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okay well lately ive really had the urge to have a baby. im 16 and ive been watching kids and playing with my niece ( 2 1/2) and it really makes me want to have one. i dont want one for the sex or anything i just want it for the whole thing pregancy, birth baby everything and going around kids makes me want one more and more. what should i do? i dont live it a kind of neighbor hood where that is really acepted and my parents would kill me if i had a child but i want one so bad like you have no idea what do i do? its not like i can even control these urges they are there
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It is a natural urge to want to be motherly and nurturing. You will probably make a wonderful mother some day. But having a child isnt only about you. Once the child is born it is more about them. I am sure that you are ready to love but what about all the material needs this child will have. Are you prepared to handle all the rest of the responsibilities that come with having a child? Will the life that you have to offer this child be all that this child deserves? My advice is wait til you can answer these questions without hesitations or self interest.
Eva J
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Most girls want baby's for the same reason they want someone to love them unconditionally but you should try to look at it from the kids point of view as he or she grows up will they be happy will they have everything you can offer them not emotionally but financially think about it
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Well, everyone wants a baby. A lot of people really do want a little person to take care of in their lives, but you have to remember that you don't have enough to support a baby yet. A job, money, more money, your own place to live in, it takes so much work to have a baby. I know you probably understand this, but I don't think you'll be getting an answer saying, "well, find a guy, and get pregnant." Just know that someday you will have a baby, and you'd love to right now, but it wouldn't be fair to you or the baby if you did. You know, I know you want a child more when you watch your niece, but who knows, maybe it could be a practice for later on in your life. Sometimes nieces can be like children of our own to us. Everytime you get the urge to have a baby, just think of how you couldn't support the baby at the moment, but you will later.
[Well, I don't know what answer you wanted, I don't really care for the rating you gave me, but sorry, I don't know what answer you want, I highly doubt its some mental illness going on, everyone has a desire to have children]
-TheTeenGirl
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Oh I feel the SAME way whenever I'm around my 5 month old nephew, 1 and 4 year old nieces.
But you have to realize- You are ONLY 16 years old. You have your entire life ahead of you, having a child is just going to hold you back from everything. You won't be able to hang out with friends because you'll be taking care of the baby, you can't sleep a full night because the baby wakes up every 2 freaking hours. Your life, in a way, ends because of having a child. At least, when you're a teenager it does.
It's hard to get a job when you have a child at a young age. Because companies don't want to hire someone with a child, they figure, if the baby gets sick, you'll need to leave to take care of your kid. They want someone who is going to BE there when they need them.
Most guys don't like dating girls with a child, they feel it's THEIR responsibility and it takes away too much time from the two of you.
My advice would be to buy yourself a "Baby Think It Over" Doll. It's a doll used in sex ed classes nation wide. You can see one picture here:[Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
It tells you alot about the doll. It has changed the minds of many young teens from wanting to have a child, and from having sex.
But having a kid at 16 is REALLY hard. A girl in my school was put in a hospital because of stress after she had her kid. Handling school work, a social life, and a child is extremely difficult.
Ask your brother or sister if you can baby sit your niece for a few days. Without them there. I'm pretty sure after having her with you, you'll change your mind completely. And, your niece is in here terrible two's.. The WORST age for a kid.
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I really think you should wait. Having and raising kids is such a big responsibility and your 16 and so your kid so you should enjoy it while its here. you'll have the rest of your life to have kids. its your decision but i would wait until your finacially and physically stable, and all that. if you are then choose what you want but if you decide to wait a little longer, then maybe try becoming a tutor or babysitter, just a job thats around kids. i dont know just before you make a big decision like this, weigh out your options and decide what would be best for you and what you want most.
♥ hope i helped good luck X0X0
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You should wait to have a kid you might want one now but I bet if you have one then its gonna ruin yer whole life you will have to watcht he kid every day nd go nowwhere fun!!! SO just get babysitting jobs soo you feel like you have a kid or join a after school program that watches kids then you should stop getting urgez Well Hope I help you
TAY TAY
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Why don't you become a personal mentor for a child? It is like being a parent, just that you don't have pure responsibility. Find a family that may want somebody to babysit every night, or who wants their child to get extra out of the house help, and mentor it to an older age?
They still feed it, and they pay for everything. You are the one who teaches principles to it, punishes it, and loves it.
Wow, I called a child an "It." that was harsh. It's a human being.
-Steven
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Simply don't have a kid. WAIT.
You have your entire life to be an adult. Just be a kid now, live your life. Live your teenage years and live it up when you turn 21. Give yourself more years of freedom before you put that kind of responsibility on you. Only have one when you're 100% ready. I sometimes think that a kid is cute, and I would love to have a little girl call me "Mommy" and look up to me. But not when I'm 18 (or 16 in your case). Just think of all the fun you're going to have from the years 16 and up. Then when you're halfway through your 20s, or so, THEN have one. When you can financially and emotionally take care of one. You're really not ready yet.
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