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i have known this guy for a couple years and we recently had sex for the first time we have done everything together from handwack to blowing and i was just wondering is he just using me or does he actually like me i cant tell because sometimes he acks like he likes me but sometimes he will just ignore me and i agree i am mean to him when hes mean to me but other than that we get along fine and flirt constantly i have dated him before but we just arent a good couple we fight alot and dont get along he made out with a friend of mine a few weeks back and it really ticked me off but i dont know what to do and i dont really know what my question is just someone please help!!
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Yes, he's using you. It doesn't take a brain surgeon to figure that one out - and the fact that you asked the question (and the way you asked it) shows that you know deep down he is using you. Good luck in getting rid of the loser.
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I am a male in his 40's who has always had a hard time being sociable. It is starting to affect my work and social life. My fiance and I will be married next month and I am scared to death meeting a new family. And im pretty uptight at work ,I hardly speak to anyone,so they think that I am a prude. But its not the case, since I can be myself with people that I care about. Its pretty depressing,and I have to find a way out of it. I hope someone out there can help me be more outgoing. Id like to enjoy the rest of my life without being afraid of talking to people. Thanks in advance, JB33 (link)
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Sometimes I feel the same way. I know this isn't an option for everyone, but going to see a counselor or therapist does help. I know it's hard to take that first step and maybe it doesn't seem like a big enough deal to go see one, but really it will help. Being able to talk to someone about this that *knows* about it is going to be a big relief. He or she will be able to tell you what to do to best get out of this "rut" you're in. The only advice I would have other than that is to slowly try and start talking to people. Even if it's just a "hi" and a smile, they will appreciate it. That's always what starts great relationships. How did you meet your fiance? You had to be somewhat sociable to do that, right? Just think back to how you acted and maybe that can guide you. Hope this helps, and good luck.
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how do i get my boyfriend to call when he says he`ll call .. when he is at home he calls but when he is out with people he just doesnt call when he says he will.. please help (link)
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Honestly, if he cared he would call. They don't lie when they care. Maybe he's out with his other girlfriend, which is why he can't call you. Or maybe he is embarrassed to be calling you. Maybe he's embarrassed OF you. Either way, lying is an issue that will turn into a BIGGER one if it isn't stopped now. Tell him if he SAYS he is going to call, then he needs to call. Simple as that. If he doesn't listen, dump him.
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i am really scared. (no this isnt anything to do ith 6/6/6 its just that 666 got me thinking of this) when the world ends, how exactly is it going to end? i do not have very good knowledge of the bible. i know that no one knows, but everyone says all this horrible ways like it will go up in flames. but why would god torture us like that? why can't he just make everything dissappear in a split second? why would god want to make the world end in a horrible way, and why would he even want the world to end. please explain this is a clear way cause im not good with this stuff. and pleaaaaaaaaseplease don't say "don't worry about it wont happen/it wont happen in your lifetime" (link)
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I'm not an expert in the God category, but from what I've learned the world will end in flames. BUT the saved ones (the ones going to heaven, whatever you want to call them) will go in a blink of an eye. Then there will be fire spread across the earth. Not sure exactly on the specifics after that but I am sure someone else will have the answer. The good thing is, the ones going to Heaven will just go. They won't have to deal with any of the wrath. So if you see people (good people) disappearing, you know why!
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It is pretty much impossible for me to empathize/understand people who believe in God and religion. I am fully against both of them, for a long list of reasons that I don't need to go in to. The deal is, people tell me I'm being sacreligous/a heretic/going to hell, but I can't understand where they're coming from AT ALL. To me evangelists and deeply religous people just seem like pitiful, misguided puppets of a nonexistent power. It tends to screw up my relationships with people.... Any advice? (link)
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Well my advice would be to not offer your opinion on this subject, even when asked. If you'd like to talk about it, maybe try to 'sugarcoat' your responses. Show some empathy, even if you can't show sympathy. Try to care, even if you don't. I wouldn't see you as "heretic" or "going to Hell" so much as I would an uncaring person. Know what I mean? Sometimes we just have to bite our tongues. Good luck.
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i have heard different things and i could use some good strong opinions (not flames, dont leave me bruised and battered) on bisexuality from a christian standpoint. i fear i may actually have to read the WHOLE Bible (LONG!) to form my own opinion to be honest. i just know alot of ppl interpret the Bible differently.
