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Location: Florida
Age: 15
Member Since: December 25, 2003
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Well, the category isn't actually right. He was more than just my boyfriend, he was a really good friend. And today, he moved and transferred schools. He said he still wanted to go out with me, but it will just be so hard. I may get to see him on the weekends and stuff like that, and we'll e-mail eachother, of course. But it will be hard not being able to see him everyday as usual. So, do you think we should break up? Because I know for a fact that other guys like me and want to go out with me...What do I do? (link)
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If you love him, then you can wait 5 days for 2 days of time with him. My friend sees her boyfriend only once a week yet they're completely in love. So just because you can't see him everyday shouldn't affect the relationship *TOO* much.
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I'm in high school. Guy #1, "DJ", is a real sweetheart. He asked me to a dance. He can make me laugh and he's not hard to talk to. Guy #2, "TJ", shares many of the same interests that I have. He and I can talk for hours without ever really getting anything accomplished. We spend most of our time laughing. I like both DJ and TJ, but I am not an assertive person. I am very afraid of rejection, and also that if I "made a move" that either of theim wouldn't be my friend anymore.
What is your advice for this situation? (link)
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Seems like you have a better connection with TJ. So just see how TJ feels about you, ask him how he feels. Then try to make a move on him, maybe something like going to the movies. Something little and see how he reacts to those little moments of solitude with you. If it doesn't work out then do the same with DJ.
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When at school, sometimes I kinda go crazy by taking the seagulls from off the grass and eating them, and then I throw rocks and berries at my friends. Just yesterday, I went streaking and painted myself in tiger stripes through math class. In the computer lab I take all the cds and break them. I've broken a computer one time too. Also I eat pages of textbooks when teachers don't watch. I burned some of the books in the library and then ate them. (Actually, they're pretty tasty with some ketchup.) Last week I jumped on a lunch table and pissed on a yard duty. I am 26 years old and I am still in the 8th grade. Is this normal?
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you're a sad depressed.. well.. there is no word to describe you! :).. have a nice day
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well recently two of my friends, to be blunt hate eachother now. i met them about the same time and they where really good friends untill somthing, which i honsetly this was stupid, came up. im still really good friend with them both but its starting to bother me about how sometime one will say something about the othere or if im with them in a group (it rarely happens) how noone will say anything and it becomes no fun to see them anymore.maily what im asking for is help on how to get them to not talk behind the ohers back and well so they can see eachother and atlest act a little happy, i dont care nmore if they become friends but it would be nice if they atlest somewhat talked seeing that they're going to the same sckool next year.
-missy
PS.this actuly has nothing to do with you and what happend to your friend,so please dont accuse me of trying to get you to back together(this is proably something smaller then what happen between you guys i wouldnt really know). ive knows these 2 for a wial and i just wanna be abel to have a conversation with both in the room not graring at eachother. (link)
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Okay.. so I'm gonna reanswer this question since I obviously made a mistake by jumping to conclusions on who these "two friends" were. (Sorry about that, I'm just bitchy about the topic)
Anyway, I don't think you can do much if you don't find out why the two hate eachother. Ask each one personally the *exact* reason why they hate eachother. If it's something the other one did or something, then have both of them explain to eachother the reason for doing what they did. There's nothing much you can do when two other people hate eachother, except just ask why they hate eachother and try to figure out a compromise between the two, since you can't control their feelings or lives.
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well recently two of my friends, to be blunt hate eachother now. i met them about the same time and they where really good friends untill somthing, which i honsetly this was stupid, came up. im still really good friend with them both but its starting to bother me about how sometime one will say something about the othere or if im with them in a group (it rarely happens) how noone will say anything and it becomes no fun to see them anymore.maily what im asking for is help on how to get them to not talk behind the ohers back and well so they can see eachother and atlest act a little happy, i dont care nmore if they become friends but it would be nice if they atlest somewhat talked seeing that they're going to the same sckool next year.
-missy
PS.this actuly has nothing to do with you and what happend to your friend,so please dont accuse me of trying to get you to back together(this is proably something smaller then what happen between you guys i wouldnt really know). ive knows these 2 for a wial and i just wanna be abel to have a conversation with both in the room not graring at eachother. (link)
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Oh really? This has nothing to do with myself and (name will not be mentioned)? Wow.. then this is a BIG coincidence! (name) is happening to go to my school next year too!! Wow!! And we just got in a fight too!! Wow!! And I already know who this is.. so please just stop.. and just to make you happy.. I won't be bitchy or mean around (name) just to not let the atmosphere drop to pure depression for everyone else around, because what's done is done and I'm not going to live on that hatred.. ok?
