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What should I do about the whole billy thing cuz dylan told me he likes me but i don't know? He said he would probally go out w/ me but i don't know what should i do??? (link)
If you like him go for it.


Okay soo I'm a 15 year old female. I've been going out with my boyfriend for just over a month now. I love spending time with him! but i see him more as a friend than anything else. When we kiss there just arent any sparks. I'm afraid of hurting him, but i think if i stay with him ill just hurt him more later on... any ideas? (link)
Tell him. It's only going to hurt him more in the end if you don't tell him NOW! I know it's going to be hard because you like him as a friend but you really need to tell him that. Make sure you break it to him gently.Make sure you let him know you want to be friends.


I have had unprotected sex a lot and my boyfreind had accidentaly ejaculated inside me before quite a few times and while im on my period he always does because i've never gotten pregnant.. does this mean that i'll never get pregnant? is something wrong with me?

please help (link)
The best thing you can probally do is go to the doctor, if you are really worried. If you are under 18 and don't want your parents to know there are clinics you can look up and they aren't allowed to tell anyone you went there.


To graduate high school I had to take a theater class but I wasn't really into that stuff so instead of doing my assignments, my teacher let me do other things for grades (stay after and clean the stage, stuff like that). Whenever I'd do that, we would be together. We talked all the time and started to get really close. We ended up making out once but we didn't let it get in farther. We got together a few times outside of school for coffee and such but nothing more because we knew we couldn't


Well, now that I've graduated, he not my teacher, and I don't even go to that school anymore. So do you think it'd be okay to try to pursue a relationship with him? I'm 18 and he's 24 by the way.
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Yes definately. He isn't your teacher anymore and you don't even go to that school anymore so go for it!


hey, im a 14/f. 7 months ago, my boyfriend & i had sex. & now im pregnant. my parents kicked me out of their house & now i am living with at boyfriend's house. his parents are really supporting us with my pregnancy. my boyfriend says that he is gonna take responsibility for me & the baby. he is 16 years old & he has been workin two full time jobs. so he works all day. we are saving money for our new apartment that we are going to move into next month. i was also working a full time job, but now i had to stop because of my pregnancy. we are saving money to buy clothes & furniture for the baby. the baby is healthy & we are really excited. my bf asked me to marry him, and i said yes. we are getting married next month. my parents and his parents are going to help with the wedding. the thing is that im worried he is going to dump me. just like in movies. i know this is reality, but i just want to know if there is any chances he might dump me. he is really sweet, hes happy & everything. he is always telling me how much he loves me & our baby & that he is always going to take care of us. he is really responsible. i say he is the perfect daddy & husband. he already started buying clothes for the baby. i just want to know if there is any chances he might dump me. thank u for your advice. (link)
If he has stayed with you this long, is working all the time, and asked you to marry him, he's not going to dump you. Don't worry you got lucky; you got one of the only guys out here that are willing to take responsibility for there actions. He sounds like a good guy, and you got lucky. Good Luck with everything and congratulations. If you need to talk e-mail me on here. Hope I helped.


13/f i have a boyfriend & we have been gonig out for about 2 months. i'm wicked happy with him and i've liked him for almost a year and whenever i see him i am always smiling. i've kissed him on the cheek and i know he wants to kiss me but when we are about to do it i get kinda nervous and i know he thinks i dont wanna, but i do. howw can i be less nervouss? this isnt my first kiss, but i dk why i act like it. (link)
I have been through the same thing. With the nervousness even though it isn't your first kiss. It's because you really like him. The best way to get over it is one day just walk up to him and kiss him. Once you do that the nervousness will be gone, and everything will work out. He'll be so suprised he'll love that. Especially if he thinks you don't want to.


okay, there's this gorgeous boy I know. He's completely flawless, and I have a big thing for him. One of my friends tells me that he actually likes me. Naturally, I was thirlled, but there's on problem: HE WON'T GO OUT WITH ME!! There's a lot going on with him, I guess. I mean we still flirt, hang out, etc., but does this mean I should lay off him in terms of flirting? the things have nothing to do with me [more-so family], but does that mean I should leave him be for now? thanks (link)
Don't wait around for him. If he thinks you'll always be there he'll take you for granted. If that happens he won't ask you out. So my advise to you is tell him you like him and ask him out, if he says no say fine. Leave it at, find anotherr guy A.S.A.P. That way he will know what he's lost and he'll totally regreat it. If you like him more then the guy your dating, eventually (not right away because you want to make him wait) dump the guy your dating and get with him. It'll work!


