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On hotmail, when you send and recieve an email it says at the top...
From...
Sent : ...
To : ...
CC :...
Subject : ...
I know what the other things are but i'm not sure what CC means. i recieved an email today and in the CC part was someones email address who i don't know.
can someone tell me please
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It stands for carbon-copied. This means a copy of your note was made and sent to someone else. BCC by the way, stands for Blind Carbon Copy. This is when someone gets a copy of a note you wrote or they wrote that is sent to someone they did not wish you to see it sent to.
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I'm in this advanced choir. There's this new girl who just joined. She's 13, like me, only she's a grade ahead of me (I'm a 7th grader). I have to admit, she's pretty good. Everyone knows that she's got this beautiful high voice, a little like Sarah Brightman's. She's a bitch! She's always flaunting her voice. During camp, we all had to watch this documentary on opera, and she goes "I bet I could sing opera..." Jesus! She's only 13, right?!!!! She had to share a bunk with me. She's was a disgusting bunk mate. She was always spilling her milk all over my papers, bringing food into the dorm, not eating it, and soon there would be moldy peaches everywhere. She can NEVER stop talking about herself. It's always me, me, me, me, me, my voice, my hair, and my boyfriend. Once she was talking about herself and says "my friend and I were watching the Phantom of the Opera and I could sing that really high note at the end of the song 'The Phantom of the Opera.' " She sings the note and asks "Can you sing it?" So I tried, and of course I couldn't, because I'm not even a soprano, and she goes "ha-ha! i can sing the high E and you're all strained up. That's hilarious..." and goes off into another monologue about herself. Now I have to sit on the risers right next to her, and she's getting worse. She's also a brownnoser. She's always sucking up to our choir teacher, and so on...what can I do to put up with her? I don't want anyone to say "talk to her about it." It's not like she's my friend or anything. (link)
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Hi,
She should have modesty but has not developed the maturity yet. However, why not focus on your own singing and have a good time? You are only hurting yourself by being so hateful. That is like drinking draino every day as it has an effect and makes you feel physically and mentally awful.
So what if she brags about what notes she hits or her ability? Tell her that's nice and go about your business. Over time she will learn if people change the subject away from her. It is her issue to figure out that this bothers people and not yours.
It really is not a concern at all of yours even if she is a slob to dislike her for it. You can tactfully point out she is making a mess and leaving like that.
You are trying to find every single fault you can with this girl to mask the fact you are jealous of her singing voice and perhaps need to cool it and become the better singer yourself.
If it is always me, me, me with her take her aside and let her know other people do not like it and or point that fact out to an adult who can address it. As far as she can see there is not a problem--others have to point it out.
Even then she may not see. But do not hate her for her short comings as you sure as hell would not want anyone to do that to you. Get to know who she REALLY is apart from this behaviour.
Stop hating her! If you cannot than let it be and mind your business and let her learn things on her own. To go out of your way to dislike her is dumb as only you know that you feel hate/anger she doesn't. It's hurting you--not her.
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Where can I watch the trailer for RENT online? I can only watch it on Media Player. (link)
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This is actually my area of expertise. I am a film critic on Rotten Tomatoes etc. The trailer can be viewed on the official site here http://www.sonypictures.com/movies/rent/
The film is due out on Wednesday. If you have not picked up the motion picture soundtrack do so. It is in many respects far better than the Broadway recording despite the fact half the cast was in the original run.
A friend of mine understudied the Tom Collins role back in '96 for the Canadian Touring Company version of the show. Incidentally, check out my radio show on the movies for teens at www.teentalknetwork.com/reel.htm We're having a Skeleton Key contest next week.
My reviews can also be seen here http://www.rottentomatoes.com/author-11755/ with a RENT review up on Wednesday night early Thursday.
Hope this helped you. If you have any more questions on movies come find me. Thanks.
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what do you think it the hottest thing a girl can do while she's kissing you? (link)
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This is up to the individual person. What you like or what your friend or I like is always different. When in doubt experiment and or ask him. Really, I would not have a clue nor would anyone else what someone else likes. We're all different in that regard.
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my boyfriend asked me if he could touch me in 'places'. what exactly could that mean?
i'm 13/f in the 8th grade.. HELP (link)
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Well, it means he wants to touch you below the waist and see whether or not it is something you would enjoy. If you are not ready for this you should tell him so. Do not let him pressure you as this is a big step to be taking. If you do not want someone touching your genitals make sure he knows. Anyone pressuring you should get the message they need to shove off.
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While making out.. do guys like it when the girl sort of tickles/touches/rubs "down there" over his pants? Does it turn him on, or is it just annoying? Or does it not do anything for them? Thanks. (link)
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This all depends on the individual himself. Ypu need to either ask him if he enjoys it or watch for his reaction. How can we tell you what someone else is going to like or find annoying? Think about it. We aren't your boyfriend nor do we know what turns him on. Ask him! It is the only way besides observing him yourself to know. If he's not complaining odds are he's fine.