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Anyone here skateboard? I mean, I really want to know how to. I live in California. Does anyone know where a cool skateboarding lesson guy person is or something? I really want to be like my brother and skate with him all the time!
Thanx! (link)
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Why not just ask your brother to teach you?
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Can anyone tell me if surfing is hard or easy or anything? I mean, it looks totally awesome! I lived in Hawaii for 5 and a half years, but that was when I was in, like, 1st grade. Well, I moved to CA in the middle of 1st grade. Please tell me if it is hard or easy. I really want to know!
Thanx! (link)
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It'll be hard at first, but the more you practice the easier it becomes.
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I have been friends with this guy for 6 years ever since i was 9 as we got older things started to change i started to like him for more than a friend. he is the guy that when i see him i always feel better i haved some major medical problems and afterwards he always cheers me up but latly he hasen't been comming to his moms house that much so i don't get to see him but once a month i don't know what to do? (link)
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There's nothing you can do if he doesn't come to his mom's house much. Maybe you can talk on the phone (if you have his number) or online (if you have his screen name/email address) and just keep in contact.
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I told my friends and family that I was thinking of becoming a lesbian and they just laughed. What do i do to make them believe me? (link)
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You're thinking of *becoming* lesbian? You can't just *become* homosexual/heterosexual at will. Maybe thats why they're not believing you.
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I know this guy lets call him CTW and i told me friend to call him she did and she told him i liked him... i do. and i don't know him that well but i'm in 7th grade and he rode my bus in 5th grade he's been at a couple partys and i think he's really nice. There is only one thing, i think he has some brain problems cause my friend said he is dangerous and he spazes out and hurts people while he spazes like on purpose but uncontolably he is going to sit at our lunch table when he is unsuspended for punching this kid but He would never purposly hurt someone. I know he will go out with me i just am not sure. can someone help me? (link)
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Unless you really like him A LOT, you shouldn't put yourself in potential danger. If he might hurt you, then I don't think it would be a good idea to go out with him, because think about what might happen if you two break up and he spazzes out about it?
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What do I do if a boy likes me who I don't like back? He wrote me notes in math class...had his friend give me one and he gave me one himself.
I keep complaining about this but its just annoying. I feel nothing...its feels like somethings missing whenever he looks at me...like somethings not right. I have NO feelings for him.
Everyone either tells me to stop complaining or
give him a chance but it's not that great when someone likes you and you DONT like then back. I don't really feel something when a boy likes me unless I like him the same way....so it's not that great. He still comes up to me and waves and says Hi *******! and I just wave and he like giggles or some weird thing. I mean...he's a really nice kid but nothings there...I feel like i want to cry...I have no clue why. Is this normal? I don't like him and I'm absoulutely sure about this...100%. I like someone else...and I don't know, whenever I see him my stomach twists and turns because I dont want him to give me another note or actually come up to me and ask me out...so I avoid him. I just don't want to deal with this...I don't want to turn him down...every girl turns him down and I feel so bad. But then again if I did go out with him nothing would be there anyway so there would be no point to that. I like another kid so much but i just have to get up the courage to at least smile at the boy.
errg! I'm so frustrated! I DON'T WANT ANY MORE NOTES! what do i do? And I'm NOT going to give him a chance because he has admitted to liking a whole bunch of girls just last week and even if I did like him it wouldn't be real if we went out...and last I heard he was going out with some girl named Ashley or something...ERGGG! what do I do...HE'S EXPECTING AN ANSWER SOON AND IT'S JUST ANNOYING! please help! (link)
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Just tell him. There's no harm in that. Explain how you're not interested, if you don't then he'll just keep writing you more notes. It's as simple as that, just do it in a calm manner. Like say "look, I know you like me, but I'm afraid that I just don't like you the same way..".. something like that!
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I have a friend that is a boy. His name is Marco and he is really nice. We e-mail each other, and I sit in back of him in language arts and social studies. I really would like to hang out with him, but I don't want to tell him that. WHAT SHOULD I DO?????
desprate 4 help (link)
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Why are you holding back on telling him you want to hang out? What's the worst that could happen? Just talk to him in class, and try to develop a strong friendship. That'll lead you two to start 'hanging out'.
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I feel very sick lately.
after walking up the stairs or standing or walking for a bit i feel like i might vomit.
it hurts to breath in deep and i cough alot and it hurts my sides. alot. today after standing in the hall way, going downstairs and walking down the block i almost threw up, kept gaging and coughing which hurt so much i was doubled over, and it hurt to move.
what could this be?
