Hello, My name is Eva. I am from a small town in Texas but I currently reside in San Antonio. I have been married forever, have 3 children, and come from a big family. Needless to say, I've been through it. Drop me a line if you would like my advice. I love to help others whenever possible, and I will do my best to help you.
Gender: Female
Member Since: October 5, 2005
Answers: 64
Last Update: November 11, 2005
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Hey, I get bored at school super easy and my boyfirned isn't in anyone of my classes! Anything I could do to help the go by after my work is done? Thanks. (link)
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You can always go for the easy answer. Read a book. This can be good as long as you pick a good one, that keeps you distracted from all that is going on around you.
You can also write. A journal. Short Stories. Poems. Anything like that. You might even include pictures.
Eva J
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Hi I am an advice columnist. I need some help. I am at a friends and I was at her neighbors house. We were tumbling and I knocked over one of the nice lady's pot holders. I broke the pot and I have scratches all over my legs. My friend got me out of there as fast as she could. I feel so bad. What do I do? (link)
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Confess. Were you supposed to be in that house? Accidents happen. Offer to replace the pot.
Eva J
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how do you play the game 21 questions? (link)
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This game is played by The first person thinking of something in their heads and the second person asking 21 questions to try to figure the what it is that the first is thinking.
Eva J
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A lot of my friends are very religious, and thus have many different beliefs (religiously, politically, and otherwise) than I do. Lets just say I cried on November 3rd last year (the day after), and they pretty much jumped for joy. Sometimes when I make a comment about issues that are happening in the world they look at me oddly, like I'm a complete idiot or something. They enjoy listening to Ashlee Simpson and the like while I listen to classic rock from the 60's and 70's. In the past this hasn't bothered me much, but lately its been nagging at me a lot. Don't get me wrong. I love my friends to bits, they're the nicest people and so fun to be around, but is it possible to love them as people and completely disregard how different their mentality is from you? Do your beliefs and interests dictate who you are as a person?
(Sorry if this question doesn't make much sense.) (link)
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I have always felt that those that are able to celebrate their own individuality are so brave. You dont feel the need to follow the heard like a sheep and that is a good thing because it will be much harder to lead you astray.
As far as being able to maintain friendships with those that view things differently then you, of course you can. We must all respect the beliefs of others. Be a good example for what you believe in. Sometimes that alone helps others to see things your way.
Each day you are around others who view things differently and if at the end of that day you still hold on to what you believe. Despite all opposing thoughts. This only makes you stronger.
We should all love others despite our difference, it can be done. Your beliefs and interests dont have to dictate who you are as a person, as long as you understand that these same beliefs and interests help to shape you into the person you are. We arent a only a result of what we have grown to believe, we are also a result of what we do with that belief.
Eva J
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16/m I started Junior year a few weeks ago, and I realised that I was not having as much fun as in Sophmore year... I couldn't figure it out at first, but I realised eventually that I was not talking to my friends as much, and had sunken back behind the plane of quietness once again. I worked hard to get through it Sophmore year, and I probably still would be in it if my scenario hadn't increased.
I have friends. Last year, myself and these friends were closely bonded. Well, 1 of them became drum major. As a result, he became involved with the duties, and with the other drum major. He's gone now, and we rarely talk to him. 2 of them had formed a band with 2 outsiders last spring. They are now just so involved, that all they do is talk about the band and hang out with each other. Another 2 got girlfriends, and no longer really speak to anyone but them. A sixth and a seventh are girl magnets, and never have really been with us. 1 is the opposite pole of a girl magnet, but tries to physically be attracted. AKA, he touches them and doesn't leave them alone.
That leaves 3 of us left. 1 of them is just, different, and never has had a true relationship with us. He's all of a person who makes a hundred jokes, yet has no substance for a friendsip... Then the last two are myself and one other guy, and we get along fine and have a close relationship (Friends.)
So, what do I do? (link)
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I have two teenagers and I have seen friends come and I have seen friends go. I worried when I would see some go, other times I was glad to see some go. I asked them about this and why. The didnt have much to say about it other than they had different interests. You see. It happens. Drifting is inevitable. Teenagers like to be around others they can identify with. It helps to understand who you are. This doesnt mean that you are no longer friends, and as long as you continue to see yourselves as friends despite differences your friendship can actually grow. Every once in a while I will see some old friends trying to reconnect. Take this as an oppurtunity to seek out others like you who may be going through the same things you are going through. You'll be meeting new people thoughout your whole life just add more people to your list of friends.
Eva J
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I need your opinion:
I have been love for four years.
