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my names amanda im 17 years old & i like to help people out (:
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why do girls always think guys use them for their boobs or hotness
i really hate when they say that i dont know why it just gets to me
and ivve read heaps of questions on this website about guys always using girls such as do guys always use girls for sex and stuff like that
how do we convince them that lots of us are normal sensitive people
because girls, like me have been through experiences where they think they have a nice boyfriend and they fall in love and then that boy turns into assholes and just want to have sex with any girl and then still try to talk and have sex with you and then you try to move on and find another guy and its hard because you just fell out of love, and then you finally find a guy you start to like and hes playing you on the side too! fuck guys
From pretty much the beginning of uni until about 3/4 weeks ago I was seeing this guy I lived with. We were relatively coupley and slept together regularly. About a month before it was over I started asking if it was going anywhere and he wouldn't give me a straight answer, we continued to sleep together and then eventually I demanded a straight answer as it was driving me insane. He panicked and ended it.
I still like him an incredible amount. Now it's over he seems to come over and flirt with me excessively every time he's drunk. He never actually tries to make a move though, it's as if he's just flaunting in my face what I can't have. He was flirting incredibly with this other girl the other day right in front of me and today he was talking to me (whilst drunk) about how she gave the impression she liked him and he was going to try and get somewhere. I am pretty sure he knows perfectly well I still like him!
I feel so upset and used and want to get over this guy but I still can't help but like him, he's really funny and smart and good-looking and listens to my problems when I'm upset. But I know he's used me and now he's just mentally manipulating me and I don't know what to do. Can someone help?
ignore him. make him want what HE cant have (:
so the other night me and my friends were playing this game and i jumped from a fence and landed right on my heel and it hurts to walk or anything and theres not really any bruising and idk what to do like if something is really wrong or what! and i try not to walk on it and when i walk on it is really the only time it hurts except for sometimes if i walk on it too hard or something it throbs for a while or if i hit it on something or move my foot around a lot!
thanks :)
you mighta just sprained it which usually heals on its own, so you should try to stay off it and maybe ice if for awhile and keep it propped up at night. and maybe try telling your parents to see what they think.
if you've given a hand job but haven't really been felt up...like puts his hands on me butt and like touches my stomach alot but never really felt me up...what base would that be?
it would be 2nd base. --- 1st base: making out. 2nd base: handjob or fingering. 3rd base: oral. 4th/homerun: sex.
15/f
i've been breaking out lately... and i've been searching through websites seeing what could prevent break outs and stuff, it doesn't really work. plus, i already have acne... so i'm wondering are there any tips, or anything that you know that works to get rid of the acne i have now, and would prevent break outs?
like do you use clean & clear or anything? please & thank you!
..&& i know neutrogena doesn't work on me, my sister used it... she says she ended up waking up looking like a strawberry. proactiv doesn't work either.
try going to a dermo and asking about differin gel and benza clin. these 2 things helped with my acne. also food can cause breakous. i use to eat a lot of sugar and greasy foods, and then i started eating lots of salmon, cabbage, spinach, brocolli (all good for your skin) and all natural non packaged foods. no sugar no mcdonalds kind of food. and it helped my acne go away.
OKay so the other night me and my friend and a couple guys were hanging out. We started to drink and i only drank a little so I was a little tipsy.
When we got back to his house we were all on the couch watching wedding crashers. Some people started to hook up but i didnt really know if i wanted to cause me and this guy who wasnt there, i think we had a thing but i didnt no. I dont know if this guy likes me cuase he is a senior and none of my friends are friends with him so i have no idea if he likes me or not, So i didnt no what to do. So later that night this guy just started to hook up with me and i like couldnt stop it. but after I totally realized i made a bad mistake.
