Hey!! My name is Brandy and i am 17 years old and a junior in high school! I thought that something like this would be a swell way to spend my time lol and since i have so much drama going on in my life .. why not help everyone else out with theirs? :)
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me and my boyfriend have been together for quite some time ((3 months)) he is 18 now & im 15... my parents think he is 16 and i hate lying to them but i love him and i want to be with him... how bad does this make me??
my b-day is on may 5th
and his on the 13 (link)
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I would just tell your parents the truth because they are bound to find out sooner or later and that will just make them not trust you more, if you and this guy are serious about keeping your relationship then let him meet your parents and what not if he hasnt already and they are bound to like him if he is a good guy. Im sure your parents will understand, just tell them you cant stand how immature guys your own age are.. Hope I helped! :)
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OK here's the deal. Me and this kid have liked each other for a few weeks now and he finally asked me out. We've only been going out for 2 days now but its feels like longer. I really do love him, and he loves me. There's just one problem. He's kind of "advanced". I'm only in 8th grade and i've never really been into doing things with guys. For example, I wouldn't give a guy head or handjob anytime soon. He jokes around a lot about this and really wants me to do it but he isn't pressuring me. The problem is, he always wants me to go to his house after school, and for some reason i don't like to go without a friend. I don't know why, but I just can't bring myself to go alone. I love him a lot, but I feel better knowing that someone else is there with me in case something goes wrong. Even if it's one of his friends that's there too, i'm ok, but other than that, i just get a little uneasy. It's just something weird I guess that's going on with me that's making me not want to be alone with him. The other problem is that I still don't know how to kiss and now that I have a boyfriend, I think that maybe that's the reason im scared to be alone with him because i'm afraid of his making a move on me. I don't suppose I would mind too much if we kissed but I still don't "know how to". He sounds mad whenever I don't go to his house. He always wants me to, and he always wants me to go to the movies. That's where my problme of being alone with him comes out. I don't want to go to the movies with him if it's just me and him so I usually suggest a double date but the thing is, my friend would be making out with her friend during the whole movie and it might make me and my boyfriend feel weird so I never want to go. I feel bad saying no to him, but I don't know what to do to not be scared about it. Can someone please help me and tell me what I should do? I would appreciate it so much and i will rate you 5 even if you don't give good advice. Thanks (link)
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Well if this guy really loves you like he says he does then he will understand that you do not want to do some of these things with him. But also if you guys "love" each other you should also not feel so wierd around, and trust him. The whole kissing thing isnt hard dont get so stressed out about it, just tell him its ur first time or whatever and when he kisses you go with the flow kissing is one of those things that just come naturally and if you follow his lead there is really not that much that can go wrong. Maybe you should talk to him about everything, or if you dont want to talk to him write him a note, things are always easier to say in a letter. Hope I helped!
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Ok.. I'm almost 15 years old in the 9th grade.
Over the summer I started dating one of my best friends. (Jay).. Jay and I were really close. We were always hanging out. So anyway.. one night at my house we had dry sex. Is it true that you can get pregnant from that??? We continued dating the rest of the summer and on the 1st day of school Jay broke up with me. He's always all over every girl at school anyways. But I was still really hurt. He's the only guy that I've ever really cried over. So.. I've had anyother boyfiend from about 2 months now but I think I still like Jay. My boyfriend and I now haven't even done anything that is even close to dry sex. Is it possible that I just miss Jay because we actually did "stuff"? and is it fair to my boyfriend now that I feel this way?? (link)
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First.. no you can not get pregnant from dry sex unless clothes were off and both of you guys touched down there and im sure by now you would know if you were pregnant. Also i dont really think that it is fair to your boyfriend rite now that you have feelings for someone else, maybe you need to talk to Jay about how he feels and then talk to your boyfriend. You cant help how you feel and you cant tell your heart what to do so if you decided now that you like Jay and do not want to be with your boyfriend then yes it is unfair and you need to break things off with him, the longer you wait to do it the more he is going to like you and the more hurt he will get.
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well i have this really big penis and it wont fit in my gurl any suggestions (link)
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Well hunni this sounds like a big problem... try some lubricant!! :) Glad i could help!
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I am in love with this girl that i have liked for awhile now and when i was first with her i did some stupid shit like cheat on her and she forgave me for that and now we seem closer then the first time....I really like this girl and it seems like when i'm not with her i am lost and all i can do is think about her....What can i do to keep my self from missing her every minute i am not with her?
