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My alias is Farren, and I'm in 9th grade. I think I'm mature for my age, but that could just be self-dilusion. I believe that everyone is in some way self-dilusional. So yeah, ask me a question if you want.

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There is this guy that use to go to my school lets call him "S" and "S" was so nice to me and everthing and when i went out with this one guy lets call him "J" and broke up with "J", "J" started threatning me and stuff so "S" beat "J" up because "J" was threatning me so "S" got expelled for fighting and i really miss him and i want to go out with him but i havent seen him since he got expelled and "S" is in 8th and im in 7th and im 13 and i wont be able to see him until i get in 9th but all my friends have been trying to hook me up with alot of guys and the guys have asked me out and stuff but i say no because im really depressed and only want "S" but i cant have "S" until 2 years and i dont know if "S" will still like me so what should i do

Wait for him.
-Farren

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OK im a female 14 years old. Last year i really loved this guy who didnt go to my school but we saw each other alot because he was best friends with my neighbor. Him and i went out for about 4 month for me its was a longest relationship i ever had and he was my first kiss and stuff and then we broke up because he thought i liked another guy well i kind of did but not really and when the guy i was going out with dumped me i didnt really care but then maybe a week went by and i saw him again and brought up alot of memories back but we werent together anymore. After that day i realized how much i want to be with him and how much he means to me. I called him and told him that me liking other guy wasnt true and he said okay and i dont think he cAred then i heard from someone he likes me againa then next time i saw him he didnt. I still liked him alot but we jsut didnt see each other at all over the summer. Well next year(this year) i go to his school and he is on 2 of my classes so i see him alot and everytime i see him i get the memories back. My biggest wish in this whole world if we would go out again then i will be the happies i ever been. Well i had a little chance before getting back together but now he is going out with this girl that he went out last year right before we went out and he dumped her for me but not they are back together. I dont know what to do because ive tried to move i had alot of bf`s after him when his first gf after me was liek a year after we broke up and ya well i want to get back with him together but im not sure if its possible so should i just keep on trying to move or keep on trying to get him back???? plz i really need help i like that guys for over year and a half now and i cant tell him that cuz he has a gf that im really good friends.

Under current conditions, you probably can't get with him. At least you can't without betraying your friend, and you shouldn't do that because it's not a very nice thing to do. I'd say move on and just stay friends with him, and if something happens in the future it'll happen. Good luck hun.
-Farren

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Ok well im going to paint my room a light green and im wondering if i should get a different shade of green for my bedspread and stuff or should i get a light orange one? please help me out! Thanx!! :o)

Light orange would look beautiful with light green. You should add light blue and other pastel colors in other areas of the room too. Good luck!
-Farren

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i like this guy but hes taken! Hes gone out with his current gf for a year and 1/2. All theyve done is kiss...not even made out! He told me that he wants more physical things in a realationship like possible making out after a year n 1/2 of dating...then he asked me how far i would go with someone i really cared about...as if he was hinting toward something...I told him i'd go far...I don't want to be the cause of a break up of a realationship that has lasted for such a long time....But i think he may like me....what do i do??

Okay, consider this, would you want to go out with a guy who'd break up with a girl who he's been with for a year and a half for another girl because he wants to be more physical? If he does break up with her for you, he may just want to fuck you. Also, he might not even want to break up with his first girlfriend, maybe he's plotting to cheat on her with you, look out for lies.
-Farren

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13-m---like on a regular day, what kind of manners do girls notice the most or expect to see. guys dont care but thats not the group im aimed at. (just like when ur doing regualr things not like in front of ur g/f)

Holding the door open for girls, little things like that. They aren't really expected, but it's always nice to notice someone taking extra care. Good luck hun.
-Farren

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My boyfriend and I are sorta in a fight right now. It seems like we have kinda been losing interist in one another. I dont want to just give up on our relationship this quick though. So does anyone have any advice on how to keep a relationship going, or what i can say to him tonight on the phone so he isnt mad at me anymore. Please help!!!!

I hope you're successful, there are too few successful love stories nowadays. If you apologize and tell him how you feel, he should forgive you for whatever happened. My advice on keeping the relationship going is always remember that you two love each other, and try not to ever make it any more complicating than that. I'll pray for you hun.
-Farren

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Hi. I have a problem here. My cousin is really nice and he is friends with my boyfriend and his friends. My boy friend dosent do drugs but some of his friends do. I cant just stop his friends from doing drugs because some of them i dont evan care about. My cousin hangs out with them alot and im sure he dose drugs because i asked some of his friends and they say he dose. They all tell me not to tell anyone. My mom is really good friends with his mom (my aunt). Im not going to tell on him but what should i do to make him stop? I dont want advice that says talk it over with your cousin or just go tell on him cuz thats not what im going to do.

