Hi there.. My name is Kirsten.. I'm 21, I live in a small country town in South Australia, Australia. I love life, I love giving advice to anyone who needs it. I have a boyfriend of 5 years and were very much in lurrve ;) Feel free to ask me anything guys and gals.. thats what i'm here for. If I don't know the answer to your questions i'll try my best to give you what I know.. Have fun, live life to the fullest and ask away... ;) xoxo
Gender: Female
Location: South Australia
Occupation: Medical Receptionist!
Age: 21
Member Since: June 7, 2006
Answers: 364
Last Update: December 6, 2010
Visitors: 31398
Main Categories:
Illnesses
Friendship
General Sex Questions
View All
|
| |
|
So, I'm 15/f and I've been talking to this boy that I like recently. We've hungout a few times and everyone says he likes me and I like him too but the only problem is, is that he isn't a big communicating person. Like he doesn't text that much, exspecially doesn't talk on the phone, and I don't see him long enough to talk to him in school since we aren't in any of the same classes. Any advice on how to approach him and tell him that we need to text or talk more if we want to have a relationship? because I went through this last year with my ex boyfriend who (texted me more then this current guy does) but in person and when we hungout it was sometimes akward and quiet, which is the opposite for my current guy. I tend to fall for guys who are shy about showing how they feel about a girl, but I'm just attracted to them more then guys who try to hard and are obsessed with a girl. So any advice? (link)
|
You should be doing exactly what you want him to do... communicate with him!!
Talk him, you need to make the time to see him so your able to communicate!! If he is shy then you may need to make the first move but you should tell him that you like him for him so there is no reason to be shy!!
Good luch hope I helped!
|
16/f
why do i find it so hard to talk to my parents about problems going on in my life as far as friends and relationships go? im really close to them and tell them alot! but for some reason i just dont like to tell them anytihng about my social life. i want to but for some reason i feel ashamed to talk to them about this.
also my mood has been changing alot latley. im tired, less motivated in school, and im fighting with friends a lot more often. and now im growing apart from one of my best friends, i feel abandoned. help i really dont know whats going on with me! this isnt like me at all!! im changing into some one i dont even know or like!! (link)
|
You probably don't want to tell your parents about your social life because your scared they'll disapprove??
Mood changes occur a lot in people, your only 16 and your still trying to find out who you are and your place in life. Your still growing up.
People change, therefore they change friends, they change their lifestyles. Your not going to be the same person forever, you'll come to find out what you like as a person!!
Just remember that it's not always you who changes, others change as well!!
As far as your parents, just start of slow by saying you had an argument with one of your friends... ect.. you'll eventually open up!! The person you want to be is one who is close to their family.
You can choose your friends but you can't choose your family!!
|
|
okay, [18f] ive never had sex and ive been dating the same guy for almost 2 years, hes not been rushing me about anything. but i really want to have sex with him. i have no idea what to do or anything. i read alot of questions on here that says something about the girl being on top or botton or whatever, i dont get it. who goes on top? and what do all the guys want to do when you have sex? i need tips and answers please. please dont tell me that im not ready because i think i am and i really want to so if your gonna say that then please dont answer my question(: (link)
|
First Tip: There is no right or wrong way!!!! Always remember that!!!
Second: Use lots of lubricant and use protection!!
Third: I would suggest for your first time for your boyfriend to go on top. Let him do the work.
Be aware that it will hurt a bit your first time, but the more relaxed and aroused your are, the less the pain will be.
Fourth: Once you have had sex the first time, and your familiar with the feelings, then you can experiment on different positions!!
You should be proud of yourself waiting this long, not all girls do what you have done. You seem responsible so take it easy and have fun!!
|
how do you get buttsex to not hurt?
(link)
| |
Use lots of lubricant!!! If pain still occurs, see a doctor!!
|
ill just get right to the point ......... how do you do the best bj to your boyfriend cause hes saying i need to buy a book about it!
(link)
|
If you boyfriend is saying that you need to buy a book about it, then get rid of him!!! How Rude!!
Practice makes perfect and every guy is different!!
|
Recently, I've been curious about my family history.
I'd like to know if my family dates back to the 1700s or something, and if I had anyone famous-ish that I'm related to.
Hopefully you understand what I mean.
So my question is, how do I find out all this info?
My parents know basically nothing about our family, just fyi. (link)
|
If your parents don't know anything about your family history, why not contact an old aunty or uncle.. even a grandparent?? to find out more info on your family.
Search your family name in google or go to a grave site. Take photos of the grave stone so you have the name and date of birth and date of death, usually that have loving ... of so and so on the stone so that will lead to more info.