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ok, i am 18 and a virgin. I am going to have sex for hte first time within the next month. My fiance and i are very dedicated to each other. But my freind told me i should get a PAP smear done before I have sex. My mom said i dont have to do it before my first time but i should do it soon. i dont want to go and get oen before we have sex b/c i want him to be the first one down there and everythign else. But what i am wondering is if they go to do it, and my cherry is still in tact...will they pop it? B/c i really want my fiance to do it...not some doctor. If anyoen could enlighten me on Pap smears and when i should get one nad if htye will pop my cherry if it is still intact, i would be grateful. I will rate every answer i get! (link)
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Hi,
I think this article will greatly help you. Your mother is right there really is little need unless something appears wrong/different with your vaginal area to go in before having sex unless needing birth control pills where you need a vaginal exam.
I think this Web site Scarleteen and their article on what to expect at your first exam will answer your questions about your hymen. Incidentally, these days stretching one's hymen can be done by masturbating or tampons and does not mean someone's any different while still not having had sex. It can hurt but not too much from what I know.
Here's that article. I hope it helps that site is a goldmine for info.
http://www.scarleteen.com/pink/gyne.html
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when i masturbate i just rub down there really fast and it feels so good and my body [inner thighs mostly] get tight and i want to lift up my body. is this right? what else can i do? how do i orgasm without fingering myself? (link)
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I saw this and noticed the how to question immediately. If you are new we do not allow for those kind of questions to be asked and answered. It is good nobody here gave technique ideas as that will get you banned. I'm not reporting this as abuse but warning people who reply.
There is no right or wrong with sex or masturbation. If something feels great to you then you are on the right track arched back or whatever. Feeling tight and then feeling muscles relax is what an orgasm is.
There are many ways to enjoy yourself sexually--be creative and read books about the subject. We cannot go into detail as said above.
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Does anyone know any good books for teenage girls about
a.) real drama
b.) pressures
c.) relashionships ( i dont mind if their homosexual relashionships either)
d.) abuse/rape
When you put a title, could you put the letter (A through D) that it applies to?
easy 5's people! (link)
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Try this one. It's under C) Relationships and the differences between the sexes and those that are hapless. Let me know what you think of it. I know the author if you want to send a few questions about the book.
RUNNING THE BASES: Definitely Not A Book About Baseball. By Paul Kropp Publisher is Double Day. $13.95
"A lighthearted look at the issues of teenage dating: a funny book with some serious ideas beneath the surface. Alan Macklin has a simple goal - he wants a girl, some girl, any girl - but he hasn't a clue how to get started.
"When advice from his friend Jeremy proves unreliable, he decides to go right to the source - a girl he can trust. That girl teaches him everything he needs to know about dating, except for how to reach home base."
Maggie is quite the character she is like a teenage version of a publicist and agent. She tries to teach Alan how to act around females and get a date.
He screws up all the instructions etc. Meanwhile, she may have an alterior reason for trying to teach this poor sap all the tricks in a woman's arsenal to help out a boy.
Why is it she cannot get dates or boyfriend's easily herself and help him? It's a great book if you want to see how both boys and girls view relationships and how far you should go.
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Hey! Me and my ex boyfriend of 2 years broke up about 1 month ago. And since then I have moved on to sometime else that is wayy better for me. But I feel like something is holding me back from loving him. Could this be because I sill am not over my ex boyfriend? What should I do?? Thanks for the advice (link)
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The technical term is "the rebound guy". You are on the rebound, perhaps lonely, upset from the breakup before. Naturally, you hate the idea of not being in a couple or a relationship. So, once you breakup you go on "the rebound." and find a guy that does not itimidate you and does not remind you of your boyfriend.
He is the type that is there just to have a boyfriend rather than for love. Psychologically you have chosen him to fill your ex's role. If you feel for your ex and not this guy let him go. He's only here as the transition between one boyfriend to the next one--the middle of the book so to speak.
The only way you should feel guilty or bad is if you let this drag out longer. Tell the guiy you wish to be friends but are not over the pain from your lat relationship. I think he will get it. It's best to say something doesn't work for you than to pretend it does with him.
You miss your ex because you rebounded or tried to rebound with someone else too damn quickly. Slow down, take your time, let the wounds heal, and see if love still exists or not.
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Every time Im on the phone with my boyfriend we always start argueing because he always brings up my old boyfriends that are long gon. I do not want to brake up with him but he's forceing me to. What should I do (link)
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Tell him matter of fact that your past is the past and you are with him now. Let him know you are with him for a reason and how special and important he is. Let him know you no longer discuss your past boyfriends as you have moved on.