You can't force him to stop, it's his decision. The only way to really force him is to tell on him, but you shouldn't do that because it'd probably make him mad at you and you'd lose his trust. The best you can do is talk to him, but in the end it's his life and if he wants to use drugs he'll do them. It's nice that you're trying to help though, good luck with that hun.
-Farren

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ok well i have this issue with my apperence(sp)..well its a little depressing to me because ive been made fun of for it..well my problem is that i have a witch type nose.i cant take it anymore i try to hold in my tears but i cant hold them back, can you please help me i need a way to deal with this or something...


p.s. please dont make fun of me because this is the first time i said this to someone. i have never let out my feelings and it truely wont go away its a cut thaat will never close by the way this isnt the first time ive been made fun of.i was made fun of 3 years ago and i can remeber every single detail to when that happened thats why i cant bare it anymore

There's plastic surgery for these types of things, but I don't think you need it. We all have certain things about ourselves we dislike. You need to realize that appearance isn't everything, despite what popular media leads you to believe. You should accept yourself.
I'll pray for you hun.
-Farren

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ok well im a little overweight and when i wear tight shirts you can see my stomach ... so my question is, is there ANYTHING i can do to temporaraly make your stomach flatter. i thought of duck tape but that would hurt like a mother but i want to wear a cute outfit tomorrow but it is pretty tight on me. but i am going to work out every day after school and tonight so PLEASEEE answer ASAP!!!! thank you in advance and i will rate 5s to almost anyone :) but i need your help cause even my mom calls me fat
:(

chubby lil me

pS i asked this before and you deleted it but please dont this time i really need some answers and this is not a joke question

Wear a corset, that should work. In the future when purchasing clothes, avoid buying things that are too small.
Good luck on the weight loss, but it depends 80% on diet and 20% on exercise, so make sure you're watching what you eat too.
-Farren

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ok this is a really long story. Ill make it short. I use to be friends with these 3 girls. They are like stuck up girls really who are not popular or anything but they think they are. Well they said that i got on their nerves and that they really dont want to be my friend anymore. So like a regular person I was hurt. I was the one who helped them meet each other. So I got upset and decided that I was going to hang out with my other friends. One friend told me she was sorry but i was mad. I said that it was stupid that they all ganged up on me all at once for no reason and even talked behind my back about it. She said that the other two girls said that I got on their nevers because i put ketchup on my chikin. so that made me more mad. Then this really big fight happened and we are no longer friends. I even told her that i was sorry because it was acctually my fault a little because i yelled at her. She started to tell lies that I had said i was going to kick her ass and she got her mom to call the school and stuff so that i didnt look at her ( stupid she rides me bus) every time i pass by her and the other girls try to make me mad and I had told her that there was no way that i was going to get mad because God did not put me on this earth to try and impress her or anyone else for that matter. I think that made her even more mad. now i dont now if i should tell her that i was sorry or if i should be mad... i feel like i am a push over. what should i do.

Don't do anything. Just ignore them. You don't have to be friends or enemies, you can just not hang out with them. Neutrality is always a good option. Hang out with other people, you don't have to acknowledge their existence.
-Farren

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Im 13/f and one of my best friends (12/f) tryed somking today with her two other friends who have somked sice they were 10.
I am really against smoking and when I talked to her about it, she said she was, and didn't tell me that she tried it or act like anything was weird. I know she told others, I saw her whispering. I know she did it because I was with a group of friends next to the bush where they smoke and I saw her smoking. She was coughing all the way through the next lesson and STANK.
This was in first break and she went off with the other two at lunch too, so she might of been smoking then too. I havn't told her that I know.---How do I stop her before she gets addicted?---
She is really into sports and I know smoking makes you breathless and bad at sport. I think she would have a far better life if she didn't smoke. Sorry about the length!
Zoin.

