Is there any possibility that I could be pregnant even though I got my period a couple days after having sex?
Yes, this is possible. However, highly unlikely. I would just take a test if you are honestly worried about it. A girl can usually tell when she is pregnant. So, if your body is feeling differnt, I would take a test. Best of luck, hun. *Smiles*.
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13/F Okay well I am with this AMAZING guy named "Stuart". He is sooo sweet and before we got together, we were best friends for about 9 months. Pretty much since I met him, we have had an instant connection like no other. I am closer to him than any other guy I have ever been with. He is just different, he makes me feel great. When I think about him or when im with him, I get goosebumps and butterflies and like this heartache runs from my neck all the way down to my feet. We can talk about ANYTHING and we are not afraid to be ourselves, we are practically best friends but just more flirty and stuff =P. Well that's enough talking about him. I am seriously always thinking about him, pretty much 24/7. Every time I think about him, I smile, everytime my phone goes off...I am wishing it's him. I am starting to think I am in love for the first time. But I have never been before so I am not sure what it feels like. Can any one try to explain what it feels like and if maybe I am?
And he already told me he is in love with me, I told him I might be too and kissed him (that was our first kiss together). What would be a cool way to tell him with out verbally saying it? Haha sorry, I have a probably with actually saying that kind of stuff =P
Thanks in advance!!
:D
Everyone did a good job at answering this. They are right. If you have to question if you are in love or not, then your probably NOT in love. Thats just the reality of the situation. When you are in love, you KNOW it. Haha.
It does sound like you have a good thing going here though. Im glad he makes you so happy. Just give it time. *Smiles*.
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I am 24. my fiances condom broke yesterday during our intercourse. i am in the middle of my menstrual cycle. and today ive started bleeding.what should i do? do i take the preventive pill or assume that my menses have just arrived early and not bother
If the condom broke and you don't want to end up pregnant, then, I would suggest the morning after pill. Its pretty easy to attain. You just need a doctor's apointment.
Also, I think your safe in assuming that your menses came early. That happens. Just keep an eye on it and make sure nothing unusual happens and that it is rather normal. Other than that, you should be fine, hun. Its good to see that you are concerned about it though. It is good to take care of your body. *Smiles*.
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24/f. I am in love with a man who is married to another woman. He is in love with me (I honestly believe we are soul mates, but it is not meant to be because of our situations), but he also loves his wife and does not want to hurt her. I believe he will never leave her and I would never ask him to.
I am leaving the city we both live in very soon, and we want to have sex, just once, before I go (we have kissed before but nothing else). We want to do it because we each fear the connection between us is one in a million and we will regret not doing something about it forever. I love him so much and I desperately want to be close to him, even just for one night. In the back of my mind, I also think it will help me move on from him - "The time I spend with this man was amazing and I will remember it forever, but it's time to get on with my life".
I know it is totally wrong of me to want to do this, but if his wife doesn't find out, what's the harm?
Ok, first off, there really isnt any harm in WANTING to have sex with this guy. It sounds like you have an amazing connection with him and thats something special that you should hold on to.
Also, we are not here to be the moral police about things. I am not going to tell you this is wrong or right in my eyes, because.... we all have out own moral and ethics. The only thing you can do is what is right for you.
I know that you will make the right choice and your prolly right, it will help you either move on from this guy or let you see if this connection is something you should do something about and take action. All I can say is just use your best judgement. I know you will be fine, hun. Best of luck! And... congratz on finding such an amazing guy. That dosen't happen often! Ya know?
