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Okay, well.. let's see I've liked this guy since the beginning of the year.. and it's the first year that i've known him for. And well my friend decides to tell him something that I don't know. So later on today, he asked one of my good friends heres a lay out of what he asked the convo between them:
The guy I like : Hey , you know Betty right? Your good friends with her right?
My friend: Oh yeah why?
The guy I like : Well.. because I heard that she likes me? someone said that she likes me..? Is it true?
My friend: Ohh uhmm.. I don't know.. I don't think so?
The guy I like : Oh.. alright.
And then they went on about some other thing about the project we were doing.. and he always looks at me we do the whole '' when I look at him and he turns to look at me I turn around like I wasn't looking at him and he does the whole same thing'' And we havne't really talked either.. like we have so much in common but never really gotten the chance to talk to him. For example we would be in class filling out some thing that we had to go around to everyone in the room and we looked at eachother and then went seperate ways..
Out of all this that I told you .. what do YOU think?
THANK YOU SO MUCH
Lot's of love , Bettyy. (link)
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he could like you... but then again, he could just be curious... just tell him how you feel, you may not get rejected... i'd say its still a 50/50 chance, but i think he likes you ~_^
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13/f 8th grade
I feel really upset lately but I don't know if I would call it depressed. Because just at school I'm more happy and will laugh but at home I get mad and cry and everything. It just isn't me though. I am usually happy but just not at home anymore. I have cut myself and I have cried every single day but only at home. Except a couple times at school but thats it. Maybe its because I keep my feelings bottled up? But I never feel comfortable telling anyone my feelings. When I do it just makes me feel worse so I never tell anyone anything. I don't know what to do. I only write in my diary. But please help me, thanks. Oh by the way I don't cut myself anymore I have stopped that because I think about it and it makes me feel worse so thanks so much thanks. (link)
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please dont hurt yourself anymore...
sweetie, there's all sorts of depression. but what you suggested sounds likely too, though. just tell your mom or dad that you need to see a psychologist/doctor and they will prescribe a medication for you to take depending if its needed.
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13/f
My friend who I was extremely close, we are/were best friends. She says she is my best friend. She doesn't show it. I see her about twice a week at church. Except I went over to her house every weekend. She has gotten bossy and just hits me sometimes when she gets mad. I have talked to her about it and she said she was sorry and she didn't realize what she was doing. She is an only child and spoiled too. She is acting like that again and I have stopped hanging around with her now. We haven't hung out in awhile and I am just confused. So any help would be appreciated thanks! (link)
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if you want to be her friend still, then you need to tell her to stop. you should honestly try to ask her mom or her parent to put her in counseling so she will hopefully stop hitting you and treat you that way. you are a human being and deserve to be treated better. thats the way i treated my friend niki at the time... but it wasnt because i was spoiled or anything, it was of personal reasons... but counseling straightened me out a lot. not because i felt like i had to, but because they made me want to stop. good luck :D
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A family friend of ours recently had a baby, and she sent us pictures of her and the baby.
In the picture, she's holding the baby and she still has her huge belly. She only sent us three, but in the other two she has her belly back, except maybe she had a little one, it was hard to tell.
How come the belly doesn't go away? I mean, the baby's gone, the placenta (hopefully), is gone, too, so why is the belly still there?
In her big belly picture she was standing and she looked ok, I mean you could tell that it was probably a day or so after she gave birth.
Just wondering.
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well, im an aunt of three girls and the reason for that is, is that while you are pregnant you need to eat twice as much (because youre eating for two) and because you have to have a lot of protein and stuff like that. especially milk and dairy products (which can make you gain a LOT of weight). its a lot to explain, but i recommend you going on google and look it up. and not everyone gets a belly after they are pregnant. ive seen a few women who have just gave birth and their belly was as slim as when they didnt have one. some women excercise the weight off of them.
