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I am a 17 year old girl. I do not come from a poor family on the contuary i am well off. The thing is that i have a habit of stealing be it from mobile phones which i have now about four,i also steal all of my aunt's clothes and her baby's clothes. The last thing i stole was a video camera from my school.For the previous things i stole they suspected me. Once even the police came to school for i was a suspect for stealing a teacher's cell phone. My parents knows about my problem and the threatens to tell my boyfriend if it continues but really i cannot seem to be able to stop. I sometimes give these stolen stuff to other people and rarely keep them 4 myself.WHAT SHOULD I DO?
You have to get professional help. You obviously have a problem.
If your parents are well off, then I suggest finding a good psychologist to talk to, because you need the help of a professional at this point since you know something is wrong and you know you want/need help.
i want an easy way for homemade wine of grapes
There are places where you can make and bottle your own wine. Look it up in the yellow pages or on the internet for your location.
I am no stranger to the behaviour of most guys. Very sexual, like the jokes about sex but I have a slight problem, I don't know how to react. I have a few guys that are bothering me at this time I will explain. Well this boy called karl right he's 17 and i'm 14, well basically he wants sex and he keeps pestering me he tried to touch me up and I don't know what to do. Some boys just fancy me and I can take that. There's this other boy called Steve who's 16 but he thinks i'm going to go out with him and tries to get me to cheat on my boyfriend and his girlfriend which gets me in trouble with his girlfriend. Another boy I don't see but he's really nice, prob is he calls me all these names and keeps asking me out. A little younger boy who's a few months younger than me is asking me to strip i don't know how to answer these there a no but how do I say that assertively?
In order for them to get the point, you have to take a stand and say "Look, you're being a fucking pig. Stop bothering me. I'm not going to strip for you/Date you/Have sex with you. I have too much self-respect to do that."
If they don't get the point, next time, you slap them and walk away.
Hi, my friend works hours that are from 2 a.m. to noontime, and she never has any time to hang out cuz it's everyday. I'm sad not hangning out with her anymore we've been friends for like ever!! What do I do?
There is not much you can do. Your friend obviously needs the money and she probably sleeps most of the time. You have to respect that. I'm sure she has days off, so why don't you ask her when and plan something relaxing for both you and her?
Hey!I was wondering if you can get colored contacts even if you don't need them because I only want to change the color of my eyes.Also, I would like to know if I would have to make an oppointment with an optomitrist(sorry about the spelling)before I get them?Thanks!
Yes you can get them. The eye doctor or an optometrist will have to do a fitting so they can specially order the contacts for you.
You have to tell them you don't want prescription contacts. They will order power 0 contacts for you. During the fitting, you have to learn how to put the contacts in and take them out. That's the only difficult part. :)
Hey Guys, I need your help in overcoming one of the problem residing in me. You may call it as conservativeness or inferiority complex.
Rihgt from my childhood I speak less. I remember people used to ask me to talk atleast a sentence. I never bothered anybody. I never thought of this problem seriously before. But now I feel that I am missing something. I observed, before talking, I always think what others will say, what they will think. Is it a problem or complex? If yes, please give some remedy to overcome it. Thanks.
No. It's not a problem. Some people just don't talk. Some people talk very little.
It's just your personality. You have nothing to worry about. The reason you feel as if you are missing something is probably because people pester you to talk when you just plain don't feel like it. Don't let it get to you. Just be yourself. People appreciate silence more than they realize.
ok is there a way u can get ur arms like..more strong like more shape cuz mine have fat that needs to go..like wut helps? dont say pull ups..lol cant do those ..but if neone knows ne work out ways like explain it ..um that would help thx
Pilates stretch bands or small weights. You can find many useful exercise tapes or even instructions on the internet.
i have a hard time staying for one guy for a long time like if im goin out with someone and then i am talkin to another guy without my bf being there i seem to like him or am i just thinkin that plz help me lol
!LeAh BABY!
You're obviously not ready or mature enough for a commitment. It happens. Maybe later on when you're older, you'll feel more ready. Just have your fun, but respect your boyfriend as well as yourself, and please don't cheat.
i need to get a halloween costume for halloween but my mom wont buy one and she wont take me somewhere to buy one! i don't really want to make my own costume because nobody will help me and i can't do it by myself without it looking really bad! i don't know what to do!! Should i just keep trying to convince my mom? Or make my own,really bad-looking, costume?