I dont know if the senior likes me but I am afraid that is he finds out he may be mad ahh help what do i do?
dont sweat it hun. everyone has hookups.. it just happens. and if you dont know if you 2 have a thing, then you obviously dont. you might like eachother but thats it, and if he finds out then i doubt hes going to be mad. he might get jealous, but he cant be mad, you two arent anything! and plus, you said none of your friends are friends with him so i doubt he finds out. just keep trying to talk to the senior (if you like him) dont let anything bother you..
when you run on treadmill do you loose weight? how long a day should i run a day? how much will i loose in a month?
just adding to what she said, make sure you eat healthy. if you're serious about losing weight cut out sugary and starchy foods. and no packaged foods.
Okay, So a typical question;
me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years and everything has usually been good, we are happy together, and in love
but lately, i have been acting wierd.idk
like i am always tired
and NEVER in the moood to have sex or be sexual and touchy, and feely, when usually i loved it, and would do it all the time
andddd i want this feeling to go away
i dont feel like myself, im kind of always mad and upset, and tireddd
helpppppppp please!
try eating healthy and getting more sleep. should make you feel better
:sorry so long:
so i went with this guy for six months. we fell in love. but then we both switched schools.he tried really hard to go to the school i was going to but he wasnt in there district. so we broke up. hes not the type to cry but when we broke up he cried and it tore my heart into shreds! we kept talking afterwards though.i kept hope that maybe he would get into th school that i was goin to but it kept seeming more likely.its been about 4months since we broke up and theres been a few boys to ask me out.every time i told my ex about it he would say so are you gonna go with him, and i would say no and wonder why he would ask me that. well non of those boys i really liked like that and i still am not over my ex.well i asked my ex a couple of days ago if he still loved me and he said he didnt know. another boy asked me out thats not that bad looking...well i told my ex about him and he was like are you gonna go with him and i asked do you want me to and he said maybe it will help me get over him. the thing is he jus told me he might be moving and if he does he might have to go to the school im goin to next year. i jus keep thinking what if he does go to my school.then we could go back out and he said he would if he did go. i just feel wierd going with somebody when i still have strong feelings for my ex and am having a hard time getting over him becasue i still have hope that he'll go to my school next year and we can go out.could anybody give me some insight on why he insist that i go with the boy that asked me out.he told me he doesnt have a girlfriend and isnt about2 so thats not it...i jus dont really beleive that he wants me to see other people so i can get over him. do you?
obviously you both still have strong feelings towards eachother. and im not exactly sure why not going to the same school would matter that you guys date or not? cause if you relaly do love him still and if he loves you, then you could make it work. you can still hangout on weekends and even during the week. i just dont see the conflict of not being at the same school. maybe you could add that in here it would help.. also he probably is saying it out of anger/sadness. like he doesnt REALLY want you to date anybody else, but you're bringing it up to him like "ya so this guy asked me out.." so hes thinking something like ughh wtf ya maybe you should go out with him. maybe not exactly being serious? and if you want to get over him then i think you should go out with the boy, but if you don't want to get over him you want to continue talking to him and maybe get back with him then you shouldn't because i think it could cause problems
i think you should be about 20 21 when you have sex but some people say thats late i dont know when is the right time am i weird if i had sex at 21 ??? please answer :S
honestly, it doesnt matter to anybody but yourself. if you find the right person and you feel that you love them, go for it. doesnt matter what age. unless your like under 14 then thats kinda different
ok so im a boy whose 14 in 8th grade. i met this cute 9th grader one friday at lunch at school. the next day we hung out with a few other people and ended up with a 20 minute h/u. everything was going fine until i tried talking to her on aim. ANYTIME i say ANYTHING bascially she makes it totally awkward, and when shes not making it completely awkward, shes making an excuse to leave (shower, hw etc...) but then she stays on aim and facebook after that. also shes the one who starts our conversations sometimes, so i dont think shes just trying to avoid me. she said she just wants to be friends now, but doesnt seem like it when we talk.
