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I can't remember the last time I asked a question about a man. Anyway, my friend is in love with this dirtbag cop, and even though he dumped her cause of THE dumbest thing, she can't get over him. There's this really nice guy that likes her. He brings her flowers, and when she lost her sidekick lx, he didn't hesitate to buy her a new one. It's the first guy her mom actually likes, but If anything, my friend seems disgusted of him! He's cute, kind-hearted, a totally whipped boy, but even though she feels nothing for him, she has him as like her back up plan. I hate how she dates scum that hit her, and then she treats the nice ones like crap. It's a cycle, I know. I don't want her to break his heart. I wanna meet him, but she keeps subtly making up excuses for me not to. I know he likes her, and I have no problem in getting him to like me, I just need a way to get to him. He's the first guy I've actually gone after in a while, and I don't wanna let him get away, and I certainly don't want her to go out with him just to manipulate him. I don't even know what I'm asking, but I'd like some opinions. Thanks guys!
-Djzmaguy426
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with what the other girl said, i dont think it should be offensive or hurtful to your friend at all. with the whole going after her guy thing, its not really HER guy? she doesnt lke him and shes only using him probably because he does nice things for her, also to help soften the pain of her asshole boyfriend and to maybe make that guy jealous. this guy seems like a really ncie guy and if shes not guna take him, theres no reason you shouldn't beable to meet him! the reason shes probably not wanting you to meet him is because she knows your interested and wants him to herself, but if she doesnt even really want to be with him, then she should let somebody else, like you! if you know his name or where hes from what not, you can maybe try to talk to other friends and find out about him, get his number/facebook whatever.. and if you cant do that, then maybe just talk to your friend. just be like "woww he seems like such a nice guy i cant believe you dont like him, you should let me meet him :)" or something along the lines of that.. and if shes like ughh no.. then shes just being a bitchh! :)
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1. Your friend _may_ suffer from relationship issues. All you can do is talk to her. If she doesn't listen, then all you can do is be there to help her pick up the pieces when her heart gets broken.
2. Your friend's behavior toward Mr. Nice may be hurtful... But if Mr. Nice keeps allowing her to use and abuse him, he's allowing himself to get hurt. By now he should have read the signs and moved on. But he didn't... And that may mean that he has some relationship issues of his own. Stay out of it, it's not your business. If he really likes your friend he won't appreciate your interference, even you feel like you're doing the right thing.
3. The reason your friend may keep thinking up excuses for the two of you NOT to meet... May be because she knows that you're interested in him and wants to keep him to herself. I agree that's really unfair... But how do you think she would feel if you went after this guy? Do you think that's in line with 'being a good friend?'
I know this probably wasn't want you wanted to hear and I'm really sorry if I sounded insensitive. I agree that the situation is totally unfair and that you have a right to feel upset. I just believe that if you really value your friendship with her you'll honor the unspoken rule between best friends... 'Hands off.'
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