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me and this boy have been mates a long time - we started gettin realy close around xmas. about 4 weeks ago we were out with some friends and me and him went off because he was upset so i followed him - he told me he really liked me and we kissed. the next weekend we were out in town with everyone again and me and him went off and kissed again n sepnt lots of time alone together. during the week after that i found out him and this girl he used to like but they fell out were friends again - i asked if that was it and he said yes just friends - then i found out the next weekend they were together and kissed etc. he told me he didnt know who to choose. in the end he said he just wanted tp be friends. the next week at a party i got drunk and got upset because he was there and i was crying and he follwed me n talked to me tried t make me happier but also said i had to try get over him. later that night me and another guy got together. the guy i like later said we needed to talk - he said to be careful with the guy i got with that night - i asked why and he said he was jelous, then he kissed me. the next mornin he said that what happened that night between us had to be forgotten. so over the next week i tried to get over him and i thought i had - i sa whim yesterday and relised i havn't we were talking etc like friends but i really like him and i do not know what to do!!!
sorry for the essay there but i really need help and i really really like him!! what can i do??
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ok to be completely honest, is that drinking and getting drunk is not the solution to your problems. whether you were stressed or not. and another, is that you need to forget him. why be with someone who is just going to cheat on you and then play stupid mind games and keep running back to you? hes stupid. just leave him alone.
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Hey, I am 14/f and currently in grade 9.
When i made the transition from middle school to high school, i hardly knew anyone. Now, i know more people, and more comfortable. I am a really niice girl, smart and pretty. It took me a whole to realise it but i finally did. I'm pretty, but not like other girls. I have a huge nose, which takes up most my face. The other girls look so perfect. I have learned to work with it, and try to beautify myself more. Now, i do look pretty but not the way guys would want. And another thing. Im different. I am not like the other girls at my school. I am really smart, respectful to everyone and all the teachers, and i do not have a rep as a whore or anything. I seem like a nerd to people, and whatever i am fine with that, but these people cant accept me being different. I choose to stand out and not to drugs and be slutty. I choose not to give adtitude to my teacher and ive grown up to be respectful to everyone. But really, i seem like your average girl, i dress normally, i look normal, and i act like any other teenage girl. I just really need help though. The guys at my school make me feel ugly. They make me feel like I'm lower then them. They make me feel like waste, like im not "cool" enough. Just because I am not the skinnest, preetiest girl (in their eyes) they make me feel invisible. An example would be today. We were in class and a girl was sitting in front of me, talking to me. This guy that im somewhat close with, was leaving so he was bye and kissed her (RIGHT IN FRONT OF MY FACE) and then turned to me, and patted me on the head. I was so frustrated over that because he made me feel so disgusting. Also, i like starting conversations with people and talking to them, so i usually strike up a convo with some cute guys in my class, and they usually just walk out of the conversation when saying one word or just act like they dont have time to talk to me or anything. It makes me feel useless, but i know im not. This is really irritating because i know i have something to offer, but the guys just look at the other (PRETTIER) girls and make me feel like crap. I know, this is only grade 9 and guys will change, but its lowering my self-esteem right now. I am smart and i've learned to only pay attention to those who matter, and mean something to me in my life but this has just gone too far. Please if anyone has ANY advice to share, it will be GREATLY appreciated. (link)
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girl, trust me, i know EXACTLY how you feel. i feel the same way, except my self-esteem is crap. i have a big nose, too... :(
not my fault though, i got it from my dads side. but the weird thing is, is that i would be ugly without it, and my nose is girly and (not at all like my dads). anyways, i may have read it wrong, but it doesnt seem to me that they think you are ugly... i know it seems they treat you differently but trust me, guys begin to notice this stuff SOON. they will come around and realize thats wrong. not only that, but the USA's population is becoming overweight, and soon if it all stays the same, it will be weird to be skinny and "perfect" (which models and those girls at your school arent even "perfect"). i know you probably are not overweight, but you should consider joining this site. it will raise your self-esteem because its a site for girls who are not skinny, but for chubby or plus-sized women. Cool huh? and you will meet guys who are willing to be your friend and will treat you like a human being. you dont even have to be slutty for it. just be careful who you talk to, k? you can add me if you want to, too. my name is Mistress Slipknot on there too. and my icon is a skull that says "slipknot" on top of it. if this sounds intresting, then you can go to ning.com get an account and look for "bbw chatzone" and then it should be the very first one. a girl in a green hat (cartoon). you dont have to be big or chubby, you can just sign up for an admirer. but anyways, trust me, guys will start lining up to date you soon. they will realize that youre a great catch and start to see you as beautiful. if i can do it, so can you. im sure youre lovely.