Your mom is obviously trying to hint at you to get a job.
She isn't made of money and she can't always be your financial aid, so you have to start working yourself if you want to buy things you WANT.
Don't bother trying to convince her. She'll just become extremely irritated and wonder why you're still not getting the point.
Mom's are not bank machines. I do suggest looking at grocery stores. They will hire just about anyone, including those with no experience. You'll enjoy your life more when you get your OWN paycheque and you can learn to save, so when the time comes for you to move out, you won't have to struggle like most people do. :)
i sing..and if u work ur voice alot..for example ima cheerleader and i yell alot..is that good or bad for ur voice power? does it make ur voice stronger or weaker?
thx
If you yell a lot and you don't warm up your voice beforehand or have the proper RIGHT training, you will end up losing your voice. Sometimes temporarily, sometimes permanently. You have to take good care of your voice whether you are yelling cheers or belting out a tune.
Look at Kelly Clarkson, for example. She doesn't have a good trainer and she yells CONSTANTLY. She's already starting to lose her voice. It cracks everytime she performs.
Whitney Houston is beginning to have even more troubles with hers. No it's not because of the drug use, but it's because she's straining her vocal chords constantly. Years of abuse [vocal abuse, silly!] can have permanent effects you don't want to go through.
i love my boyfriend so much and he says he loves me but we barly talk maybe its because we live far apart i dont know. what should i do?
Long distance is always rocky. Just write to him as much as you can and call each other whenever you both are available.
Maybe go and visit each other once in a while, depending on the expenses of such a trip and your residence as well as his.
That's all you can do.
well the title pretty much says it all. My friend, we'll call him Pig Vomit, has always been screwing me over during the two years that I've known him. He's hit on girls that he knows I like which ends up with me not getting a chance, he's made out with a girl that I was with when she was piss drunk and he'd had one beer.
BUT! This is it. He's actually trying to get with my sister. She's two years younger than us, he stole her MSN address from mine and now he's been talking to her nonstop, going on webcam, and he's absolutely serious. They've tried to keep it a secret that he's doin it, but my other friend Cam has told me and I've seen my sister quickly closing her conversation windows with him when I come upstairs.
What do i do? I'm seriously thinking about hurting him. I've already talked to him about it, Cam has talked to him about it, hell Cam has told him that I plan to beat him to a pulp if he doesn't stop. I don't know what else there is to do.
I'm sure you love being the protector of your sibling, but you need to realize that the ultimate decision is hers. He may be scum, but if you tell her what to do, she'll rebel. If you tell him to stay away, he'll do the same.
You might as well let nature run it's course and perhaps this will be an interesting life lesson for your sister.
We all have to make mistakes in order to grow up. I'm sure it must be annoying having a little pest running around trying to date your sister, but you're going to find that eventually, she will date a lot of pests, if she already hasn't.
The best you can do is be the bigger and better brother. Support her when she needs it and just let her know you're there so she can open up to you and trust you if she has a problem. :)
this year's science is so hard for me. its called cpe science. i am getting an f (omg!), and the grading period ends in 1 1/2 weeks. if i work very hard do you think i may be able to bring the f to a d? im sure we will be having a test tomorrow or thursday, and we will have more labs and papers to be handed in. actually all my grades are slipping....please, i need help.
Sometimes, stress, laziness, or even just sheer boredom can be the product of bad grades.
There is no quick solution.
What I do suggest, if you want to start improving your grades now, is to find a tutor in your area. Most classes have them and you can probably also ask your professor for extra help or whether any is available. You just have to find the resources.
someone told me that if water is cold it fastens up your metabolism more then warm water would, is that true? also what other things speed up your metabolisn..thank you
Regular exercise and a healthy dose of your vegetables will increase your metabolism in due time. Water and electrolytes have little to no aid in the rise of your metabolism.
But, if you drink your daily doses of water each day, your metabolism is more likely to work faster. In order for your metabolism to experience the proper chemical reactions for it to increase, you have to drink water. That's what causes the reaction. :)
Water does wonders for the body.