I am 17 now.
Some people say I'm too young and others say that seventeen is ld enough to know what you want.
I've always been mature for my age and when I told everyone I was in love at fourteen, needless to say, they didn't believe it. But it has been years and I am still in love.
Do you think I'm "old enough" to be in love? If I am, then wasn't I old enough when I was fourteen because back then, I was sure I would be in love forever and I still am. (link)
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I believe that if you feel that you are in love that you very well may be in love. Who can really know how you feel? The mature part about it is when you make sure that you dont let your feelings cloud your judgement. Being in love is no excuse for making bad judgements. If you want someone to respect your feelings make good choices. Always do what is best for yourself and the person you love.
Eva J
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I was using my other phone line and I wanted to pretend I was calling someone. So i thought i dialed the same number as that line i did that about 4 times and hung up. I know it was stupid. The person called back I apologized and explained I dialed the wrong number. I am scared will they be able to find me? (link)
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Its possible if your number is a listed number. Google has an option to put your phone number in and it will even give a map of directions to your house. You might want to go to that site and remove your phone number from the list.
If you apologized and they didnt seem too mad, you are probably safe. If there is a reason for you to really be worried you might want to tell someone about it.
Good Luck
Eva J
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hi i am 17 and i have been taking birth control for three months. um i need help, okay i am getting off the pills and i just got off my period last week and now back on and i know it is because of the birth control, but the first day i did not take it i had sex with my boyfreind and he you know in me and we both asgreed on having a baby well o you think i could get prgnant please help me (link)
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The fact that you are back on your period is a pretty good indication that you are probably not pregnant. Although, there is always a chance of getting pregnant if you are sexually active, and women have been known to be pregnant and still continue getting their periods. No type of birth control is 100% effective. Like they say, "the only sure way, is abstinence". It is good that you and your boyfriend talked and came to some agreement, but you have to remember that all is good in theory. Actually having a baby is much more difficult, and time consuming.
If you still feel that there is a chance that you are pregnant. Just take a test. Stressing about it can effect your periods too.
Eva J
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In the mornings, I only eat a bowl of cereal and milk. I need more protein in my first meal of the day, but I don't know any quick protein rich things that are easy to whip up when I'm still half asleep. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. (link)
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I hate to spend too long making breakfast in the morning too. When I want to make sure that I get enough protein I usually prepare some quiches made of egg beaters, salsa, cheese, canadian bacon and spinach. I make about a dozen or so, stick them in the freezer. In the morning I pop a couple in the microwave, it takes no time at all. This is good and healthy, especially after a work out, helps repair your muscles.
Eva J
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13/f. I recently asked a question concering weight loss sites. Now I am asking for help again. I want to lose 10 pounds by the end of the month. I am currently 5'0 and weigh 130 pounds. I play field hockey 5 days a week for 1 1/2-2 hours. I also cheerlead for 3-4 days a week for two hours. With that being said about how many calories should I take in a day? (link)
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To be honest with you, losing 10 lbs in a month would not be very healthy. It seems to me that you are quite active and you have to remember that muscle weighs more than fat. So here is my advice if you are not doing this already, make sure that you drink the recommended amount of water. ( 8 glasses a day ) plus more at those times you work out. This is to avoid water retention. Water retention is due to not enough water intake. Your body does that cuz it thinks it may be in crisis. A body can usually retain up to 8-10 lbs of water. Maybe more.
As far as calories are concerned it takes about 2414 calories a day to maintain your current weight. Just reduce that amount by about 300 calories and you should lose about 1 pound a week. This is Healthy.
Eva J
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Ok so my cousin and i are not talking to eachother but we have friends who are connected..so this guy named Jordan commented her myspace and was like "hey i remember you you're gina's cousin..man that girl is crazy..you should've seen her the other day..she was going keg stands!!" and my cousin commented back and was like " areeee u f'n serious!!!"and then he commented back and was like "nahhh are u kidding..c'mon gina doing keg stands?? i'm just messin'" so should i be offfended? was he making fun of me? does it make me seem like a person who would not do it? (link)
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Why do you care if you seem like you wouldnt do it? He might not have meant it that way. He might have even meant it as a compliment. He might have just been trying to figure something to say to this girl to break the ice. Who knows? The point is that you shouldnt care about what others think of you. Just be true to yourself. Doing it or not doing it is something you should decide on when the oppurtunity is presented and trying to prove something is not a good enough excuse for possibly making the wrong decision.
To answer you question.... No.. dont be offended.