good luck and i hope i helped
Mistress Slipknot
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I never noticed it, but my mom pointed out that I rip the hair out of my head and arms. I don't know what's wrong with me. She says I do it all the time, not just when I'm stressed. I haven't noticed any bald spots..yet. Does anyone know what's wrong or what I could do about it? (link)
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i know its definately mental. not in a bad way, but maybe you should talk about this on something different, cause you and i are sharing the same thing. i pull mine out too. i think it would be good for both of us to talk. i dont pull out my hair on my arms or anything, just my head. but heres my info if you want to talk more... some of my questions i will need personal info. i'll try to help as best as i can once i get it. and i'll also need you to be honest cause i can probably help. also, you need to see a psycologist or something. that will also help.
all of my info is in my profile.
my email is:
mistressslipknot@yahoo.com
if for some reason you cant get to it.
i'll try to help the best i can if you write
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so basically, about the middle of my first semester junior year, i started liking this guy in my history class. i decided to tell one of my really good friends...and then a few days later, she decides to go out with him. it's a lot more complicated than that, but they kept going out until about 3 weeks ago when she was complaining to me about him. the next day, HE broke up with HER...haha. anyways, that entire week, he'd been flirting with me like crazzzzy. he always flirts...always. i mean, he flirts with other girls, too, but my friend always catches him staring at me in class and he's always saying dirty jokes around me...it's obvious flirting. but when i had told my friend i liked him, she ended up telling him and he obviously didn't feel the same way. now, i'm so confused, it's driving me crazy. i wanna go up to him and say something, but that's so awkward. what should i do? or how can i like...tell if he's just being flirty or whatever? (link)
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i would leave him alone. guys are usually stupid like that... they give you mixed signals when they really dont mean to. i would reccommend waiting until youre a little bit older so you can start dating other guys. guys are mentally 3 years behind. i know this sounds hard, but really, its worth the wait. guys are very immature, and girls grow up faster then guys do. and no offense, but if youre friend was a "good" friend, she would have left the guy you liked alone. i know people cant help who they like, but they should always consider their friends' feelings at all times. sometimes it cant be helped, but if a friend was a friend, then they would just look for someone else and at least try to ignore their feelings for this guy. maybe im being to hard on her, but the fact is is that i hate that crap. i had to put up with my so-called best friend falling in love with one of my ex-boyfriends. they never did go out, but that still made me mad... sorry, i got off topic :D
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How do I talk to ppl? O_o
So confused. *new* (link)
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on the main page you go to Gaia Towns, pick a chatroom, and there is a bar on the bottom left side that you can type into. sometimes it doesnt work, so you may want to give it some time. also, you can also got to the "games sections" and talk to people on there. also the forums too. if you place your cursor on the tabs and let it sit there, it will drop down and you will be able to look at the specifics in that tab.
hopefully i helped.
good luck
Mistress Slipknot
(if you need anything else or just want to add a friend, you can give me your screen name and i will add you. your call though)
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so i have this red bump on my breast, its sort of on the top and its not quite as big as a pea. i think it looks sort of like a cyst? ive had it for about a week now and im beginning to worry about it. slso its rather unsightly what can i do to get rid of it/what is it?
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this is an obvious answer.... go to the doctor.
but then again, sometimes i get big red bumps on mine, but that doesnt mean that they are cysts. do they hurt when you touch them?
go to a doctor. he/she will be able to tell.
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my guy went down on me the other day
and like a little while in he kind of just stopped
and said 'nevermind'
was he grossed out?
i mean i can see why
but also i was wearing jeans so maybe it was really hard to get comfortable
idk im not offended but
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NO! of COURSE not. you did nothing wrong sweetie. he probably was grossed out but you shouldnt worry about that because all woman smell ... WEIRD down there. its a natual smell. but maybe it WAS the jeans :|
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I have this boyfriend whom ive been with for 6months and I really love him the problem is that I also have feelings for this kid that I have liked a really lot since middle school. We were always very closed and liked each other we just never went out. I always thought he would be my first sexual experience. He is telling me know that he wished we were going out and that he made a big mistake by not asking me out. He says he cares alot about me. I don’t know what to do my boyfriend and I have started talking about having sex (im still a virgin). The problem is I don’t know if I should have sex with him if I still have feelings for this other guy. I don’t want to hurt him and break up with him because im not sure what will happen with this other guy. Please help (link)
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you are absolutely right. you should not have sex with him if you still have feelings. basically its not fair to him if you were to do that and he spent 6 months on a relasionship with you. you got to tell him in one way or another. and also, make sure on who you have sex with because im still living my mistake each and every day. i actually had sex with some inconsiderate jerk-off who loved to lie to me to make me sad. and i finally found someone who loves me, and the person i want to spend the rest of my life with... i wished it was him that i lost my virginity to. so, im not trying to be your mom, im just trying to help. hopefully i helped.
