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I want respect
I am A 30 year old female in a newer relationship with a 35 year old male. this guy tells me he will call me back right away that he is on another line with his son. he never calls me back. the next morning I asked him why he didnt return the call he said he fell asleep. dont I deserve a txt message or a phone call with an explanation?
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Maybe he was respecting you. He said he fell asleep. This gives me thought that possibly it was later in the evening.
Since you do not say how long you have been dating returning a phone or call someone after a certain hour can be considered rude. If I know the person well then I know how late I can call. If I do not know the person all that well my personal cut off time for calling is 9pm. Again everyone is different in this area and while you might find his lack of calling back disrespectful, he may have thought it was to late . When you challenged him on it it he probably said the first thing that came to mind.
Give him the benefit of the doubt that he does respect you and that is why he did not return your call. It is also possible that after talking to his son he had a fight with his ex and was not in the proper mood to having a loving phone call with you. Ask him about it but don't challenge him if he is someone you might want to build a relationship with.
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If he does this more than once or twice, stop talking to him. There's really no question about deserving. You either will stand for it, or you won't. If you get all up in arms over the way assholes treat you because you deserve better you're going to get shit all over when said assholes realize you're too busy thinking about what you deserve to actually act like you deserve it, call them assholes, and happily go about your life without their further involvement.
You're 30 years old. You want respect, act like you respect yourself by not tolerating stupid shit like this or letting yourself get worked up over it. The world is full of people who are inconsiderate dicks. People who respect themselves don't come back for more asking "don't I deserve better?" like you can argue him out of his apathy.
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It depends. How long have you been dating? How serious is it? How does he treat you when you're together?
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