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what to think?
:sorry so long:
so i went with this guy for six months. we fell in love. but then we both switched schools.he tried really hard to go to the school i was going to but he wasnt in there district. so we broke up. hes not the type to cry but when we broke up he cried and it tore my heart into shreds! we kept talking afterwards though.i kept hope that maybe he would get into th school that i was goin to but it kept seeming more likely.its been about 4months since we broke up and theres been a few boys to ask me out.every time i told my ex about it he would say so are you gonna go with him, and i would say no and wonder why he would ask me that. well non of those boys i really liked like that and i still am not over my ex.well i asked my ex a couple of days ago if he still loved me and he said he didnt know. another boy asked me out thats not that bad looking...well i told my ex about him and he was like are you gonna go with him and i asked do you want me to and he said maybe it will help me get over him. the thing is he jus told me he might be moving and if he does he might have to go to the school im goin to next year. i jus keep thinking what if he does go to my school.then we could go back out and he said he would if he did go. i just feel wierd going with somebody when i still have strong feelings for my ex and am having a hard time getting over him becasue i still have hope that he'll go to my school next year and we can go out.could anybody give me some insight on why he insist that i go with the boy that asked me out.he told me he doesnt have a girlfriend and isnt about2 so thats not it...i jus dont really beleive that he wants me to see other people so i can get over him. do you?
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He is right. You won't get over him completely
until you move on. That means dating other guys.
Doesn't have to be this one in particular, but
its the best way.
I really think the best thing for you both
would be to date others. I don't know if
discussing it with each other is the way to
go. I think if anything you mention it in
passing that you have a date and leave it
at that.
You say he doesn't have a girlfriend, and that
may be true. He may also be seeing someone and
just not telling you.
So for now try dating other guys. The time
just isn't right for you and the ex right
now. You never know what the future holds,
but in the meantime date others and try to
get over him.
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It's hard to say this and it's going to be hard for you to except, but he has realized that for him it was not love, it was infatuation. Being young, it is hard to see, but infatuation is often mistaken for love and I feel that on your part it was also. Infatuation is one of the steps to love, so it's hard to know, when it's happening to you, which is it, love, or infatuation.
(Off the subject, but still pertainate; this is why you should wait to have sex. You need to know what it is, infatuation, or love before you complicate a relationship further by bring sex into the equation.)
You should date and date a lot, until you can start recognizing this, otherwise you will be in early adulthood wondering why you married the guy you did in the first place, once the infatuation wears off.
Distance made you get through the infatuation stage, where time normally does that. Remember to make sure that you take time with any guy you date, so you can get past the infatuation stage and see if it has the legs to get you to the love stage.
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obviously you both still have strong feelings towards eachother. and im not exactly sure why not going to the same school would matter that you guys date or not? cause if you relaly do love him still and if he loves you, then you could make it work. you can still hangout on weekends and even during the week. i just dont see the conflict of not being at the same school. maybe you could add that in here it would help.. also he probably is saying it out of anger/sadness. like he doesnt REALLY want you to date anybody else, but you're bringing it up to him like "ya so this guy asked me out.." so hes thinking something like ughh wtf ya maybe you should go out with him. maybe not exactly being serious? and if you want to get over him then i think you should go out with the boy, but if you don't want to get over him you want to continue talking to him and maybe get back with him then you shouldn't because i think it could cause problems
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