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There's several things it could be. And I think it's a better idea to ask a doctor then advice columnists.
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okay, this guy likes me (im pretty sure) and i want him to ask me out, but hes too shy, obviously, so how do i get him to ask me out soon? (link)
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You can't get HIM to ask you out without verbally telling him. Maybe.. you should ask HIM out instead.
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Two of my best friends got into this really big fight and are no longer friends. (Lets call them 1 n 2) 1 said something really hatefull to 2 and 2 got very upset about it. I am worried that 2 may do something to hurt 2's self... I want 1 and 2 to be friends again but what can I do? (link)
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Cliché.. cliché.. cliché.. that's all that this is. This is too familiar. Ha.. ha.. I know I said hateful thing's to "2"... or.. let's just keep her name a secret. But it was kind of in the moment, there was nothing else for me to say except to bitch back. So I don't see me and being friends anytime soon because of the things said. So just don't bother asking this, it's pointless because all I'm going to say is.. "I don't know what you can do"
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ok now wht makes popular people so popular i mean what is it about them? i mean theres like a bunch of popular kids at my school and i dont see how they r so great i mean all they do is talk behind eachothjers backi mean im not in the popular group but in like the semi-popular i guess is what its called and we never do that top eachother i mean i cant stand these popular kids and i wann know how they become so popular and why? (link)
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They befriend everyone to up their reputation.
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i think is is totally gross and disgusting to be a gay guy or a lesbian is it wrong to think that i dont think it is (link)
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No it is not wrong to think that, a lot of people think that. But as long as you're not harming anyone or criticizing them for it. They're just like anyone else just with a different preference.
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A good girlfriend of mine from college killed herself on Saturday after a fight she had with her fiance. She was never the kind of girl I would have ever guess to do this sort of thing. So when she called me that night I wasn't in the mood to go party (my boyfriend and I had had a huge fight)I ignored her call and turned off my phone. She called me four times, that night. Monday morning she was found dead. The police called me Monday afternoon, it is thier policy to investigate each death to be sure it is a suicide. They said that my number was the last one on her phone as a listed call.
I am devistated. I cannot face anyone. I resent my boyfriend because of his picking a stupid fight. I feel as though I really screwed up. I was not their for her and she reached out to me.
But my question is why me? Her and I were good friends in college but we had lost touch since she had been engaged we talked maybe every couple of weeks and only briefly. We're always saying that we needed to make plans but it never happened. She was always close to her mom and I am sure she had better friends than me, I know her best firend lived far away. But Mellisa was the kind of girl who always had tons of friends. Why out of all the people she could have called would she call me? I am always going to carry around this responsible feeling and it really is bringing me down. I just feel so powerless.
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Oh my.. =(.. I'm really sorry about your friend. I almost lost a friend to suicide once. Anyway, just because you've lost touch doesn't mean your friend still doesn't care for you. I know how hard death is, my cousin recently passed away so it was hard on me. But you shouldn't blame yourself for screwing up, there's nothing you could have done. As for her calling you, I will quote my friend on this.. "The people you don't see the most often turn out to be the people you treasure the most". Don't feel responsible for her death, or you'll just stay stuck in a black hole. It might he hard on you, because a friendship is such a horrible thing to waste. I lost a good friend recently (we got in a fight). Don't make the same mistake I did.
"When someone is taken away from you suddenly, there are no goodbyes." -Charmed
Anyway, my condolences.
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Ok. So, I'm sort of interested in an ex of mine. It's been a long time since we dated, and he has a girlfriend now. But, we're starting to talk again. I mean, I don't plan on trying to break him and his girlfriend up or anything. But, I find myself liking him again. And, I want to keep talking to him, and become good friends. And maybe something more will come out of it. Is this a bad idea? Thanks. (link)
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It's not a bad idea at all. A lot of people fall for their ex again. Just stay close to him, as a friend. Then if he and his girlfriend break up then try again.
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WOW... I am only 16 and my ex (for now) saying we are getting bak together very soon.. back to point today we had unprotected sex and like he went all the way what the possibilties of me getting pregnant? hes 19 and hes says hes in love with me and he will never leave me (like a permant basis) and like there is this girl thathe asked out and like she sed no but hes saying hell never ask her out again.. what should i do (link)
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First of all.. unprotected sex = a nono. Unless you plan on having children. As for the girl, you should take his word on it, if he does love you then he won't cheat on you. But then again.. isn't he your ex? That gets a bit confusing there..
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