What are some of the early symptoms of being pregnant? like first 1-3 months (link)
Here are some sites that I think will help:

http://www.babycenter.com/pregnancy-symptoms

http://pregnancy.about.com/cs/pregnancytests/a/aa011899.htm


Is this something wrong with me?

It's not a constant thing, but I have some real problems with anger at times. For example before.. Mom and I were in the car and I was crying.. been bogged down by stress, friends issues, and a recent breakup. Then I totally lost it because I felt she wasn't listening to me. I started throwing everything everywhere and kicking and screaming, telling her to listen to me. she tried to act all "calm" about it and even tried to change the topic and ignore what I was saying. I got mad and told her to stop being calm and lose the tone. I got even madder, and then something snapped. I put my fingers in the car window, and pushed the button up until my fingers got caught and kept doing it till I screamed in pain. I also bit hard into my hand in anger and the marks are still there.

I have never done anything like that before. Mom and I haven't spoken since. I feel terrible about what I did. I have no idea what got into me. Is there something wrong with me, or was this just a one-off thing, like losing control for a moment? I feel really ashamed because my mom is good to me, and I went and did something like that. What should I do? Is this a serious problem that requires serious help?

thanks (link)
I hate to say this but there might be. It would probally be best to see a therapist or a doctor. It would be best if you first talked to your doctor and explain to him/her what you wrote that way if there is he/she can help you out. It could also be stress, you never know until you ask and it wouldn't hurt any either.


Is making out and french kissing the same thing? Or can you make out without french kissing? (link)
Making out and French issing aren't the same thing, but pretty much when someone says they've made out they have french kissed. But making can basically is french kissing minus the tongue. But most people say making out instead of french kissing, but mean they have used tongue.


to make a short story short..... i like him, he likes me. my mom doesn't like him because she just doesn't like the way he looks. but he's really a nice guy. he invited me to a party. i really wanna go. how do i convince mom to like him? i need a really good stratigic well thought out plan. ideas? (link)
Have him come over before you even bring up the party. Tell your mom you want her to get to know him, beacuse you think he's a good guy. Tell him you want your mom to get to know him, also. If that still doesn't work then when you go to mention the party tell her a few friends will be there or whatever. That way your not lying, but she doesn't have to know he's going to be there. :)


Okay so me and my boyfriend have been going out for 7 months now, and we've only made out. If we go any further with him..would that make me seam Easy? (link)
You wouldn't seem easy trust me. If you guys want to then you should. If you feel it's right, and you'll know. If you do decide to go farther, and end up having sex make sure you use protection. You have been together for 7 months so going a little farther wouldn't make you seem easy.


My face complexion is always changing because either, i have a tan & then I don't, etc. And I get and lose tans easily and it makes things hard when it comes to face makeup and chosing the right color. What should I do? (link)
Get Bare minerals, it works for any complexion. It has to be ordered though. If you can't get ahold of that then try to buy two different types of foundation, one you can use when you don't have a tan. Then get one a few shades darker. Hope I helped.


I work with this guy. But hes on a vacation break for about a month. Its his part time job becuase he is aslo military. I started this job in OCtober. He was the one that pretty much trained me on the job MOre then any others employees. Since i started there i have Had A crush on him.
Friday i drove on base to put my check in the bank and he was one of the security Guys checking the IDs. He saw me and smiled at me. And i drove away.