All you can do is talk to her about it. It's good that you care about your friend, but there isn't anything more you can do than advise her on her decisions, and if she doesn't listen you just have to let her make her own mistake. It's really good that you aren't a follower, I applaud your efforts.
-Farren

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Hi.. I dont really know where to start but first off i cut myself... and i do it beacasue my life is so hard.. Many of my family members have died and in January 5th my friend Joe died and he was really specail to me .. and so i took out the blade.. and i started cutting.. and i have lied about me cutting myslef but if i told my mom she would kill me ... most of the time her and i get along but some times we have issues and she yells at me sometimes and it gets me all fired up jus wanting to cry .. and then i have an older brother ((15)) and he hits me sometimes.. and he annoys the crap out of me and that fires me up 2 .. and then i have a little brother ((6)) and he does everyhting in his power to annoy me .. lik for instance hell make faces at me and make nasty commments about me lik how much he hates me and i cant take it anymore.. and so i bring out the siccors and i cut myself.. Now i go to this Christain Youth Center and we talk about god and isssues and just things that come to mind.. and the lady incharge i talk to her about me life and how i feel and i tell her that i cut myself and last week we all got into a discussion about anything we wnated to talk about and then someone starts to talk about Depression and then it gets deeper into cuttin yourself.. and im just sitting there thinkin .. y is she talkin about this ... and it hurts me bad to hear this women say that its stupid to do it and its not right to take it out on myslef.. and so im wondering if i can really talk to her about my life anymore.. but im askin if i should continue doin this if it makes me feel better (( maybe not inside)) but i cant talk to my mom 4 certain reasons so imaskin you people....
Ashley PiNkPrEp092591

I agree with your group's counselor person, cutting is useless.
Other than that, you only have to live with your family until you're 18. For now you should focus on your friends and school and just trying to get by.
-Farren

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I invited a friend to come with me on April vacation and my other friend is meeting me there with her fam! but now all our other friends are pissed! and talking behind my back and stuff calling me not their friend! What do i do?! I didnt mean to hurt ANYONES feelings!! i just chose my best friend to go with me.

Your friends are just being stupid. They shouldn't take it personally. *sighs* People our age (you sound to be about my age, or around it) are just immature. You can talk to them about it, and make them understand you just had to pick one. They sound like if it wasn't this, they'd find something else to gossip about. Oh well, don't worry about them during the trip and just have fun!
-Farren

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tommorow at school we'll have to do a run for 12 minutes and i have a soar throat. if i run for that amount of time my throat will taste like blood and i dunwant to make it worse so what can i do to fix my soar throat?

If you bring in a note from your parents you should be able to sit it out. If that doesn't work, take a water bottle and drink during the run to refresh your throat.

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ok so i dont know what to get my guy for valentines day but i am thinking that i should just like kiss him on the cheek (or lips) and say like "that's my valentines day gift to you" i mean we are only 13 so it would be big not like nothing. do you think that i should?

Lips. Have fun hun.
-Farren

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hey
i'm a 16 year old gurl and i just recently started going out with one of my friends(gurl)and i dont know if i'm bi but i think i like her....anyways when i'm not with her i think about her but when i'm with her it feels odd and i dunno i just dont know how to act.....from what you here does this sound normal to you? and if i get anything like.....no its not normal cuz your with a gurl....i will give a very low rating anyways thx in advance to those who help!

It's completely normal. You seem to be bisexual, but you would know better then us.
-Farren

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me and my boyfriend broke up cuz he just does'nt want a girlfriend right now. But the thing is I still have REALY strong feelings for him and I try tellin him how I feel but it's like he dont care. What do you think I can do to get him back or get him to understand me? I mean I really really have it bad for him and i'm nothing without him. please help me someone!!

It seems like he doesn't like you anymore, or that he needs a break. If he's acting like he doesn't care, that's definitely a bad sign. I would back off and give him his space. Your feelings are just being wasted right now.
-Farren

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I wanna perm my hair. I have jet black hair, face is long and thin. I have shoulder length hair. I wanna perm the ends. Do you think itll look good? If not then please suggest how should i perm or where should i perm it or shoudl i perm at all. Please answer I rate high.
Thanx

Don't perm it, curl it. If your face is long and thin you don't want your hair to be long and thin too, if it curls it will round your face. Curls are really nice.
-Farren

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im a 14 female. and i have big boobs, and all the signs of my period.but i haven't gotten it yet. what the eff IS WRONG WITH ME GOSH.heheh

Nothing's wrong with you. It'll come in its own time. Believe me, you aren't missing out on anything. RELISH THE TIME YOU HAVE LEFT BEFORE IT STARTS.
-Farren

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i am doing a weight loss program and i told my friend and i think my other friends know and are making fun of me. what sould i do?
how do i know if there my true friends?
HELP ME
and
ill rate you a
5!

Thanx for your help
always
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Even if your friends know that your doing a weight loss program they shouldn't make fun of you. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be fit and healthy, I would do a weight loss program if I wasn't such a procrastinator. If they make fun of you, then they aren't true friends.
-Farren

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