(btw im 2 days older then her)
i need to know whats going on here! my mind is going to blow!
does she still like me? or does she just have too many other people to get to on aim or facebook that she cant keep up normal responses to the things i say. (and also im not the awkward one here-ex: "omg it is soo cold in my room! im freezing my hands off!" ad she'd say something like, "well move"
but not say anything else after i type like 5 sentances)
ARG i dont know what to do!
it sounds lyk she just wants to be your friend, and it seems like sometimes you might push things too far so she avoids you in the fact that maybe you make it a bit awkward for her. since you obviously like her but shes only interested in being friends. so she still wants to be friends with you! but you have to stay on that friend level. and sometimes you push above that and so she feels uncomfortable and ignores you. ive been in a situation like this before where i hooked up with a boy and thought i liked him, then we continued talking and i realized that he was just like a good friend and when he would try to hangout with me, like one on one dinner/movie type "dates" or act like he liked me i would kinda avoid him..
I got an odd text from my ex boyfriend of a picture of a teddy bear hugging a heart. It seems too romantic that I didn’t understand why he sent it to me. He said before to me that he still liked me last year I just hope he got over it because he just not my type anymore. I text to my friend about this and she agreed that he needs to move on. I text her “I rather date a girl than a guy again” (btw I am bisexaul) she reply “if you do that, then who should I date?"…um okay what did she mean by that? she not gay ...i think? i should've ask her about what she meant but i ignored it but this just happen yesterday and its been bugging me. we are 21 years old. i did have a thing for her but that was years ago i told her about it but my friend see me as a sister. i am just counfed why she text that it just seem odd...
in my opinion i think she meant something along the lines of, oh you're going to have a partner so i need one. cause i know whenever my best friend gets a boyfriend i feel like i need one too! but i think you should text her and ask her what she meant by it
I WANT A FLAT TONED STOMACH =]
i run cross country, and i do like 100 abs a day, 4 days a week. but its not enough =[.i eat a lot but burn it off so its the same. thankss =]
eat ONLY whole foods. no packaged/processed foods or sugar or bread because those make your stomach bloat
15/f
Okay So Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year.
He is eternally hooked on me, and i think i could stay with him for the rest of my life if i really wanted to! He is crazy about me, and has become so comfortable with me. Were both only fifteen and hes talking about our marraige life, and how many kids he wants to have. Anytime i say something along the lines of breaking up, whatever it may be he always says "Oh please dont let those words come out of your mouth ever again, i cant even think of that happening." something like that.
I am also his first girlfriend, and before he met me he was sort of considered the "Loser". Which, i really dont care about what other people call one another.
I, on the other hand, have had boyfriend experience, and i know what to say and what not to say.
When i first met him, i always had a burning sensation in my stomach when i saw him and i really really liked him alot, despite what everyone said. Now, i dont know if im getting used to the feeling, or if i simply dont like him anymore. But, the burning feelin has gone away, and when i see him i dont normally get as excited as i usually did.
Im also being attracted to other guys, that never happened when i liked him, and only him. I also dont know whether thats normal, or a sign to move on.
He says things that upset me sometimes, and i also get realy bored with him sometimes too. Like, we never do anything different, and he never says anything different. When im with him, he never wants to talk, all he wants to do is hook up, and if i make it clear i dont want to, he'll keep pushing it. I dont know if hes using me becuase im the only girl thats ever liked him, or if he really likes me. I really dont know!
Any advice?
this can happen a lot in relationships. especially first long-term relatinoships. you might be spending TOO much time with eachother. i know i dated a guy for 2 years was in love, but felt like i always got bored when we hung out. all we did was watch movies and have sex! but when i broke up with him, i couldnt stand it! but i ended up making a lot more friends, and finally we got back together, and it really just made me realize how much i loved him. sometimes you need a break to see if its real. because i always took him for granted, but when we broke up and he actually was hanging out with other girls, i couldnt believe how sick i was thinking of losing him!
