheres Gio and he said right here, and he told me who was there, and Gios ex was there. And i could hear gio and her fighting in the background, so i hung up. And i accidently deleted Gio off my myspace so i added him and he hasn't approved me, and he hasnt denied me. I just don't know what to do.

I feel like i should send him a message telling him how i feel, but at the same time i feel like i shouldn't because what if he doesn't feel the same way. i just wanna know where we stand.
Helppp?

Hunny i am sorry to tell you but he is way to old for you! and it is very illegal for you guys to be doing anything together. He is most likely using you for sex. Dont let him break your heart. If his ex girlfriend is what he wants then let him have her. dont try to talk to him. If he talks to you, fine. Dont be a bitch to him but dont lead him on either. You should probably look for someone closer to your age though. you are way too young to be doing anything with someone over 18.

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female/17
okay sorry if this is long bt i really need advice.
okay so me and my broke up a while ago in july long story short he told my best friend she was sexy and all this other stuff and i got mad because he kept flirting with other girl. anyways when school started up agaiin i began liking him all over again it was crazy so one day we were "messing around" and we like made out and stuff like that and i flashed him (no sexual) stuff ! but when i left his said he loved me and i was so happy so i went home and went on facebook and he messaged me telling me how good the kiss was or whatever bt that we couldnt keep doing what we did anymore i was really confused so i went to his facebook page and his staus was i love you baby 9.25 im like what the hell??? are you kidding me dude your "in love" with your girlfriend from two days ago yet you just told me you loved me ? i felt really bad because he didnt tell me he had a girlfriend ! if he would have told me that i would have never mess around with him i feel mad dumb what do i do i keep thinking about it... i mean i'm kind of glad we arent together because i found out who he really is ! he's oviously a liar and a player ! since he doesnt want to claim anybody ! am i wrong for feeling this way? should i tell his girlfriend? i mean i dnt want her to turn on me but i already been put up with him for four months and now i see his true colors so what do i do?

Most people would feel this way. You did nothing wrong hunny. He is a player and he doesnt deserve you, or anyone for that matter. You should tell his girlfriend. She has a right to know. tell her exactly what happened. She might be mad at you, but atleast she will know. If she asks you questions about it be honest and answer them. Just dont start any drama with her. And if he tries to talk to you after this whole thing dont talk to him.

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I am a 12 year old turning 13 in like a couple months and I have not started puberty. I have a couple wisps of pubic hair, but my breats havent developed and I am the flattest girl in 7th grade. Will you tell me if this is okay or if it is in need of medical help?

All girls go through puberty at different times. Talk to your mom and ask when she first went through it. That will give you an idea of when you will. There is nothing to worry about, your completely normal!

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If youve been cheated on in the past how does one heal from it? How do you move on in another relationship without thinking this person is doing it too? I dont want councling to expensive I wanna see if i can do this on my own and be able to trust again since my EX husband F***ED my head up. Thanks

It is really hard to get yourself over this and to be able to trust people again. The way i look at it is not everyone is cheaters. Not everyone is going to hurt you. and if they do, its another lesson learned and you move on. It is a lot harder than it sounds but if you keep telling yourself this you'll be okay soon(: keep your head up. Not everyone is like your ex husband. You will find someone who treats your right and deserves you!

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I don't have very large boobs but I wanted to know if I need a bra yet. I live with my dad and so we never really had the breast size discussion that I guess girls have with their moms. How can I tell if I need to start buying and wearing bras? I haven't ever wore a bra either so what sort of one should I buy, if any? I'm really pretty lost here but don't want to grow up and end up having saggy boobs because I didn't wear a bra when I should have

Well if you would like to talk to your dad about this im sure he knows that it would be coming up sooner or later. Just say "dad, i think i need a bra" now im sure he wont come shopping with you and tell you if its cute or not, but he would probably wait in the car while you went and got yourself one. If your boobs arent big you may want to start off with a training bra. They just get you started and cover up everything so it cannot be seen through a shirt. You can also go into a department store, like victoria secrets and they will measure you and tell you what bra size you need. as your breasts get larger you will need to have them measured again so that you know exactly what size bra to wear.
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my b/f and i broke up nearly a month ago, it was because he was working away a lot so we didnt get to see eachother so much. he said he wanted to think about getting back together i was very patient with him, i didnt contact him first, he always contacted me. but it got to the point where i just couldnt wait for him to play his games anymore, so i told him i hope he can make up his mind soon because i wouldnt wait forever for him. i do really love him but i just cant go on like this i needed an answer. do you think this was a good move or not?