Hope I helped :)
|
|
my hair is like dead. i dyed my hair 3 times. the 2nd time it turned out wrong and went platinum blonde. (god was that horrible). but now my hair is golden blonde with dirty blonde/ light brown hair roots coming out. it is extremely ugly. the roots are about 3 inches long, i went to my hair dresser about 2 months ago to get it dyed, and she said she wouldn't dye it because if she did my hair might fall out so she said wait till my roots came in good. well i really want to dye it now, but how do i know its healthy enough without going back to her and asking her ? and i've been scrunching my hair more often for about 3 weeks now to make it more healthy, but what are more healthy ways to make my hair more healthy than deep conditioning ? (link)
|
Try not to put any products in your hair. Let it just grow naturally for about 2 weeks.. I know it seems gross but in the end the natural oils in your hair will come out and that is the best cure!!
Try to leave it even longer if possible.. In the mean time, wear thick head bands or scarves in your hair to cover any uncomfortable regrowth... try to wear it down as much as possible so it can air out.
|
|
a few days my mom came home early and walked in on me and one of my friends making out the friend was a chick and needless to say my mom freaked out and now things are just weird between us she barly looks me in the eyes and when i do try and talk to her she ignores me me and were very close and i just want things to go back to normal and be able to talk to her about the way i feel how do i do that? (link)
|
Perhaps you could write her a note or send her a text message. Just let her know how you feel, whether you were just experimenting, your a lesbian or you are bi..
If you are a lesbian or bi, then now is the best time to come out and say it considering she has witnessed your actions with your friend.
However, if you are not any of the above then you need to make that clear to her. Tell her that you were just experimenting. You were curious. I'm pretty sure your mum isn't perfect ;)
Don't apologise, you haven't done anything wrong!!
I obviously don't know anything about your mum but if she has come home and seen you with another girl, then maybe she's finding it hard to come to terms with what she saw.
Whether that be with a girl or a guy, she might even be finding it hard to come to terms that your at that 'age' that your curious about the sexual world!!
She can't go on forever with feeling uncomfortable around you, she needs to talk to you at some stage, as I said you could write a letter or something to get out what you would like to say, then she doesn't have to look you in the face but at the same time, listen to what you have to say!!
Hope I helped :)
|
|
Im going to have to give you guys a bit of history so that you can better understand the situation. I have this friend. A best friend. Weve been friends since 8th grade, and now were seniors about to graduate and weve gone through a lot. we were literally polar opposites on the surface but intellectually we matched perfect. The thing is, I was always the preppy, kinda girlie one, and she was the dark, gothic one. never really cared about her looks. she even called herself manly. In 8th grade that was our style. Weve both changed a great amount since then. I used to be very shy, now I am very outgoing. I am still girlie, but I play soccer and enjoy Spanish music and am very positive and always happy. She changed as well. Her style became girlie, and she did away with all her darkness. But the problem is her changing is influenced by me. which would be fine, except shes adopting not only the style of music and clothes that I like, but also my personality. I don't understand. She sees me do or wear something, and she goes and does the same thing. I cant really say anything i mean it seems very petty but it's becoming more than a superficial thing. She is copying my mannerisms and my reactions, all my tastes and dislikes. She is becoming me. We go to different schools, but when I see people from her school they describe her doing and saying things that sound exactly like me. She doesn't act that way towards me though. And it's really frustrating because I cant say anything, shes going to deny it and say that that's what she would have done regardless. which i know is not true. Literally shes doing EVERYTHING that I am. it's insane. And now she is saying she wants some space between us so she can get her priorities in line, telling me she doesnt really want to talk to anyone for a while, but i see her doing stuff and hanging with other people, dressing and acting like me. I'm going crazy over this what should I do? how can I accept this? (link)
|
Hi there..
Seems to me that she's always envied you. She's always loved how you act and dress and speak ect..
She's probably always wanted to be more like you because 1) she's jealous 2) she's always felt like your better then her 3) wished she could be more like you but is embarrassed of changing her ways in front of you.
Because she's at a different school now, she's got the chance to be you without you being around, therefore she has the 'limelight' with out you steeling it away.
With these other people she doesn't have to feel like she wants to be like you, she probably feels that these people want to be like her and she enjoys it.
Just talk to her and let her know that its ok to dress and act more confident, however, copying everything you do is a bit out of control. Communication is the best way to resolve anything. Even if you write her a letter so she understands how you feel.
Hope I helped.
|
heyy
well i lately I've been having these dreams about this guy i know,(known him sense 3rd grade) im an 8th grader now, i use to like this boy..we kinda dated in the third grade he liked me a lot. Acutally got me a christmas gift unexpectedly one time in the third grade. Well, ALOT CHANGED we aren't close anymore we have classes but ya, i keep having these dreams about him like 3 in a row? In the dreams (dont remember them well) He was like hugging me? O.O haha the next one dont remember at all hah the other we were playing video games and he was lifting me up with his legs? ROFL laughing and flirting? I dont like him.. haven't had a real conversation with him sense last summer :/we are in diffrent friend groups he's majorly popular im not. sooo can someone tell me whats going ON?haha my friend thinks its because me and my other friend(he went to school with me and the boy sense 3rd grade 2) we were reminiscing about the past. so maybe thats it? i dont know (link)
|
Dreams all have some sort of meaning but I guess no one is really able to tell what those meanings are.