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lately right after i told you about that party i went to and met that brother of my sisters room mate you sound jealous. and you don’t know why you were but to ask you this, what is going on between us? is something on your mind? what is bothering you? i did tell you how i felt and it is not right to play with my mind. you seem like you are not respecting how i feel and i don’t like it. just tell me what is going on! its time for me to move on and now it seems like you don’t want me to and why is that? you have no idea what i am going through, if you want to know then ask!
if u does care about our friendship then please don’t ignore this.
friends share!
lara
ok well my reply is this... to me i don’t think its right to force someone into a relationship (even if you to did not talk much.) i don’t no if that’s how you saw it or not, but that is what i saw when you told me about it. and i did feel jealousy yes, i felt the same when you were going out with aaron and anthony.
i felt (for that split second) that if you did happen to get a boyfriend then we would not be as close of friends as we are now any more. i felt like i was falling behind in life. everyone seemed to be moving forward but me. and it’s not just you either.
i know you hate hearing about my family drama. but they have a part in it as well. you see my cousins are getting married... and there younger than we are!!!!! their ages range from 17 to 20. and when they talk about it i again feel stranded. it may sound stupid but that’s how i felt. i never meant for you to think i’m trying to play with your emotions.
if that’s not what you were looking for in a reply the e-mail me back ok?
talk to you later
chat room with me and jane
me: why do you think i am going to leave you behind?
lara: i don’t no really. it’s just a feeling i get some times, icy cold feeling
me: but i am not i mean i do sound like i want to move on but there were reasons why
me: but i not sure if i want to tell you why
lara: i guess i’m just afraid of what may happen when you move away
lara: we won’t get to hang out any more
me: this might shock you but i have to say this
me: okay the reason why i went out with anthony and aaron is because to get over u. i
hated myself and i wanted to die. i became depressed because of my stupid likings to you and i thought it will be the best to move away so you wont get in to my depression. i never wanted to tell you about it but i had to. i hid away from my problems and worry about everybody else but me. i don’t want to let go of you and the others and the only way to keep it strong is to always try to stay together
alee: i don’t have a choice i have to go but if i did have a choice i would stay. i don’t trust myself and i don’t care about myself. but people say you have to love yourself to have love share (something like that)
me: umm yeah that’s why sorry
lara: i guess i can sort of understand that
lara: i don’t want you 2 b depressed though
me: i can’t stop it
me: it won’t stop
lara: if you don’t mind me asking why do u like me?
lara: i’m nothing special
me: let’s see i ask myself that every day
me: the answer is i don’t know, i don’t know how it happened but it did. but i am attracted by smarts, mysterious and adventures personality and that’s what you are.
but i really can’t explain it, its hard to put into words.
me: that’s why i want to leave
lara: clear your head type of thing?
me: yeah that’s why i think
me: i got mad at you when you said you were mad when i told you about that guy i met. because i
don’t know if you liked me too and i didn’t want you to. i rather see you with someone else. but you said the reason why you got mad is because you didn’t want me to leave our friendship and focus on some guy
me: but i wont do that, hell i hardly pay attention to my last boyfriends i like to spend time with friends and family
me: r you still there? we can talk about something else if you want
lara: yea i’m getting ready 4 beds. i got work 2 marrow
me:can i ask you something?
lara:yep
me:did you wanted a boyfriend? because it souned like you did on your reply.
lara:no not really
the rest of the chat was about work, and thats was it.
i send this just to show you our chat about the situation
do you think she likes me or cares for our friendship?
or both?
Well hun, I def. think that she cares for your friendship. Thats a given. But, I am not sure if she likes you the same way you like her or not. She dosen't really even hit at it either way. Im sorry. Im really not sure.
I am glad that you two are talking about it, thought. And I really do think it will work out for hte best, in the end! *Smiles*.
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Okay so me and my boyfriend have been going out now for a few days he came over the other day when he asked me out and we ended up just hanging out with my family but i guess he thought it was fun. But he's gonna be comming over again this monday and i dont want it to be boring yet i dont know what we could do. i live in a small town with well nothing to do and we could hang at the park or something to get away from my family but its gonna be really hot soo idk What are some things we could do? we dont get to hang out much because he lives 40 minutes away and i cant drive and he has work that we kinda ruins times we can hang out and school starts for me this comming wednesday which is gonna make things even harder so i want to have fun things we can do when he's here so we can make it work. got any ideas?
i cant leave town and my town doesnt have a pool or anything neat like that. please help!.
