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Me and my really good friend got in alot of fights and we used to be bestfriends for two years but things changed. We started fighting alot and she told me that she didn't want to be my friend anymore becuz we fight so much. When I think of all the fun times we had when we were friends I really miss being her friend but she also said some really mean things to me so sometimes I think maybe we shouldn't be friends. I've tried apologizing to her but she doesn't listen.What should I do??
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Well she doesnt seem to be giving me the vibe that you 2 were to be friends.. your kinda like my friend Courtney and Kaleigh or April and Kaleigh i honestly dont think kaleigh should have met April or Courtney and they always fight but be friends again and say i hate you when they do fight but it always works out so hopefully you guys will work out just tell her to think about those times
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I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but if she ignores you when you try to say your sorry about everything, then she really doesn't want to be your friend. You'll just have to get over it and let her go :/ But for the time being hang out with some different people and try to find someone cool to be friends with. -Hope I helped!-
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You have already apologised and all you can do now is be patient. Your friend might not come around, but just remember that it is probably her loss since she couldn't be civil enough to apologise over such a silly thing.
Also, remember that people do change and you won't always have the same friends. Take this oppurtunity as a way of transitioning into a better friendship with someone else.
When people change, sometimes they are not as compatible or at all. It's her time to come around and if she doesn't, at least you can remember the better memories you two had.
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hey! i've been in a similar friendship and this situation sounds really familiar... maybe too familiar? i duno. i duno how old you guys are, but maybe your best friend is going through a lot of stuff and doesnt realize what she is doing to you and how she is making you feel. you should try talking to her again, if you think she's worth it. remind her of the fun times you mentioned you guys had, and if that doesnt work, maybe you guys shouldnt be as good friends. if the talking works, then talk about how guys make each other feel, maybe she said some mean things to you, but maybe you did too... consider that. if you guys talk, which i think is the best thing to do, then maybe you'll find out why you guys have been fighting a lot lately and maybe realize that you guys were keeping secrets from each other and that is the reason why you fought so much... you never know. i hope this helped, and good luck working your friendship out! peace and love!!
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Well if you tried apologizing to your best friend and she dont accept, then it shows your not true best friends as you think..She might be getting tired of you and her always hanging out together if you and her spend alot of time together hangin out..so try to not spend as much time with her or following her whatever she does and goes. You two just might need to take time off of from eachother for a little bit but the WORST thing to do is avoid her completely...hope this helps
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Thats sad :o( I think you should tell her how you feel!! remind her of the fun times you guy had together.
You guys can make it your goals not to fight with each other. I hope it works out...sorry if this adivce is crappy!! I hope it isn't!!
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unfortunately, as kids, groups of friends get changed so much. In fact tons of things will be changing in the near future. If this friend doesn't want to listen chances are she never really will. The last thing you can do before you give up all hope is put it out there that she can always come around and be friends with you. Write her a really sweet note, reminding her of the fun times you had & miss, telling her why your sorry, telling her you know you guys were both wrong but it doesn't mean that you should never talk again. Offer to start off as distant friends if she wants, not overdueing it if shes too hurt. If she never responds to this letter its her loss and shes kinda low for not even wanting to fix things up. But at this point, atleast you'll feel you've given it your all. Right??
Now i know it sounds harsh but im giving you the solid truth. Anyone else who simply says "just talk to her" either isn't reading the question well enough or just can't give advice. Clearly you've tried, and Im hoping my advice will help you. I know what its like to get frustrated over this crap. Good Luck Hun!!
xox, come to me for anything else you need.
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Hmm, this sounds a lot like a situation that I'm in, but in this case, I would be the friend that you're fighting with. (Does that make sense at all?) Maybe you should try seeing things from your friend's point of view. Do you know what the fights were about and why she doesn't want to be your friend anymore? Also, are you sure you got the message across when you apologized? I suggest talking to her about it. Also, in my situation, I felt that my friend didn't care about the friendship. Could this be the case with your friend? Maybe she's just waiting for you to 'make the first move'. Sit down and talk with your friend. Just tell her that you two need to talk, and don't let her make excuses about not having time to get out of talking. Ignoring the problem will not make it go away, so the sooner you talk to your friend, the better. Best of luck!
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Ok this may be hard, but enjoy your time away from your friend. This is a great time to make new ones and experience different things! Just wait it out and everything will fall into place afterwards. Believe me, when i read your story I thought I was reading a story about myself and the same problem I went through. So don't stress! Things will work out for the best. O yeah, and me and my friend are best friends again! so everything will go good. Good luck! Brittany
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WeLL i been in this situatiOn nOt such a lOnq time aqO..8 yearsz dOwn the drain...= / weLL i think yOu shOuld apologize fOr anythinq offending yOu may have said if yOu really want this friendship back. mOst Likely, yOu`ll never be as clOse as yOu were befOre but it`sz better then to have tO wOnder what WOULD have happened if yOu had just said sOrry! it`sz nOrmal fOr the best Of friendsz tO fiqht..sO dOn`t think every friendship is Oh sO perfect!! wHen yOu`re mad Of cOurse sOme thinqsz tend tO slip Out..if yOu have the qutsz to forqive her.she shOuld b a friend n dO the same!! just talk to her!-Tiffany
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