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Homosexuality (or bisexuality) is wrong in God's eyes (says the Bible). A man should not lay with a man in the way he does a woman, and a woman should not lay with a woman in the way she does with a man. That means lustfully, sexually, etc. If you are having thoughts about someone that is the same sex, you can talk to a preacher or pray to God and ask Him to help you. Reading the whole Bible would only confuse me.. so I'd say that the best answer (from me at least) is listed above.
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Let me start of by saying: I would not be asking this if I didnt already feel bad && want to change this. SO please, don't preach.
Down right to the point?
I stole my friend's new 300 dollar digital camera. (reminder: I know it was wrong, no lecturing)
While doing it, i KNEW it was wrong.
When she noticed it was gone, she cried.
It broke my heart.
I know God forgives, but my gut tells me..he won't.
I don't know, I want to send it back to her.
I think I will, as soon as I get her adress.
i CAN'T APOLOGIZE THOUGH. I CANT TELL HER.
I don't even know why I did it.
I love her. Im not jealous of her.
I don't need a digitial camera.
I don't want one.
But I did it anyway.
Just because I knew I could.
I knew I wouldn't get caught.
I'm evil. I'm a really bad person, I know.
Yet, I can't change it.
Here's where I need help.
- appologizing to God for this.
HOW? I knew it was wrong while doing it, I knew the devil was pushing me and God was telling me not to, yet I listened to the devil.
It's happened before. I never learn.
I'll always do the wrong thing.
So what? he's just going to keep forgiving me?
- how do I stop this
any ideas?
- this feeling
even if I give it back, I'll never forget what I did. seeing her cry. knowing how much it meant to her yet still taking it. how can i forgive myself for it? what should I do? I know myself very well. I wont change, I'll do it again. And I wont let myself forget it. I know I'll always feel bad because of this.
AHHH GOSSSHH just help me please, I feel awful.
what should I do? with everything?
this feeling is sick.
I want to die.
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First of all, if you really mean it in your heart that you are sorry - God will forgive you.
Second of all, if it's happened before (as you stated), you should seek counseling.
Third of all, maybe God is letting you have these feelings because He knows you need to tell her you did it. Sometimes surrendering to God's will isn't the easiest path. Bad things might happen. But the truth shall set you free.
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Christians do not believe in having sex before marriage, so does that include no full on kissing? (link)
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Anything that will produce lustful thoughts is supposed to be off-limits. If you can kiss without wanting to have sex, I personally feel it is OK. I've also read in the "True Love Waits" version of the Bible that kissing and "petting" are not OK. So it just depends on whos viewpoint you're looking from.
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can you be a member of more than one church and if you can't how do you switch memberships? (link)
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You just stop going to the church you were a member of, start going to the new one and look into becoming a member.
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ive been a christian my entire life up until now, jsut before my whole life i gew up in the church, and thats how i was taught. now that im older i started to look into spirituality a little deeping and ive found that what i belive isnt really christianity. im going on a mexico missions trip with my youth group in a few weeks, we're goign to tijuana to build houses and work with teh kids. i've been twice, and its always a erally spiritual experience, i guess im kind of scared that i will fall back into how i was before, just because of all the pressure from everyone else, how do i stay clear from this, without not going on the trip? (link)
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Maybe it's what you're *supposed* to fall back into. If it's really what you are supposed to do you shouldn't try to avoid it. Go with an open heart and an open mind. Allow God to work in your heart and if you still believe the way you do then move on and don't involve yourself in any more trips such as those. Good luck.
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ok when i talk with some sisters(muslims) on the net they use DH, what does it mean and how is it supposed to be used? sorry this sounds kinda stupid but thank you for your help. (link)
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Dear husband. DS is dear son. DD is dear daughter.
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Hey today I asked my husband to fix me 2 pop-tarts you'd think all the work involved was poppin em' in the toaster but no he puts butter on the back of them. Have yall ever heard of this? 5's for all thoughts. (link)
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I've never heard of that. Was he being a smart ass? lol
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alright im 16/f and im still a virgin. ive only done things with 2 guys but i have only had the opportunity to do things with 2 guys..the 2nd guy i didnt even like but idk..it just all happened.do you think thats kinda of sluty? and me & this guy have a little thing goin on but im afraid that when we hang out agian we'll go a little bit too far. i really like him and i know he likes me but i dont know if i can stop myself. im supposed to hang out with him and stay the night over his house cause he is my friends cousin and my friend is goin too. but idk..i just dont want it to happen and i dont know if it will or not or if i can be able to stop at just making out..what should i do? (link)
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Use protection or you're gonna have a little rugrat running around and you won't have the time or energy for sex. Not to mention after pregnancy your body looks and feels like crap for a while.