my hair is naturally light blonde. in november i dyed the underneath DARK brown, almost black. but then prom was in may and i was trying to lighten it before then, so i went and got some of the color taken out [not stripped.. but, idk what they did, but it made it a lighter brown, like a medium shade]. that cost me $130 dollars! AHH! so since then its started fading and has turned a brownish/reddish/auburn ugly color that i hate. so i tried to dye over it at home a 'dark ash blonde'. it lightened it a little but not much. then it started fading into a brownish/reddish/orange color and looks bad. so i went to sallys and told the lady my situation and she said if i use a light blonde dye it would help get it back to a blonder color. i dyed it today. and its barely different. its lighter, but also more orangey. im so SICK of it! i want it fixed and just my natural hair back. [remember this is only the underlayers of my hair]. theres like 4 or 5 inches of the color, and then my roots have grown out since then, but i dont wanna cut it, because im trying to grow my hair out and that would send it up to like my ears! i dont have another $100+ dollars to go get it dyed at a salon because that is insane, and i dont wanna bleach it because thats SO bad for your hair. any suggestions here??
uhmm, well you dont have any money, so you dont really have any options?
okay i have many many problems, too many to type out on here. but i have two major problems that i need to fix. im sixteen, female by the way.
numero uno: my weight and losing weight the healthy way.
heres the story, i used to be average weight, not skinny, but not "fat". i was fine with myself, and i used to be able to eat anything i wanted. i know that as i got older, my metabolism slowed down yadda yadda, and i gained some weight. im not fat, im just lazy. im normal weight for my height and age, but im not happy with it. im about 5'3 and roughly a little more than 120 pounds.
id like to drop about ten pounds, but i want to eat really healthy and actually work out and get muscle, im not worried so much about the scale as i am about how i look.
im not trying to make myself look better for other people, i want to look better to make myself feel better. (although it would be nice to look better in other people's eyes, but im focused on making myself feel better first)
so does anyone know any good plans to get on, nothing i have to pay for, just healthy foods and things. like things to pack for lunch at school, things to eat for breakfast that help you lose weight. i do not want any diet pills or things like that.
also, does anyone know any good workout moves besides crunches and pushups? that could really help me. i dont really want to buy anything to workout, like weights etc., but i do have an exercise bike to workout on.
okay problem 2:
its about a boy, of course. and also kind of self esteem issues, but its one in the same to me. i kind of like this boy, but i hate the word "like" or "crush", im just interested in him. ive never had a boyfriend, but im kind of over that. ive had little elementary school boyfriends, but none in high school yet(im a junior, so i find that kind of pathetic).
anyways, i started talking to this kid over the summer, but i knew of him last year a little bit, but never really felt like talking. i started talking to him online because one, i thought he was cute, and two, he has great taste in music and i love a guy who loves good music(and as we talked, i realized we have a lottt in common.)im just afraid that im stuck in the friend zone because i havent ever been myself around him yet.
so the problem here is, i get really nervous when i talk to cute guys, when i want to think of them as more than friends. my guy friends, i really dont care how i talk to them. but for some reason i cant be myself around guys i think are cute, i know its a natural teenage thing but i need some ideas of how to get over it. i know the number one reason why i get self consciense around the guys, its because i feel like they wont like me because im a little bit chubbier, but thats not the main main reason.
i just dont get why im so funny around my friends and i cant be myself/funny around him. i didnt really like him when i started talking to him, i just thought he was cute. he has a girlfriend, but i dont really care, i just want to be open around him and be my funny self. any tips?
thanks for reading all of this, and thanks if you actually answered with things that can help me out :)
alright wellllllll the other post was pretty good and on top of things. but ill just try to add a few things from my own experience.
well with the whole healthy eating thing, all that other person said was good and true. you really shouldnt eat things that are packaged and have additives in them.
ive never really been fat or anything.. but i used to have more fat on my body i guess?, then i started only eating whole/natural foods.
this is my meal plan for the day -
for breakfast i have a strawberry/banana shake with skim/no fat milk. i usually add to it some protein powder, flaxeed, and ice. then along with that i have a scrambled egg, sometimes 2 if im really hungry (: also sometimes i add cheese to it to fill me up more!