Eva J
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I'm 16f and i need help with this girl. Last year i really liked her but things didn't work out for alot of reasons. She says she's not bi but she had thought about it. Lately she's been giving me a ton of hugs, massages, touching my arm a ton. I like it but it's starting to send mixed signals and i'm starting to like her again. I'm not sure if she's just being friendly or might be interested. One minute it's like she's interested, the next she's not. It's confusing me but if i brought it up, it'd be for the 3rd time in the last two years and i dont want to hurt our friendship. I dont want to fall in love with her and then be hurt AGAIN!!! I couldn't stand that. Should i say something or is there some way to definitely tell???? I'd appreciate anything!!! I'll rate 5's!!! (link)
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You have to understand that females in general can be very touchy feely. I hug, touch, push, alot. I am not attracted to females. If she thought about it in the past she might be trying to figure out for herself and even if you ask she may not be ready to answer. She might get frustrated with not knowing herself. I am not saying that you should not talk to her about it, but if you do decide to ask, then you should know that she might not be ready to answer. That could lead to some tension. Let her know that it was just something you had to discuss with her and that you will try to understand. No matter what the response. Patience will help.
Eva J
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ok well i've had like these little white worms come out of my butt for a little while. i've bin too scared to tell my mom. i was planing to tell her tomorrow while we are going shoe shopping. but i dont know how to come out and say it. so how can i say this to her? and if there is away to get rid of them on my own can someone tell me how? (link)
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My daughters got those once, from playing in a sand box that wasnt taken care of properly. Dont freak out... they are called pin worms... They are very contagious so you should let your mom know so that the family could be treated if necessary. Go to the doctor and he will give you some pills to help. You can read about it on this site: http://www.mothernature.com/Library/bookshelf/Books/50/84.cfm
Or just look up pin worms online.
You shouldnt worry about telling your mom about them. Do you have a younger sibling? They might have gotten them first, and passed them to you. Like I said my daughters got them from sitting in a sand box. Just let your mom know that you would like to discuss something personal and that you would like to go to the doctor. She will think that is very responsible and will take you immediately. Show her the site above.
Good Luck,
Eva J
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ok i have a friend that just got a puppy and she is scared that i am going to take it away from her because the puppy like me better what should i do? i still want to be her frined but she wont hang out with her but if she is goign to not trust me then i dont think i should (link)
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Most people like to have pets so that they can feel that unconditional love that they give. I know that pets will tend to play with those that give them lots of attention. This puppy must just feel that you are a good friend to his owner. Give your friend a tip. Whenever you are around tell your friend to give the puppy a treat when he responds to her even though you are around. The puppy will feel rewarded for giving her attention and will soon learn to pay more attention to her. Good Luck.
Eva J
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14/F : Well, its my first year at highschool and the homecoming dance is coming up in about 3 weeks. I don't really know if i want to go because i would rather go with a date then a group of friends. :/ sadly though, since i just started, i don't know too many people. it seems like everyone im interested in have girlfriends, and they're going with them. i dont know what i should do and how to be more confident of going to homecoming and maybe finding someone to go with . . . :(
also, my friend invited me to her "winter ball" which is in December, and im more likely to go to that as she goes to an all girl's school, so every guy there will be from another school so i would HAVE to meet new people. i think im going to go to this one, but what should i do about homecoming? (link)
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I understand that going to a dance like this is more exciting when you have a date, but that doesnt have to be. You could have just as much fun at this dance even if you show up with a bunch of friends rather than a date. I am sure that there are plenty of boys that are going stag simply because they were too nervous to ask a certain girl to go. You just might be depriving yourself of a very fun evening because you would have rather it gone a different way. What if something exciting awaits? You will never know if you dont go. You might just meet someone special there.