Good Luck
Mistress Slipknot
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ok i have been working this job for a year but i was not making enough money to just work there so i got another job...my boss was cool about it but i needed off 2 days to train but then i found out i needed another day off so i did not want to ask off for that job another day so i asked off to help my sister when i was really training...Well i got off and i went to train well my boss called my other job asking if i was there and when they said yes he fired me... i was wondering if you think it is right that he called my other job? I mean i gave him a reason that should be good enough its my personal life. (link)
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well, i dont think you should have lied either. some people are very picky about liars and he wanted to make sure thats what you were really doing. i dont see anything bad about his choice.
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Ok so, my boobs are kinda sore, like, on the inside of them...if that makes any sense :/ does that mean they're growing? how can I tell if they are? Thanks! (link)
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well it could be a variety of things. i think you should see a doctor on that because of that fact. youre doctor should know. as for how to tell if they are getting bigger, i would say if youre bras start getting to small, and your boobs keep popping out of them. thats obvious though. i dont believe there are any signs.
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i met a boy from another town in december. weve talked on the phone and on facebook since, but now we havn't communicated for two whole weeks now. it would be so akward to call him, but hte thing is, i really miss him. i think about him all the time. i even have dreams with him in them somtimes. part of me wants to tell him i miss him and am always thinking about him, and the other half of me thinks that might freak him out. but he could be feeling the same way but not want to admit it. what should i do?? (link)
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go for it! im sure he may feel the same way. maybe something came up? like something bad, or maybe hes sick or something. i dont see anything wrong with it.
Good luck
Mistress Slipknot
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15/f
umm so ive been trying to be nicer to people lately, and ive been speaking my mind a lot more recently. however, even though i like the fact that i speak my mind, i dont like the part about how ive been nicer to people. i know crazy right? i feel like im..idk, begging for friends i guess. and this feeling just makes my heart feel kinda heavy with um..regret? regret that i cant just be nice to people and not feel like im begging for friends.. i guess.
and people have been nicer to me lately, even people who i would never expect to be nice [mostly the "semipopular" and "popular" group] and i just feel like..I DONT DESERVE THIS! i dont know why i feel like i dont deserve it. i guess its because i spent 7th-9th grade wanting soo bad to be popular and now that i am actually getting attention from people [girls AND boys] i feel like i dont deserve any of it. like whenever i sense someone trying to be my friend i get excited, then i get turned off like "wow this person must be desparate to want ME as a friend".
now you probably think i have low self-esteem but honestly, i DONT! i think v. highly of myself, its just hard to think that others may think highly of me too, even though it was my goal 7th-9th grade to get others to think highly of me. i think that maybe i just dont like it when people get too close to me. like for example if im really nice to someone i feel like i have to act kinda mean to them the next time i see them, or start ignoring them. i started thinking about it, and i thought maybe this is a case of "i want what i cant have, and i dont want what i do have"? do you agree? and do you have any advice to help me?
i just want to be happy, comfortable, and secure.