Well, if I were you, I would think simple. Even just a walk around the park or maybe a picnic would be special and make for a wonderful day. If it's TOO hot then just stay inside and stay busy. Maybe watch movies or play board games and just... talk and get to know eachother. I know that with all my relationships, its the time that we basically did nothing and just hung out and talked that was the best. Just an idea. Other than that, you could go see a movie or something. I dunno. Hope this helps hun. Stay optimistic. I am sure you will have a wonderful time. Lemme know if you need anything! *Smiles*.
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I have been dating my girlfriend Caitlyn for two years in October. She is the most amazing girl i have ever met and about 7 months ago i gave her a promise ring and i know Cait is the girl i want to spend the rest of my life with. Sometimes we get into little fights and blow them way out of proportion. About a month ago we had one of these fights and she wouldn't come to a party with me that night. At that party, i got pretty drunk and slept with a girl from another school. I didn't tell her about it and everything seemed like it was fine until this girl i slept with showed up at my baseball game and just so happens to sit down next to Cait and her best friend without knowing it was them. They start talking and pretty soon Becca, the girl from the party, has to go so she asks my girl friend if she could give me a ring back that i had left at her house (the promise rings we gave each other. i guess i left it there that night) of course my girlfriend gets curious why this girl has my ring and so she asks becca about it and she told her the whole thing. After the game Cait brought the ring up to me and said that my "little friend Becca" thought i would want it back and asked her to give it to me. I was totallly shocked and had no idea even what to say. Cait broke it off right then and there. I need to find some way to make it up to her. She is the love of my life and i totally regret what i did but she won't even talk to me which is really awkward since i am at her house all the time since her brothers are my best friends and her dad is my football coach. How can i get her back?
Hun, let me just be practical. There really isnt much you can do at this point except let Caitlyn know that your sorry and still want to be with her. But, its not going to do any good if she has already made up her mind that she is done with you. Girls are like that. Once we make up our mind, we don't stray from it often. If she loves you, she will come back.
Just hang in there.... and no more sleeping with random girls at parties. Lol.
Best of luck.
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From: I don’t know
I am not into that other guy I just hang out with him and everyone else at the party. Just to not to be rude (the whole time I was thinking about her) the reason why I wanted to move on is because she told me she didn’t like me in that way. That was before she got jealous of that other guy. And that’s what confused me, she is not sure of what she wants and me either! She is my first crush and first GIRL crush, and I just found out I am bi. I cherish our friendship and I do want to be with her too. its just hard to make that decision, we are both in the same shoes.
and I said I don’t trust my self in the relationship because I don’t respect myself who I am. I need time to think. And I remember that Lara told me this "I guess time will tell for the both of us"
Awesome hun. I think your going about it in the right way. Your right... time will tell. Let me know if you need anything. *Smiles*
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I want to do something romantic for my boyfriend. I'm only 15 so i can't do anything too extreme, he is 16. Any ideas for something not too cheesy, not expensive, and maybe something i could do in front of his friends to show them how good i can be to him? his friends don't really accept us as a couple yet, so i want to win them over by showing them i can make him happy.
You would have to talk to your guy to find out specifically what he likes, but... most guys love music and food. Lol. Take him out to dinner and maybe buy him a cd or something. And then, afterwards, go hang out with his friends and I am sure he will be telling them what an amazing night he had with you, already. Haha. Good luck with that. But, you really can't go wrong with music, video games, and... of course, FOOD!
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I became depressed and never liked myself because of who I am I want to run away from every one to keep them away from my depression. But I couldn’t hold it in, I told them what was wrong and they said I should tell Lara how I feel. I deny it for 7 years to not tell her but it got to the point that I was about to blow! So I told Lara that I am bi sexual and I am in love with her. Lara was in shocked but stayed there by my side to listen to me. She respected me and will try to help me as much as she can.