Point blank it is not his business anyways but get that across tactfully. I would tell him to chuck his insecurity as he would never be compared to those who came before him. I think that latter point is what bothers him. He feels inadequate and as though he will be compared to them.
If you feel this will cause a breakup if his behavior continues tell him how you feel. Hopefully, you will be on the same page as eachother once you do.
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Okay so I've been dating my boyfriend for about 3 months and I'm trying to figure out what I want to get him for Christmas. I've gone to the mall with him a few times and have seen things he wanted to get, but when I say, "Oh maybe I'll get you that for Christmas" he says, "No, I can buy that for myself" (since he has a great job). So what's a gift I could get that would set itself apart from other things? I mean, I want to get him something special but I can't think of anything that can't be bought at a mall.
Please Help!
P.S. I've already made him dinner once, so I don't want to repeat that so soon. (link)
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Hi,
I suggest Gift Cards. You can go to Best Buy for example plunk down $100.00 for a card and he can use it for what he wants. CD stores also have them.
In this day and age movie tickets cost a fortune so a book of gift certificates from movie theaters would be welcomed. The same thing with bookstores, coffee shops etc. If I were you I would combine them with a dinner at a favorite restraunt.
Coupon books also work for promises you will grant etc (non sexual of course) or surprises that he tears off etc. Creativity, thought and love goes farther than anything material or store bought though. I'm sure you will figure this out Christmas is several weeks away.
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Here is my problem: I recently started to work part-time as a teacher in a private center. I realized my manager is sneaky. He recently asked me for a photocopy of my course material that I wrote for my students . My students have already photocopied this course material, so my manager doesn't need a photocopy. I believe he wants to make a book out of this course material. The thing is I spent 4 whole months preparing this material . I'm not about to let someone take my time and painful efforts and make a profit of it behind my back. How can I tell him that I don't want to give him a photocopy without risking losing my job? I need the money. Waiting impatiently for an immediate answer as I have work today. (link)
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There is a lot of details you have left out here. Why do you think this man would want to make a book out of your material? There is no rational reason to think that from what I have read above.
Why is he sneaky? You simply do not elaborate and a case against him will not not stand up. It sounds as though you are are paranoid here that someone will steal your work. He cannot. If he did everyone would see it as plaigerism and go after him for it anyway. I think you need to relax.
He needs a copy of your courses for good reason. This is how he makes his report about you and evaluates your progress silly. As he cannot sit in your class each day observing he needs a copy of your course materials.
This is to ensure the proper material is being taught to students and you did not miss something/do something wrong. How else can he accurately evaluate your performance as a teacher if he never sees you in action nor has any idea what is being taught to your students? That is all it is and likely the only reason.
I would galadly make the photocopies. If he wants to use them for something later he will ask. If he doesn't ask then I see asking to be credited.
For now he seems to want them for legitimate reasons unless there is a pile of untoward details about him you have not given us to draw a conclusion against the man.
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My parents asked me what I wanted for Christmas and my mind drew a complete blank. They said nothing video game related and thats all I really want besides an iPod but they are too expensive. I asked for a Montreal Canadien jersey and that was $100 dollars so now all I am getting that I asked for is boxers. Does anyone have any ideas of something not expensive that I could ask for? less than $80.00. I am also a 14 year old boy (link)
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I would keep it simple. Gift-Cards are the best way to go. You can get them for bookstores in values of $20 on up. Best Buy does this well (at least in Canada).
Movies are also expensive as hell to get into these days with some places charging $14.00 depending on it being U.S. or Canadian prices. If you can get a book of those for yourself consider it to be gold.
Also, Blockbuster Video for the movie buff is essential. If there are movies on your list you wanted that came out in November 2005 wait til 2 weeks prior to Chritmas they sell up their stock in Previously Viewed cases from $9.99 to $20.00.
Also, Blockbuster Gift Cards are good for video game rentals, movie rentals and any purchases. Just a few ideas.
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Hello my name is chelsey i am a 13/f i have this guy that i really really like and he really likes me and well honestly i have never really made out before and he has a lot of experiance and i don't know how to makeout!!! and he really wants to and i told him i wanted to too. And i mean i do but i'm scared because i don't know how to!!..Can someone please tell me the right way!! and not what to do and what to do!!!..PLEASE!! ~*I'LL RATE REALLY HIGH!!!*~
Thank you very much!!,
love you xox,
chel (link)
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At your age girls and guys are just getting over the " Boys (or girls are YUCK" stage. I have no idea how he can have this much experience. At your age you are not required to know all of this stuff. He probably knows that too.
I would be honest and tell him I really want to try this with you and I like you but I have no idea how to do this. Asking someone more experienced to show you what to do is fine. For many guys it's a turn on.