I think this was a really good idea. if you dont let guys know how its going to be up front they will just play games with you as long as they can. you have no reason to wait for him, if he wants to be with you then he will be with you. There is no reason for him to take this long to think about it. It is a waste of your time and you dont need the heartache. most girls just let guys do what they want and dont really give their opinion because they are scared to lose their boyfriend. but its good to put your foot down!

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How would you go about bringing up birth control to a parents who is 100% against sex before marriage? I wouldn't if I didn't have to, but I don't want to worry about getting pregnant.


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sit down and talk with your parent. tell them that you know they are agaist sex but you want to be safe. Most likely if they dont want you having sex they dont want you having a baby. bring up the fact that your taking responsibility for your actions. This is a very mature thing to do. most kids are too scared to bring it up so they go on being unsafe. They most likely will ask you many questions and they may make you feel awkward but you can get through it just be honest! If that doesnt work you can always go to your local plan parent hood and get birth control there. but it will be a lot easier if your parent knows.
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I am a sixteen year old girl and im in a serious relationship and i have been for a year. I recently discovered my noyfriend wants to give me a promise ring. I've been in one serious relationship before and I never felt this way Is it too soon to be given a promise ring? Am i too young?

Well it depends on how you feel about your boyfriend. If you have been in a long relationship before you probably know what it feels like to be in love. Do you want to spend the rest of your life with him? I was dating my boyfriend for 2 years before he gave me a promise ring. we are still together. but when he gave it to me i knew that i loved him and was ok with spending the rest of my life with him. Just think about those things and if your ready then accept it, if not talk to him and let him know you think it is to soon to be getting a promise ring. dont let this turn into a fight just let him know how you feel about it!
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my boyfriend keeps asking me to have sex with him but i havent gave him an answer yet so what do i do ? i'm 15

If he is pressuring you to have sex with you he honestly doesnt care about you. i know thats hard to hear but its true. All he wants is sex. But he isnt the only guy hunny. Its teenage boys in general. Talk to him and tell him your too young and your not ready to have sex. if he doesnt understand or gets mad then leave him. he doesnt deserve you. but you should never let anyone pressure you into having sex. Its when your ready. not when someone wants you to be ready.

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Sorry if it's too long alrighty well theres this guy that used to work with me he had a girlfriend but it was werid between us we used t always talk he used to always ask me for advice because she treated him like crap.During that time i msgd him once telling him we should stop talking cause he had a gf and he got angry and ignored me for a month then we talked again and then he told me we should stop talking and we didnt talk again for a month and then we started talking again it was all good but he was basically quitting his job so it was his last day and we were kinda flirting and all and it was all good and he told me he wants to call and msg but his gf didnt want him to i told himu dnt have too the enxt day he msgd me telling me we shouldnt talk cause of his i told him im sick of him always msging me stuff like that because i never forced him to talk to me and all.So i saw him again we spoke and all and its been all good then him and his gf broke up and hr msgd me a few weeks after they broke up it was alll good we were flirting and always mucking around and joking ! and then we met up and it was going good and he messged me after i went home and then the next day we were msging aswell and then he sends me a msg saying i should avoid him cos he'll only hurt me and that i deserve the best and he doesnt want me to hate him at the end and all and then at night he msgd saying goodnight i'll talk to you tomorrow sorry ive been doing a lot of thinking tonight he didnt msg me again though im wondering do you think he'll msg me ever again or if we'll ever talk again..
Sorry if it's long.

he likes you. if he didnt he wouldnt have had his girlfriend worried about you two talking. and wouldnt have told you its not a good idea for you two to be talking while him and his girl are together. Then when he says you dont deserve him and you need better he is most likely just looking for you to say "no i want you" or something a long that line. He may have been doing a lot of thinking but he is just fishing for compliments most likely. Talk to him about this and say if you want us to hang out and maybe date one day then tell me, if not then im not going to stick around. let him know that your not going to sit here and play his little games. and if he truly likes you the games will stop.

