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is this normal
Hey! Me and my ex boyfriend of 2 years broke up about 1 month ago. And since then I have moved on to sometime else that is wayy better for me. But I feel like something is holding me back from loving him. Could this be because I sill am not over my ex boyfriend? What should I do?? Thanks for the advice<33
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Well I can see why you might still have feelings for him. You dated a guy for two years, and then after all that time, it's over? Of course there's still going to be some emotional attachment to him and your going to miss him because you are so used to seeing him and talking to him and everything. You may never fully get over him. Sometimes its really hard for people to get over long relatioships like that. But you have to try. Just stick with this guy and see what happens. After awhile you may find yourself thinking of your ex less and your current someone more. But after time if you find yourself still constantly thinking of your ex and you really miss him, break it off with your current someone. It's no fair to him, and obviously you don't have as strong of feelings for him and you shouldn't be with someone if you don't like them as much. I hope I helped.
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MELii
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Of course you may have feelings for him, it's normal. You guys went out for 2 years, that's a long time esp. if you're in high school which I'm thinking you might be. In fact, you may never be 100% over your ex, but you do need to move on. Stay with the guy that you have, unless you realize that all you think about is your ex. But then remember why you two broke it off and know that you or him probably haven't changed.
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I'd say that since you two were together so long, there is probably still some emotional attachment to him left in you. This is very understandable. The feeling for him will probably go away and you can be happy with your new boyfriend. Hope i helped.
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The technical term is "the rebound guy". You are on the rebound, perhaps lonely, upset from the breakup before. Naturally, you hate the idea of not being in a couple or a relationship. So, once you breakup you go on "the rebound." and find a guy that does not itimidate you and does not remind you of your boyfriend.
He is the type that is there just to have a boyfriend rather than for love. Psychologically you have chosen him to fill your ex's role. If you feel for your ex and not this guy let him go. He's only here as the transition between one boyfriend to the next one--the middle of the book so to speak.
The only way you should feel guilty or bad is if you let this drag out longer. Tell the guiy you wish to be friends but are not over the pain from your lat relationship. I think he will get it. It's best to say something doesn't work for you than to pretend it does with him.
You miss your ex because you rebounded or tried to rebound with someone else too damn quickly. Slow down, take your time, let the wounds heal, and see if love still exists or not.
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yeah, it's normal. you probably will have feelings for this ex boyfriend of yours for a while. i've experienced the whole feeling like something's holding you back. and it sounds to me like you need some time before you jump into a new relationship and that you wont be over your ex for a while. hope i helped!
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It takes time to get over someone, especially if you've been together for as long as you were with him. I would just take things slow and give your heart time to heal. If the new guy is worth it, he'll wait until you're completely ready to be in another relationship.
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i think you answered this yourself, but i understand needing some reassurance. like you said, you found someone who is way better for you. that's great! of course, it's totally normal to be missing your ex. you were with him for two years, and that is a long time. i would work slowly into this new relationship, but definitely go for it. eventually, you will be over your ex and having a great time with the new guy in your life.
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Hey sweetie!
Well, I'm sorry you and your (ex) b/f broke up. You two went out a long time! But, I'm glad you found someone new && better =)
But, yeah it might be because you're not over your ex b/f completely, you might always have feelings for him because he was your first love and stuff.
Or another reason it could be because you might be afraid of loving him..? I don't know because I don't know if you got really hurt by your ex boyfriend and all.
I hope this helps a little, and if you need help or want to tell me why you two broke up (unless its personal and don't want me to know.. its fine!), it might be easier to answer, just leave a message in my inbox!
♥ Kourtney
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