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things are weird with my mom
a few days my mom came home early and walked in on me and one of my friends making out the friend was a chick and needless to say my mom freaked out and now things are just weird between us she barly looks me in the eyes and when i do try and talk to her she ignores me me and were very close and i just want things to go back to normal and be able to talk to her about the way i feel how do i do that?
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I dont think your mom "freaked out" i think what happamed is that she got shocked and is still in the shocked stage. i mean its your mom she never thought that things would go this way, you are and will be to her you baby she understands that you will grow up and eventually leave the nest but for what i can she at least right now is that she doesnt understand whats really going on and thats why she is still in shock, i think what you really need to do is not give up she is your mom and your true best friend, and i think she also feels hurt that you never talked to her about your feelings...i can only imagine it not being easy to watch you child kissing and swapping saliva...you got to admit it isnt easy ..so imagine her would it be easy to see her make out with a stranger? have sex with a stranger?... wouldnt you also get "freaked out"? ( Shocked)
i think so... if you really want to go back to the way things were this is my opinion... 1. dont give up 2. work on gaining that trsut back 3. dont pressure her..rememeber shes not pressuring you so dont go there 4. consider her feelings..remember shes always worried about you and has done that all of your life she does deserve for you to be patient with her..you do owe it to her right? 5.stop doing what ever it is that will interupt your goal to bond with her again and regain the trust. 6. communicate 7. talk talk talk and talk 8. try to undrestand her and not be hard headed or stuborn 9. accept that she has the right to her opinion 10. be willing to change bad habits into good actions 11. dont give up. it is possible to love your mom and have a great relationship with her and be young.
I hope this helps if it doesnt please let me know
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Perhaps you could write her a note or send her a text message. Just let her know how you feel, whether you were just experimenting, your a lesbian or you are bi..
If you are a lesbian or bi, then now is the best time to come out and say it considering she has witnessed your actions with your friend.
However, if you are not any of the above then you need to make that clear to her. Tell her that you were just experimenting. You were curious. I'm pretty sure your mum isn't perfect ;)
Don't apologise, you haven't done anything wrong!!
I obviously don't know anything about your mum but if she has come home and seen you with another girl, then maybe she's finding it hard to come to terms with what she saw.
Whether that be with a girl or a guy, she might even be finding it hard to come to terms that your at that 'age' that your curious about the sexual world!!
She can't go on forever with feeling uncomfortable around you, she needs to talk to you at some stage, as I said you could write a letter or something to get out what you would like to say, then she doesn't have to look you in the face but at the same time, listen to what you have to say!!
Hope I helped :)
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