After I told Lara how I felt 10 months ago I went to a party and met this guy, nothing happen but I told Lara about it. She then got mad, she said she was not sure to be happy for me or pissed. I didn’t understand what she meant.
I told her that I am moving on and you are not making it easy on me. And she said she was jealous because she didn’t want to drift apart from our friendship and was afraid that we won’t be close anymore. She told me that she was jealous of my last two boyfriends in the year of high school. I told Lara that the reason why I went out with them is because I want to get over her and move on. And that’s why I want to move away to rethink my thoughts. She ask me why I liked her and I said i don’t know how it happened but it did. but i am attracted by smarts, mysterious and adventures personality and that’s what you are.
but i really can’t explain it, its hard to put into words.
I even ask her if she wanted a boyfriend and she said “no not really”.
I got mad at Lara because it sounded like she like me back and I didn’t want her to (even thou I do wish it)
Because I don’t think I can be good in a relationship because of me not believing in myself.
I told Lara that but she didn’t respond to it.
Everything is slowly getting together and right now I am letting things settle.
But I am wondering…
Did she like me back more than a friend or was she afraid of losing our friendship?
And
What does she mean “we won’t be close anymore”?
(The only thing of close I can think of is that she leans on me and holds me sometimes for no reason)
and
When she said she was jealous of my last two boyfriends did that mean she like me then in our high school year or she wanted a boyfriend?
Wow, hun. This is a really tough situation to be in. I wish there was more than I could say to help, but this is all that I can come up with.
In my opinion, it sounds to me that Lara is jealous of your last two boyfriends and the new guy that you like, because... she likes you back. However, people are different and it may not be case. I would talk to her about it and ask her to please clarify what she meant when she said that. Just to be sure. If she does like you back, then she might just be struggliung with her own sexuality. She might be having a hard time accepting it. Thats really all that I can tell you, my dear.
Also, if you were "in love" with this girl, and if she does like you back, then... why would you not want to give it a try? I don't get that. I know you like other guys and stuff, but... I honestly don't see why you wouldn't want to at least try to make it work with Lara. I mean, a good friendship is the foundation for a relationship. Something to think about...
Hope I helped. You can IM me or write me if you need anything else. Best of Luck!
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I've been friends with my best friend for basically as long as i can remember. I dont know if its just me, but lately it seems like shes always trying to make me jealous and out do me. Like tonight, I went to the movies with one of my other friends, and put up an away message on aim saying " movies with myfriendsname cell it=]" and then left. And when i got home, her away message was "movies with cutie. then home with cutie" (which is one of her other really good friends) And she just does little things like that. And it REALLY gets on my nerves. How can i like get over this and not let it bother me? We dont have the same friends(we're different ages, different friends) so its not like we can all just do stuff together so she doesnt try to make me jealous. I dont know what to do.
Well, I can totally relate to this. I have been in this situation before. The only thing that I can tell you is this, dear.
People gain new friends all the time and as much as we all don't like it, we DO pick favorites. At any point in time, we all do it. Its not that we mean to, but it happens. There are people who just... hang out with you more or are closer to you at a given time and it just... makes the relationship stonger.
I don't think she is trying to make you jealous but maybe she just relates with that "cutie" girl better atm and is a little closer to her. It happenes. It dosen't mean that she loves you any less... it just how people are at times.
Im the meantime, I would talk to your friend about it, if it really bothers you, and maybe she will try to make it better. Who knows. It would prolly also help if you and her had a few "mutual" friends. I know that helps me when I can hang out with more than one person at a time. Just a thought.
Best of luck hun, and hope you feel better! Loves! *Smiles*.
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Well, I moved to the USA when I was six, ten years ago. I left all my family behind. Well, my aunt recently remarried and moved to a town (San Francisco) an hour away from us, and my cousin has just arrived a couple of days ago and will be living with my aunt and his step dad. We are going to visit them tomorow.