As far as kissing goes it boilds down to instinct. You will know how to tilt your head, follow his action etc as you go. As long as you never stick your tongue down your partner's throat everything is fine as long as you are honest and try and do what you feel comfortable.
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I'm 17. I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 months now. He's 24, and things couldn't be better. One problem. He's married to another woman. I had NO idea he was married when we got together 4 months ago. Had I known then what I know now, I wouldn't have ever kept up contact with him. So, I know, but he doesn't know I know. And I'm guessing the wife has NO idea about his infedility. I've known this for about two weeks. I taped us "in the act", in case I ever needed proof.
Question is: how should I go about handling this?
Should I bring it up to HIM first?
Should I somehow tell his WIFE? And if you think I should do that, in what form of communication do you think would be best?
Do you think I should just end the relationship suddenly without mentioning it to him, and then stay the hell away, or what?
I would like to know if MY significant other were up to no good. I know it's not so much my business, but I would have trouble living with myself knowing I kept such a drastic secret from a woman who has every right to know. :( (link)
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You need the help of adults here. They (parents) should be the ones to handle this not you. Tell them you screwed up and dated a complete liar who not only is 24-years-old but married to someone who does not know.
Yes, he WILL and should be charged for dating a minor let alone having sex which is deemed as statutory rape. There is something wrong with a person who sleeps with someone regarded as a child one age difference from 18 or not. You got taken advantage of by him for his own gain.
Let your parents tell him he is not welcomed around you and if he so much as tries to start a relationship again they will go after him. He's a deeply troubled and screwed up man. Your parents are the ones who should tell him to stay the hell away from you or deal with the police.
As far as yourself have no contact with him, his wife etc. That's their problem and not yours to sort out or be involved in. Best of luck here. Do be sure to get adults to solve this one.
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I'm writing this essay about the movie, October Sky. It's just..that we watched that months ago..and suddenly THIS popped up..and I have a bad memory.
What is Homer's "Abyss" ?
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There is nothing wrong with going to the video store and renting this one again. You saw it months ago therefore, you cannot be expected to remember it all. It is best you see it again rather than rely on the memories of people here that may be equally faded.
You should check out the movie reviews for this film by using Rotten Tomatoes. This will jog your memory but should not replace watching it and doing your own thinking and discovery and coming up with your own answer and essay to answer the teacher's question about Homer's Abyss.
http://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/october_sky/
At the same time I am indeed a film critic and syndicated as my day job and have material on Rotten Tomatoes and an NBC affilaited Web site with 1.5 Million hits not to brag. I also host Reel Talk on teentalknetwork.com. I will gladly help you if you use my advice as a guide and also conduct your own research about the film.
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k well I am a 14/f and i have been thinking about sex i am a virgin but i have not kissed anyone any guy i mean but i want to it is just i am scared that i will mess up i think a bout sex all the time is this normal (link)
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Down girl ;) It's called hormones and boy have they kicked in. It's normal to think about sex and be curious over something you have never done but heard about. It's normal to think about boys 24/7 too at your age. Hck, if you weren't I would be telling you to see someone.
Kissing is natural when it happens you will know how to tilt your head, copy movements, and enjoy yourself. Take it slow and as long as you do not shove your tongue down someone's throat you cannot mess this up.
You'll know what to do when the time comes and believe me everybody is nervous about this. The right guy will come along and being 14 and not having kissed a soul is fine. You're very young still. Thinking about sex all the time is FINE and NATURAL for a 14-year-old boy or girl. Acting on those feelings unless you are ready (and nobody is at your age) is wrong. You're fine, so relax.
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My friend stopped speaking to me beacuse of her other friend. I tried to apoligize but it didn't work. We haven't spoken in like 6 months and I never see her anymore because she moved. What would you do in this situation? What do you think of my friend?
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First of all we need to know what you said to her. This is important and will indicate whether or not what you said would ruin a friendship outright. You must have said something really horrible for her not to talk to you for this length of time. I need to know just what you said to furter help you. Can you add it to your question and hit edit?
I think the best thing to do is call her and say "I know I did X and really hurt your feelings. I was not thinking then and have learned from it now. I really do appreciate your friendship and hope we can patch things up."
As for her moving why not visit her if not too far or vice-versa? You need to patch things up and if she won't have that then it's her loss no matter how hurt. She has to realize people say things in the heat of the moment about one another during a fight.
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i have aim and i just added someone as a buddy today and i got this messege saying "{buddy} is idle". What does that meen? Dont tell me im dumb unless you want a 1 (link)
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It means the person is signed in but there has been no activity on his/her AOL AIM account in a while. Idle means to sit still and leave the engine going if in a car. This is the same thing for sitting still and doing nothing here.
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