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Hesz Just Tooo Old?
Me and this guy Gio were messing around in March, We stopped talking because his sisters a physco bitch and didn't want me talking to him, and my mom was going crazy about his age because he was 19 and I was 13.
So we dated other people he was gonna mary this girl, but he went to jail and just got out like a month ago, And now they broke up. And i got really drunk one night and wanted to see him so my friends boyfriend called him. he came and we kicked it and we had sex. He wanted to see me again so we kicked it again that thursday. Then Saturday i went to a party with him and i was kinda being a bitch to him because his ex girlfriend was there, the one he was gonna mary. They were in the kitchen talking and it looked like he wanted her, So i was pissed then he tried talking to me, and i kept ignoring him!
So we talked on myspace like 2 days later and he told me i was ignoring him hella so he went to the next, and we just kept talking and i told him i wanted to kick it, and he told me to call him when i wanna kick it, so i said okay, i called his phone last friday and his friend answered [My ex] and he started talking to me asking me to go kick it with him and stuff, i said wheres Gio and he said right here, and he told me who was there, and Gios ex was there. And i could hear gio and her fighting in the background, so i hung up. And i accidently deleted Gio off my myspace so i added him and he hasn't approved me, and he hasnt denied me. I just don't know what to do.
I feel like i should send him a message telling him how i feel, but at the same time i feel like i shouldn't because what if he doesn't feel the same way. i just wanna know where we stand.
Helppp?
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Hunny i am sorry to tell you but he is way to old for you! and it is very illegal for you guys to be doing anything together. He is most likely using you for sex. Dont let him break your heart. If his ex girlfriend is what he wants then let him have her. dont try to talk to him. If he talks to you, fine. Dont be a bitch to him but dont lead him on either. You should probably look for someone closer to your age though. you are way too young to be doing anything with someone over 18.
Hope this helped!(:
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This might not be that good of advice, but I don't think you should mess with him... Not because of the age, I'm only 13 and I was fooling around with a 18 year old, but if he is going to jail and it only seems like he wants someone to have sex with, he isn't worth it. You got time to wait for someone who is worth it, and really love you, unless your just looking for a sugar daddy, then tell him how you feel, but I think that will result in a broken heart or you just getting hurt by him.
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Um, you know he's a dumbass right?
I mean really. First off, he's a dumbass who thought hanging out with a 13 year old was a good idea. That's no offence against you: You could be perfect. He could still go to jail and be labeled a sex offender if he had sex with you and that is an absolutely MORONIC risk for him to take. Dumbass.
Secondly, he's a dumbass who got engaged, went to jail, got unengaged and keeps on fighting with the damn girl.
Finally, he's a dumbass who said "hey, you were ignoring me so I went on to the next one." Everything you said here makes him sound got the maturity of a twelve year old boy. You might like him anyways, but he’s a lousy ass person to be with you. You can do better.
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I'm going to warn you in advance. The advice you want isn't always the advice you get. This is the risk you run when you ask for advice. You probably don't want to hear what I have to say, but you need to hear it.
This is going to sound overly harsh, but both of you are acting like children. However, you have an excuse. He doesn't.
You see, any 19 year old guy worth his salt wouldn't be interested in a 13 year old girl. He's into you because he's got the maturity of your average pre-teen. The reason why adults don't date children (or young teens) is because they don't (or shouldn't) have anything in common with them. He's stunted, emotionally.
And yes, you know what? It is illegal. He's lucky that your mother hasn't had him arrested for statutory rape. He's been in jail once, so clearly he's not the highest quality person. If you don't see a problem with this, then your perspective needs adjusting.
If you were an adult, this is what I'd tell you:
Giving him the silent treatment, deleting him from MySpace, these are all tactics that adults don't use. When an adult has a problem with someone, they confront it in a mature, constructive manner. He probably lost patience with your mind games and is giving you a taste of your own medicine.
However, you're still a kid! You can't be held to the same standards. He's always going to expect more out of you than you can give, at least until you reach your full adult form.
Don't bother with trying to figure out where your relationship stands. He doesn't respect you, as you can tell by his readiness to desert you for the first easily available piece of tail that walks by him. He thinks he can walk all over you because you're young and impressionable. You deserve better than that. He's using you. He doesn't have any interest in developing a real relationship with you, because you're a kid and he's not.
Ditch the loser and find someone who treats you right.
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from my personal opinion i actually do think that he is a bit too old for you and i know you probably hear all the time that older guys just use you and the worst part is that it is true and what's he doing hanging about with his ex anyways guys will say any damn thing to get what they want i actually think that you should try to forget about him there are plenty of guys out there and you will find your perfect one remember nothing happens overnight all im trying to say is that this guy is just using you and he kinda sounds like trouble and if your mom had to find out agin this would just tear her so do yourself a favour and forget about him trust me it will benefit you in the long run
good luck
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