Me and my really good friend got in alot of fights and we used to be bestfriends for two years but things changed. We started fighting alot and she told me that she didn't want to be my friend anymore becuz we fight so much. When I think of all the fun times we had when we were friends I really miss being her friend but she also said some really mean things to me so sometimes I think maybe we shouldn't be friends. I've tried apologizing to her but she doesn't listen.What should I do??
You have already apologised and all you can do now is be patient. Your friend might not come around, but just remember that it is probably her loss since she couldn't be civil enough to apologise over such a silly thing.
Also, remember that people do change and you won't always have the same friends. Take this oppurtunity as a way of transitioning into a better friendship with someone else.
When people change, sometimes they are not as compatible or at all. It's her time to come around and if she doesn't, at least you can remember the better memories you two had.
ok lets see if i can get this right lol...
-does he like me or does he like herr???
---is it me or is it her...or am i really her?
(sry i know this is long)
ok ..im 14/f and one of my best friends is 14/m..he doesnt go to my school...although lives in the district and i seem him here and there...hes been askin me how to ask a girl out..and i kept telling him to be himself..he just wont listen to me on that part advice...
he kepts telling me to put myself in that position..
- i said "no"
- he said "well its not hard 4 u ur a girl"
- i said "its hard 4 us as well..bc we have to turn down guys we dont like"..
i dk how to tell just to be himself..bc he doesnt want to listen to listen when he knows its true...
and he a few days ago he asked me "how do i ask a girl out and not get turned down??"..and im like idk its not something predictable...
-he goes to a private school..and i go to public school..so i have no clue who this girl is..if i did ..i would have asked her if she liked him..but i dk ....so im pointless at this point...-thx
P.S. i asked him way be4 that.."what would you say if i said i liked you" and he said "i dunno" and said well what would your 1st response be if i said i did and he said "u do?" and i said oooo..then he said something or w/e and i said you scare me sometimes and he didnt say anything for 2 mins and i said..."do you care that you do sometimes" and he said "yea"..and i said "how much?" and he said "______________________________________________________________________________"
and i said "ooohh"..then later on the other night on-line what this girls name is and
he said "marissa"
--- when we got into an little argument over what is harder being a girl or being a guy...and he said we have it easier..and when i said "no we dont bc we have to turn down guys who ask us out, i had to do it 5 times" and he said "w/ whoooo?"..like if he was affaird i was taken or something..ahh it drives me insane..-thx again
- i think i already hinted that i liked him...im just not suree if he is affaird to ask me out bc i said i rejected 5 guys-
Most people don't listen to sound and simple advice. Especially one that implies you be yourself. Dating is an exercise of humiliation, as pessimisstic as that sounds. It's an awkard situation to find a partner, especially when everyone's hormones are raging and everyone is hopeful about partnering up.
If there is a slight attraction between you two, it's possible that it's just territorial. Attractions between best friends are common. Sometimes, the feelings are not returned and this can leave the friendship open to interpretation.
You obviously are very connected to him and want to pursue him. I have a feeling it's not just territorial with you. Also remember that he probably is genuinely interested in the on-goings of your life as well. There is the possibility that he is attracted to you. I bet you that during the time he didn't send you a message, he was probably pondering 'Oh God! What do I say? What is the right response?'. He just wants to look and seem calm and collected.
Your arguement about who has it harder seems to be you two dancing around the idea of pursuing each other.
Remember that he is your best friend and sometimes, mixed signals do occur. If you do decide to pursue him, I suggest being honest with him and clearly saying 'Hey. I like you a lot.' What's the worst that can happen? The worst will be that he will decline your offer and you and him may feel awkard, but the best way to deal with THOSE situations is to make light of it.
I encourage jokes all the time. Any way, just be careful that you don't get hurt or this doesn't create friction between you and him. You two do seem to be dancing around the idea of being with each other, but he obviously can't seem to bring himself to tell you how he feels, whether it's negative or positive.
I'm sorry I can't tell you what you may want to hear. I just try to open up the possibilities within a two person bond and leave the decisions up to you. I can't tell you what to do or what you say, really. All I can do is remind you to remind yourself of the risks you may be taking if you did pursue him. The best thing to do in life is to be honest and upfront. Trust is earned more quickly through honesty than through games.
Pleez tell me what you think!!!!??? Should you go a party of a girl you hardly know rlly with your whole school or should you go hang with your best friend because its her birthday that day???? pleez help and say what you would do or think.....??!! xo
Well it's your decision. You have to decide who and what is more important.