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Well my dear good friend Lee, i obviously know who this is about and i feel like you both have a crush on each other and you also need to take it one step at a time maybe you need to start hanging out more and all that good stuff... your always gona have to think about her every minute of the day because.. well jus look who she is shes gorgeous (she learns from the best) lol But if you dont want to try to do other stuff to get her off your mind like hanging out with friends and what note.. hope i helped again!! always here to listen lol
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ok so i asked you guys adivce earlier on what i should get my bf of 2 years for x-mas, and most of you said i should make a scrapbook. i think that's a really good idea, but i really have no idea how to make one! i was also thinking about taking 12 pics of us to kinkos and making a calendar out of it. guys opinions here would be good, but girls are welcome too. which do you think would be better? how should i go about making the scrapbook? thanks (link)
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You can buy a scrap book kit at wal mart for really cheap around like 10$ that gives you a book and little things to put in it. They are really cute and i think he'll like it. Back in the crafts section there are also a lot more things you can buy to put in it also. Its fun and it shows how much you care.
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Okay, me and my boyfriend have been going out for 3 weeks. We have gone out for the same amount of time before, and I was the one that broke it off. I didn't feel it was right to go out with him when I just wanted to be friends. Well now, I am not happy in our relationship... AGAIN. He is not supportive at all, and I am the kind of girl that likes the single life. I don't like spending time with him, and I don't feel like there is butterflies in my stomach at all when I see him. But I will feel bad for breaking up with him AGAIN, and everybody will be mad at me and call me a whore. Should I break up with him anyway, or stick with him and make myself happy?
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The only person you have to please is yourself so i think that you need to break it off. By staying with him longer you are just leading him on and making him like you more so it will just be harder for you and him later. You need to tell him you just want to be friends and thats all you want to be ever again.. you may break his heart but it will only make him stronger right? And as for the people who will be mad at you it is none of their business so who cares about them .. of they are mad at you for something that little then they are not worth being friends with
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For the past while i have been cutting myself. At first it was just scratches and then i started cutting deeper and deeper. I am really scared and I don't want to talk to my parents, they have enough to worry about, so is there anyway i can break the habit and just stop...and please don't answer if you are just going to poke fun at me and mock me. I don't need that. Only post if you can help me. (link)
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Tell your friend your friend can help you and have somone else tell your parents no matter how much stuff they have to worry about i am sure that you are more important to them.. its a hard habit to break but if you tell someone whoe cares about you it only gets easier..
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I have naturatly light ash blonde hair, which is about 2 inches long on top. I really want to dye the tips of my hair red, but I dont know how to go about it! What would I have to do to just dye the tips?? (link)
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Get it done by a pro they will know what they are doing.. plus goin for the red thing might turn your hair orange..!
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17/f ...im going to a dance soon and im wearing like a small short dress and i have like this pink half tie shirt thing to wear over it like outside cuz of the cold.. well anyways my question is what color shirt and tie do u think my date should wear...and i dont think hell wanna wear pink (link)
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A white shirt with a black tie or a black shirt with a white tie... those colors match with anything!
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Ok..our uniforms are the navy shirt w/ khaki pants or plaid squirts..i have brown hair(past my bra strap) and brown eyes and i have no acne and i have a natural tan..so what kind of eyeshadow should i wear to go to school?
Thnx in Advance! (link)
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I would go with a natural tone.. maybe a light brown with a little bit of a white over it BUT NOT TO MUCH just enough to make it stick out. Or a goldish brown.. let me know how it looks!
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ok i have been going out with a girl for quite a while now. we love each other both very much and we know what "love" is...but we have been thinking...about sex. we have already did a couple of things with each other already but other than that we are both still virgins but we are thinking about sex and we are going to go ahead and try it soon possibly even tomorrow or within this week...is this moving too fast...since we know each other and talked it through? and what should i do about this since its our both first time having sex? (we are using protection by the way) thanks for listening (link)
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Im glad to hear that you are using protection, but no i dont think you are moving to fast and as long as its a mutual decision then it is fine. Try to make each other feel as comphy as possible.. because its going to prolly be wierd the first time but it will get better and youll get use to each other. Good luck!!!
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I love my boyfriend very much, and he is just the sweetest thing to me. I wouldn't trade him for anybody else. My parents don't think he's a good influence on me, and want us to break up. If he doesn't change soon they'll keep us from seing each other and talking.