for lunch, i have cabbage soup!!=] im not exactly sure how my mom makes it, but if your mom is willing to look up a recipe you really should try it! it doesnt sound good.. but it really is quite tasty! you can add turkey or some kind of meat for protein, and my mom also adds beans for protein. you can also add pretty much any vegetable you want. cabbage burns fat! so its a really good lunch =] cabbage alone is not tasty, but cooked and in the soup its all very good! but for you since you are in school, if your mom can put a portion of the cabbage soup in a container you can bring it to school and if you have a microwave at school just heat it up there!
i usually excersize a couple hours after i have my lunch. so when you get home from school, you should have an apple (it gives you a good energy boost/want to excersize=]) and either do your bike workout, or run. i have these CD's called "TurboJam" its 5 excersize CD's. i know you said you dont want anything you have to buy or whatever, but if your willing to or your mom is willing to get it, use those workout CD's! they really are great=]! but if thats out of the question, deffinately just do your excersize bike, or run on a tredmill, or just go run around your neighborhood or at the park. if you have availabilty to a gym, do some strength training. building muscle is a good fat burner! running is a great fat burner also!
for a snack in between lunch and dinner i usually have an apple or strawberriers or blackberries, a banana whatever fruit i feel like. and some celery and peanut butter. also mixed unsalted nuts are a good snack! i dont like them, but it is a good snack if you like nuts!
then for dinner i always have grilled chicken with brown rice and some cooked brocoli and green beans and cooked carrots. you can add SEA salt to these, but dont over do it!
then if i get hungry before i go to bed i just eat some fruit. or celery and peanut butter again.=]
thats my meal plan everyday, ive really lost fat since ive started it, and i feel so much better and look a lot better! it should help your mood/confidence also. if you want to add any other foods thats fine, just dont overeat or try to cut out a lot of packaged foods!
also about the cabbage soup thing, if you arent able to bring it to school, if thats not available, then maybe try bringing a sandwhich with turkey or chicken (and NOT lunchmeat because its not very healthy. its packaged and has a lot of preservatives and added salt) and maybe cheese, lettuce, tomato, or whatever else you like to put on a sandwhich. make sure you use whole wheat bread =]. also an apple or banana with it would be a good lunch!! BUT you really should try cabbage soup and try to include it sometime in your meal. cabbage burns fat so if you are able to make it, you can just have the soup as a snack some days!!
NoWWWWW with the guy problems! if you THINK you're chubby, and if you THINK the guys not going to be interested in you, that obviously lowers your confidence and kind of changes the way you act around him. because you think when you talk to him "oh im chubby ugh he probably just thinks im a fat blah blah" so its hard to be yourself when you have negative thoughts! think positive. also when you start eating healthier and start eating more whole natural foods, your mood and confidence will increase which will help you feel and look better and have a better attuitude towards yourself, and towards takling to the boy!
when your around your friends, you dont care what they think about you, you dont think about the way you look or act because they are your friends and you are comfortable around them! and thats the way you need to think when your around the guy. because obviously you care what he thinks about you and care how you look around him, so idk, i guess just try letting loose! or try talking to him when your around your friends, because that will make you more comfortable and you can let lose easier with him. and be more yourself if your with him AND your friends!
well hope i helped!