Perhaps your friend is right, your thinking about the fun times you use to have??!
It might not mean anything at all. Just for the record.. I don't think anyone really 'dates' in 3rd grade led alone understand what it fully means at that age.
|
heyy 14/f
Well, my bf is in a grade younger than me. Arizona♥ lol well, we can't really talk or anything? He doesn't have internet access at his dads, and his phones taking away because he threw it out the window when he was mad haha. We pass each other in the hallway but we don't have time to talk, so the only thing we can do is write notes, and my friend gives them to him in her study hall. He doesn't really write back sometimes. So, i asked him if he wanted to break up because we cant talk, he said "NOOO! unless i want to". So, i dont know?! I wrote him a note telling him that we need to talk more or something or we cant stay dating? :/ i didnt want to sat that because we dated before and he was the only guy who treated me right out of everyone else. He never gave up getting me back. I broke up with him a couple times, same with him and me. I don't want to hurt him at all, i care about him a lot.what do you people think? (link)
|
I think you two are too young to really understand what a relationship means.
I think he sounds like more of a closer male friend then anything else really..!!!
Your aren't really boyfriend and girlfriend at this stage. If you hardly see or speak to each other you aren't able to express feelings and kiss and cuddle like 'normal boyfriend and girlfriends' do.
Passing notes through a mutual friend does not 'classify' as having a relationship. You are hardly able to communicate. Communitcation is the key with a real relationship and you both are doing exactly the opposite.
I suggest you two remain friends or close friends until you are able to make 'grown up' decisions about a real relationship together.
|
|
this guy im friends with has been wanting to fool around with me for a while and i have secretly wanted to too. i dont c him too often and i know none of my friends would approve because they all thing he's an ass hole. i havn't had much experience but part of me is REALLY tempted to do it. i don't know what to do, HELP?!?! (link)
|
This isn't really anyone's choice to tell you yes or no. It's 100% your choice only. That goes for anyone on here and your friends.
If you feel like you want to 'fool around' with this guy then perhaps you should. If your not looking for any sort of relationship but you wish to have some fun (providing you are old enough to accept any consequences) then you should go for it.
You shouldn't let anyone tell you who you can date or 'fool around' with. It's not fair to you. You are your own person!!
You'll need to let this guy know your boundries as only you know what they are. Just rememeber to play it safe and ALWAYS have respect for yourself.
Good luck, have fun, play safe!!
|
|
my nephew keeps trying to choke my niece while I babysit them for their grandma my mom and i've told my mom about it and she's tried everything to punish from puttin him in time out, taking things from him, talking to him, and spanking him on the but and nothing seems to work and we don't want to choke him back becouse that child abuse what should we do we are afraid he's going to end up killing her. my nephew is 6 and my niece is 8 what shuld we do to stop this? (link)
|
Take him to see a child Psychiatrist. There is obviously something wrong but as a child he doesn't really understand how he should express his feelings or emotions properly.
I strongly recommend it if you think it's becoming out of control.
Hope I helped :)
|
ive been taking the low ogestrel 28 birth control pill for at least 9 months
ive usually been pretty good about taking at the same time of day (within the hour or two)
i had protected sex on september 12
and forgot a pill last friday
so i took fridays pill and saturdays pill that saturday morning
i started the green pills that sunday (so the day after the saturday i took two pills)
i usually get my period 2 days after starting the green pills but it hasnt come yet
(today being the third day)
chances of being pregnant?
or could it just be that i took two pills so soon? (link)
|
More then likely it's just because your body was out of routine with the pill. Could even perhaps be because you are stressed??
Take a home pregnancy test just for your peace of mind if you must. Just remember the more you stress the more chances it'll be of your period being delayed even more.
:)
|
I need a dress for my brothers prom, just for taking pictures and stuff. Nothing fancy, and under 200 dollars. It's not till like June, but, I am extremely picky with what I wear and I need some help finding a nice dress.
I have really deep ugly stretch marks going down my arms to about the elbow, and I have a few on my thighs so I need a dress that covers those without looking to blotchy and covered.
Because of my weight(I am fat) I need a dress with an embroidered waist
Any ideas where I could find a dress like this? (link)
|
Hi there
I'm not exactly sure where you would be able to find a dress like that.. assuming your from America. I live in Australia.
However, good idea is to print off a few picture of what you are looking for and take them into a shop within your price range and ask for assistance.
