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Friend trying to get with my sister
well the title pretty much says it all. My friend, we'll call him Pig Vomit, has always been screwing me over during the two years that I've known him. He's hit on girls that he knows I like which ends up with me not getting a chance, he's made out with a girl that I was with when she was piss drunk and he'd had one beer.
BUT! This is it. He's actually trying to get with my sister. She's two years younger than us, he stole her MSN address from mine and now he's been talking to her nonstop, going on webcam, and he's absolutely serious. They've tried to keep it a secret that he's doin it, but my other friend Cam has told me and I've seen my sister quickly closing her conversation windows with him when I come upstairs.
What do i do? I'm seriously thinking about hurting him. I've already talked to him about it, Cam has talked to him about it, hell Cam has told him that I plan to beat him to a pulp if he doesn't stop. I don't know what else there is to do.
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ok.first of all..WAY to go for sticking up for your sister. you are a true big brother and I am telling you...a HERO. Whether she likes him or not..you are protecting her. Plus anyone one wiht the name pig vomit must be disgusting.
NOw..is he really gross or are you just being a big brother..only you can decide.
only thing..your sis may not apprecaite it..but later on in life..she will!
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Ummmm what i think is you should comfront him about it and explain to him that you dont want him with your sister because of everything he has done. When your done talking to him i waould confront your sister about it and talk to her and tell her that you found out what she was doing.
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I'm sure you love being the protector of your sibling, but you need to realize that the ultimate decision is hers. He may be scum, but if you tell her what to do, she'll rebel. If you tell him to stay away, he'll do the same.
You might as well let nature run it's course and perhaps this will be an interesting life lesson for your sister.
We all have to make mistakes in order to grow up. I'm sure it must be annoying having a little pest running around trying to date your sister, but you're going to find that eventually, she will date a lot of pests, if she already hasn't.
The best you can do is be the bigger and better brother. Support her when she needs it and just let her know you're there so she can open up to you and trust you if she has a problem. :)
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It sounds as if he takes advantage of vulnerable people. tell your sister this and try and convince her that she could do far better. After that its up to her! Obviously Pig vomit is not a very good friend if he cares so little about your feelings. ignore him!
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Well bro, I feel you on this one. 'Bros before hoes'. I'm not implaying that you sister is a hoe in any way, shape, or form, but the saying holds true when it comes to your friends. Girls will come and go, but friends are lasting. To me, it sounds like this dude hasn't been much of a friend in the past. But... hitting on a friends sister? That a very sensitive area, especially if the brother doesn't approve. You've done the right thing in expressing your feelings and concerns to your 'friend', but have you talked to your sister yet? Have you let her know what kind of guy he is? If you can talk her out of the idea, then the problem has fixed itself. Likely though, it's not gonna be that easy. You've laid down the law, so to say, to your friend. I definately don't recommend violence, as it can bring in authorities, and you don't want that kind of thing involved. Shit like that stays with you. The best I can advise you to do, is just let them both know about how you feel about this situation. Let your 'friend' know that this is not some minor thing like the cockblocks he's given you in the past. This is family. Your family. And if things go poorly it'll affect your friendship. Then, like I say, do what you can for your sister. Don't force her one way or the other since it will just push her away, but instead let her know that you'll support her after their breakup when and probably it will happen.
Good luck...
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this is a tough one, it seems as though this guy isnt really a friend at all if he can act this way. if he really isnt going to listen to you, you could try talking to your sister and explain that he is just using her and he is a complete loser and a waste of space. tell her that she could do better and hopefully she will see him for what he really is . as for hurting him, this probably wont actually solve anything in the long run it may possibly make matters worse. my advice is to talk to your sis and cut your so called mate out of your life all together soon everyone will realise what he is really like. hope this helps and good luck. :)
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