i know i shouldn't be worrying about this, and that i should forget it. but i don't know why it's bothering me. i'm a high school student, and there's this girl in my dance class.. let's call her "Lenny" and i didn't do anything to "Lenny" at all. but lately, i've been hearing that she's been talking behind my back.. and making up lies, she's been saying that i have STD's and crabs and all of that, which is not true. and i don't know her, AT ALL. all i know is that her name is "Lenny". it's very suspecious that she knew who i was before i knew her. because, she knows my enemy and my ex boyfriend.. and my enemy is my ex boyfriend's best friend. and it was weird because she was asking weird questions like "do you like her?" and etc. and i said that me & my enemy didn't become enemy's because of my ex, it was because of our own personal reasons. and she changed it all up saying that i didn't like her or anything. i KNOW that talking to her about it wouldn't work, because it's high school.. everything is different.. and plus if i confront her, she's going to refuse it all... especially since i don't know her. it's kind of bothering me, and even when i try ignoring it.. i can't. because my friends are hearing this and they know it's not true.. that's all it matters.. but i hate the fact that people talks about me, when they don't get to know me. what should i do?
shes pry doing it just to start drama becuase she knows your enemy and your ex. so they're all 3 probably bullshitting you, maybe not your ex, depending on what kind of a guy he is. anyways, if you don't want to confront her, maybe have somebody else do it. or have one of your friends that are "cool" with her talk to her about it and see what the deallll is.
i can hear my stomach digest food. does this happen to anyone else? its embarrassing and sounds like some other noise!
me too !!!!!!
I can not stand smoking. i mean i really cant, my entire family was shocked when they found out that my boyfriend of over a year smoked. We have talked about him quitting, ways to quit, trying to cut down, cold turkey, patches, ect. I cant be around him for like 20 minutes every time after he smokes he has to pretty much brush his teeth and use breath strips all the time and change his clothes just to be around me. I find it weird that he is willing to do all of these things but WILL OT STOP SMOKNG. He says he has been cutting down for the last .. nearly two years.. but he really has not. He says he really does want to quit, bad habbit, bad for his heart, ME..ect. I have been to just about every "quit smoking" web site with him reading, trying to understand, trying to help him put a mental block up. He thinks he is going to have terrible withdrawls so bad hes going to have a heart attack. (he has a heart defect but nothing really says that the withdrawls will do anything like THAT to him). So i dont know how or what more to say. Please any help, anything at this point.. thanks in advance
he should try chantix its a new pill that really does work! my mom is 48, smoked since she was 20, had quit maybe 3 or 4 times but only for a week and was always back on. she used this and she quit about a month later!! talk to a doctor!
I can't remember the last time I asked a question about a man. Anyway, my friend is in love with this dirtbag cop, and even though he dumped her cause of THE dumbest thing, she can't get over him. There's this really nice guy that likes her. He brings her flowers, and when she lost her sidekick lx, he didn't hesitate to buy her a new one. It's the first guy her mom actually likes, but If anything, my friend seems disgusted of him! He's cute, kind-hearted, a totally whipped boy, but even though she feels nothing for him, she has him as like her back up plan. I hate how she dates scum that hit her, and then she treats the nice ones like crap. It's a cycle, I know. I don't want her to break his heart. I wanna meet him, but she keeps subtly making up excuses for me not to. I know he likes her, and I have no problem in getting him to like me, I just need a way to get to him. He's the first guy I've actually gone after in a while, and I don't wanna let him get away, and I certainly don't want her to go out with him just to manipulate him. I don't even know what I'm asking, but I'd like some opinions. Thanks guys!
-Djzmaguy426
with what the other girl said, i dont think it should be offensive or hurtful to your friend at all. with the whole going after her guy thing, its not really HER guy? she doesnt lke him and shes only using him probably because he does nice things for her, also to help soften the pain of her asshole boyfriend and to maybe make that guy jealous. this guy seems like a really ncie guy and if shes not guna take him, theres no reason you shouldn't beable to meet him! the reason shes probably not wanting you to meet him is because she knows your interested and wants him to herself, but if she doesnt even really want to be with him, then she should let somebody else, like you! if you know his name or where hes from what not, you can maybe try to talk to other friends and find out about him, get his number/facebook whatever.. and if you cant do that, then maybe just talk to your friend. just be like "woww he seems like such a nice guy i cant believe you dont like him, you should let me meet him :)" or something along the lines of that.. and if shes like ughh no.. then shes just being a bitchh! :)