Good luck. I'm sure your look beautiful in whatever you choose. Have fun :)
|
5 months ago I had a adenocarcinoma insitu on my cervix. I had a LEETZ procedure to have it removed and stopped taking the pill, as gyny said it can help with these cells etc. I have only had 1 period since going off the pill (not including withdrawal bleed upon stopping pill)
On 2 occasions now I have had a decent size bleed while having sex with my partner. on the most recent time i had been having an old blood discharge then the bleed which was gone by the next day. Since then, (approx 2 weeks ago), I have been experiencing a constant old blood discharge with some clots, and every few days some fresh blood (small amount lasting about 1 hour or so). I am concerned. I called my gyny as my 6 month check up is not for another month. He said that "this can some times happen"..I dont believe him. Particularly 5 months after the operation and the fact that my period is almost non-existant except for this weird old blood thing. I also have sore breasts and I feel drained, more mentally than physically. I just want to know what is happening to me. I am 22 years old and my emotions are all over the place. (link)
|
Unfortunately there isn't much advice I can give on this situation as I am not a doctor, however, remember you are always entitled to a second opinion.
Call or book another appointment with a different gyny and talk with them about your problem if you are not happy with the answers you are getting from the doctor you had the procedure with.
Good luck :)
|
My boyfriend and I will be dating for 9 months tomorrow. What are some fun things that we can do together that arent too expensive? We always do the same things like.. go to the movies, out to eat, fishing, bowling, minigolf. We're ready to change it up a litte bit. We want to get out of the house and have a good time together.
Any ideas is greatly appreciated, please & thanks! (link)
| |
Go for a hike
|
14-f
ok so last night i went to a party and i met this REALLY hot guy who is 17, after a while i drank a little bit too much and this morning he sent me a text saying that i was the best he ever had, need to do it again soon. and im pretty sure u know what im talking about when he said best i ever had, considering i woke up in his room...... what am i supposed to do????????????????????????? should i see him again?? (link)
|
I would say not.. it's disgusting that your having sex at 14. You have barely grown up!
You should be put in foster care if your parents aren't looking out for you and sewn up until your legal age!!!
|
|
hey,right now am going thru a difficult situation and that is because my boyfriend broke up with me. we had 2 yrs and 2 months and unfortunaltly he end it. i gaved him eveything of me becuase i was deep in love.now he broke up with me and am broken hearted.my heat just hurts too much :( and he looks at me and just ignores me like if i was completely invisible (link)
|
Hi there
Unfortunately at some stage throughout some relationships people fall in and out of love.
Obviously your boyfriend has for some reason fallen out of love with you. I know this might be hard to come to terms with but the first step you need to take here is that he no longer has any feelings for you and he wont be coming back.
This sounds like it has been a complete shock to you. I guess the only thing you can do is to move on with your life. It may take you a while to do so but life does go on.
If it makes you feel better, perhaps you could contact him just to ask him why. Just for your peace of mind. It's ok for him because he's the one who has no feelings left, unfortunately for you... you still love him. Therefore it's ok for him to move on because he doesn't feel anything anymore.
I'm sorry your having to go through with this but the last thing you should do it dwell on the situation. If he's made up his mind, he's not going to change it. Take this as an opportunity to start over. Start a new life.
Just enjoy life and have fun. We only live once and the more days you spend crying are less days you get to live.
Hope I helped... Good luck :)
|
|
I hate my life right now Im always tired stressed out and lonely. Theirs no one to talk to about my problems I have plenty of friends but they have their own problems to worry about. Most of the time we are all doign our on thing unless we are drinking together. My other friends have boy friends that they are always with I dont trust guys thats why I havnt been close to a guy since my last boy friend who abused me physically and mentally we broke up 7 months ago. I am beautiful and every guy wants me becasue Im hot but they dont take the time our of their day to make a connection with me other than sexually. I am not a whore I have only been with 2 guys the second guy got with me after telling me he wants a relationship but now he doesnt talk to me. How can I find the right guy whos going to have a healthy relationship with me and how do i detect if they just want to get in my pants im stressed becasue im lonely im lonely becasue i dont trust and i dont trust becasue i trusted the wrong people. How am i supposed to find a good guy when guys cant get passed my looks. (link)
|
Please girl...
You might feel like your life sucks right now, but it's definitely not the end of the world!!
Wake up call - Why do you need a guy? Why do you need a relationship?? Let me tell you something y-o-u d-o-n-t-!
Every girls thinks they need to be in a relationship to feel loved... um hello.. Why not take the chance to love yourself first.
Get to know yourself, find out who or what you want to do in life and in the mean time have fun, have experiences... there is plenty of time to find the 'right' guy!! You can't go searching for it.. it'll hit you like a slap in the face, you'll know when it comes. Don't force it!!
Just be yourself, have fun and get to know the real you! If you can't do that, if you only feel comfortable with a guy and need to be in a relationship, then something is wrong with you!!
Hope I helped :)
|
|