The thing is, that I barely know him. He is a really cool person, VERY smart, funny, etc. I really admire and look up to him. But I only visit him like once every two or three years, so we never got a chance to have a real friendship. Well, I will be seeing him quite regularly now, probably about once every two or three weeks.
I know what you are going to say: just be yourself, play games together, teach him English (which he already knows). But I can't really be myself when I'm around him. Where he's from, I would be considered a spoiled, pampered little girl. For example, I like to go shopping, paint my nails, straighten my hair, listen to the kind of music that there is considered very barbaric. All of these activities are only seen in the very rich, spoiled girls.
Also, education wise, I am far behind (by their country's standards). I would probably be in fifth or sixth grade math if I were to go to school there. Also my writing suffers horribly, and I make grammatical errors worse than a second grader's. And I was homeschooled for a while, and my mom taught me how to read and write in that language, and, well, I suck. There's just too many spelling rules that I don't get and forget.
How do I appear like I am smart and funny to my cousin. I mean, should I hide the things that I do from him, or should I flaunt them. Like I'm smart, but by American standards. He always says witty things, and he is multi-talented. I really want him to willingly be friends with me, not just because we are related. We have nothing in common, I can't really teach him anything, and he can teach me loads but it probably won't be very fun for him. =/ We just led different lifestyles, and were brought up differently, were exposed to different problems in life. We are like from two different worlds. He is actually from Ukraine, so I guess you could say he has lived half a world away my whole life.
I don't really understand this question, hun. The only thing I can tell you, is be yourself and if that isn't good enough for someone, even your cousin, then it isnt worth pretending to be someone that your not. Being YOU is all you really can do and there is nothing wrong with that. Just try to enjoy yourself. Best of luck and have an awesome time! *Smiles*
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Okay, so I can achive an orgasism by rubbing on the outside..but whenver i try penatration with like a finger, it never feels good..and its almost painful..im wondering WHY this is?
This is normal. It just means that your Hymen isn't broken yet. It will hurt until you break that thin layer of skin. It will prollly bleed when that happens, but it wont feel good to you until you break through the Hymen. *Smiles*.
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i think i depend on others for happiness.
i started dating this guy that my friend likes. and i think she got very jealous.
from then on, she's been very mean to me. and a month ago, she told me why she had been mean. which is because i left her party early, after i had already been there for a few hours, to hang out with my boyfriend because everyone at the party was stoned. and it was just boring. and i wanted to see my boyfriend.
and then she said i was too clingy. and she thinks im "boy crazy", which isn't like me at all.
we cleared everything up. she said she would be more honest with me in the future, and i apologized if she felt like i was ditching her.
she always bitches at me whenever i go somewhere with robert, and leave with him. and shes there too, but she came with someone else.
she says hes controlling my life. but hes not. not at all. i feel like i'm pushing him around- he only wants what i want. not him pushing me around.
even though we cleared everything up, its still awkward between us.
i wish i could just cut her out of my life, because she really doesn't understand- but shes my only friend at school.
ive tried talking to her a million times. i dont know what to do.
im 16, friend is 17, boyfriend 18
Wow, this is a very difficult situation and I wish I knew all the answers to help you solve this. But, in all honesty, the answer lies with you. Noone can make this decision for you.
I would suggest talking to the first once again, before making any decisions and be totally and completely honest with her. Tell her exactly how you feel and leave out NOTHING. See if this helps first. I think it should.
However, if it dosen't then it is up to you to decide. Is this friendship really a "friendship" if your only her friend because she is the only friend you have in school (you said otherwise, you would cut her out of yoru life), and... is the boyfriend worth losing this friendship over? It all depends on what is more important to you. Noone really has that answer and noone can make that call but yourself.