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how fun! the high school scenario. :D
well, remember one thing, just because someone is popular, doesnt mean that they are any less human then you are. you put on a pedastal and think of them as Gods and Goddesses (not literally of couse). anyways you need to just be yourself. if you are being nice to people cause you want to, then i dont see why you dont deserve to be liked back. you may not have low self-esteem, but it seems to me that you think they are better than you in some way. everyone is human, we all think, act, eat, die, sleep, get hurt, get angry, and get happy. to gain friends, you need to be open and friendly and always be yourself. because when you start acting like a different person, you'll get all the wrong friends. who will end up only likeing you for someone youre PRETENDING to be and not being yourself. im sure you would rather have friends that love and adore for who you are. one of my favorite quotes in the world is from "The Wicked Jester" t-shirts. on the back of the shirt it says, "I'd rather be hated for who i am, than to be loved for who im not". which is true in my opinon, and its a quote that lives with me. we all want to be "happy, comfortable and secure". i think the only thing that youre going through is that youre still maturing (dont take that the wrong way. im being very respectful and dont mean anything bad by it), and learing on who you are. its a part of growing up, and i think youre just confused because youre still trying to discover yourself. trust me, if im right, then i know what you can do to help youself, cause i have been through this and i already know who i am. i have plenty of time on my hands and when i have nothing to do, i just sit and think. not only that, but i am a future anime/manga artist and i created over 100 characters "just thinking" and being inspired. so i bought some books about discovering your characters. what im trying to say is, do more thinking, try to buy this book. its called:
"What would your Character Do?" by Eric Maisel, Ph.D. and Ann Maisel.
it puts you in situations where its possible to understand yourself better. its $16 dollars plus tax.
i hope i helped. Good luck
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I won't bore you with the whole story. Instead, I'll tell you that:
*We went out before. But it wasn't "officially" a date. We went out for coffee, and the next week went out for dinner and a movie. He paid for everything.*
*He works ALL the time (till the wee hours of the morning.) So during the week our main form of communication is texting. However, he doesn't usually initiate the text conversations.
* I don't see him more than once or twice every two weeks because he's so busy.*
*When we do go out, there is lots of good chemistry, eye contact and body language. However, this has been going on for at least a month and he hasn't made a move.*
*He doesn't mention other girls he likes or might be seeing.*
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to be honest, he could like you, but then again, hes too busy anyways. i would just ask. the reason i didnt really answer your question is that it highly depends on the guy. guys show they care in different ways. maybe he is just a hard-working guy and just wants to be successful?
hope i helped
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Alright, about to spend Valentine's day alone
and i want a boyfriend
any ideas of personalities or looks i should look for
How do you tell if a guy likes but, is to shy to ask you out
What's a good way to flirt
Also, I have a Stalker
How do i let him down without being very rude
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well, you dont always need a boyfriend. i mean, i understand deeply where you are coming from, but you need to understand that Valentine's Day isnt a good reason to have a boyfriend. having a boyfriend should be about falling in love with them, sharing a deep bond or friendship that no one else could possibly understand besides those who have gone through it, and just liking that person. but if you really want one, i do not know what kind of personality traits to look for. only you know the answer to that. but he should be someone who you can relate to (so you have a LITTLE understanding between each other), he is kind and patient, and sweet. guys like this i'll admit are very hard to come by. as for how to tell if a guy likes you is also hard to tell, because it depends on the personality, because not all men are the same as a lot of women have you believe. some guys will show you that they like you in different ways. some show you by being mean, and other times they will be more outspoken and basically tell you. like say youre beautiful, always smile when they hug you or talk to you. it highly depends on the guy, like i said. good ways to flirt are:
*wink at the person
*push him playfully and laugh at things he says
*Smile at him often
*lay your head on his shoulder
*always compliment him
and as for your stalker, tell him the truth
tell him that you dont want him stalking you anymore, and tell him to leave you alone. which in your opinion probably doesnt sound very nice. but what can you do? if youre too nice he may stick around
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What's the word that means getting very into character, or becoming the character. This is mainly for actors. (link)
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its hard to explain, but you have to pretend the character is you, and adapt to his/her feelings. understand what he/shes going through. and feel the feelings that they feel. like say your character doesnt know who his/her mom or dad, and imagine you going through that, etc., etc.
hope i helped
good luck
Mistress Slipknot
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My boyfriend is taking me somewhere romantic tomorrow and i have no idea where it is. But anyway i obviously wanna get him something and since i cant take him anywhere since hes doing all that i was thinking i could buy him the scrubs season 4 dvd because he wants it really bad, and burn him a cd and make him a card. but im not sure if thats good enough considering hes taking me somewhere amazing and paying for my dinner and stuff! does my present sound good? does anyone have any other creative ideas? (link)
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in my opinion, thats excellent! theres nothing sweeter than taking the time out of you day to make him something. im sure he'll love it. and if he wants the scubs dvd so bad, he'll love im sure.
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