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I just started talking to this guy that I work with (at a fast food restaurant). We have been texting every day all day for about a week. We have talked about hanging out in person outside of work and I don't know what to expect because...This guy and I are definitely flirty, but I literally just got out of a 1-year relationship and I honestly don't know how to tell if this guy is a player and is talking to other girls or if he genuinely likes me. What are the signs -- how do I know if this is just how he is with all girls or if he has a thing for ME only?

Get to know him. After a while you will date enough players to just know when a guy is playing you because they all play the same game. But until you find out he is playing you for sure dont judge him. Get to know him, hang out with him, and if he messes up just stay friends because no girl deserves that!

some signs are when you are hanging out with him if he is constantly texting, or if he always makes up excuses to not hang out, the people he hangs out with. there are a lot of different things it just depends on the guy!

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do adults still keep their class ring even long after high school?i was wondering

Most of them do yes. Class rings arent exactly cheap so why you would just get rid of it after high school is beyond me. Most people want to remember high school and a high school ring is great memorbelia.

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so during the summer this guy asked me out and told me to text him with the answer. i told him i was busy and couldn't go, but i'm really sorry. the truth was that i didn't like him. i didn't want to break his heart, so i didn't tell him the truth. but he never replied and didn't talk to me for the rest of summer.
ever since we've been back at school, he's been acting soo weird. he saw me alone waiting for my friend one time, and then starting telling me that i'm depressed and emo and crazy(which i am not). then he stopped talking to me again. but then today i saw him in the hall, and he pretty much told me that I think he's hot and looks good. i was like wtf and walked away.
he's really getting on my nerves, but everytime i try and tell him that he just doesn't listen. what am i supposed to do???

Dont aknowledge him. Ignore him, act like it doesnt bother you even if it really does. Most likely he will stop sooner or later. The only reason he is doing it right now is because he still likes you and its a way of getting a reaction out of you.

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Hi, I am 18f. I have a boyfriend the same age. We have been dating for three months, but I have known him for six. He is the first guy I have dated and he makes me feel like no other guy has made me feel. He is caring, honest, he listens, and he is just a nice guy. He lives almost an hour away though and even though he makes time to see me.. I have my doubts. I mean, he is good to me... but we don't have too much in common. We don't care for eachothers music (which gets annoying) and we do not have the same interests at all.. how can this work? Should we just be friends? I keep thinking I should stay with him cause he is so good to me, but then I wonder why I am with him if we don't have many common interests..?. Should I stay with him until I meet someone who I can relate to more? Or is that wrong? :/ Please answer all my questions, thanks

Okay well him being the first guy you have dated may be the problem too. You dont know how another guy would treat you because you've never been with one. So maybe he isnt treating you as well as you think. And there are a lot of people in relationships that have nothing in common. The music thing is a hard one, but when your in his car listen to his music. And when he's in your car listen to yours. If your not in your car often, ask him if you guys could listen to what you like for just a while. I think that you should stay with him, i dont know much about eiher of you but he sounds like he'd be a good boyfriend. If your comfortable with it talk to him about this and tell him how your feeling. Then you guys could work on it together as a couple!
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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.

I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?

Sorry if this is too long!

Talk to him openly and honestly. Be like i saw you had a facebook about our relationship and im not comfortable with what you put on it. Why didnt you tell me when i told you i knew you had a secret?
Maybe when you brought this up to him he didnt know what you were talking about.
If he is not honest with you after this and doesnt tell you whats going on explain to him that you cant trust him anymore and that you dont think you two can be together anymore!
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