Also Theres a pretty big age gap. im 17f & hes 25m. And he has a girlfriend but hes not married.
My question is. Is there anything i can really do in this situation? And any advice that you would love to give to me.

Thank you;) (link)
If you really like him then go for it. The age difference isn't that bad. You only live once and if it was meant to happen he'll say yes. Make sure your casual about it. Good luck I hope I helped!!!


16/f
you can use a condom and be on birth control right? because im on birth control but trust me in nowhere near having sex people wanted to with me but i said no :D im not ready for that or the consequences yet! well i was just wondering. because i am on birth control for my period not because im being sexual. well yeah i was just checkin sorry if that was a dumb question! just wanted to be sure. (link)
Yea actually it would be best if you did, that way you could prevent STD's. Plus birth control is only 92 to 99% effective. Condoms aren't 100% percent effective either, on preventing STD's or un planned pregnancies. So If you want a better chance of preventing STD's, unplanned pregnancies, etc. I would reccomend both!! It isn't a dumb question it is actually a very good one. Hope I answered your question.


Is it weird to have a 3 year age difference between me and my boyfriend? Like 15 and 18? (link)
No It definately isn't weird. In my opinion age is just a number, if you really like the person that's all that matters.


hey, im a 14/f & im desperate for redecorating my bedroom. its been looking the same for like 10 yrs. the thing is that i spent all my money in clothes, and i have no money to redecorate. so do you guys have any ideas or any websites that can help me? thanx. =] (link)
Here are some sites, I hope they help:

http://www.thehomestylist.com/

http://www.hgtv.com/hgtv/shows_dod

http://www.enchantedspirit.org/FengShui/20.php


hi. im a 14/f. i got my period for the first time on may. it lasted for 10 days, and then after 15 days i got it again, then it lasted for 7 days.and then 14 days later i got it again. my mom says that it is supposed to take more time until a get it each month. i just want to know if my period is normal or is it under control or something. also what are better to use..tampons or pads? thank u (link)
You will have an irregualr period for awhile, everyone does. Trust me.
When it comes to tampons and pads, pads suck because you feel like your wearing a diaper, and they can stick to your butt. But With Tampons If you don't put them in right you can get problems. There is aslo something called TSS (Toxic Shock Syndrom)That can be fatal. You can get that when you wear Tampons. So if you decide to wear them be careful. I personally recomend Pads.


I feel like I am not needed. Like I don't have a purpose on this Earth. I feel like if I was gone, no one would notice. And I honestly believe that no one would. I would be gone for weeks before any of my "friends" noticed I was gone. And my family, they would all move on extremely quickly. I am always forgotten, left on the sidelines, doing nothing, locked up in my room, wishing that someone loved me....

How do I get pass this? (link)
Don't worry you aren't the only one feeling this way. I feel the same way all the time; I can't help you with how to get past it but try talking to your friends. They will probally tell you they feel the same way and you guys can reassure eachother that you do care. That's what I did. My friend and I were talking about it one day and we ended up feeling better knowing we weren't alone. Trust me your not alone.


My friends birthday is coming up. She's turning 12. She plays the drums and loves anime but she's alergic to make up. My other friend and I want to take her some where special. I also need to buy her a gift, but my friend bought exectly what I was going to buy her (a pair of drumsticks and some thing else.) It's my job to choose where to take her, but it can't be expincive. Where should I take her? What should I buy her? Any thing will help

Thanks! (link)
Buy her a band shirt, or a CD of one of her favorite bands. Nail polish, Lipstick, Lip Gloss, a gift certificate to her favorite store, or restaurant, You could get her a different set of drumsticks that have her name on them or something cute imprinted on them.
You could have a get together at your house then you and her friends could take her to the movies and out to eat afterwards. You guys could all chip in money wise. Or you could rent a hotel lobby with a pool. Just rent out the pool are, unless one of her friends or you have a pool then you could throw her a pool party. You could even give it some kind of theme that represents her personality. Like a rock theme, if she's into rock, etc. Hope I helped :)




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