He's 2 years older than me, in high school when I'm still just a middle schooler. I met him through my younger brother's theatre group, he is a wonderful actor and an even better singer. I knew who he was for almost a year, but never talked to him since he was older, and I wasn't even in the play. some time in september he noticed me at the theatre group. We began talking on the computer and on the phone for several weeks until he asked me out. my parents had been sorta skepetical about the whole thing with an older guy from the begining, but let me go out with him anyway.
There have been a few times that I couldn't do or go places with him because he was older, or because my parents didn't think I was ready to do things. He takes things rather personally and got really upset with them, being extremely rude about them in his online diary. Later, after the problems had been solved, my dad found the website, nad was really disappointed in what he saw. That was about 3 weeks ago. My parents have never let go of the fact that he and I made out in front of my little bro, something both of us will never do again. They also like to rub in my face that he is very emmotional, and materilistic and they point out all his bad traits. They fail to mention how sweet he is to me, how well we get along, how he calls me every day no matter what, and comes to watch me ride horses when any other guy would be bored to death.
Last friday one of our friends told him that I was cheating on him with my ex. Which so didn't and will never happen. I told him so on saturday, and he believed me until he talked to her again, and on sunday he was mad at me. I felt so bad, being accused of something that he knows that as a person, I would never do that. Anyways, he hugs all his friends that are girls. I told my mom, and she almost had be convienced to break up with him.
Yesterday, I was talking to him on the phone, and I told him he needed to be more respectful to my parents. He replied with "I dont give a what your parents think" I then told him that why my mom was letting me use the phone before I was finished with homeworkd and chores was because I was supposed to break up with him, but that I didn't want to. He got all upset and got off the phone.
I dont know what to do, I want him to be able to get along with my parents, and I want them to see all the good things I see in him. How should I let him know that my parents thnk he is a bad influence, emotional, rude in his diary ect. ect. without making it sound like thats how I feel, and that they still like him well enough as a person. I agree with a few of the things they say, and I want him to know and to fix those things, but I dont want to sound rude, or demanding. Sorry about the question being so long, thanks so much if you can help me! (link)
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My parents feel the same way about my boyfriend and they don not like him but they treat him with respect when he is over here. I think that you need to sit your parents down and let them know all of the positive things that he has going for him i mean it does not sound like he is a bad guy and then you also need to talk to your boyfriend and tell him how your parents feel and why.. In a way its his fault for writing that in his journal for the whole world to see so that is something he is just goin to have to face but I dont think you should break up over something as simple as this. Your parents will eventully give in and like him and im sure if he stops writing bad things about them then they will let you go away with them also. And as far as your friend if she is saying that about you then she is obviously not your friend you need to talk to your boyfriend and tell him that he has no reason not to trust you (i dont think) and that he should not listen to what other people say and get mad unless he talks to you first. Glad i could help.. Good luck!
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okay so .. i broke up with this guy a little while ago. But when i see him i still think about him. My friends say i should go back out with him .. but i dont want to .. i dont think im the type of girl to have a boyfriend but i also like having one too. I dont know what i should do. I dont even know if he still likes me. I think i just still have left over feelings for him but i dont think i could go back out with him. I kinda want to .. but then again im talking to another boy .. so i dont know what to do .. (link)
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What i really think your problem is, is that you need attention. All girls are guilty of it, you may think you like a guy but you dont. You always think about your ex boyfriends when you see them its like an unwritten law or something lol and you are prolly also jeleous when you see him with other girls? I would just keep talking to the boy you are talking to now.. explore your options.. :)
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Ok, well, my guy friend's dad just past away a few days ago. My friend is really hurt and it's weird cuz usually he comes to me to comfort him when he needs it, but he doesnt wanna talk about his dad. Doesnt wanna talk period. He wasnt close with his dad, they didnt live together and didnt see eachother for the longest time. I know he's hurt becuz at his grad (a few months ago) he told me how he was jealous that all his friends dads were there except his. I just dont know how to be there for him, what should i do? I wanna be there for him, Ive always have and now something like that happens, I just really dont kno what to do..HELP! (link)
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Give your friend time. Losing someone that you love even if you were not close to them is always hard and it takes time to want to talk about it. Just let him know that you will always be there for him and whenever he needs to talk that you are there no matter what. These types of things are really hard to deal with, just dont try to talk him into something he does not want to talk about. When he is redy to talk he will know that you are there to talk to. Everything will work out in the end. :)