Eva J
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I am so scared right now. So many things have happened to me over the past few months of this year. I began cutting myself in the beginning of may over bouts of depression. all the sudden out of no where this depression hit me. I have a great life too, but I get so depressed. Throughout the summer I would have strange mood swings, one hour I would be hyper and happy and love everyone, the next hateful, depressed, and angry at the world. I would hide in my room, and lately I have been having fear of light. I literally scream in anguish if a blind is open or I see sunlight. My mom doesn't know what is wrong with me, lately I have been scaring my sisters and boyfriend. All the sudden I found myself obsessing over demons and possessions. I have already been diagnosed with OCD, so maybe this could be another factor of it. But this is way worse than a typical OCD episode. When I have these thoughts I have thoughts of demons faces, angels bleeding, it's haunting me so much. I then hear things in a distance in my mind, telling me to do different things, telling me to look up satanist things. I dont want to, but somehow or another I feel forced. Lately, suicide has come into my mind. My cutting is worse, I have no apetite at all, Im starting to look emaciated, I feel down alot, could I be unconsiously possessed(well i wouldnt call it possessed but..I dont know how else to say it)or is this something medical as in disorder? Im so confused, and sometimes what scares me is Ill be in my room and get into fights with myself, I feel my head spin and Im going crazy. I cut and slash my arm while I fight myself, saying good things then negative things about myself. I also, when I feel tension and angered, it is really bad, it builds up so much inside me ill sit in a corner of my room and rock back and forth pulling my hair and shaking my head crying..and sometimes banging my head against the wall, but in front of my family I try to act normal, they know about my obsession, but dont know all the details. Im scared, and right now I feel fine, my crazy episode has passed, but there is always one lurking around the corner. What is this? Also to let you know, I have faith in God, but lately have pulled away from him, as in I have not said a prayer since this stuff has happened, I just can't..because when I try to say one I get thoughts of how silly it is and then I feel myself not meaning what I say in the prayer, though I want to mean it so badly. (link)
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I feel that your faith in God is really being tested. You do need to make sure that you get professional help, because no one deserves the punishment that you have been putting yourself through. With professional help you can keep yourself safe, but the real battle is within yourself right now. There is good and there is bad and from what I read the bad is trying to win you over, we all have the strength within us. Dont feel that your reaching out to God is silly, that is just the bad part lieing to you. Have the strength to push those bad thoughts out of your head and scream out your faith in God. You are worth it to Him. Seek help in your church and pray with others, there is always strength in numbers.
I know some of what you are going through, and I did find my strength in God. You can to.
Eva J
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Well i have a friend lets call him fred.. well fred is usally really happy.. and i cant picture him being sad at all.. i dont think i have ever seen him sad.. and ive known his since 2nd grade (in 10th now) so ya.. and today i went online and his away message said dead inside.. and i asked him if he was ok and he didnt say anything.. and im worried about him cause hes one of my really really good friends.. what should i do? please answer i rate high.. (link)
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If the change in your friends behavior is really that drastic, I can understand your worry. By placing that kind of message online he sends a message that he really does want someone to help. Let your friend know that you would like to help. Pay close attention to whether others have noticed this change as well. Are his grades being greatly effected,is he shutting down? If things are that much worse, you will need professional advice. You might want to look into what kind of programs your school has to handle these types of situations.
I hope that all is well soon.
Eva J
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okay well lately ive really had the urge to have a baby. im 16 and ive been watching kids and playing with my niece ( 2 1/2) and it really makes me want to have one. i dont want one for the sex or anything i just want it for the whole thing pregancy, birth baby everything and going around kids makes me want one more and more. what should i do? i dont live it a kind of neighbor hood where that is really acepted and my parents would kill me if i had a child but i want one so bad like you have no idea what do i do? its not like i can even control these urges they are there (link)
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It is a natural urge to want to be motherly and nurturing. You will probably make a wonderful mother some day. But having a child isnt only about you. Once the child is born it is more about them. I am sure that you are ready to love but what about all the material needs this child will have. Are you prepared to handle all the rest of the responsibilities that come with having a child? Will the life that you have to offer this child be all that this child deserves? My advice is wait til you can answer these questions without hesitations or self interest.
Eva J
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i get really shy around guys. what can i do??
its probably because i went to a girls school. i'm 17/f. (link)
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Your at an age when you are definately looking at guys, so of course you feel that they are looking at you. I think that you have just become very self conscious, and it doesnt help that since going to a girls school you might not have had any experience socializing with boys. Yes boys and girls are different but when it comes to how they feel about meeting someone of the opposite sex, we are all the same. We get a little nervous and self conscious. Try not to let it get in the way of who you really are. Just be yourself.
Eva J
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I need some advice on getting my 3 year old to sleep in her own bedroom,she has slept with her father and I since she was a baby.Lately her father & I have been having some relationship difficulties,and she is very insecure about everyone being there when she wakes up. (link)
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Been there, done that. Unfortunately you have allowed your little one to develop a habit. So now you just need to teach her a new one. Baby steps.
Make going to sleep in her own bed an accomplishment. Have a ritual that makes it fun. Read a book, sing a song. Let her know that you will be right down the hall if she wakes up and she can come get you if she needs you. As she starts to realize that you will be there, make sure that you take her back to her own bed and reassure her that she will be okay and let her know how proud of her you are for sleeping in her big girl bed.
Soon she will sleep through the night... in her own bed.
Eva J
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