Wish there was more I could say, hope I helped. Best of luck! *Smiles*
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what should i do when i really love a person and cant get them out my head and all i want to do is spend rest my life when this special person
Well, hun, I think that you should tell them exactly how you feel and ask them to be honest about thier feelings as well and go from there. If they feel the same, then it sounds like you have a beautiful thing going here. *Smiles*. If they like you, but just not as much as you like them, then... just take it slow and see how you two would work in a relationship. It sounds like your a great person and I am sure that anyone would be lucky to have someone with your passion about relationships. So, even if it dosen't work out, I am sure you will find that special someone somday. But, who knows, maybe you have already found them. Point is, be honest and you can't go wrong. Best of luck, hun. Hope it works out for you and let me know if you have any questions, you can send me IM or something if you need anything at all. Thanks.
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Okay so there's this guy I like. We're good friends and we have so much in common. Everytime we talk online, we end up talking for like 3 hours. I feel like we would be perfect together. But I don't even think he realizes that. Sure, he's said to be before "Wow, we have a lot of similiar interests" but I don't even think he's even thought of us being together. I don't even know what to do anymore; we hang out, we talk ALOT, we agree on everything from politics to music, we get along great, and have alot of inside jokes...how can maybe make him realize that we could be so much more than just friends? I don't want to freak him out or anything if he doesn't feel the same way, though.
Well, dear, I think that the only thing you can do is talk to him about it. Lol. You don't to come right out and say "Hey, I really like you, I think we should date". But, be discrete and hint at it a little bit and judge by his reaction when it would be time to tell him. I am almost positive that he wouldn't want to lead you on if he didnt feel the same way, because you are such close friends, so... just go for it and be honest. I think you will be glad you did. Bet of luck... and hope it turns out for the best, hun. *Smiles*.
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i really need a photo editer, that can make me look tanner, and maybe my teeth whiter. even though my teeth are white. but ya. but most deff. the tanner thing.
thank you sooo much.
Go to google.com and search for IrfanView Download. Lol. Its great. I use it...
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Does any know of any ways or methods my gf could use to make me orgasm in my pants? We know it'll be messy, but we're not ready for actual skin yet? thanks!
I think that dry humping and a handjob and just about your only options. Lol. Good Luck...
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Although I've never had sex, I'd like to go in for STD testing. I was wondering if anyone knew how much it costs to get tested at Planned Parenthood? If I've only given and received oral sex, which STDs should I be tested for? Any other information or tips would be great. Thanks!
Lol. I can answer all of these for you, actually, sweetie. Haha. I have had to take my roomate there for this very same problem. *Smiles*. Anyway, planned parenthood is 75 dollars with any insurance. Thats just the standard amount it cost. However, if you don't have insurance, it is free and all you do is sign a waiver form. So... basically, cost shouldn't be an issue and insurance should cover it or else its free. Pretty much.
And if all you have done is given oral sex then they will text you for Gonnorhea and Herpes and that prolly about it. But, you can ask for more testing of you want to be positive. They could also test you for Clamydia. Basically, its up to you but for sure, they would test for the first two that I mentioned.
Welp, thats about all I can tell you, sweetie. I am glad to see that your taking this seriously and taking care of yourself. Be careful and always use a condom! Lol. *Smiles*.
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the quote "here's a little something that every girl should know, it's okay to hold on, but eventually, you'll have to let go."
i know its time to let go , my brain is ready to but my heart just wont give up . i still talk to this guy all the time and he always says he loves me and junk , but i know he doesnt mean it . i have tried to stop talkin to him &nd it works for a couple of days , then he starts callin &nd sayin he misses me &nd junk . i just give in . i dont know what to do . someone help me !
Well, dear, the best advice that I can give you is that love is sometimes a choice and something a feeling. If you really want to move on, you need to make the pro-active choice to do so and really stick to it. I know its hard, trust me, I have been there! But, it is possible. Just remember that he isnt the only guy out there and there re plenty of great guys that you would meet. *Smiles*. If you need anyting, or just someone to talk to to take your mind off on him, just IM me or write me on here. Hope this helps! Have a good one... and Good Luck, Dear!
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