At your age you should be able to control your hormones. Sounds to me like you're reaching out to these guys for attention and love. They just want sex, so remember that. Control yourself, and hopefully they will do the same.
If not, like I said - use PROTECTION and lots of it. Get on birth control, stock up on condoms, and make him pull out!
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Last night I was at a party and made out with this guy (hes 18) four times. The thing is, that was my first kiss.. but I think I did pretty well. Anyways, he started with his mouth open which was sooo awkward, but then again we were both kinda drunk. Is it normal to begin with fullout french kissing.. no closed mouth kiss before?
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It's not normal in the experience I've had, but I haven't made out with a bunch of guys... so maybe? lol. I think normally you start of slow, then open your mouth a little more each time. But when you're drinking, things get screwed up anyway. :)
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This is probably going to be very long, so thanks in advance for reading all the way through it. I'm 22, my Mom and Dad are both 42. My mother has always been the sensible, more mature, (sometimes overbearing) one, while my Dad has basically never grown up. They divorced when I was 5, and have both since remarried twice. My dad just got re-married tonight actually. To a 35 year old woman named Carla.
More background: my Dad has been partying since he was 15, its why his first two marriages didn't work out. He's an alcoholic (not the abusive to anyone else kind, but the kind who drinks maybe 40-45 beers a day and really depends on it to manage his mood, stress, etc.- its sad) and still has the same old buddies he grew up with who are drunks as well. He's not completely pathetic, he's held a good job for 25 years, never puts anyone in danger, and never drank around me until I was 19.
After him letting me down again and again and not talking to him for sometimes months at a time, I chose to just accept him for what he is, I love him, and want him to be a part of my life. He's my dad.
Carla is really sweet and fun. She acts young for her age, which can be annoying but, we all have a good time together.They just moved into a house out in the sticks which I thought would be a great place to have my Annual Halloween party (its the biggest party I throw), I don't have anywhere else to have it this year. My Dad, Carla and my Dad's old buddy Leroy want to be there and party with us. I feel weird and guilty about the idea. Because I actually think that my friends and my Dad and Carla, all of us would have a blast. Even Leroy's a great time. But, I mean, we've been out to dinner and had drinks before, but I've never partied with them. Do some kids do this? Or is it just weird and thats it? Is it just redneck? Or is every situation different with fathers and daughters?
They're totally cool with as many people as I want to invite, we can get as wild as we want. They have a pool table and room to dance and I know Carla will love helping me get everything ready.
I know he's not winning parenting awards here. I also know that I'm an adult, maybe I should just take advantage of it, I'm starting school in January and will have to buckle down, so. But then, maybe I'm encouraging him to drink and continue to party like he's young. I really do want him to quit drinking like he does. Am I being a hypocrite, or is it his problem? Like, I look at him as more of a friend than a father. He never really fathers me anymore. You know what I mean? What do you guys think? Help. I'm guilting myself to death. Thanks. (link)
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That's a really great question, and yes I read the whole thing. :) It's normal for fathers (especially alcoholic ones - I had one) to be more of a friend once the child is older. I know my dad let me down time and time again but when I got a little older I'm sure if I was a partier we could have partied. You partying with your dad doesn't make you a bad person. He's going to party regardless of what you do, so I'd just enjoy the time. Try to have fun. Loosen up and live a little.
And on a side note I don't party and don't condone it but once in a while some people need it! As long as it doesn't become a regular thing I think you should just go and have fun with it. Get close to Carla in the process. Step moms can be GREAT!
Good luck, and stop feeling so guilty! No reason for it girl! :)
OH and P.S. it's not redneck! lol. My mom took me to a casino and a bar when I turned 21. I love hanging out with her.. maybe makes us LOSERS but not REDNECKS! :P
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I'm fourteen years old, and I weigh 220 pounds. I don't look like I weigh that much because I'm 5'6, but I still look big. I really want to lose like 80 pounds before October, but I have no clue where to start. I'd like to start as soon as possible. It's weird, because I think I have a really pretty face but I'm big. I was watching this video from a wedding I was in and I look really fat compared to all the other girls in my family. Plus diabetes is common in my family and I want to be healthy. Please help. =( (link)
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http://www.teengrowth.com/index.cfm?action=info_article&ID_article=1334
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/health_advice/facts/loseweight.htm
http://www.pregnancy-info.net/topic_other_topics.html
http://www.bbc.co.uk/health/healthy_living/your_weight/reaching_start.shtml
http://www.annecollins.com/lose_weight.htm
Hope those help.