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Hey people! Um...let's see. I really have liked this guy for a long time and we have dated but at the moment we are not. By the way his name is Kyle if that would help any. We always go on and off fooling around and stuff. Like in the beginning of the school year we were hanging out and one thing led to another and we were making out and I gave him a hj and he fingered me. So it's not like it's a random crush I have or anything. Well like for the past month like basically almost all of November he was acting way different. He would call me EVERYDAY and we would talk to a while and he would tell me how much he loved me and he was just so cute and he hasn't really ever acted like that. I mean some of the things he said were so sweet like once out of no where he's like 'I'm in love...with the best thing ever and her name is Ryah' (that's me lol). Well anyways, he told me he wanted to have sex with me and I told him I'd think about it and that maybe if we were to do that we should go out first so he said yeah. We weren't going out though it wasn't definite. He said he would have felt bad if he pressured me into it and I told him he didn't really so it was ok. Well then he just stopped calling me and talking to me all the time and he still doesn't. I don't know what's up! Does anyone see what I did? I don't know if I should call him and get things started back up or something. I'm afraid I'm going to loose him. I'm so attached right now and I don't know what to do. I'm thinking about calling him tonight and just talking to him, maybe get things back to where there were...but I don't know how. Sorry it's so long. (link)
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Well the way it sounds is this guy just wanted you for a piece of ass, im not trying to be mean but that is just how some guys are.. believe me i went out with quite a few. It seems like he only wants you when he doesnt have another girl in mind.. know what i mean? But sure call him tonite and see what is up ask him why he stoped talkin to you all of the sudden and tell him that if you two are not together that you at least want to have him as a friend. Dont give in to him though and dont do anything that you do no want to do. If he starts calling you again all the time maybe you should try to play his game and not call him for a little..? He sounds like a very sweet talker and it is easy to belive somone when they tell you exactly what you want to hear.. Good luck! I hope I helped!
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i used to go out with this guy. he wasnt exactly a loser but some ppl thought he was. so i got really insecure about it and stupidly dumped him. this happened about 4 weeks ago. lately i have started to regret dumping him and i miss him so much!! should i tell him this? (link)
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Dont tell him you broke up with him because you were basically embarresed to be with him but tell him that you simply made a mistake and that you are sorry. He will understand and depending on how much he likes you, you just might get your relationship back. Dont get back with him thought if this is goin to just happen again, dont care what other people think of your boyfriend the only person that has to like him is you Hope i helped :)
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I've been working at the same place for over a year and I really enjoy working there. I feel like I've established myself as a good employee. A past roommate of mine who I didn't get along with well and only see infrequently recently applied for a position at the same place I work. Apparently, she told my boss and others she spoke to that she knows me well and that I would be excited to work with her. She pretty much said that I really wanted her to work there and would recommend her. The problem is that I know this person is not a good worker. She is irresponsible about coming to work and tends to slack off when she does come. She's not very respectful to employers either and tends to demand that they give her time off whenever she wants it. I'm concerned that this person's job performance could reflect negatively on me, since she pretty much used me as a reference without my permission. Should I approach my boss about this? What should I do if my boss asks me about her? What can I do to distance myself from this person so that her poor performance won't make me look bad? (link)
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I think that you should appraoch your boss about what is going on. if she is going to make you look bad and reflect negativly on your job and how well you are doing it is your repnsibility to let managers or bosses know how she really is and you could be saving them from a lot of problems in the long run. A lot of people put on an act to get hired from a job and most people cant see that. I hope I helped!
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okay.. my b/f gave me a condom just in case we went a little too far one time.. and i kept it in a little compartment of my purse that no one really notices.. well when my b/f was over today.. my mom washed that purse! and i walked in the room.. and the zipper for the area was unzipped.. but the condom was still there!! ahh omg! what could i say to make my parents think i'm not having sex?! please answer this! i'll rate 5's to anyone that answers! (link)
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Just tell them that someone gave it to you as a gag gift or that you had it just in case anything would ever happen. Are you sure your parents even saw it.. and if they did i wouldnt say anthing to them about it unless they asked you. But def. throw that condom away now because if it went through the wash it isnt good anymore and you shouldnt keep them in your wallet/purse because they are more likely to get holes in them!
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i like this kid hes all nice to me but when hes around his friends hes a jerk! he told me he liked me but he wont ask me out what should i do...?? (link)
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Talk to him about it and tell him how you feel. Tell him that you think he changes when he is with his friends and maybe he will relize it and change. Some guys just have to act macho when they are with "the guys" and there is nothing you can do about it but Hey its worth a try
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