You can always go to both and perhaps even bring your best friend as well.
She is your best friend, therefore you must consider her feelings. Imagine how you would feel if she didn't show up for your birthday party to attend a party? Once you put yourself in her shoes, you can make a decision. : )
Don't be influenced by what other people would do or should do. Just decide for yourself on the level of importance. Just remember that there will always be parties, but birthdays are once a year meant to be celebrated with those whom you love and love you back.
My group of friends and I have been really close for a long time, until recently. We were all loyal to eachother and thought that we could put lots of trust into eachother...until we found out some things about this girl Cara. She had been saying bad things about all of us behind our backs. Individually! We all knew that she had been doing this for awhile and we kinda excepted it as being her. We would nod our head when she talked about another friend, but wouldn't participate in the verbal backstab. You see, she told every one of us that we each were the only ones that she could trust and the only ones that really understood her. That made us special and feel that we could trust her. WRONG! recently we found out that she had been doing this for years and giving verbal beatings to all of her so called friends behind their backs. Its not even that that ticks us off so much. You see, she always is depressed and moody and ruining our fun by being sad about things that she say are happening at home or at school, but in reality, she has a great mom and dad, and is getting excellent grades. We all didn't talk to her for one week and she retaliated. she told anyone with ears all about how we were all jerks. Than the next day, she acts all sad and trys to apologize. She says that she's truly sorry and all and we all want to forgive her. She says that she is going to change and she needs our help and just wants us back. So naturally we forgive her....but today she started talking about us and acting all depressed and moody again! We have no idea what to do because even though she is a mean jerk, she's that kind of person that you want to hate, but you miss and you want them to miss you and like you. She will also spread rumors about us if we be mean to her. We are so confused at what to do. It doesn't help that we all go to the same school, so we can't just ignore her because were in a lot of the same classes. HELP!
Well that's exactly what Cara wants. She wants you all to develop some sort of an attachment to her and she drains your mental energy by profusely talking about sad happenings in her life.
Generally, it's best to stay away from people like this. At least disconnect yourself gradually until the bond completely breaks. It's not necessary to have such negativity around all the time, or at all for that matter.
You don't have to ignore her. Just voice your opinion when she begins her constant verbal beatings. Mention that none of you are in favour for it. Do this when you and your other group of friends are there and they will take your side. It does seem like you are ganging up on her, but it also seems like she's done a good job ganging up on you guys without you even noticing.
In a way, she feels 'powerful' when she is venting about other people and she's grown accustomed to regaining her status in this manner.
At least if you all voice your opinion when she begins blabbing about someone else, she'll get the point. She may get defensive, but that's a natural reaction. If she is smart, she will work on bettering herself.
**OK my friends name is Nancy.(changed to be confidential)Her idea of fun is drugs. Any time she can get a hold of a drug she takes advantage of it. The drugs "I KNOW OF" that she has tried is coke, aderal, and defently weed! Chronic is what she lives for, everyday after school she smokes with her sister. Any other drug she usually doesnt tell me bout. She also drinks. I dont think she does alot. Whats the problem your asking? my friend just turned 13 4 months ago!! Yea...so everytime i try to tell her "Nancy you're so much better than that and you kno it!" she just goes "Dude its nothing it cant hurt me" Nancy is a smart girl, she could do much with her life! I never kno if an ingrediant in any of the drugs she takes she could be allergic to. I need help, what do I do?!
**Anoynomous**
Support her and give her positive encouragement. Sometimes, there is very little we can do when a person is slipping, but to allow them to make their mistakes and learn from them.
Also, you can always report it to a guidance counsellor. IT may seem like she will hate you, but perhaps they may be able to provide her with the proper assistance. Her health is more important.
She'll thank you when she learns better.
I got my first kiss wednesday and I want to be able to tell my mom and I want to be able to talk to her about things like that and I don't know what to do. Like what can i do so that my moms and mines relationship is stronger? and so i can tell her and talk to her about things like this.
Yes you can talk to her about these things and yes you should. It's very smart to maintain a strong bond with your mother. You will have more successful relationships in the future if you do.
Feel free to open up to her. Even if she may be critical at times, she will appreciate your ability to create a bond with her and she will trust you to do the right thing when the going gets rough.