Also drink LOTS and LOTS of water. To the point where you can't stand to drink it. Walk, walk, walk. That's so important. Take the stairs instead of the elevator. Walk around your house 10 times. That's exercise. You can slowly move up to jogging and then running.
Oh, and losing that much weight by October would be very dangerous. Don't focus on the weight, and don't weigh yourself more than once a week. Our weight fluxuates naturally. Pick one day a week that you'll weigh, and stick with it. Weigh yourself early in the morning before you eat/drink/do anything. Keep a log of your weight, as well as a log of your food AND drink intake. Write down if you have a glass of water, or two glasses. Then if your weight goes up one week you may be able to see WHY. Muscle weighs more than fat so if you are exercising, your weight will probably go up a few pounds at first. Do NOT let that freak you out.
Last but not least just a few more tips: Cut out soda completely. Don't drink it AT ALL! No regular, no diet, no soda - period. You can do it if you put your mind to it! Drink lots of water, like I said, and walk as much as possible. Eat four or five small meals daily instead of three large ones. Don't go back for seconds. Don't starve yourself and don't skip meals - your body will break down and go into "starvation mode" and you'll actually gain weight.
Good luck.
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I keep making plans for dieting. I try and give up im 13 yrs old 5'2 and 117 pounds.I need some inspiration. Please help! (link)
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Instead of doing a "diet", do a "lifestyle change". Don't make HUGE drastic cuts, and don't starve yourself or deprive yourself of junk food completely. I allow one day a week where I can have SOME junk food. I don't overdo it, but it helps curb the cravings all week. I don't eat a box of twinkies or anything but a small bag of chips is OK. Try the baked Lays, they are wonderful.
I think your weight is fine, actually, but I figured I'd go ahead and give the same advice I'd give to someone who was actually overweight.
Drink plenty of water. Don't drink soda at all (unless it's on your one day a week, and don't drink too much). Don't count calories. It's a waste. Eat fruit instead of chocolate/candy. Bananas and peaches both taste wonderful. So do green apples with peanut butter (sparingly with the PB!).
Walk, walk, walk! I can't stress that enough. Walking and drinking water are the two most important things someone needs to do to lose weight.
Good luck, and I hope you find happiness with your body image no matter what the size! :)
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Hello, I'm a girl and I'm 14. I have a lot of fat around my buttocks, thighs, and my stomach. I'm actually had a woman at an amusement park ask me if I was pregnant! (If I was she wasn't going to let me ride a certain thing.) I didn't think I looked that bad until that day so now I'm worried about losing weight. I'm 130 pounds so I figure my goal will be to lose 20 pounds, but more importantly lose the fat. Has anyone got any tips, rountines, and exercises I should try? I like in the country so I haven't got any good places to run and it's so hot here. I can't swim, btw. Anyway, please help me lose the extra pounds so I can feel confident again! (link)
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http://www.pregnancy-info.net/topic_other_topics.html
No pun intended there with the pregnancy website, it's just really helpful. Wall-sits (squats) will help with your thighs and butt also.
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What are some good ways to lose babyfat? I'd like to somewhat quickly. (link)
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http://www.pregnancy-info.net/topic_other_topics.html
That's the best site I've found. Hope it helps. Good luck.
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I'm an average sized 13 year old girl. The only thing I don't like about my body is that I have a fairly large amount of belly fat. It keeps me from wearing a lot of pants because I can't get a size that isn't too long and fits well around my belly. The fat buldging around the pants doesn't look too attractive either (this ALSO prevents me from wearing a 2 piece swim suit!). I was wondering what kind of exercises I could do to eliminate the belly and specific things I could do that would help...I'm ready to say GOOD BYE to the belly! Thanks! (link)
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http://www.pregnancy-info.net/topic_other_topics.html
That is a website for women who have just had a baby but it helps all girls/women work on their stomach. Those exercises are wonderful.
Also be sure to be eating 4 or 5 small meals instead of 3 big ones. Never skip breakfast. Don't drink soda. Drink tons of water.
Good luck, hope this helps.
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